Template for Writing a Sympathy Note: When You Knew the Deceased

If you knew the deceased, you can use or adapt this template when writing a sympathy note to a bereaved friend or family member. For an example of a completed note, see the sample. If you didn't know the deceased, see the template and sample offered for that situation. For more general information on this topic, see What to Write in a Sympathy Note.

Dear [insert name of bereaved]:

I'm saddened to hear about the loss of [name of deceased and relationship to the bereaved]. Please know you have my deepest sympathy.

One of my favorite memories of [insert name of the deceased] is [insert specific anecdote or describe a special trait that you remember about the deceased]. I will always remember you speaking about [insert anecdote or special trait of the deceased that the bereaved has mentioned].

I hope the passage of time will help ease your sadness and leave you with happy memories. In the meantime, I'm sending healing thoughts and support your way.

Sincerely,

[your signature]


over 4 years ago, said...

This article was helpful. I am so tired of people , especially family coming to me and saying "I'm sorry for your loss". It was their loss too. He was their cousin and friend who did more for them than their own friends. That comment should be reserved for someone you don't know, not family members !!!