How to Respond to Someone With Alzheimer's Who's Crying

It's easy to feel helpless around someone who's crying. And some people with Alzheimer's are capable of crying often.

What to try:

  • Recognize that there's some kind of emotion inspiring the tears. Speak to it directly: "You seem very sad. Can you tell me what you're sad about?" Even if your loved one can't articulate what's behind the tears, it's useful to provide the opportunity to give voice to the feelings. He or she may then cry harder, and that's OK -- it's expressing the emotion.

  • Respond warmly. You can say, "It seems like it's hard for you to talk about this. That's OK. Just know that I love you and care about you."

  • Provide ongoing verbal and physical support (a hug, a shoulder rub) without feeling like you have to solve the issue.

  • Monitor for other signs of depression, which often (but not always) occurs with dementia. Learn the warning signs of depression in someone with dementia.

Paula Spencer Scott

Paula Spencer Scott is the author of Surviving Alzheimer's: Practical Tips and Soul-Saving Wisdom for Caregivers and much of the Alzheimer's and caregiving content on Caring. See full bio

over 5 years, said...

Thank you for the suggestions, it is difficult to see our aging seniors unhappy. We are so used to them being the 'strong' ones that help us. When roles reverse, it takes time to adjust - for both the caregiver and the parent.

about 7 years, said...

We live in a Senior Services community by United Methodists. It takes both mine & Charlie's social security checks to live here. They supply all utilities and serve us lunches for 6 days.That doesn't leave money to pay for medical supplement insurance,prescription insurance or medications. Charlie is supplied all but Exelon patches from the VA.We don't have enough money to live on for maybe 4 months.