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25 days ago, said...

We placed my mother in a nursing home after asking several different agencies (medicare, medicaid and the nursing home) about home care benefits for her and being advised this is not a covered service, Both my sister and I care for my mother but work and I have a teenage daughter. I would have given anything to keep my mother with me or place her in her own small apartment and continue care from home. We reside in Hamlin NY and I would love to know more about the caregiver program and what my options may be now that she is placed in the nursing home.


28 days ago, said...

Will the caregiver receive health benefits as well? I have health insurance through my current employer so I need it.


28 days ago, said...

Are there any health benefits for care givers?


about 1 month ago, said...

My grandmother suffers from Demensia and needs someone around 24/7 but unfortunately all of my family work full time jobs and we are unable to be with her all the time like we need. Is there any way that I (granddaughter) can be paid to care for her so I can give up my full time job? We live in Baltimore, MD.


about 1 month ago, said...

I'm caring for my mom 24/7 due her having 6 strokes she has bleeding in the brain and needs to be careful for 7 days a week for 24 hours, she has heart problems, rheumatoid arthritis and osteoarthritis in all her joint, she depressed, has COPD, osteoporosis, OSA, gout arthritis, emphysema lung, GERD, migraine headache aphasia and dysphagia and cognitive deficits from the strokes.She needs a ride her to and from 5 doctors due to these conditions.


3 months ago, said...

( am totally disabled. I want my husband to tend to me. He is a retired partially disabled vet. Can he get compensation for caring for me at our home.


3 months ago, said...

hi my name is joann murray and i stay home and take care of my mom and my dad and my husband/my husband is permnet disabled he had cancer and the surgery he had almost killd him he has two rods and eighteen screws in his back/ he fell about two months ago and it dameged 80% of his heat and the D.R is giveing him three to six months to live/and now my mom is a diabetic and i have to bath her change her when she has an accedents i clean i cook wash clothes take her to the dr /and two monthes ago my dad had a heart a tack my days anights are full it is a full time job to care of my family /but like i tell them its okay my parents took care of me till i gotmarried so now its my turn to take care of them thay are the best parents i could ask for and i will do it for the rest of my life. but i cant get a job cause thay need me at home twentfour seven /i need to see about getting paied as acaregiver to help with stuff thay need.


3 months ago, said...

ok, I am on ssi and I am also my mother's in-home care giver full time. We are trying to get me to get paid to be her caregiver, she is on ssd.. now, she does not have the money to pay me and I don't get enough to pay my own bills on ssi myself. I was told I can get paid more money to do this but my ssi would stop which is ok. When she is gone, I would have to go back on ssi but I won't be able to go through that long process of 2 yrs. again, but someone told me I can get right back on it without all that, is this all true?


3 months ago, said...

Whats the best way for me to get paid while taking care of my grandmother. I'm 18 years old with a broken back and she is a very heavy set woman. HELP PLEASE.!!!!


3 months ago, said...

I am 38 years old and next week I am having surgery on both hands. I have carpal tunnel in both. My mother has not worked in over 20 years due to illness. However she will be taking care of me after the surgery. I live in Ohio and want to know is there any way i can receive funds to assist with her taking care of me? If so how. Thank you.


3 months ago, said...

My mom is 92 yrs of age. A stroke left her paralyzed on her right side. She is confined to a wheelchair, she is dependent on me for all her needs. Mom also has Alzheimer's since her stroke. I am 66 yrs of age and left my job to take care of her. My question is: can I file for disability for Mom ? Our budget is very tight so anything would help.


4 months ago, said...

I recently moved to California from Georgia. I would like My same caregiver to come here, is there help for her to get transportation money? She will be living with me most likely, how do I keep up with hours worked or is it by help she does?


4 months ago, said...

I Had taken care of my Mother for 9 years due to alzhimers-didn't work for 9 years had to take out a reverse mortgage to get money to survive, lost the house in 2011 via foreclosure. Moved east with my 2 disabled brothers, I got a job was working when one of my brothers who is aged 68 caught pneumonia I took time off to care for him, my employer was furious at me for taking too many days, and fired me. .My second brother recently had a kidney stone episode, which got me thinking I cant be away from my Brothers and work at the same time, and I don't want a stranger to help.


4 months ago, said...

my xhusband now has to live with me because he cannot take care of himself. I work from home so tht helps. I make his meals, do his laundry, take him to the doctor, do any running around he needs taken care of, help him take a shower. He has COPD and every breathing problem you can think of. He also has major leg pain so he cannot move around because of the pain and breathing. He is receiving social security but can i be paid for taking care of him? This takes alot of my time. I was in the process of getting a second partime job to help me make my ends meet now I cant.


4 months ago, said...

Are there any financial programs that isn't medicaid in California. I've given up working so I can take care for my mom who has ALS. As far as we have been told we would have to pay back whatever money we got from Medicaid after she passes. We are not in the financial situation where we would be able to pay it back. Can anyone let me know? Please. I've been here 2 years and don't go out much do to the lack of money.


4 months ago, said...

I'm getting ready


5 months ago, said...

I am cureentry taking care of my Aunt and Uncle my u clear by marriage is Co fined to the bed and can not walk. My Aunt is 87 years old and in the early stages of dementia. I moved In to help them because they can't take care of themselves. There is a homemaker that comes 3 days a week 2 hours a day but the rest is on me. is there some way that I can get paid for taking care of them?


5 months ago, said...

I am looking for help with this. My husband just left me and took the car. I have moved in with my grandparents who I have been taking care of for the last five years with my husband's support. I have been able to do this without having a job because of my husband's income, but since I don't have that anymore, I need an income. This would be the best option if possible, because since he took the car, I have no way to get to and from a job.


5 months ago, said...

I had a question about what to do when a family member is using money that's for the disabled and he also hadddddd a trust fund left to him that she has used for 5 vacation I.n the last 2 years. This couple used to struggle with money now they aren't. I feel that money should be used for him.


5 months ago, said...

How can i be a caregiver for my mom in high point n.c


5 months ago, said...

Hi, I am looking for guidance in this. I have just moved back to Cali. I am disablied and 60 years of age. I have a hard time even understanding what I'm reading much less what I need to do for getting help. My daughter helps me when she has time off work, but that can sometimes and now more than often overwhelming for both of us, I hate asking her to do things, although she says she doesn't mind, but I went through this when my Dad, Brother, and Mom needed help when they all became sick, I was the one they called on, it took about 30 years from my life, and now they are all gone and I'm alone and in the same siuation, I only have my daughter and do not want her to spend her time and money doing what I did, I was not compensated for it, but if my daughter helps me I'd like her to be, at least until my strength returns. Which I also need help with therapy for... Just the things from moving I need help with are overwhelming me and I can not do by myself, I was able to buy a small m.h. about an hour away from her and feel as I am, all alone and desperation kicks in and then depression the circle starts adding more to it for every day that passes. I need help desperately and just don't know where to start. I need to buy a used car and don't even know how to do that. Before my accident I knew how to do it all and did. Any starting suggestions?


5 months ago, said...

Having been through all this with my father and then my mother I will say that everone here should hire an elder law attorney in their state to handle and advise them. The other option is navigating your state's medicaid program which in NY is run through the HRA (human resources administration.) As far as this program with compensating friends or family for caregiving: it is a cumbersome and invasive application process, you will never be approved for all the hours you give care, the hourly rate will be very low, and you will need to reapply often.


5 months ago, said...

I am caring for my elderly husband who has congenital heart failure. I had to quit my job because I have no family to help us here in Orlando. So times are getting hard for us. I am beginning to stress and feel depressed. If the is some kind of financial help available for us please let me know. Thank you in advance


5 months ago, said...

I have missed many hours at work to sit with my father in law, granted it's not about the money but I also have bills to be paid. So I'm looking to become his full time caregiver to have a little income coming in. Can anybody help me


5 months ago, said...

How do i have my daughter get paid to watch her fater full time. He is in a nursing home and are not happy since he has been placed in a Behavor mgmt program due to his being angry after two weeks of placing him, My daughter is a 4th year nursing student and has a full time job in a behavor hospital and now wants to come home and watch her dad we are not happy with him being confined now diapered when he went there he wasnt


6 months ago, said...

Hello my mother is 62 years old with copd who is in and out of the hospital she also recently had a stoke She's in a nursing home now but she will be coming home in a week I will be the one taking care of her so that means I have to take time off of work. Would I be a good candidate it get paid from family care?


6 months ago, said...

My mother is 81 y.o. and my father who was 100% disabled veteran passed 3 years ago. As time goes by my mother now needs me to be with her a lot of my time as her mobility is limited. I honestly cannot afford to be without an income due to being a single mother of a child that fully depends on me. Is there any help where I can apply to either get her someone to come and be with her during the hours I work or maybe supplement my income so I can be with her instead?


6 months ago, said...

Can I get help taking care of my cousin. She's 39 and permanently disabled


6 months ago, said...

My grandfather has a stroke and he requires alot of care as his wife cannot take care of him at all. I quit my job in order to keep them from going into a nursing home. They are very poor and my funds are running dry, so are their funds..We need help. They don't have a good income, less than 19,000 per year with lots of medical bills flying in!


6 months ago, said...

My brother is age 27 and permanently disabled and has been since birth. He is wheelchair bound and needs assistance with meal prep housekeeping, bathing, and transportation to and from drs appointments. My son age 26, is going to be his caregiver but has to cut back on his work hours to do so. He received SSI and medicaid, will he be able to receive benefits to pay for his caregiver.


6 months ago, said...

Hello I am permanently disabled my fiance has been caring for me for the past 4 years and our kids and my illness has recently gotten worse that I have to have him here at all times to help me I am on ssi and was wondering if he could get paid for taking care of me


6 months ago, said...

Hello I have been taken care of my uncle with everyday things like cooking,cleaning,grocery shopping, doctors appointments and picking up his meds. He is o2 depend it and he does have Medicaid and we live in nh just wondering how can I get paid to take care of him?


8 months ago, said...

My dad has United Healthcare as his supplemental and they cover home health care but I have to go through a certified home care agency problem I run across is all that Ive contacted says he needs to be on medicaid also well supposedly he doesnt qualify for medicaid but If United Healthcare will pay why wont the homecare agencies atleast call and verify his insureance . Im loosing everything but All my dad has is me!!!


8 months ago, said...

I need immediate help. I currently take care of my mom full time. Her SSI is pending and im trying to get help through Elder Options. The friend that was helping us get by wont be able to help anymore and financially I dont know what to do. I appreciate any feed back. A lot of these things ive tried and they lead to dead ends, I appreciate any feed back.


8 months ago, said...

I have recently had to let my job go. Due to my husband health issues, she needs help around the house and he falls a lot. So I can't leave him alone. Can I become a paid caregiver to help balance out my monthly expences.


9 months ago, said...

Hello,i am a 38 years old mom who unfortunately get a disable boy age of 3 .Since he is born I stopped working and did everything to take care him.I did learn from doctors and nurse how to manage my son.Now he finish early intervention and start preschool with a nurse but I see that the way I can manage my son nobody can.Is that anyway in this world a mom who doesn't have a social sn and a working permit,just have an tax identification number ,I am an immigrant and tried with USCIS but get denied because I pass the I 94 date,and not authorized to stay in the USA.This is a double case but I just want to work for my son and get paid because the money is truely needed and the real problem ,the nurse is getting paid when you are doing the work and they add stress on you because for anything your son will be send home and living with this you can be concentrate in any job.I am desperate really with the system.


10 months ago, said...

how can I get paid to help take care of a family member. I've been taking care of my uncle since my grandparents have passed, he is disabled and needs help with everyday things. He is on a very limited income and cant afford to pay me to do his everyday things like, grocery shop, clean the house, laundry, fix meals, I don't live by him so I have to travel everyday to tend to him....can u please help with my questions..thank you angel higgins


10 months ago, said...

I want to be a caregiver to my grandmother in law and was wondering how to apply for it and get paid for caring for her and taking her places to. She has Medicare but we don't know if she is being cover all the way without wasting money to pay the doctor a fee or something like that. We stay in Georgia and trying to find out everything right now.


10 months ago, said...

Hello. I was wondering if I can get help with a few questions . I care for my mother who is retired and her health has declined . She is unable to care for herself so he moved in with me and my youngest son . We live in Michigan. She has had many operations which didn't help (she has scoliosis, spinal stenosis and other issues with her back) I have had to leave my job three years ago due to not being able to work my scheduled days due to her doctor appointments , surgeries and ER trips. We applied for medicaid for her but was denied . She only has a small pension as well as soc sec from retirement. She is paying for her own insurance through Humana working with medicare. She is not able to walk without assistance because she falls even with her walker . She can't cook or take care of herself because she is so weak and frail . She is in bed most f the time. I had to return to work after exhausting all of my financial resources such as saving etc. I am unable to work many hours as she is not able to go a long without needing help. We do not want anyone else caring for her . She refuses anyone but me and I honestly do not want someone else caring for my Mom or in my home with her and my youngest son who is also a medical needs child but he goes to school ...and that is when I go to work. I get home when he does . Her Humana says they will pay for a part time care giver but they won't pay me . Again we do not want a stranger caring for her or in my home. I am finding it so very hard to make ends meet especially with a mortgage . I really hope that someone can direct me on how I may be able to get some compensation for caring for my mother ....even though I do care for her without hesitation as she has always taken care of us when we were young . It doesn't feel right hoping to get some sort of pay for caring for her but in order to survive and pay our bills as well as put food n the table....it would help so much . I read some things on here but it branches off in so many directions that I thought it might be easier to ask. Thank you so much .


10 months ago, said...

My fiancé & I have been together 9 yrs. almost and I just turned 36 and for the whole time we've been together, I'm totally disabled and live in GA..I need to know what he can do to get paid to take care of me bc I had home health before and I had 4 different people who came to take care of me and he's the one who knows what I need and has to physically carry me some days and some of the people the company sent couldn't hv physically done that, I go to pain management but meds hv stopped helping and I hv a back brace, both knees, a rare syndrome and go to specialists and everybody is too scared to touch me bc of my deformities. My fiancé can't work, we hv a 5 yr. old, and he also has to try to take care of him also, they said my condition would never get better can someone please help us!?!


10 months ago, said...

live in Missouri, my brother s already on (Medicare/medicaid) lives with me and I care for him. I'm paid by an agency an hr. rate for 26hours and 25 min a week. They also provide a nurse who visits once a week who claims vitals, sets up pills. I want to move to Florida, and will bring my brother along, how do I sign up for your Fl. Program so my brother can get the help he needs?


11 months ago, said...

How do I get paid to take care of my boyfriend he is disabled and it's hard to find out how.


11 months ago, said...

My situation I have a 22 try old disabled son. He lives at home with me. My soon to be ex-husband wants to place him in a home . I believe he's better in home with me. I'm a stay at home mom. Please help me to be able to keep him home


11 months ago, said...

Hey i was woundering how I can get my husband to work for home so he can keep a eye on me cus I can't be a lone due to i faint at any moment please can anyone help


11 months ago, said...

I'm taking care of my boyfriend at home,(he is laid up for about 3 months or longer)I was wondering if I can get paid by the state to care for him while he gets better(this just temporary)or until the doctor says differently.


12 months ago, said...

I am getting ready to go home from a nursing facility. Does medicaid pay to help me to get back on my feet, I.e.. rent, food, transportation, electricity


12 months ago, said...

I am a member. I get emails from people on this site with questions. when I follow the link to here, sign in, and try to find the article it is not here. Since I go to many of the conversations on your site how can I find the person that is contacting me? i have put his name in the above search engine but nothing comes up. Darlene


12 months ago, said...

hello im was wondering if there program in state on nj that pays u to take care of my son ? my son has downsydrome/pfo/thyroid condtion and its almost impossible to get job cause he needs 24/7 around care . we are constantly going from dr to dr visits


12 months ago, said...

Hi my Mom has Alzheimer's Disease and between my sister and I we are both Mom's caregiver 24 hrs a day 7 days a week. I was wondering living in the State of California if there is a program that we could get paid caring for Mom. My Mom needs help with everything of course.


about 1 year ago, said...

i want to get my license for taking care of babies and children in their last dying days in my home ,can any one tell me what all i need to do


about 1 year ago, said...

Hi my name is Mirna I'm a parent of a autistic adult son I was wondering if I can get paid for taking care of him Chicago IL


about 1 year ago, said...

After reading all of the articles about possible payment for caring for my parents, I still don't know what procedures to follow to see if this is available to me. I left a career to care for both parents and do not regret it at all. It's the least I can do for my parents but assistance would help me a lot. Does anyone know what forms or site to begin this process to see if my parents qualify? They have medicare & medicaid but I didn't see any mention of researching it further. Anyone? We are in South Carolina.


about 1 year ago, said...

I want to take care of my son and work I just need the funds to do it because I don't want to stay home


about 1 year ago, said...

im looking into being caregiver for my grandma and was wondering how many hours on average they pay for.


about 1 year ago, said...

I had my mom move in with me almost 8 years ago due tomher poor health shes nw 82 and cant do most things on her own. Im disabled as well i have crohns disease arthritis ms and am on ssi . I do everythg for my mother as sick as i am. Can i recieve money for taking car of her ? Or can my 22year old son who offered to help her now thats hes in between jobs . Just wondering if we can get help financially with her its alot but thankful i can have her with me as she took care of me most of her life. Shes on medicare and we live in pennsylvania


about 1 year ago, said...

I'm 21 with horrible depression and anxiety, and I'm the only one out of my family who's able to help my grandmother. I can't get or keep a job because of my many, many disorders, but I love spending time with my grandmother. She has vertigo and it seems to be getting worse, and it would help a lot if I was somehow able to get paid. I feel horrible when she hands me money, and I hate to ask my mother or her boyfriend for a few dollars here and there. We live in Lancaster, SC. She has medicare and tricare. I'm not trained at all, but I've been helping her since I was able to drive, because my mother goes to school and had a job. If there's any easy way to let me know if getting paid is possible, I'd really appreciate it. The article above was sort of confusing for me. Straight forward answers are pretty great. Thanks.


over 1 year ago, said...

I am a certified cna? I take care of my spouse ,son,mother,and brother homecare all disabled how could I get paid doing this instead of working a job and doing this to trying to hold a job I want to take care if them like I've been doing but can I get paid to do so


over 1 year ago, said...

Hi , I am a resident of Maryland for 3 years and I have a 25 year old disabled son monthly SSDI. I want to work part time or full time . I seek help from Social Services for recreational facility for my son so I can go to work but i am not getting a good response from agencies I called different agencies as well but I need to pay them as it is not covered by the state . I am thinking of relocating to New Jersey or another state that can help me with assisting needs of my son for me to go to work . One of my friend is taking care of her mother and getting paid as a Cargiver in Pennsylvania . Am I eligible for taking care of my son and being his caregiver ? I called and seek for help but I am just transferred to different numbers and agencies not getting answers . If I move to New Jersey am I eligible for cash and counseling ? Thank you Maria


over 1 year ago, said...

wow, really? most of the posters say their parents etc make too much income for them to get paid to stay home with them. hello? then the parents can pay you. why should the taxpayers? common sense.


over 1 year ago, said...

Can medicaid force me to provide 24/7 care for my mother-in-law, if the nursing home cannot take her in? This is in South Carolina. The Medicaid rep from the nursing home told my sister in law this was the Law.


over 1 year ago, said...

My parents are in they're late 80's . My mother has Alzheimer's and my dad can no longer take care of her on his own. He wants me to quit my job and stay at home taking care of them. Which I would love to do. But I looked into financial aide so that I could get paid to stay home and take care of them and they do not qualify as they're income is too much. Is there not anything out there to assist financially to the care giver? How sad is that? I am willing to sacrifice my good paying job that I have to take care of my parents who have always taken care of me and yet there is nothing out there to support that. I don't feel that a nursing home is the answer either although insurance will cover a portion of that but they deserve better care than that. What can be done to help assist families in caring for they're loved ones?


over 1 year ago, said...

Hello my name is Latisha how can I go by caring for my mom? She doesn't except outside home health aides in her house what can I do ?


over 1 year ago, said...

I have been staying with and caring for my uncle for the past 1-1/2 years. I am unable to work outside the home and he makes too much money for me to qualify to get paid to care for him. It is not fair to me to lose income and yet the state will not help me because he makes too much but all his money pays the bills in the household. What kind of life is that for me? I would love to be able to find some financial help for myself through this process. I have even considered getting certified as a nursing aide so as to possibly get paid but I do not have the financial means even for that. Where can I get help in this situation.


over 1 year ago, said...

Moved my sister into my home to help her as her dementia progresses. License revoked so I drive her to appointments, etc.. how do I get licensed to take care of her as she slowly forgets?


over 1 year ago, said...

I have been caring for my grandma I give her her meds and insulin every single day I had actually moved my family and myself out of our home because she only wanted me to care for her so that's what I did took her out of nursing home and still here.I have been doing this since I've known her of course she's my daughters great grandma but I look at her as my own ..I need some kind of income I have four kids!!! I have had the run around on having this job since prego when I moved in last Dec .. with my fourth who is now nine months old. I've got her on track I was doing everything she was so off not even herself I will care for her regardless but I have to care for myself and family too yes she has Medicare but that's been the prob since she s not Medicaid please contact me !!


over 1 year ago, said...

My sister draws her disability, can she get paid to care for our parents?


over 1 year ago, said...

My Mother would like to move back "home" and live with my Sister. Mom lives in Arizona now. My sister is retiring this year, and has a spare bedroom that we can set up for her. She will be taking care of Mom, (food/bath/general care). Mom gets Medicaid and VA Survivor benefits, and lives in a LTC Memory Care Facility. She has Dementia pretty bad. Can my sister receive any compensation for being her caregiver? Will Mom loose her VA Benefit Money, or can it be used to pay compensation to my sister for Home Care?


over 1 year ago, said...

I'm looking for a home health care for my mom and myself her daughter take care of her


over 1 year ago, said...

I'm not looking for a place for my parents (99 and 96). I am wondering if financial aid is available. They have Martin's Point Insurance (Medicare/Medicaid) and Dad was in the Merchant Marines during WWII in the South Pacific.


over 1 year ago, said...

I am taking care of my father who fell while on the job. He has pemenant brain damage and had surgery on his neck in 2014. He can barely walk and has fallen in the shower and also had a small stroke. He can't do anything. He is currently on workman's comp and is still under the care of a doctor because they are confused why his leg will not work properly. Who would I contact. Thank you.


over 1 year ago, said...

Hi my name is Teresa. My daughter Nikki has been taking care of me and my home since March 7th 2016. I had a very serious neck surgery where I received 2 rods and 1 more plate with screws on top of the 3 I already had. Just recently I've had another surgery on my right shoulder. Within a month or so I will have my 2nd cataract surgery. After that I will be having left shoulder surgery. With all this happening my daughter has helped me everyday. She does still live at home, she is 26, but this has stopped her from going back to college or from getting a job. Can anyone tell me how I can get pay for her for doing what I'm supposed to be doing in life. I still have a long way to go. With my neck surgery I cannot drive myself anymore. My husband drives now. I need your help on how to get at least my daughter some kind of pay for her help. Thank you.


over 1 year ago, said...

hello. my mom has frontal lobe dementia. I don't know where to start to find help/care that might be covered. she has medicare/atena. anyone's help is appreciated. thanks.


over 1 year ago, said...

I recently cared for an ex that passed away, I received no benefits, I had poa that claimed I get everything, in the end hopice is under investigation for several things


over 1 year ago, said...

I have been taking care of my husband, who has cancer. I have been taking care of him for while now. Our money is tight with two kids to take care of as well. Is there a program that can help.


over 1 year ago, said...

Want to apply for spouse caregiver assistance cause my wife has cycle dease also had stroke which left her paralized on her whole right side along with a clubed foot and i have to assist her in cooking along with batheing, taking short walks!


over 1 year ago, said...

Just transitioned special needs from ma ton he. He was there since birth had all services and me his foster sister caretaker received some pay. How does this work inn have do I need to wait for nh to fund him? Very confusing


over 1 year ago, said...

i want i to take care of me when i get older.


over 1 year ago, said...

I have been caring for my significant other, live in boyfriend, friend of 7-8yrs. This care started in 2014 when he started with a neurological disease. He cannot not work or drive anymore. I have to cook for him serve him, as he cannot walk well, do his laundry, clean up after him and drive him to all doctor visits etc. We live in NY on Long Island and his neurologist is in Manhattan, 60+ mi. away. Gas, tolls, parking all expensive. Can I claim anything on my taxes? I do not have not kept any receipts. He gets SSD and is on medicare. He does give me money towards rent. I pay for food and all the expenses for the visits, gas, tolls, parking.


over 1 year ago, said...

I would like to find a support group to attend and a counselor to meet with in the Englewood area. Of course, Englewood is preferred, but I am also open to other areas as well. Thanks in advance for your response and assistance.


over 1 year ago, said...

if my parents living abroad, but need assistance, can i still get some help for taking care of my own parents?


almost 2 years ago, said...

I live in Orange County I want to know how to obtain mine caregiver degree and if you don't have one how much do get paid live in 24/7?


almost 2 years ago, said...

hi my dad is not well like he use to, but I'm trying to care for him, so what can i do, and who can i talk to?


almost 2 years ago, said...

I live in NY state with a lady who has dementia....we are not related. Can I get caregiver benefits from medicare for taking care of her?


almost 2 years ago, said...

Hello I wanted to know how do I get some benefits for being my fiancess cargiver. H e has a bad heart and kidnney?


almost 2 years ago, said...

My son lives with me. He can not walk straight because he can't keep his balance when he walks I have to cook for him and help him when he needs me to help him and when he finds a doctor I have to start taking him to the doctor how do I go about getting help for taking care of my son


almost 2 years ago, said...

I am taking care of my brother in-law from 3.00 pm until 1.30 or longer. my sister work those hr, He has lung and brain cancer and afraid to stay by himself, have to give medicine because he will take too much,have to fix his food so I am trying to see if I can get paid for that ,I am his care taker/


almost 2 years ago, said...

I've been taking care of my mother pretty much my whole.entire life,and it's starting to weigh down on me,I'm getting incredibly stressed out,money has been scarce,been trying in vain to get outside work,OK? So how would I go about getting paid for my assistance? Any info would be much appreciated. Thank you very much for your cooperation. Best Regards,JLH II


almost 2 years ago, said...

I've been taking care of my mother pretty much my whole.entire life,and it's starting to weigh down on me,I'm getting incredibly stressed out,money has been scarce,been trying in vain to get outside work,OK? So how would I go about getting paid for my assistance? Any info would be much appreciated. Thank you very much for your cooperation. Best Regards,JLH II


almost 2 years ago, said...

can i get paid for taking care of my uncle who has cancer , taking him to his appointments, feeding him and all other needs? where would i have to apply at?


almost 2 years ago, said...

Hello! I'm trying to find how/where to go in Longview, tx for information on getting paid for being my ex-husbands caregiver. He is 55 yrs old on full disability and at this time doesn't qualify for Medicaid.


almost 2 years ago, said...

I have been taken care of my dad for two years now an not getting a dime my dad has lost both legs so now I take him to doctors appointment make the meals in the house an everything else I do the shopping u name it I do it for him so am I eligible to be paid


about 2 years ago, said...

I have been a assistant to a Lupus relative and a diabetic elderly parent. I do need financial assistance, because cutting back on working is hard.


about 2 years ago, said...

I have been caring for my significant other for the last 4 or 5 yrs and has never gotten paid by him or anyone else for doing this. Had to quit my job in order to do this is their any recourse that I can take. He has taken me off our joint bank acct. and left me penniless. Is there anything I can do to go back for the last 5 years and get some kind of compensation from this gentleman. We have been together as a couple for 8 years. I know in some states being together for that long the women can get something for herself but I live in the state of Oregon and I don't know if something exists in this state for this. We did live in the state of Montana for a year to take care of his elderly parents I know something exists there for this. When we moved back to the state of Oregon and that is when all his illnesses started he came down with COPD, diabetes,he had high blood pressure, he is on insulin for his diabetes, he had a heart attack last year and is not very mobile so I have done everything for him. All his S.S stuff, doctors apps.,insurance, all his medication stuff and picking them all up for him, shopping, laundry, just about everything except bathing him. I have never been paid.for doing all this. He keep a roof over my head and paid my car insurance. While we were waiting that year that it takes to get S.S. And Medicare, I worked and paid all the bills in that time. Then he made me quit my job to take care of him.


about 2 years ago, said...

I Bettie Howard had to stop work three years ago to take care of my husband who has Alzheimers and can't be left alone anymore. I take care of all his needs these day's. We live with my youngest daughter to have a little help. We only have S.S. to live on so it's hard to make end's meet. Hope to hear from you soon. Thanks Bettie Howard.


about 2 years ago, said...

i been a care taker for my mom and dad for 4 years now .and not received a dime my dad passed away on sept 20 2014 and my mom had a major stroke and I am now 24/7 all day and night caring for her .my savings have disappeared.. I use to have $ 5000.00 saving .before I moved to Miami from west palm beach 4 years ago .I gave up what little life I had up there .now my savings is just about gone and I need help asap


about 2 years ago, said...

my father is 93, he stopped talking and walking since june 2015. I am his caregiver and as I write this note, I am in the need of installing a servillance video camara. I need assistance because I do not have internet in his apartment, recomended by his social worker due to abuses from homeaids that he has suffer. IT is very difficult to find people that hve a heart for needy elderly.


about 2 years ago, said...

I live in N.C. , one of the states that doesn't offer the Cash and Counciling Program unfortunately. My 84 yr. old mother moved in with me, my husband & two children 5 years ago. She has Lewy Body Dementia and it's been a long 5 years. I'm an only child, my father is deceased and mom's relatives are as old or older than she is & all live in other states. I applied for mom to receive Medicaid and she does qualify...but ALL the assisted living facilities in our area require a person "self pay" for the first 6 months ( approx. $4000. Per month for a shared room = $24,000. that we don't have!!) BEFORE they will accept all of mom's SS check and a small payment from Medicaid. It took me several trips to human services, about 40 phone calls and 2 months to find out I'd completely wasted my time even applying for Medicaid... So she's here in my home and can't be left alone because of her dementia. I cook for her, clean her room, do her laundry, do her hair, pick up her prescriptions, buy her supplies, toiletries, disposable underwear, take her to the doctor, dentist, eye Dr., etc. I can't even take my 12 &14 yr. old children camping next month because we have no one to watch grandma and no place to put her.... So another trip for my kids cancelled again... This has been going on for them since they were 7 & 9 years old, basically ruining their childhood. A lady at human services agreed the system in N. C. Isn't fair, and said we might qualify for some in home care... I made 11 phone calls this week...only reached answering machines and no one has ever called me back. Went back to Human Services today and was told there is a 2 year wait for in home care if Medicaid pays for it...and they never pay for all of it she said. So I put mom on the 2 year wait list... Rediculous really. She is already 84 and might not even be alive in 2 years!, which is probably what Medicaid is hoping for. Honestly, I am at my wits end. Our system is broken. Completely and totally broken. And I am exhausted.


about 2 years ago, said...

What if the person who has been being paid to care for an individual thru medicaid has dementia/memory loss? This person does not realize the degree of her health issues, and the person receiving care is unwilling to have anyone else work with them.


over 2 years ago, said...

I live in the UK and we also have a method by which we can c are for our loved ones whether they are young or old. Its called and Individual Budget. A support plan is designed to assess the needs and then a Budget is allowed by the Government. You can either let your local Council manage it and provide the care or you can have the Budget and employ Personal Assistants. I am the Mother of a son age 37 who has Downs Syndrome. The budget pays for 5 days at a Day service that he likes and I employ a P.A. to take him on social events.


over 2 years ago, said...

I am a family member taking care of my grandfather. I am trying to see if the Cash and Counsiling program is in Mississippi. I tried to get the map to come up on the computer but it would not come up. Could you tell me if this program is in my state if it is give me some way I can contact someone for help, so I can get on the program for my grandfather.


over 2 years ago, said...

I have been caring for my dad(for over2months now) as a living in caregiver(unpaid) i am fully qualified&thought that i would become automatically registered. Once i completed the course.But now I understand I have to be employed as a caregiver to become registered. Didn't do work experience thou. Because I have been around&involved with elderly people who required medical attention. Unable to do things themselves(mum during cancer&dad full time) I'm unregistered. He has decided to be assessed by DSL. Because the nurses have seen a dramatic recovery change,in his medical condition. He had a discussion with the nurses about me becoming a living in caregiver. That's how he got the contact number for DSL to be assess. (as well as seeing his living status change,surroundings) I know from being informed by the nurses,that there are many company's to register with. Once completion of the assessment. &my dad,has now ask of me.to carry on being his caregiver. I cook,clean(outside&in)do the washing drive at times. what entitlements am i&my dad looking at.. situated in waikato new zealand


over 2 years ago, said...

My son is 24 years old and has been diagnosed with end stage liver disease. We are currently going through all the processes of trying to get him a liver transplant. He is also have current issues with his breathing and has to stay on oxygen constantly. I live in Alabama 3 hours away from UAB where he has to go for all his appts and tests. My job is wanting to let me go because of my absences from work due to trying to take care of him. His breathing issue directly related to his liver condition. It is called Hepatopulomnary Syndrome. If I lose my job, I have no way of supporting us. He only has me, and I only have him. Any help would greatly be appreciated if you could direct me in the right area


over 2 years ago, said...

This is a very informative article.


over 2 years ago, said...

I am my mom's POA and HPOA. My oldest brother is also POA, but, in writing, he said he is too far away to help and that I have been my parents caregiver (dad recently deceased) for years and for me to do whatever it takes to take care of mom and her home. I have three older brothers who have not and do not assist with any caregiving or given me reprieve time. I also gave up my job to care for my parent(s). Two brothers want to put mom in a nursing home and sell her home. She suffers from mild to moderate dementia, but functions very well overall with my assistance in cooking doing laundry handling business affairs, assisting her in and out of showers and going out in general (to prevent falls), etc. At this point is there any reason to validate or require me to get full guardianship over my mom since I am her POA and HPOA? My parents also had a trust set up over 13 years ago.


over 2 years ago, said...

I take care of my Fiance' It makes it hard to work, I have to help him in and out of the shower, cook, make sure he takes his medicine, he forgets to take them, make his doctor appts.make sure he gets there, help him in and out of chair.he has T-11 and T 12 missing, narrowing of spine, depression, walks on a cane.sometimes has trouble walking at all.can't get a job.Afraid he will get hurt.


over 2 years ago, said...

I have no say so over my care, she has given power of attorney to someone else. I live in her home with my children, but we have no say so, about anything.. We are used to care for and not the ones in charge. Any advice from anyone?


over 2 years ago, said...

To my knowledge on doing research on this is, you have to get your CNA license certification then get hired by a home health to where they send you out to care for your loved one and build the insurance that way. or you can make arrangements to get paid out of Estate.


over 2 years ago, said...

I would like to find out which resources I need to contact in order to be paid for taking care of my mother she is 49 years old that doesn't do much for herself but go to bathroom and feed himself. I handle the schedule set up Days - Times of all 9 of his doctor appts / lab that's needed I am unable to work outside of the home { cuz of all the need of myself to take care of my mom please tell me where i can go in Bakersfield ca!!!


over 2 years ago, said...

I take care of my husband that doesn't do much for himself but go to bathroom n feed himself. I am unable to go out of house to work cuz of this. We live in Fairborn Ohio n I'm trying to find a agencie that we can go through n get paid, I did it for my mother for 4 years threw the state of Iowa n have a state id number, plz help me in desperate need


over 2 years ago, said...

I am on SSD but was told I could work/earn additional income up to $900. per month. For the past 3.5 yrs I have been caring for my mother (who lives 2+ hrs away). 4 days a week I'm with her and the other 3 days I pay a care giver. My mom is 92. I have had to move into a large house so my mom can move in with me. I will be her 24 hr caregiver. I was told I could be paid to do what I have been doing for the last 3+ yrs. I cant get a straight answer from any agency. I sit for 20 min. in the VRU at Medicare. Any suggestions - greatly appreciated.


over 2 years ago, said...

How do you become certified . I have already lost a great job . I lost all benifits PFL & now I need to make a living doing at least what I alrady do . Now I have time to help two more woman .


over 2 years ago, said...

I am trying to care for my father and also raise my family


over 2 years ago, said...

i have to ask for money from my sister who control over mom money and bills i have more thing to worry about with mom she can not talk well and walk i have to get up midd the nite help her to bathroom i have not got any good sleep in long time now


over 2 years ago, said...

Medicaid is a joint federal and state government program that helps people with low income and assets pay for some or all of their health care bills. It covers medical care, like doctor visits and hospital costs, long-term care services in nursing homes, and long-term care services provided at home, such as visiting nurses and assistance with personal care. Unlike Medicare, Medicaid does pay for custodial care in nursing homes and at home. Overall program rules for who can be eligible for Medicaid and what services are covered are based on federal requirements, but states have considerable leeway in how they operate their programs. States are required to cover certain groups of individuals, but have the option to cover additional groups. Similarly, states are required to cover certain services, but have the option of covering additional services if they wish to do so. As a result, eligibility rules and services that are covered vary from state to state. To be eligible for Medicaid you must meet certain requirements, including having income and assets that do not exceed the levels used by your state. The section on “Medicaid Eligibility”, which you can go to by clicking on the link below, provides more detailed information about how to become eligible for Medicaid. Once your state determines that you are eligible for Medicaid, the state will make an additional determination of whether you qualify for long-term care services. When determining whether you qualify for long-term care services, most states use a specific number of personal care and other service needs to qualify for nursing home care or home and community-based services. There may be different eligibility requirements for different types of home and community-based services. Your State Medical Assistance office is the best source for information about how to qualify for Medicaid in your state and if you qualify for long-term care services.


over 2 years ago, said...

Please read all before you think I am tooooo negative. Thank you frickenfrog It seems that everyone thinks that they can make a living at taking care of their loved ones. This is simply not true. Most Home and Community Programs are for the elderly. So if your husbandwife needs care and you are retired you can earn a little money while you have to care for him. This replaces him/her going into a nursing facility. Yes some states pay us to stay at home with our children/family members. This is not good pay. There are no benefits, no retirement, and certainly no savings to such programs. I do not want to sound tooooo negative, but this is not something that you want to think of as life long employment. On the other hand if you sign on with an agency you may get insurance, retirement, etc. and still be able to take care of your love one and others. Taking care of your loved on is rewarding, but you have to remember that you have a future. Do not put in years of taking care of a family member and then when it is over you have no job or skills that will carry you through the rest of your life. It is so important to think of yourself and your future as well as your love ones life. Good Luck and call or google you Medicaid office to see what you state has to offer for in home care.


over 2 years ago, said...

. I take care of my mentally handycap sister. my job time gets cut shorter and shorter. She has medicade, i have no insurance,I an her legal gardian. Im wondwering are there funds available for me to take care of her. We also have a home that got flooded, ruined drywall ceilings,and floors. we do not have the money for these repairs. what orginizations could i contact.


over 2 years ago, said...

I have been help to take care of my mother for a long time, but before my kids I was working! But now since my mom has gotten older she do like she use to! I take her to and from her doctor, I cook, clean, do all her shopping, paying her bills! Washing her clothes, she wash herself and feeds herself! So please tell me why I cant get paid for taking care of my mom? T.Boney in NC


over 2 years ago, said...

I have been a caregiver for my mother for eight monthes now! Her doctor wrote an order for me to get paid for my services for her. I never heard from anyone in regaurds to the matter. She do not want an outsider coming in her house to take care of her. She wants to know how can I get paid for taking care of her? I get her to & from her doctor's visits, I clean for her, I cook for he, I do her laundry, i do her hair, and i go on her runs for her. Please help, thanking you in advance. Sincerely, Y. Jordan


over 2 years ago, said...

Everyone, you must contact your local Medicaid office to see what programs they administer for your loved one. Or google Medicaid with your State's name next to it and look for all in homecare programs. If you State does not have any then write your Governor and insist on them excepting the expansion of Medicaid to your State. Remember, this is welfare. If you have had not such good thoughts about welfare maybe it is time you change your minds. Ask the governor to except what Center for Medicare and Medicaid has to offer into your state for the sake of your loved ones .


almost 3 years ago, said...

A life threatening car crash caused me to put my career on hold and my attorney had me placed on SSI & Medi-Cal till I improved. I have no intention of staying on SSI one day longer than necessary; nobody can survive for very long on the monthly income provided. Besides my own healing process from the car accident, I also was in a position to have to look after my mother, now 90 years old. She really needs more support and does anyone know if collecting State Disability bars you from also getting in-home caregiver money?


almost 3 years ago, said...

It looks like Texas does not participate in the cash and counseling program. How can this work for my family in Austin, Texas?


almost 3 years ago, said...

I WOULD LIKE TO BECOME A CAREGIVER HOW DO I GET A APPLICATION


almost 3 years ago, said...

I may receive payment for what the insurance/medicare/medicaid ispaying the health nurse to do. Her visits and calls are sparadic. I'm here all the time. Mother has told the insurance the nurse is no longer needed and she has told the nurse. Yet she hasn't stopped. Its time I find out who's paying her and if I can receive that much needed income. Thank you


almost 3 years ago, said...

I am 24/7 live-in stay at home son caregiver for both parents whom are both COPD/O2 assist dependent. They have a reverse mortgage and pay me out of pocket a very small sum per week. The income I receive does not add up to enough to make any financial progress. Would they and/or I qualify for financial assistance with their existing finance status? Is their a local advisory assistance/support agency in the state of CA that can help with all the ABC's of family caregiver needs?


almost 3 years ago, said...

Yes this sounds like a great idea but there is something that I need to know if the person that I am caring for the have medicare, but my or my not have a lot of money what you do? Just trying to understand what position that I am in


almost 3 years ago, said...

Resourses for help on financial help


almost 3 years ago, said...

Is it legal for someone to get full time pay to care for their disabled spouse when they have in home care that comes in 5 days a week and the spouse also has a full time job making over $90,000 yr? I'm not sure if I am asking it right or not.


almost 3 years ago, said...

I am z care giver how is this program fit for me I'm father is 84 years old and very weak. I am the one that does everything for him. Bathe,cook, wash his clothe, take him to drs appiontments


almost 3 years ago, said...

Just google your State's name and the word Medicaid. You will find information on what your state pays out for care in the home. If it is confusing then call the phone numbers that are on the site. Ask for the department that supports in home care for the elderly and disabled. You should find out after a few phone calls. If it fails call you Governor's Office. They create these programs in you state and will give you the answers. Good Luck


about 3 years ago, said...

My mom is taking care of my dad who had a stroke 3 months ago and is now needing 24hr care. She had to quit her job to take care of him and was just wanting know how she can get some income to help with everything. My dad has medicare and she no longer has insurance due to my dad losing his. How can I go about getting information on this? I've also noticed everyone mentioning that Medicaid may pay family member for providing the home care...does Medicare do it too?


about 3 years ago, said...

Pattie, What state do you live in??? If you have a computer you can google "name of you state and next to it the word Medicaid" Next google in the search engine on the site the word "paid caregiver or home and community services" This should tell you if Medicaid pays you for care of your mother. If this is confusing then call the toll free numbers from the Medicaid site and ask them if they have any programs that will pay you to take care of an ADULT. frickenfrog


about 3 years ago, said...

How to get paid to be a family caregiver? This short article didn't follow through with the promised information on how to get paid!!!! Or even how to start. My mom is 89 and desperately needs my help 24/7 but I can't afford not to work. We need some additional income other than social security at this point. What are we supposed to do????


about 3 years ago, said...

I am looking after my partner that is 100 %disable and need 24-7 care I am staying with him and taking care can you help me get paid for this he only gets 1169.00 a month and it is very hard to make it with me not having income


about 3 years ago, said...

Google your State's name and put the work Medicaid behind it and look at what your state has to offer. You can also go to CMS.gov and your state will be there. Many State's now pay you to take care of your family. In Arizona it is a very good model for Medicaid. They have been doing this for many years. There are glitches in the system, but only time and angry parents and families will change the systems.


about 3 years ago, said...

all my time is take care mother there is no time for me to do thing for myself my brother and sister is working and they have paid check going to them is care giver is call a job that we get paid for time that we take care give the love one i get food stamp and that is get smaller by the years


about 3 years ago, said...

The best way for all of you that would like to get paid is to google your State's name and next to it put in Medicaid. Then go to Home and Community Services. If that does not pull it up then just start searching the Medicaid page with work for family or how to get paid, etc. It will show up if there is a way for you to get paid. Or call the phone numbers of your DES/DDD offices and ask. Certainly some one knows at the offices of the government. Your Governor's offices can answer the questions also, they happen to pay for it...


about 3 years ago, said...

I wish I would've known how to get paid for being a caregiver. I was a 24/7 caregiver for a friend from church. I lived with her for almost 11 mnths. She gave me room and board and paid ne $200 a mnth from her own ssi. I tolerated verbal and physical abuse from visitors to her home only because she helped me out when I was in need. But it got so bad that for my personal safety from physical abuse from a friend of hers I was forced to leave and she stated she no longer needed my services. Now I'm homeless and jobless, I am uncertified but in the process of getting my certification. Thank you for thid article it will come in handy.


about 3 years ago, said...

I'm just in the early stages of caring for my future father in law. He had a left leg amputated do to diabetes. I have had ups and downs emotionaly regarding my decision to take on this task. I love my boyfriend and his father and want to help as much as I possibly can. Each day that passes I know I made the right choice even when we have bad moments or even bad days. I think being able to have a small income as well will help in coping with the bad times or even good times. I just need to be able to purchase my own personal needs with out having to ask. If for some reason I don't qualify for the program it's going to be that much harder to do my job with out having some small resentment. Keeping the peace and staying strong is very important to me and keeping my father in law healthy and content, and keeping my future husband from not stressing or spreading his self to thin is my main objective. So I ask for prayers and Anya advice I can get. God bless to all of those who are willing to care for a loved one. Amen


about 3 years ago, said...

In Arizona you can be paid for up to 40 hours of care for you family if you qualify for Medicaid. This works very well for many. Problem is: You have to qualify for an agency as an employee or you have to go through the most ridiculous contracting process with the State in order to provide the care and get paid. Then you are only paid $8-9 an hour before taxes. It does really help if you are unemployed. Then if you are an progressive parent trying to get the most for your child in turn the State can sue you for all the money back. This is what they did to me. So....if you trust the government go for the money, but I will say, my life is ruined due to them. I will never have anything the rest of my life due to this happening. They can take our home now. They already take our taxes at the end of the year. We can not have more than $300.00 in the bank or they can take it out. It is a crime what they government can do to you that you will live with the rest of our lives. I can not afford a lawyer to get us out of it, so we are ruined until we die. As if living in the mess with our son is not enough. Today I want to introduce the 113th congressional bill H.R.5024 This bill would give a 5 year credit to our Social Security for having to stay at home and take care of our family members. Please one and all. Go to Congress.gov and search for the bill. Then click on send my reps a letter. Please everyone help pass this bill. It has been in congress for years. Not enough people send letters to their reps. The letters are all ready to send, you just click the buttons. Nothing else to do. It is easy and effective. Thanks you. frickenfrog


about 3 years ago, said...

I left my job two years ago to care for my mother in my home. I am looking for resources for myself. Such as, payment, group support etc. We live in Southern New Hampshire by the coast. Any information will be greatly appreciated.


about 3 years ago, said...

I have 2 disable children raising a grandson lost my husband in 2007, i am 69 yrs. old i need to be with my children working 37 hrs. week-ends with special needs. I did this for 19 yrs. retire after the passing of my husband. I had to go back to work , I everything for everyone people have ask me why don't you get help where does any one turn to i want to able to stay at home caring for my son and daughter.


about 3 years ago, said...

Yes, i am taking. care of my moth in law and I have given up my job to care for her, so was hoping that is a way I could get paid to take care of her? I am CNA certified


about 3 years ago, said...

Im in washington state, and was wondering if like the state will pay the caregiver, if theres an application online i can fill out to apply. She has medicare and aarp for insurance. SDhe thought it will help me while im staying with her and helping her get through this. Ill just look up wa st. caregivers app.


about 3 years ago, said...

Being knowledgeable of services available to the caregiver.


about 3 years ago, said...

My boyfriends mother is coming to live with us in a month due to the fact that her husband passed away and she is unable to live by herself. I need to know where to begin as far as applying for me to care for her in our home.


about 3 years ago, said...

I regretfully posted a very very very long comment a few days ago about my frustrations on the situations related too the caring for my mother at home and the care she had received while in the hospital prior to her coming to live with me, my husband and I and kids. I rambled, and I apologize. It had be a tear filled day with frustration from finance and hurt from lack of family help with mom. Hurt and burnt sums it up I guess just like most of you. When your older siblings have no young ones at home that need their attention, and are free to move about their daily lives with freedom....without even a visit or a call to offer a lending hand, it wears on ya. Thankfully I do have a sister that helps on occasion, and a couple others that call from out of town, one that visits on occasion when possible. But out of seven children, I had set myself up for false hopes of a strong support system...However!!! I am grateful, for the help I do get


about 3 years ago, said...

Providing links that could lead to the help that is needed.


about 3 years ago, said...

I take care of my husband..he is 84..how can I get payed for taking care of him...for the last 2 years....I have worked and take of him..


about 3 years ago, said...

i am my mother angel i am the only one that can understand her and try to help; with words i have old sister and young brother both have real job i think that they give me some money to help mom out i live off food stamp and that is not helping i think thing you do to help out is a job that get paid with lot thanks and hugs is all nice


about 3 years ago, said...

I believe that the article don.t need any help it's ok just like it is.


about 3 years ago, said...

I take care of my husband who has end stage denial failure. He has other serious health problems. Passes out often because of bp problems. He can't use phone or drive so I can't leave him alone. Getting a job is out of the realm of possibility but we need the income. I can't afford to go to Dr or get my meds. Is there a program in AZ that pays spouse to care for I'll spouse?


about 3 years ago, said...

Hi, I'm a mom and housewife, I take care of my husband who has pose polio I'm retired to take care of my husband. And now our son has cancer. Having to take our to see his doctor's very day. And kimono very day. and I also take care of our grandson who is 4 years old.How can I become a care giver driver for our son. We (my son and I) Live out of town. 20 mile to get to the doctors very day.


about 3 years ago, said...

If my mother receives social security benefits, does she still qualify for paid assistance from a family member?


about 3 years ago, said...

Good general information. Very helpful.


over 3 years ago, said...

How can I get paid for careing for sick wife. She had 2 strocks and been inhospitial about 6 time already this yr. I wil be 70 yrs old in Nov. We been married for 50 yrs nex month. I had a heart attack in 2008....2 stints placed in my heart...I am on Meds my self...I do everthing from a to z in our home. I became disable in 2003....and have social security only as income. We live in a mobile home over 40 yrs old..Please let me know if I can get help, financially to pay someone to come in and help...My Dr. is very concern with my stress level and my depression...Please let me know. thanks H.T


over 3 years ago, said...

I've been caring for my dad since July of 2013. It has been a huge strain on me financially as well as emotionally. I would like to get more information about being paid to care for my dad to offset some of the financial burdens, I can't go back to work because he requires around the clock care. Thank you.


over 3 years ago, said...

I Live in Texas with my Father and not long ago finished my college courses and graduated, perfect time to get out and find a job. However, just a while after my father suffered a stroke which left him in the hospital for a month and now he's back home, with only myself to take care of him through the day. I cook and feed him, take care of his dog, help him back and forth to the bathroom, basically have to help him with everyday thing. I have school payments I'll need to start paying, yet I can't go out and get a job when he needs me like this, so any help I can get financially would be a big boon not only for that, but to help pay for other bills that are becoming harder to pay. Any information on becoming a paid caregiver to my father is what I need and I have no idea how to get it going.


over 3 years ago, said...

I live in NC. but had to go to PA. to care for my mother. She needs to be taken care of so I have to live with her and be her caregiver. I want to know in the state of NC. who do I contact to see if I can get paid to be her care giver, she needs someone with her 24/7.


over 3 years ago, said...

I am wanting to become a caregiver. But don't know where or how to start. I'm in Easley SC. I have cared for my grandparents for a while and also my Autistic, Prader-Willi Syndrome Child.


over 3 years ago, said...

Guam is a US territory goes and my mother is also Medicaid des t apply here.


over 3 years ago, said...

Hi.. I have visited this sight several times. I'm the owner/operator of a home care agency and would like to know how can I get my agency listed . I would love to know.. Thanks so much for your information and help.


over 3 years ago, said...

I live in st. Louis mo and am diabled I have a good friend who come over to help me around the house I don't know what I would do with out them is their a program that would pay him for his time


over 3 years ago, said...

Not directed to any particular state. I take care of my wife & we are on SS but make just over the limit to get any Medicaid. We live in Texas.


over 3 years ago, said...

I have been taking care of my Mother for the last year an a half, she has Congestive Heart Failure, and Emphysema, and she has two dead hips. She is going to have her surgery in late August early September. I am the only reliable person taking care of her, because her boyfriend works 10+ hours a day. I was wondering if there is anyway i could get help with benifts, Please And Thank You.


over 3 years ago, said...

I moved 3 yrs. ago to take care of my mother. Recently, I had to leave my FT job. I get her out bed, fix all food, take to bathroom multiple times a day, clean house, care for her pets and buy groceries. Just wondering if there is any type of assistance? Thankyou


over 3 years ago, said...

We moved my husbands father in with us after an accident Nov. 2013 and he has dementia. My husband was just laid off work. He and I do not have money to care for his dad. I was caring for him without any pay til my husband was laid off work May 16th 2014. What do we do. My husband does not have power of Attorney and his brother has his name on the checking account. We are at our wits end. Non of the family will help and his father receives the money he gets from retirement . He hides it and doesn't pay for any expenses to keep him. We may have to move or relocate. His father never made any arrangement with either child to his wishes for care. He was living on his own but wasn't eating .So I make him 3 meals a day. He wants to be taken to walk only at walmart 3 times a day. We are at our breaking point. What is there available to assist us with care for him?


over 3 years ago, said...

My mother has a broke neck; broken tail bone and a broke back. I care for her in her home. Meals; showers; bills; prescriptions; etc. She is on limited income. Medicare has approved her to pay for a care giver. I need to apply for caregiver pay. There seems to be no way to apply on any of the sites I have searched. Case worker has not bothered to call. NEED ASSISTANCE PLEASE!! I AM 44 & MY MOM IS 70. NEED AN APPLICATION.


over 3 years ago, said...

I have been caregiving my parents for ten years. My mother had ALS (Lou Gehrigs) and passed on. My father has COPD and heart problems and is 93 years old. He lives with me. I work full-time in addition to caregiving him after work. I am single and pay the mortgage, food and all utitilies by myself. I have never had any support. Can I get financial support for what I do? I am exhausted and am now having major medical problems and inflammatory disease and paying doctors regularly more for my bills than my father's. This extra pay may help me pay for someone to come and help me clean house or cook once a week or so. Thank you for your help and support.


over 3 years ago, said...

do you what state pay you for being a family caregiver


over 3 years ago, said...

I have been taking care of my mother every since July4th..She had open heart surgery and I have been living with her since the doctor order that family member is there to care for her at all times. Yes it has stress full and expensive and at times overwhelming. I need help please.


over 3 years ago, said...

Can you tell me what's available in Texas and where to start?


over 3 years ago, said...

My sister has term/illness i am her caregiver i drive 2hrs to and from 5 times a week and sometimes on weekends when needed she pays my bills but i think she should be able to get funding to pay me not out of her pocket but she gets good money from soc/dis but still that is not fair she has to spend her money


over 3 years ago, said...

I care for my sister who is younger than me, she disable and on Medicare.i have to leave another job to care for her needs. Such as doctors appointment, paying her bills, shopping,taking her dogs to the vet. She has short term memory lost. So day by day I need to be there. I'm living 5 houses down but she refuses to leave her home. I live in Louisiana


over 3 years ago, said...

Do that have this kind of program in Georgia?I need it! Please help.


over 3 years ago, said...

What if the person needing care isn't elderly, doesn't qualify for medicaid or ssi or disability due to we are awaiting results of Dr's and Lawyers from a car accident case that happened a year ago, but he is getting progressively worse, the other day he couldn't even think of his address


over 3 years ago, said...

How do I sign my husband up he cares for me (Huntingtons disease) our son (Autism) and our daughter (Arthrogryposis) has given up his job to care for us here in Nevada. All three are on ssi and Medicaid can anyone email me info?


over 3 years ago, said...

I appreciate the valuable information provided in this article as most people do not realize that being a paid family caregiver is a viable option and can be a solution that helps relieve some of the financial stresses and strains for them should they need to reduce outside work hours or totally leave a job to care for a loved one. I am disappointed in the very generalized negative statement about the workforce status of a home care agency with the assumption that they are overstretched and have a high turnover rate along with irregularities in visits, etc. The benefit of an agency is that there is that support and backup available when a family member cannot work their time as scheduled. If you are going to accentuate a potential negative, accentuating the positive is also something that needs to be done to be fair for all caring options to be considered when deciding what the best solution is for their particular situation..


over 3 years ago, said...

Is it too much to ask that instead of the vague mention that 30 states provide this arrangement a list of those states could be included? I know that the facts in these articles change but until you know for certain if you can access this help, the article is a waste of time and also a tease. Thanks and please consider.


over 3 years ago, said...

I live in texas, texas had programs name DAD programs , I care my side but texas denied me for care my family because texas no allowed pay family whos care family. For old people in texas just hard not have help for old people specialty for poor people, not help transportation to and from doctor etc texas very bad for service to old people just none their just left old people die without help.


over 3 years ago, said...

thopkins: that is scary. I suggest you see a lawyer RIGHT NOW. There are legal ways to make sure you are not destitute, but you need a lawyer. Don't waste your time looking for answers here, it's just litanies of woe and and you will get no helpful suggestions. An attorney who does elder care is what you want. Good luck.


over 3 years ago, said...

Here's some advice. Have money. TONS of it. You are indeed SOL without it. I am struggling to get my senile mother on Medicaid. Right now we have a paid sitter in a few hours a day, it's expensive! But worth every penny. I am not going to change her diaper or move in or god forbid have her move in with ME. She will sit there in her house with hired help a few hours a day until the blessed day comes where she's ready for the nursing home.


over 3 years ago, said...

I have 4 years of caregiver experince with three different elderly clients who have all provided recommendation letters with in credible references regarding my services, dedication, reliability, etc. So how do I apply to new agencies or clients to help get myself more oppurtunities?


over 3 years ago, said...

Every comment or article I read just goes back to the same thing. Your S.O.L! But if you have no job, a drug addict, heroine addict, etc. you can paid by the state for assistance! What's wrong with this society and government! The people that are out there busting their humps, get NOTHING!


over 3 years ago, said...

Contact your local Area Agency on the Aging. They are a good resource to assist you in completing any necessary paperwork. To locate your nearest Area Agency on the Aging click here: http://www.caring.com/local/area-agency-on-aging


over 3 years ago, said...

i have been taking care my mom for the pass 12 years without paid and i cannot put her in the nursing home went she is depend on me to meet her daily needs .My mom is in her last stage of alzheimers and i just can't leave her and go back to work i need to help her because we have a daily routine going on and she is very happy with me providing care for her.


over 3 years ago, said...

Hello, I had to quit my job in order to take care of my grandfather and grandmother. My grandfather passed away last October from cancer. My grandmother is in stage 4 cancer now. She had been in remission for 8 years. I take her to chemotherapy, shots, test, doctors appointments. I buy her groceries, help her with daily tasks, and cook for her. It is a full time job. She was in the hospital 6 days last week, and chemotherapy 3 days this week, with lasics in her bag. I drove her to and from chemotherapy, bought groceries, etc. The Doctors said she is malnutritioned. My Dad passed away, and my mom remarried. My step dad has had 5 brain hemorrhages. Difficult situation. I need help in any way I can. Thanks, Leramy


over 3 years ago, said...

Hello. I suffered a brain annuerism rupture on August 9, 2012 at the age of 31. The massive rupture was on the right side of my brain, so it was the left side of my body that was effected. I was given less than a 2% chance of surviving emergency brain surgery. Once surving the surgery, there was a possibility that I would have minor to major brain damage. Also, there was a possibility that I may never walk again!!. After being in a wheelchair for 11 and half months, I began walking with a quad cane. I no brain damage except my short term memory was affected. I have been walking now for over 10 months with a quad cane. My left arm and hand is basically non functional. I have to be taken to therapy 3 times a week and have dr appts often. I receive $967 a month from SS disability. My father has put his working career on hold at the age of 57 to soley care for me. But we have come to the point to where he is going to have to start working again and hire a sitter for me. Is there any disability caretaker benefits available for my father do that he can continue caring for me?? And how do we go about requesting and applying for caretaker assistance??


over 3 years ago, said...

my finance has to have a lung and heart transplant i have to take care of him take to dr app out of state and in state ive lost my job due missing work days to take care of him was trying to find some gov ass to pay me while im out of work taking care of him we live in columbia sc please help


over 3 years ago, said...

My husband had a massive stroke 3 years ago, we have been struggling though this life change.I take care of him, when IS go to work, I have my neighbor take care of him.My neighbor has COPD and she has informed me she can't sit with him anymore due to her health. I need to know if there is any goverment programs that can help me stay home and take care of him?


over 3 years ago, said...

my 84 yr. mother who has dementia and copd moved in with me one year ago she is on hospice I had to quit my job of 5 in half years due to severe depression, anxiety and panic attacks my cannot be alone anymore hospice aide comes 4 hours a week can I get paid for taking of my mother I have only 200 dollars a month from my late husband pension I am 51 years old alcoholic who has been sober for 7years I am so scared without income


over 3 years ago, said...

Hi my name is Tracey I live with my mom she is 78 and has Alzheimer's.can the state pay me to stay home and take care of her.


over 3 years ago, said...

My 73 year old grandfather is not aloud to drive, He cant cook or anything for himself. Would I be able to get paid to stay at home with him. I cook, clean, and everything for him. I live in Maryland by the way, do you know what Maryland goes by


over 3 years ago, said...

Hello to All, I am very sorry to hear about your love ones. I know that it is very tough taking care of him/her and how much time you took away from your work just to complete their needs. It's also the greatest feeling having the time spent to help that special someone continuously because time is precious. I also had struggled working for my father in law, diagnoses with severe dementia, 24/7 by alternating shifts with my husband. It was exhausting as his daily needs was getting difficult each day and his memories slowly washed away. He was as innocent as he is, but his behavior was increasing due to memory loss. Everyone and his environment was estranged to him as his disease progresses. He doesn't even recognize his wife, his kids, and himself. It was so hard for the family to see him going thru his stages. After his death, I decided to start a personal home care agency that other families could benefit from this services that we do everyday to help assist our love ones in needs. I can hire anyone that lives in my certified area to care of their love ones by giving you the right training base on his/her needs. I am only certified in Wisconsin. I serve in Manitowoc, Outagamie, Brown, Calumet, and Winnebago Counties only. There are agencies out there. Just need to search for it or get referred to it by their Family Doctor. Good luck to everyone.


over 3 years ago, said...

my Mom is 91 has had 3 strokes in about a year she needs a caregiver but wont have a stranger in her home.. my son is not working at the time because he has seizures he is taking care of her basically 12 hrs a day and i work at nite so i have her sit in my office with me at nite how can i get him compensated by medicare because i cant afford to pay him and he is way behind in his child support and he was just offered a job but wouldnt take it because of Mom


over 3 years ago, said...

I am currently disabled and receiving social security. I have had 2 open heart surgeries, 2 stents, 2 heart attacks, pacemaker, and difibulator. I just had back surgery in Feb. 2014. I have rheumatoid arthritis in both feet. Will need constant care and want to move in with my daughter. would she be eligible for caregivers aid? I am 72 yrs. old


over 3 years ago, said...

Hello Susan, Contact your local Area Agency on the Aging. They are a good resource to assist you in completing any necessary paperwork. To locate your nearest Area Agency on the Aging click here: http://www.caring.com/local/area-agency-on-aging


over 3 years ago, said...

Yes.. I would need to know who to contact or what form to fill out and send in to be a home caregiver to my mother.. she only receives Social Security and is on medicare, with a secondary health insurance... I am unemployed and we live in Vancouver Washington. Please help! Thanks.. :)


over 3 years ago, said...

Mostly helpful but with few directions as to who to apply to or what the limits are. My mom has a small amount of money and I'm disabled but still providing "care management" and also doing more - a lot more - that I really should.


over 3 years ago, said...

Hello Sandersrick, Thank you for reaching out to Caring.com with your question. I am sorry to hear of your mother's illness. Caring.com's Senior Care Directory | http://www.caring.com/local can help locate in-home care providers, home health care agencies, and hospice providers in your area. Your local Area Agency on the Aging | http://www.caring.com/local/area-agency-on-aging can also be helpful. You may also want to explore Caring.com's In-Home Resource Center for additional resources: http://www.caring.com/home-care. I hope these resources are helpful.


over 3 years ago, said...

What services are offered in south carolina to assist me in caring for my terminally ill mother


over 3 years ago, said...

Why can't I be paid for caregiving for my husband in the State of Georgia? And what state could I be paid in to take care of him, close to Georgia?


over 3 years ago, said...

how does someone who is giving care to their elderly parents that DON'T have Medicaid? They have medicare.


over 3 years ago, said...

My daughter who is an angle has given up her life to go to FLA. to stay and help her grandfather who can not live by himself anymore. He has congestive heart failure, diabetes. copd, etc: The point is, he gets physical therapy 3 days a week and a nurse comes to see him 2 days a week but for the most part, she takes care of the restof his needs. He can't drive to his doc appointments, he can't vook the corect foods he needs to keep the water away again, etc: . My question, is there any program through S.S. or through FLA. that would just pay her a little money to take care of her needs since she really can'y work. She doesn't even know I'm looking into this for her but, If there's anything that would take a little pressure off of her then I would appreciate the information. I live in Indiana and I can send her care packages but she has monetary needs also. Thank you for any help,


over 3 years ago, said...

I am a 23 year old female who has given up everything to take care of my grandmother who is 87 years old I cook clean bath her change clothes run all errands and go pay bills I have been doing this a couple years I am the only one she trusts to do everything but it gets stressful with the lack of money and everything I live in the state of Mississippi and I was just wondering how do I go about getting help or being paid to have money to buy supplies and to live off of myself!


over 3 years ago, said...

My grandmother needs help at home. She is on Medicare not Medicaid. I am her caregiver. How do i get paid for my services .


over 3 years ago, said...

Doesn't apply to my situation-My dad has just enough SS and a few assets- wouldn't not qualify. I am so stuck with all this. Just trying to keep my sanity!


over 3 years ago, said...

Hello, Thank you for your question. If you are looking for information for a specific state, it is recommended that you contact your local Area Agency on the Aging. They can assist you with questions pertaining to getting paid to be a caregiver. To locate your nearest Area Agency on the Aging go to: http://www.caring.com/local/area-agency-on-aging


over 3 years ago, said...

i would like to know what the stipulations are for the state of indiana my father has been very ill for a while and is also on kidney dialysis 3 times a week. he needs a partite caregiver during the day while my mom is at work and we were wondering where ego turn to find out information on a family member getting paid to take care of him. he currently has medicare and medicaid.


over 3 years ago, said...

I am taking care of granny, she is barely making enough in social security but has Medicare and Medicaid but no extra to pay bills and we do not have any extra to get transportation and hard to get phone access and need some kind of caregiving assistance to help cover it all and legally I am caregiver and she is really just my partners granny but I have known her over ten years, and we need financial assistance or extra help for our needs -her care


over 3 years ago, said...

I am having open heart surgery and my husband is bedridden. will medicare help with cost of his care while I am recovering??? Recovery estimated to be up to 3 months.


over 3 years ago, said...

My son has brain cancer after the second operation he is no longer able to care for himself. I am the one who has and would like to continue. I am certified in first aid and cpr I have also been a caregiver for 8yrs. Its important to us that we continue together through this horrible disease my boy depends on me andbi believe I am the only one to properly take care of him at home. Could you please help me find the way to do this.Thank You.


over 3 years ago, said...

For those needing help, in my State of California, they call it In Home Support. You have to be quite poor (Medicaid eligible or close to it) and be disabled and on SSI or SSDI or elderly and unable to care for yourself. If you are all those things, In home Support will give you limited help. For instance, house cleaning is only 6 hours a month. yes a month. they think you should be able to keep your house clean in 6 hours and that is all they will pay for that. I believe laundry is 30 minutes a week. that's it. In order to get some hours you need to be very disabled, need help in the bath, getting dressed, uriniary incontinence, cooking (they give me 6 hours a week for cooking and cleaning up) that is for breakfast lunch and dinner. 21 meals. = 6 hours..... They pay around 9.50 a hour here for all of these things. you cannot be paid for anything to do with animals or yard work or watering or anything like that. Only care of the person and limited time for the care (like 10 minutes for hair washing...things like that).... Don't expect you will be paid for 24 hours a day etc. I am very disabled and get 108 hours a month help. But its better than nothing. Most do not get that much help. Also this is all in conjunction about what your doctor says you can do and not do and how disabled the social worker thinks you are. I hope this helps a little. You practically need to be bed ridden to get this help these days in California my social worker told me.


over 3 years ago, said...

Heart For All, After speaking with my fiancee' home health care nurse, I called Comp Care here in Northern KY and they gave me the number to the Northern Kentucky Aging and Disability Center, who are the ones to assist me in becoming a paid caregiver for my fiancee. If I were you, I would call a local Comp Care first and find out how to get paid (likely through the state and the Medicaid program as here).


over 3 years ago, said...

I have quit my job to care for my mother who has severe copd. She has medicare and a supplemental medicaid. We live on her 800.00 a month social security check which barely covers the bills and we receive 140.00 a month in snap benefits which barely covers the cost of food. Is there a program out there that I can apply for that will pay me for caring for her? We live in rural south Arkansas. I can not leave her to go back to work and we are really struggling. Any advice or help you can give me would be greatly appreciated! Sincerely Lori Day


over 3 years ago, said...

I am a Certified Nursing Assistant in the state of Michigan. I have made several attempts researching information on how to receive Medicaid clients and how to get paid for taking care of them in their homes. Right now I am in dire need on how to get started, who to contact, and how to get compensated for all of their care needs. I have been mislead on unclear information, but after reading this site, it has lead me to believe I can get the help I need. This will also be helpful to me with family relatives that may need my assistance as well. Please reply at your earliest convenience. Thank you.


over 3 years ago, said...

I am the one who is disabled, my husband has a job that takes him out of town, I have a caregiver that is living with us because I can't drive and have difficulty walking, we are giving her what we can afford but she should be able to have more money for all she does. She cleans, cooks, takes me to appointments. goes grocery shopping and other needed errands. I do have Medicare and some insurance from my husbands job I just would like to find out if I can get more money for my caregiver.


over 3 years ago, said...

knowing about home health care agencies and the services these offer


over 3 years ago, said...

I am a Registered Nurse and I often have people ask me if their family member or significant other can get paid as their caregiver. The majority of my patient's are dual eligible and disables ages 18-64 MassHealth and Medicare Insured. Please advise.


over 3 years ago, said...

I have giving up my job to stay home and takes care of my spouse I receive no money and it's getting hard please help


over 3 years ago, said...

My mother has severe RA, she can barely walk, and my brother has hip+knee problems also, they both can barely walk, im 54,and had to move in with them, im there 24/7 { my brother had to before he had health issues } and im in great shape, but I have to clean, cook, go do errands, { grocery store, post office, paying bills, } do I quailify for for being paid?..THX.


over 3 years ago, said...

I have just recently moved in with my mother who had a major stroke. She needs 100% help. I work a 40+ hr a week job and care for her when I am done with work. I would like to leave my job and care for her 100% of the time but really need an income. We live in Arkansas and she is receiving Social Security Retirement benefits and has medicare. Any suggestions would be very helpful.


over 3 years ago, said...

Yes, as I am on disability myself and could certainly benefit from a little extra income; and, help take care of my Mom, who is 88 y/o...God Bless her. She does pretty well living alone; but, I know she could benefit from a more routine regimen. Not just her calling me or my siblings when she wants/needs something. P.S. I come from a very disorganized clan and the communication can be quite challenging.....guilty party myself.


over 3 years ago, said...

could you please email on how I can extra money for my spouse who is my care taker.I depend on her for just about everything and I have heard that she can compensated for her time and helping me.I live in New Jersey and I have medicare only, I dont qualify for medicaid. Could you please let me know as soon as you can, thank you very much.


over 3 years ago, said...

I live in tx and I am an in home caregiver for a friend. He needs me here 24 / 7 so I had to shut down my business to take care of him. He is 43 but is on medicare and Medicaid. I have to be here to mix his medicine for his pumps and change out his pumps everyday, plus all of his other everyday needs. Can I get paid to be his caregiver?


over 3 years ago, said...

Over the past 6-7 years I have taken my mother to all doctor appointments, store and stayed with her on the average of 3 days a week every other week. Last year I spent 80 days at the minimum helping mom. My two sisters were very seldom there except for the end of 2012 and all of 2013 my younger sister helped on the off weeks. She never took her to the doctor or did laundry. She shopped every other week and would visit for a few hours. Am I entitled for any compensation for time, gas, or out of pocket expenses for the 80 days and can I be compensated for past years. I never took money from mom even though I drove over 100 miles each visit and I am on a fixed income. How much can be charged and how far back can I be compensated for? Thank you very much.


over 3 years ago, said...

I would like to know what my work is worth. I live in with a family member something I have done for another relative. I cook three meals a day and clean the kitchen. I buy food for the household approx 300 a month. I clean the house and do the laundry once a week. I help with bathing 2 a week and dressing daily. I help up and down stairs daily. I do not go to doctor visits anymore because that is the only time I can get a break. So I demanded that their children do it. I go nowhere the family members come and go as they please. Is asking a lot to be compensated and what would be a fair amount? I am here 24/7.


over 3 years ago, said...

My mother suffering from advanced stage 4 colon cancer is currentlyon Medicare which as I understand wont cover a family member to be compansated as a garegiver currently living in East Orange NJ.my mother needs round the clock care and quite frankly I dont want to leave her alone .l am from Phila Pa. And will be staying here in east orange but have a wife back home who in a very short time will be ovewhelmed by the lack of support I could provide being there so I ask how do I recieve benifits as a care giver for mom or how does mom become a recipient of MEDICAID which as I also understand provides this carevgiver service PLEASE HELP MOMS prognosis is grave week to mos no one truly knows .Thank you for any and all help you may be able to provide. ?...


almost 4 years ago, said...

If anyone is caring for a Vet or the spouse of a Vet...they CAN get monetary help. It's a lot of paperwork, but well worth it. They can apply (or someone can apply for them) for a monthy pension, housbound or Aid & Attendence program. You can visit the following website for all information, applications and forms: VeteransAid.org


almost 4 years ago, said...

Don't mind caring for father, but don't want to lose my house, because of no income. I work 2 jobs, hubby works from 4am until 3pm, I work from 8am until 9pm, days starts at 4 am, we take turns taking him to the doctor which is once a wk , w/my brother in law, helping when he can because he is 70. If one of us where to quit we would lose our home & no one would have a place to live. elderly don't want to take baths, or do what they need to, they think they can run your home like they did when you were at home as kids., its harder w/elderly than w/lil' kids. Its really hard no one wants to help so you give up your own life so they can have theirs. you raise your kids & then your parents w/no time left for your self. Just tirer'd, over worked from4am-11pm, no time for self, no end in sight. clean house, pee bucket & all, dinner, breakfast, lunch, re-hab,nurses, please help me& hubby hold on.


almost 4 years ago, said...

I'm care giver of a friend of mine she is ninety eight yrs. old. is any way I can get a direct pay? she has medicaid & medicare thamks


almost 4 years ago, said...

I just lost my mom 9 months ago and now my 85 year old dad is alone and having some health issues. I have a CNA certification and am considering relocating so that I can help with my dad. I will have to quit my full time job and move where he is. I am looking for programs available that I could earn an income from taking care of him so that I can continue paying into social security for myself. All ideas and suggestions welcome. We live in New Mexico.


almost 4 years ago, said...

My mother is 90 and just needs someone there with her at night Her granddaughter will stay with her at night but we cannot pay her and she really needs the income Any suggestions We r in Mississippi Thank you


almost 4 years ago, said...

Wil like 2 get info on getting paid to take care if my ill mother that lives with me but I hve a ful time job but can not quit because need my paycheck


almost 4 years ago, said...

Hi Honeybear, does your father receive SSI or Medicaid? I can only explain the Medicaid "route" for this, which as I understand it, if a person is receiving full Medicaid/SSI, and would otherwise need to be placed in a facility is he/she were not cared for at home, there is a waiver (the HCBS Waiver Program) look at: http://www.medicaid.gov/Medicaid-CHIP-Program-Information/By-Topics/Waivers/Home-and-Community-Based-1915-c-Waivers.html if this applies to your situation. and according to the laws in your state, it can be a family member providing that care. hope that helps


almost 4 years ago, said...

I am fortunate to live in Oregon where parents can become paid caregivers for their disabled adult children. It is not a large amount and I also need to earn money with freelance work and anything else that comes along. But it enables us to survive and for him to have a self directed full life with pets, family and all the things he loves. This is such a no-brainer. Every state should have this possibility.


almost 4 years ago, said...

Need an income while caring fulltime for dying father


almost 4 years ago, said...

It would have been nice to mention the Laws here in New Jersey and not in California.


almost 4 years ago, said...

I wish there is an arrangement like this in India too.With children either staying away or busy with their lives, it becomes very difficult and expensive to get trained nursing help at home. We also don't like to keep parents/ old aged relatives in nursing homes.I wish insurance covers this cost too.


almost 4 years ago, said...

Oh, my aunt has alzheimers and is very difficult to handle, very stubborn and don't like people coming into the house. Other family members wanted to put her in nursing home after my mom died but I feel that mama was caring for her and it was our responsibility to take over and let her live out her life the way she was before mama died. Paying my husband would be cheaper that paying a nursing home....


almost 4 years ago, said...

We have cared for my 98 yr old aunt since my mom died almost 2 yrs ago....we had to move into my mom's house, change everything in our life to do this. My husband and I don't even have a bedroom...we sleep in the livingroom. We have an aid that comes from Home Healthcare but financially we could use some help. My brother had gotten paid to care for his girlfriend before she died. We were told that my brother couldn't get paid for caring for my aunt cause he was related, however, we believe that since my husband is doing most of the work in caring for aunt, and he is not actually related, that maybe he can get paid for caring for her. We live in SC. Does anyone know if he could be paid to care for her.??


almost 4 years ago, said...

Is there a stipend, or small income, I can receive to take care of my needs while I'm taking care of an elderly friend and her adult son? It would help greatly, especially on the days that I just want to throw in the towel...been a lot lately. I reside on Long Island, NY and care for of a widowed, emotionally disabled friend for 4 years now. Her daughter and I grew up, still friends. Her daughter is not willing/not capable of managing the household. The skills I developed are invaluable, and although very caring individual, I’m personally frustrated and exhausted. I clean the house, pay the bills (from her SS), research, complete and mail necessary forms for senior aid., i.e. senior citizen property tax reduction, HEAP, REAP (they supplied a new refrigerator!). There a phone calls made, sometimes taking 2-3 hours of my day, from being on hold or transferred. Last week she called the oil company at the very last minute for an oil delivery. The tank was on empty, her son had told me she had enough oil. A big snowstorm arrived, she had no heat for 2 days!! So now I’ve taken over that responsibility too. The house needs repair and there are lack of funds to fix plumbing, paint the house, etc. I do what I can to contribute money but am on a limited income myself being unemployed. I love my friends and have dedicated much time to improve issues in the household. This is so frustrating sometimes. Can anyone, or the author of this blog, help with some concrete resources. I am out of resources and really could use help to help me, to continue helping her. Thank you in advance for replies.


almost 4 years ago, said...

I'm a Pennsylvania resident who facilitates BOOMERS 'R HEROES Caregiver Support Program. I recently spoke with a woman who quit her job to move her mother in wither her and take care of her. Is there such a program in PA that she would be able to take advantage of to supplement her income? Also, can an 18 y.o. qualify for a stipend while caring for her mom who is wheelchair bound.


almost 4 years ago, said...

I live in NY and there are no programs where a relative gets paid for taking care of family. If we turn over my moms social security checks to Medicaid they will send someone to her house to evaluate how many hours a day she needs care then will send a stranger there. My mom is 88 yrs. old and does not want strangers bathing her or coming in and out of her house. What is the difference of paying a stranger or paying a loved one tocare for her during her last years? If anyone has any info about caregiving to family in Ny I would like to hear from you.


almost 4 years ago, said...

I think it wrong that people should expect to be paid to look after their aging parents. They bought these children into the world and spent the beast parts of their lives raising them so the children should only be to happy to all pitch in and help out. The only thing against my argument is the cost of looking after them in today's society due to greed. It appears it's a ripoff society and this is what makes caring for your elderly parents so hard.


almost 4 years ago, said...

she needs me and glad to know about this.


almost 4 years ago, said...

hi. i live with my mother who is on medicaid living in ohio. i take care of her.... daily living stuff....cooking, cleaning, you name it. but, i dont get paid for it. i want to know how i apply for the job im already doing with her. from home. please help me. ill take all the info i can get. thanks.


almost 4 years ago, said...

Hi, My husband is disabled and on medicaid, since 1996 from a mental and knee injury, I take care of him in our own home, would we qualify to recieve funds? If so how would we start and where do we go? thanks


almost 4 years ago, said...

my father is in Ct. I am in SC. I can't afford to move there and he doesn't want to move here. He recently had prostate surgery and the UTI's are really affecting his memory. He wants to live independently but his memory and confusion is getting scarey. I want to bring him here but can't afford assisted living living for him. I feel I am in a catch 22 position. I need help and need it soon. I barely make enough money to take care of myself and I am afraid that if I transfer up there, and he gets worse I will be trapped up there in a place I can't afford, in a place I don't like and no way out. Right now I don't see a light at the end of the tunnel. I would appreciate any and all help you send me. Thank you


almost 4 years ago, said...

T. Nursing Homes won;t take me as I need Chemo (I just found out that I have stage 4 liver cancer),he s.t.n.a. I had in Ohio wants to come to Mobile, AL to care for me. In Ohio she was able to bill the state for her hours and was paid monthly. I now need 24/7 care but how does she get paid??? I have learned that AL has a Cash and Counseling program and will be getting Medicaid once I leave the hospital. Please, help me.


almost 4 years ago, said...

I am simply looking for a Medicaid application that I can fill out for my father so that I may be able to get supplemental income assistance in hopes of finding a nursing home or some other living arrangement for a 93 years old with Alzheimer/dementia conditions


about 4 years ago, said...

does anyone know how to do this in fl? my adult son cares full time for his disabled dad and his 86 year old grandmother. now my father in ohio has cancer and he may have to go back and forth as needed for him. can he get pd? nobody is elig for mcaid but all have medicare & suppl


about 4 years ago, said...

Hello, If you are looking for affordable senior housing, please feel free to contact our Family Advisors. They are available 7 days a week and can be reached at (866) 824-8174.


about 4 years ago, said...

i would like to get paid but i dont fit in the plan


about 4 years ago, said...

wanted more in fo on affordable assisted living facilities not in house care


about 4 years ago, said...

thanks for the help love my mother she a great person ,she needs me and glad to know about this.


about 4 years ago, said...

i live in NEBRASKA LINCOLN my mom make over limit that i can not get paid for be caregiver when i do get some i can not spend it i am trap in the house take care my mom i am get stress out burn out


about 4 years ago, said...

I live in the state of California. When my mother was dying, I qualified through Medicare/Medi-Cal to care for her needs at approximately $600 per month. I wasn't much but it did help pay a bill or two. However, since my mother has passed away my husband is currently in end stage lung cancer and frontal lobe dementia which often leaves him agitated and physically and mentally abusive. This is not his fault and this is not my husband. Because I know the real man I have been married to for over 54 years, I cannot imagine ever sending him away to a nursing home. I will go the distance but would lilke a little help if possible. Unfortunately the spouse is ineligible for caregiving compensation. Why is this? I am told that my sons, my neighbors or a complete stranger can come to my home and care for my husband and get paid, yet I am here providing 24/7 care to include the most intimate of ADL's. This includes toileting, feeding, bathing, dressing, fall prevention, physical therapy (mobility) to name just a few. Sure, it makes sense that a wife will always be there to cook and clean and provide compassionate loving care, but when you're required to be here 24/7 and cannot leave the home to gather groceries, see my own doctor or care for my own home care such as lawns, appliance repair, leaky roofs, etc., I am concerned that my home will cave in around me or be taken from me because I have lost my job due to extending my FMLA benefits as far as humanly possible. Today I live on early retirement social security benefits which along with my husband's social security is not even close to the amount of money needed to survive. Is there a program in the state of California that would provide financial assistance for me to continue caregiving? I am familiar with Cash and Counseling in other states but the state of California does not participate. Why is it that anyone can be caregiver for my husband, but I cannot? Any assistance would be greatly appreciated. Thank you


about 4 years ago, said...

I live in the state of Pa my mother resides in my home she has had fells and she is not able to go up and down steps so I have to do her wash and also help her with bathing I would like to know if there is a agency that would pay me as my mothers caregivern


about 4 years ago, said...

hello,i live with my 91yr old grandmother,who is blind and looking for some understanding people for little information and someone who understands what i'm going thru


about 4 years ago, said...

i try to find caregiver chat room but is not one around or no one online no help or just wait for things to happen good or bad


about 4 years ago, said...

there are day that it is hard to understand what she want or needs it is like long hard guess game that i getup or she getup and we both are yelling or crying at each other it is not easy not to worry about her there time i see doing thing that does not make sence to me or to her i had to ask her what she doing or wants


about 4 years ago, said...

need all the help we can get. was told have 2 kinds of cancer. get s.s. each month. my doctor stated that my son . is my careprovider. if he could get paid for the help he gives me. we would fill out paper work ect ,ect. need all the information I can get on this sudject. thank you in idaho


about 4 years ago, said...

Please, all I want is to apply for Medicaid for my mom so we can get some relief in our finances. She is 95 and lives with us. I had to quit my job to care for her. Please simply send me what I need to get started in some cash assistance.


about 4 years ago, said...

I am a CNA and want to stay home with my grandmother that I live with and get paid for we live in martin Tn how and what do I do to do it


about 4 years ago, said...

Hello everyone i'm new here and i'm a caregiver for my mother. My mom suffered a stroke in 1960 while pregnant with me, she has never driven so once I rec'd my license I would drive her to all dr. appts, shopping where ever she needed to go, she managed everything else herself. in may 2012 her foot became infected due to vascular disease at 74. unable to move around as much her rgt arm and leg which has had weakness and paralysis since her stroke developed over 8mths severe contracture of elbow and knee, she was in hospital twice once from a foot tracture due to falling then pneumonia both followed by rehab stays. things just kept getting worse we tried pt and muscle relaxers zanaflex, we tried botox, then just finally on 10/8 she had a tendon release procedure of the knee, botox in elbow and a alcohol block in hip area now we are back to visiting nurse and home pt.. since June of 2012 I have been doing drs, shopping, cleaning , cooking, toileting, bathing etc.on a daily basis, since 4/1/13 I have been spending nights with her. I have just sold her home and brought her to our home. we can accommodate her for now the plan is hopefully she will be able to once again use a walker, if so the plan is to sell our home and find a house where we all can be more comfiterble. Now my question is we live in nj and want to move to pa. my mother would like to contribute financially to the next home purchase approx. $60,000, my husband and I would contribute approx. $250,000, if in the future my mother needs long term care will our home be safe? I have read that if you have been the primary caregiver for 2 yrs. there is no problem. some guilt with this but we have to protect ourselves. thankyou in advance for any advice.


about 4 years ago, said...

my mom in the beginning told me i can be paid from her account for taking care of her mostly 7 days a week. do i need a contract in case if she ever has to go to a nursing home and has no money left to show medicare where her money has gone? she has dementia and stage 3 cancer


about 4 years ago, said...

Had Medicaid, lost it, trying to get it back. This is a job itself! Nobody can tell you any update information and the forms have been submitted twice since my mother who has ALS lost Medicaid, which she was paying (called Community Waiver Services) out of her own money $388.00.When she had this service two different people tell you the opposite, for example: how many hours a week will the day care giver be at my home. It's all a BIG FAT MESS, no wonder Americans get confused. Its a good thing I can help her with making calls because she can't speak clear anymore. What happens to the rest of the people who have no help. They get Nothing/No Help. I can go on and on but what's the point.


about 4 years ago, said...

my daddy gets medicare but makes a little to much for medicaid mommas disabled aswell and gets a small amount of money they took care of me all my life so im takeing care of them now so it leaves me jobless with very little money what can i do to get finacial help thanks and god bless


about 4 years ago, said...

Why is it that you must exhaust your savings that you worked all the past years in preparation for your retirement? It is not fair, we have paid our share of taxes during our working lives and now when we need financial help, we are told that you do not qualify because of your present financial status. Not fair that we should go broke trying to care for our spouse. We are told that we must divest our portfolio before you can apply for aid and assistance. Is this the "American Way" ????


about 4 years ago, said...

please provide the forms and resources for which you speak


about 4 years ago, said...

It is amazing how this rich country of ours makes it so difficult for caregivers as well as patients to get a little financial help (we are forsaken for greedy unwarranted defence spending)! I had taken care of my elderly mother & found her RR retirement benefits as well as insurance to get her in a good assisted living facility. Now, my brother who lives with me & has been disabled from occupational wear & tear on his body has a fast deteriorating liver disease which I now have to do nearly everything for him from driving him to appointments to cooking & cleaning, as well as all his laundry & shopping, to name but just a few things! I can not find help of any kind, can not get him on medicaid, can not get paid for my time & I am disabled myself! He is in pain at all time, uncomfortable due to distended abdomen, having trouble swallowing, and is getting worse by the day. He sincerely believes he will die by the time Univ. of Wash. Med. Cen. in Seattle will help him other than the months of appointments & foolow-ups he has done so far. He only gets $960mo. disability with medicare, but can not get medicaid! Washington physicians only care about one thing. Money!! If you are not well covered or wealthy, you seem to be put on the back burner. Wish I knew where to get some help. Best help so far has been from our church & prayer!


about 4 years ago, said...

I am currently taking care of my mother who is disabled due to a fall. She has medicare and medicaid. Can I get paid to take care of her in the state of North Carolina? How and where would I start to find out?


about 4 years ago, said...

I am one of five children in our family. I find myself the only caregiver of my mother. This is fine, I love her more than my own life. Sometimes I need a break and my sister will do what she can and then complain and make things seem like such a burden to her. I hate hearing this. My mom cannot help what is going on. Any ways I am not working because of health reasons. I have applied for social security and waiting, waiting, broke! I live in New York state. Do the laws here pay you to stay home and take care of your mother?


about 4 years ago, said...

I care for a cerebral palsy patient who has cerable palsy she has Medicare. But lost her Medicare when she received her father pension. She needs 24 HR care but can't afford it. Is she eligible for any state or federal help? We r n Mich.


about 4 years ago, said...

If Medicaid doesn't pay to care to your love ones. If you have sisters or brothers to help pay for caregivers even just 4 hours a day to have your own time. Independent care giver usually pay from 10 to 14 dollars am hour. Just make sure the Caregiver has plenty of experience including emergency situation and Dr appt. knows how to assist medication, and able and other minor house hold chores. Just have a family or main Dr. Incase of emergency and phone number for a caregiver incase of any emergency situation . I am a caregiver with 10 years experience . I took care this special lady for 3 1/2 years. We become like family . Sad, she is in heaven now. I hope you all can find information in all these comments to make it easier for you to care with your love one. From Houston, Tx.


about 4 years ago, said...

My mom needs 24 hour care and is wheelchair dependent. I need to work but can't afford to pay for outside assistance. She $130 over the limit for Medicaid. Can get paid for being her caregiver?


about 4 years ago, said...

So in other words I just need to go up to the medicaid office, correct?


about 4 years ago, said...

I have been my mothers caregiver for 17 years, recently she fell fractured her hip, and now her Dementia is worse, financially we are going in the toilet asap. I am about to loose the only vehicle we own, shes 75.00 to much a month for Medicaid, Aint that something, I have tried to even get an EBT Card,, i was told I didnt qualify ,,, SHOOT I have no more income coming in,, we live very very modestly,, and now I found out yesterday our furnace which is 45 years old, is shot. Im really at the last ends of this rope,


about 4 years ago, said...

i called about being my mother in law health care provider an they said i have to be a certified nurse to take care of her is there any other way to do this


about 4 years ago, said...

Hi. I live with my elderly father which is in a wheelchair. He's doing therapy to walk on walker again. But has no strength . We are working on these things. I was working full time. He has fallen before. I'm scared to leave him alone . Even if I can work two days a week. Or just run to store. There really is no one to commit to help or relieving me. Should I stay home. Is it legal to leave someone in his condition alone? When being a caregiver? I'm lost on what I shud do. I owe dad my life. I'll do what is best for him!!!! Well, thanks. I'm in panic mode. L.haskins


about 4 years ago, said...

how to get financial help to make the bathroom /home more accesible..grab bars..etc ..possible remodel.change tub to a shower stall with bench..widening door ways...change carpet to tile .any info would be helpful..i live in florida


about 4 years ago, said...

Dear Mr. Matthews, My bride and I are caregivers for our son, an Army veteran with MS. The V.A. has been great to help us. We used the HISA grant to make his house handi-friendly. ( We then did some more HISA grants for other veterans.) The HISA grant has been changed since this posting. The service connected grant has gone to $ 6,800 and the non service connected grant has gone up to $ 2,000. Thanks for this web site. It is helpful. Rick


about 4 years ago, said...

This information has created a format for me to follow, I'll writing out my exact needs ... I do not require much assistance. Thank you very much ! Penne Girl


about 4 years ago, said...

How would I transfer my dad from upstate NY, to Wilmington NC, is there any sort of monetary assistance to make this transition. My son and his family and my husband will be relocating and can not leave him behind, any advice would be helpful Thank you


about 4 years ago, said...

Danajoe1 A good place to ask this question is at http://directcarealliance.org/ Check it out, and contact them about your issue. They support homecare aides.


about 4 years ago, said...

I'm a live in care giver through an agency I work 24 hous 5 days a week. Can my employer deduct 8 hours daily from my paycheck? For what they call a " rest period" I'm can't find exact labor law information. Thank you for your time


over 4 years ago, said...

Suggestions for a spouse where Medicaid is not an option.


over 4 years ago, said...

I am a 27 year old mother of 3 beautiful children that are aged 7-4. My husbands grandfather has moved into our home, and I had to quit work to care for him. He is bedbound and we do have a hospice company that comes out 5 days a week to check his vitals and minor other things. They're here no longer than an hour a day, and the rest is on me. I'm not complaining by any means. A majority of the family insisted on putting him in a nursing home and I refused. He has served our country and also he was a state DOT employee. Since I quit my job things have been tight money wise. We aren't doing with out, but we also aren't living comfortably either. I was wondering if there were any options on getting paid as his fulltime caregiver. I'm in a hard place. I'm not taking care of him for any benefits, but at the same time something has to be done to help ends meet.


over 4 years ago, said...

I posted in here a few months back about my situation of having to leave my job and stay home to care for my sick partner. We have been through so much in the last 4 month. Our lives have not been good and don't seem to get any better. We spent 2 weeks living in a homeless shelter. Fought with every agency out there to help help us. followed all the suggestion given to us by various organisation and programs with no avail. My partner has been at deaths door twice in the last 2 month and We still can't seem to get any help. We are drowning in medical bills, and credit card debt. It break my heart but the only thing that would help is to just pass on. It a tragedy when we live in such a great nation and not be able to help those that are in need. :( For those that are in this same battle or at the beginning of it, my recommendation is to gather as many friend around you as possible. You will need all the support you can get. All the info give above, is so out of date and nonexistent. I personally have been at this battle for 2 years and have yet to see any monies from ADA or CDC programs. I have been told that it will take years to get financial help (if they still have a budget).


over 4 years ago, said...

My 74 yr old mother was diagnosed with lung cancer and went thru radiation and chemo during 2010. We brought her to live with us in 2011 and our financial situation has changed and we cannot care for her needs. We got her *On the List* for Housing Choice Voucher Program and Low-Rent Public Housing for the elderly and disabled but were told because of gov. cuts it may be 3-5 yrs before she receives assistance. Does anyone have an answer? I feel overwhelmed and desperate. It looked like you are all in our same boat. Blessings to all


over 4 years ago, said...

Hi, I'm a caregiver for my elderly mother & handicap sister. They both receive a check every month. My mother & sister both have medicare. Because of their incomes they can't apply for medicaid. Their not comfortable with someone from the outside coming into the home.


over 4 years ago, said...

I am a CNA for 6 years and recently my father was diagnosed with early stages of Dementia. Now he needs assistance with everyday living. My mom is also not able to care for him full time either with her health. I have been helping him out as much as possible. No one else in my family understands what is going on with him... but, they always look for me to come to my for help and answers. I even had to leave my job because of all the calls I would receive at work concerning his care., I do worry about my dad and how he is able to get along everyday now living with Dementia. Is there a way I could get paid to care for him instead of a stranger. I will not put him in a home I seen how the other side is and I don't want that for my dad.


over 4 years ago, said...

I live in Georgia and take care of my disabled mother I can't work because of her doctors appointments and taking care of her I have looked into seeing if I can get paid for being her caregiver and keep coming up with nothing was wondering if you know of a program I can apply for? Thank you


over 4 years ago, said...

I had to leave my well paying job to care for my daughter, who will never be able to care for herself. We finally got into a program in Florida and I get paid for 21 hours a week. I was just told that as her guardian I cannot be her direct care provider. Mother, OK...guardian, no way. I lost my "job". They suggested I hand her guardianship over to someone else, but we have nobody. And I need to be able to make medical decisions on the spot. Ridiculous. What are they afraid of? That I will steal hours? That I will just sit around picking my nose all day and get paid for those 21 hours, as Reno13$ posted? I have had social security remind me that if my child should die, I wouldn't get a dime any more. Imagine? Like I don't know this??!! Just speaking for myself, let me say that losing my child will be devastating enough. It's a hard life waiting for your child to pass and knowing she needs to go before you because she could be subject to all kinds of abuse in anyone else's care. Knowing that you may also be homeless because you chose to relinquish your freedom and prime earning years to ensure she has the best life possible, and, take a huge burden off the taxpayers by keeping her at home instead if in a facility, is devastating and, in my case, fills me with anxiety every day. I worked for for 40 years and now face losing our home. Two years ago her father died from agent orange related throat cancer. I cared for him too for two years...two loved ones on feeding tubes. I believe my daughter's devastating disabilities are related to this exposure as well, there is no other explanation, but the government does not agree. Hey ...only in America, right?


over 4 years ago, said...

My father died in my arms 35 years ago and the last thing he said to me was to take care of my mother, I have kept my promise, my mom lived in my home for 10 years until I could no longer care for her and work full time , I had to send my mom back to her home because I lost my house to foreclosure. I am now 55 and work is very hard to find so I thought I would get my CNA and be a full time Caregiver but I did not have the money for school. My mom is now 93 years old , and has this long term life care insurance that she has been paying for for 30 + years, we now come to find out that it has a cap of $100.00 a day cap, that must go through an agency ( Thats a joke they are $25.00 an hour ) and it can not be given to any family member. So I had to come to her home with my children and care for her. she can not be left alone, can not cook for herself, needs help bathing, as well as just being frustrated , from being a beautiful strong incredibly smart lady, to now not remembering what she ate 1 hour ago, or people are, such as my older siblings that she never sees because they no not want to be bothered. I can not leave my mom alone as well as i can not work. I was hoping that someone could let me know if I can get any kind of assistance . I am broke I no longer have any health insurance and can not get my medications or take care of myself. My children are miserable, and quietly so am i. Still I would not walk out on my mom, ( I would never forgive myself ) I made a promise that i pray i will be able to keep, as well as seeing my mom wake up every morning with her Beautiful smile saying Good Morning makes me go on for another day. I have sold everything we had to pay bills, Now I need help.I want to take care of her as she took care of me and so many others, I just can not financially afford to care for her without a job, and i can not afford to pay someone to stay with my mom


over 4 years ago, said...

I dont live in the home,My brother lives in the home,My mother is Bypoler , My Dad is suffering from Altimerz..My brother also has bypoler. Ive starting to take on there bills, Nobody in the house can do the bills.Im doing my bills & theres,Would i be elegable for some kind of payment,?


over 4 years ago, said...

For the caregiver to be able to utilize some of the benefits assigned to the patient.


over 4 years ago, said...

I have been my mother's caregiver for 3 years now, I am on the rental lease as the :caregiver" and was told there are programs which can pay me money due to the fact that i have not been able to work for the past three years due to her diabetes and various other ailments. She is 61 years old and requires me to provide adequate care including taking her to her doctors appointments, making sure all meds are taken properly and overall supervision. I have since been unable to work and am in desperate need of assistance or advice as to how to get assistance, as I am currently unemploed and have been for 3 years. Thank you!


over 4 years ago, said...

I am 49 yrs. old and have worked my whole life. I now have lung cancer and there are times I am too sick to be alone. Can my husband get paid to take care of me.


over 4 years ago, said...

How old can you take them in my man is 49 well be 50 sep 26 what I need to get help with my man plazz let me know


over 4 years ago, said...

in response to Medicare/Medicaid Senior Advisor's comment below: First, thank you for your service to the American people. Of course there is corruption where money is concerned, but getting paid through the estate of the elderly, for home care given by a relative, I think, is valid. In short, there is a lot of work involved and stress between family members- in this case, my wife and I. Home care provided by relatives and paid by the elder would not require financial assistance from government agencies and help pay down her financial assets in order to qualify for Medicaid. We certainly can use the money and help alleviate our financial burdens. Also: Yes- discussions end with "only in America"-but why does a person like my mom who worked in a sweat shop all her life and accumulated a humble estate cannot get into a social program like Adult Day Care because she has too much money? Is this a reward for hard working Americans? This is partly what fuels the faithless ironic term "it doesn't pay to work".


over 4 years ago, said...

Is there a legal way to get paid for my elderly mother's care (suffers dementia & Alzheimers) residing in our home? She doesn't qualify for Medicare as her financial state is above the limit. She creates a lot of work for us, cannot be alone and causes problems between me and my good wife and daughter. We are near divorce. If I can use Mom's money to pay my household legally a stipend for this care it would ease tensions a bit, while paying down towards the financial qualification for Medicaid.


over 4 years ago, said...

My sister lives with her common-law boy friend 11 years now, she has Alzheimer's they both are in there mid 70's He is taking great care of her but its at a point he needs professional help! they live in Nevada Where can he get financial help?


over 4 years ago, said...

I had to leave my job to take care of my husband full time. We are barely getting by. He has cronic lyme. How can I get paid for being a home/family health care provider? And is there any other information out there that can help with expenses?


over 4 years ago, said...

need an affordable place to live, for handcap person, we have very little money from small pension also very little fron s/s


over 4 years ago, said...

We live in Mississippi. My wife has has been getting social security disability since 1996 after contacting Hep C while working as a nurse. Her condition has gotten to the point that she can not be left along due to confusion and the ability to make safe decisions for herself. I was laid off in January so I have been able to wait on her. Money is running short and I am unable to find a job that will allow me to take off when I need to be at home to take care of her. I have no other options. I am 63, so I am old enough to draw SS but would rather wait at least another 2 years if possible. Is there a program that would help to either pay me a small amount or one that would provide care while I work. She is not far enough along for a nurse home which my last resort.


over 4 years ago, said...

I am upset that my sister had her son and girlfriend who live with here get the Idea from my sick aunt on how to have her son get a extra money in the house hold? Here is a case of her making jokes about the system. I one I pay money in taxes for people like my aunt. She does not need the sons help and has fake her knee problems, she will use a walker and have rides to the dr. see her worker and on the weekend wear her high heels and put the walker to the side go out and party at her age? This is abuse to the tax payers . This needs to stop. Lies Lies Lies and she get lot of help? This is were care givers get a bad name. she had taken thing from an old lady and I was told not to say any thing I can not sit on my duff and not say anything, This is wrong and must be stop


over 4 years ago, said...

Hello everyone, Thank you very much for your comments. There is a lot of great information in this very article about how to get paid to be a caregiver. In addition, please contact you local Area Agency on Aging for more information ( http://www.caring.com/local/area-agency-on-aging ). I hope that helps get you started. Best Regards!


over 4 years ago, said...

Me n my fiance were in a car wreck Feb.1.2o13..he is now a parapalegic.medicaid will not pay me as a care giver.so I have to find a job for four hours while their provider is there.then come home n care for him and my three children.I can't pay any bills or rent.can't afford him to get into a physical rehab.we are both 30 and our lives have been going in a downward spiral this year.any advice would b appreciated. god bless


over 4 years ago, said...

This article is a good because it encourages people to look further for financial help in their family caregiving. It's important to note that in all but a handful of states spousal caregivers are not allowed to participate in a cash and carry program. An updated (2013) source with links for state programs is here: http://www.payingforseniorcare.com/longtermcare/resources/cash-and-counseling-program.html I quote from it: "Program participants are considered to be "employers" and they decide how to allocate the budget. They can hire family members as "employees", including their adult children and in a few states even their spouses." The use of the words "even their spouses" indicate that it is not commonly done... Still it's worth asking about if you're feeling the financial pinch of family or spousal caregiving. Richard Anderson http://wellspouse.org


over 4 years ago, said...

I live with my mother and take care of her 24 hours a day. I had to quit my 14 $ an hour job due to my mother's illness. I would like to get paid for being a fulltime caregiver. I live in Arizona, please give me some professonal advice. sincerely Lisa


over 4 years ago, said...

Can I be paid for caring for husband who is in end stage of pulmonary hypertension


over 4 years ago, said...

As a Medicare/Medicaid Senior Advisor, this is one of the highly abused areas of Medicare/Medicaid Fraud. As long as you are on Medicare/Medicaid, you can have a family member hang out at your place talking on their cell phone, watching TV, picking their nose, and doing virtually nothing except taking up space, and they get paid taxpayers $$$ for doing it. It is amazing! Only in America.


over 4 years ago, said...

I'm a care giver for a friend of mine, though I'm not a license caregiver but the family asked me if i would move in with him to take care of him and i did. I was looking to see if medicaid payed a non license care giver for taking care of that person


over 4 years ago, said...

I am a CNA and a CMT. My Dad has alzhiemers and needs help, I want to be there for his care but I have to work. Will medicare pay me?


over 4 years ago, said...

Thank you for this article, we'll draft a contract......mother, well the both of us had medicaid. Am I still eligeble for the pay, taking care of her 21 hrs per day, 7 days per week. Living with me.


over 4 years ago, said...

I am single and have both my parents living with me. They do receive there ss and my mom has ssi.. but it covers there bills. I am 100% care for them and my gosh how i could use some help any help at all. My Dad has been sick almost a year now and Mother cant do much at all.I have to work full time and then some just to keep food in the house and make bills.....Please if there is any help with bills - house - anything let me know where to go....Thanks


over 4 years ago, said...

I am disabled from the year 2005 from the Govt. Owned the home with my mother, we both recieved Social Secuity income monthly....To say the least, we are in dire need of financial assistance. I am 59 and mother is 79 with dementra. we were told that we cannot get any Govt. assistance, for etc, Home heating Oil, money for food, or any other help that is out there. The reason is, both our Names are on the DEED for the house, so both of our incme is combined, everywhere that we go for help. She is taking 15 different meds and I'm taking 5 every day. The copay for her is $30.00 ea. She h


over 4 years ago, said...

I AM DIABLED WITH AN ILLINESS THAT IS NOT KEEPING ME FROM LIVING A NORMAL LIFE... I'M VERY TIRED WHEN I DO THE CAREGIVER'S HELP TO MY MOTHER. SHE HAS DEMENTRA. WE ARE BOTH GETTING SOCIAL SECURITY CHECK ONCE MONTHLY . MY MOTHER IS WITH AN OUTSIDE GOVT. AGENCY. SHE IS GETTING A WOMAN TO COME IN FIVE DAYS PER WEEK; THREE HOUR PER DAY......AFTER THAT, I'M THE SOLE PROVIDER. IT WAS A FEW DAYS AGO, I WAS SURPRISED TO HEARD HER SAID; "YOU WORK SO HARD LOOKING AFTER ME AND DOING THE HOUSE WORK, I THINK YOU SHOULD BE GETTING PAY LIKE THE OTHER LADY". I WAS SHOCKED ONHEARING HER SAID IT, BECAUSE, I THOUGHT ABOUT IT MYSELF. I DO NOT HAVE ANY SOCIAL LIFE, SINCE MY DEAR MOTHER GOT SICK !!!!! I HAD LEFT SEVERAL MESSAGES FOR MY CASE WORKER; AT THE DEPT. OF SOCIAL WORK IN MY COMMUNITY...NO RETURN PHONE CALL...I LEFT APPROX. FIVE TIMES. I WOULD LIKE TO KNOW, WHERE AND WHOM THAT I CAN CONTACT, TO DISCUSS GETTING PAID .....IF THAT ASSISTANCE IS AVAILABLE.


over 4 years ago, said...

I take care of a family friend who is blind I have been taking care of her for over a year I also have 5 kids so its really hard but I don't mind doing it someone told me I could get paid to take care of her which would help so much.I live in Alabama even a little money would help at this point


over 4 years ago, said...

My elderly mother does average for income and does not qualify for Medicaid. She would like to remain in her home and I am considering leaving my job to care for her. Of course, I need an income and of course, she would pay me. Is it possible that her insurances would contribute payment and can she claim it (I guess as long as I am claiming it) and how do I have it applied to my Social Security ? Thanks !


over 4 years ago, said...

Confused in Texas. I quit my job to take care of my Mother almost two years ago. For awhile I had enough saved to pay my bills but now it's running out. Nursing homes and strangers in my Moms home are not an option. What agency can I ask in Texas about being compensated to take care of her ?


over 4 years ago, said...

I live in St. Augustine, Florida The oldest city in the USA and have been caring for my Head-Injured X-Son-Inlaw for over ten years without being compensated in anyway. His own family has turned their backs on him and the last thing I want to do is put him in a state home! I have asked for help from Medicare, Social Security, DCF, Elder Care and Medicade and all they offer to do, is put me on a waiver wait list! 64 and wore out in Florida!


over 4 years ago, said...

How do I find out about getting paid for full time caregiving for my disabled Mom in Arizona?


over 4 years ago, said...

i take care or my grand mother at her house and im always here taking care of her,she has cancer and she dont have the money to pay for someone to come in and help her,so i do.I am a caregiver but when my grand mother needs me i have to call off work.there are a few people telling me i can get paid for taking care of my grand mother at home from the state. i live in tampa florida and i try my best to do what i can theres no one else to help her,but i have my own family and i have to work. can you help me out a little and let me know what i have to do to get with the program to get paid for taking care of her.


over 4 years ago, said...

My husband is disabled and can no longer work. He has lost his business, cannot drive or take care of himself. I have been working full time and taking care of him at the same time. I just lost my job and I heard you can get a small payment for being a family caregiver. Where to I get info on this as to eligibility. I have been on-line and there are too many places to go. P.S. I live in California. Thanks.


over 4 years ago, said...

My fiance is disabled and I have had to stop working to care for him and our 3 year old girl. I was told about a program where I could actualy get paid to stay home and care for him but I don't know if indiana has it or not and if so how do I do it


over 4 years ago, said...

I've been seeking this information for a while....Thank you! I had to stop working to care for my mother who had a massive stroke 2 years ago. She needs 24 hour care. In fear of putting her in a nursing home, I moved her in with me and I have been caring for her since. Not to mention my dad as well who lives in the same apartment building. Both are confined to wheelchairs but my dad can get around with a walker a little. They both receive too much from social security to receive medicaid and my dad receives a pension as well. Both their incomes go towards all their bills and out of pocket medical expenses, equipment etc. I have started a small business from home but it still isn't enough to cover my expenses. How can I get help if they are not eligible for medicaid?


over 4 years ago, said...

takes the stress off me with my meager income of how to ever repay my daughter for sacrificing her energy and time to prepare my meals or go shopping for me as the guilt is now lifted as I see she could be paid to help me.. by medicaid if ever I needed to remain at her care.. which for now I do not need to remain but a little time here with her.. till I find my own hud facillity to rent according to my meager income.. out of state away from her is hard enough.. she has been better to me than anyone I know.. and has children of her own that demands her time.. one being a teenager at that.. for one...


over 4 years ago, said...

To the person who couldn't understand why family members don't care for their ailing elders without asking for a paycheck, the answer is obvious in most of the posts here. If someone has to quit her paying job to care for an elder, what is she to live on? It makes sense that if an aide had to be hired to care for the elder, that paycheck could just as well go to the family member who had to quit her job. The problem of caregiving has grown because due to medical advancements people live longer, but unfortunately they often live with chronic disabling conditions such as diabetes, Parkinson's, Alzheimer's, etc. and cannot care for themselves. When Medicare was created back in the 1960's life spans were shorter and people died of heart attacks without slowly deteriorating over a period of many years. If Congress could get its act together, it should work on revising Medicare to include a long-term care provision so the elderly aren't without resources in their frailty and family members aren't impoverished taking care of them. I'm surprised anyone seriously asks why a family member needs income when providing full-time elder care.


over 4 years ago, said...

Cookiech, one more thing. Since your brother had your moms money he may be owing you money and signing papers? ah can you not go ahead a press charges on their behalf? I guess your attorney will be looking at all this. Your brother just was not as smart as he thought! huh? don't get scared, stay strong!!! Your mom needs you!!


over 4 years ago, said...

hay cookiech!! I am so happy for you!! I wish your attorney would listen to me for a few minutes since my brother and sister need to be in jail. but good for you! really. Don't let a minute go by with out telling your mom you love her. TALK to her. Tell her everything you want to and don't hold back thinking its silly or stupid. If you want to tell her you love her feet do it! You can't talk when she will no longer be here. I wish I was close by I would help you in a heartbeat. I mean it. I just lost my baby girl of 10 yrs on May 8th at 4:30 pm. It was my dog I had since she was 9 months old and I have been crying every day missing my mom. I spent 9000. on her. Borrowed money from my bank for next 3 years. She died from leukemia. she was my baby and now I am alone again. Wish I could just talk to you instead. I knew something was not right when you said your brother signed the papers to his daughter. something was not right. Yes my sister forged my mom writing also and lied to her all the time as well as my brother. the da said they would only get a yr. in jail for involuntary manslaughter . I say good everyone will know why. I won't bring back my mom but at least they will know they didn't get away with all the lies they said about me and all the lies they told others as to why my mom had bruises on her face. I am trying to figure out how to contact you, oh get your locks changed on your home asap! Keep papers in a safety lock box at the bank with someone you trust and it would be best it not a family member, sad but true. So glad you got a good attorney. oh who is it,I can call and leave my name and let them give it to you. I'm just happy for you and your mom.


over 4 years ago, said...

mymomstwin: Thank you so much for your comment. I have seen an attorney and we are starting the paperwork for moms guardianship which will be reviewed by a judge. I have given my attorney all the paperwork to prove that my mom as well as my dad never signed a quick claim deed because their signatures do not match. Dads Will was never changed by him and there is a letter prepared by my sister-in-law, witnessed and notarized stating my Dad was leaving the house to my brother; only my dad was on his death bed and was too weak to even pick up a pen. It too has a forged signature; what do think the judge will do? I don't know but something will be done and God will handle the rest. I just wish this didn't take so long because mom is getting worse everyday. I do need some help, at least in the shower but the attorney says, mom needs more help than just in the restroom. I need help to so I won't get burned out or frustrated. God has sent me an attorney which his mom passed away from Alzheimer so he can relate to this situation. Well, again thank you so much for taking the time to write to me and thank you for the 'hug' too.


over 4 years ago, said...

Cookiech, poa is nothing. they are overwritten all the time. Go to the attorney show them who has been your moms caregiver and you need to get conservatorship instead. It will give you full legal,physical and financial right over your mom. Just don't let your enemies know what you do first! How old is his daughter? why did he do this. The question are red flagged something is not right. Get your own attorney! Don't be scared. Your mom needs you.


over 4 years ago, said...

Hi, For those posting questions about your individual situations, please contact your local Area Agency on Aging to learn about programs and services in your or your loved one's community: http://www.caring.com/local/area-agency-on-aging You'll also find money and legal tips in this area of our website: http://www.caring.com/senior-money-legal Lastly, with your comments and conversations on this website, please keep in mind our Community Code of Conduct: http://www.caring.com/about/community_guidelines Thank you!


over 4 years ago, said...

I will not mention names but I believe someone is mistaken. I cannot speak for anyone else but here goes. The reason I need financial help is to continue to assist mom in her time of need. Losing my job made it worse. I dedicate 24/7 for mom; my choice by the way. She could be at a home for the elderly but mom does not take well to strangers and her neuroligist says she will shut down and get worse faster. If I had, which I don't MONEY, I would not be asking. Mom raised me to help others and now she needs me, I take care of mom with so muchlove and pride but unfortunately, the cost of living is not free. Some are for venting, I try to help, some are lost and need advise, some need ideas to improve caregiving since we don't have much money so with this I say, DON'T JUDGE US, IF YOU DON'T KNOW US.


over 4 years ago, said...

Hi I am a 3x stroke and 1 time heart attack survivor. I am wondering if my wife who is a R.n. can receive a check because she assists me with bathing, cooking, and anything else I need.


over 4 years ago, said...

didn't know about money from Medicaid to pay for in-home services of relative


over 4 years ago, said...

links, states listed that participate, knowing there are a lot of people in this situation


over 4 years ago, said...

I hope someone can help here! I tried posting this before but cannot find it now so here I go again. If this repeats, sorry. I have been taking care of my mom 84 yrs. old Alzheimer/Diabetic for three years now. My brother has P.O.A. and has added his daughter to the P.O.A. The only person caring for mom is 'yours truly' I do not mind. She needs me 24/7. Mom is on stage 3 Alzheimer and I have been taking care of her alone. Family doesn't call nor even come by to visit her. It is sad but I can handle it because I lost my job and I don't want mom in a nursing home. My brother gets moms S.S. check and deposits some of the money into my account but I need to know what I have to do to get paid for caregiving. With the money my brother gives me, $700, I have to pay the utilities, some medical expenses Medicade does not pay for moms prescriptions, groceries, personal needs for mom, etc. Mom lived with me at first but now I live in her home but moms mental state is not clear. She cannot make any decisions anymore and I need to be careful because I trust no one when it comes to mom. I believe my brother is wrong, he's added his daughter to the P.O.A. instead of me, yet I am the only one caring for mom. God gives me strength everyday but I do need some financial help too. I know there are others here that are worse but I am just concerned for moms well being. WHAT DO I DO? or WHAT CHOICES DO I HAVE?


over 4 years ago, said...

I care for my mother. She has Social Security and CareFirst BCBS. She will need Assisted Living soon. Can she get Medicade?


over 4 years ago, said...

I am on social security and unable to work, my mother takes all my money leaving me unable to get medical help that my insurance doesn't pay for and bills unable to be paid.


over 4 years ago, said...

My Mom recently came out of hospital with a stroke I had to leave my job to care for her she has therapy three times a week and dr appointments and follow ups almost ever week. I'm now drowning in credit card debt in a short amount of time. She now on temporary disability and her regular disability says they want to wait 90 days she's unable to receive Medicaid. She 61 and was still working at time now this month we have to pay cobra to keep her insurance. I don't no how much longer. We can manage. Is there any programs or way I can get paid or receive some assistance to care for her. Please help in desperate need. Thank you for any help you can give me. Vicky


over 4 years ago, said...

My wife and I are both in our 70's. She has been confinded to a wheel chair therefore I have had to quit my job, and because of loss of income now filing for bankrupcy. I can just bearly get by on our retirement and soc.sec. which amounts to 3391. If we have an emergency, ie car breakdown or I get hurt we would be in trouble. So my question is do we make to much to qualify. We live in Florida.


over 4 years ago, said...

If I am certified Nurse assistance,can I get paid by(social sercurity) for taking care of my mother who is bedbound with Alzheimers. I heard if I am incorporative and can do so, she is on Hospice now, and they bill, social security $5,000 a month, I think I should get paid more than 8 hours a week.


over 4 years ago, said...

EVERYBODY HAS TO REMEMBER ONLY ONE THING. ALL THIS PAYING THAT OBAMA IS DOING IS , "THE OBAMA WAY". A slow but sure way to bankruptcy.


over 4 years ago, said...

my parents just moved to seattle and my mother take care of her son who is 22 yr old and has cerebral palsy .my question is how do my mother get paid in seattle for taking caring of my brother


over 4 years ago, said...

Why can't people just take care of their families without asking for taxpayers to provide them a salary? Good Lord, next parents will be billing taxpayers for babysitting their own children. Where is all of this going to end? If the family needs financial assistance, that's one thing but to expect compensation from taxpayers to care for your family is really unbelievable. obama has his mother in law at the WH. Should we pay him and michelle to care for her? We already pay $100K per year for the dog's caretaker. No wonder we are broke.


over 4 years ago, said...

I need to know specifically how to go about getting paid for taking care of my father, they get too much money for social security to qualify for medicaid, but I need information on how to get paid for taking care of him, they have too many bills to pay me for taking care of him.


over 4 years ago, said...

I've been caring for my autistic brother since our mother died in 10/1989. To me is not bad at all because the only one he can take care of him is me, my brother is the sweetest person in the world, he never gets mad and he never ask for anything even food. I know that he eats at 12 noon (brunch) and at 6 PM his dinner, he has a service/conpanion dog and she lets me know when is 11:30 AM and 5:30 PM to get his food ready. He is almost blind and he likes to watch Central American channels (we are originally from Guatemala City) He doesn't receive any money from any agency eventhough I have applied many times because they said that his disability started after 1956. I am applying for his Citizenship maybe it will be a difference because he is Permanent Resident for many years.


over 4 years ago, said...

My husband is totally disabled and is having alot of health His medications are very costly and with everything being so high we are just not making it and I am unable to return to work he can not be left alone. I have heard there is help for me I am 63 and tried to go get Medi Cal to help me with Medical for myself and could not even get that Any help anyone has would be greatly apprecieated. I have heard that there may be programs to help me get paid to care for him where do I go to the SS?


over 4 years ago, said...

I am student in California and I take care of my elder mother. I cant work due to the time I give to my mother and I am financially under a lots of stress. I miss school a lot to take my mother to her doctor. I need help I need help with home financial assistance and need financial assistance over all. I would really need to be fully aware of what benefit my mother and I could get she is a 74 yd senior citizen. please I do not know where to start.


over 4 years ago, said...

I live in PA and work at the Area Agency on Aging. The Aging Office acts as the clearing house in all 63 counties for programs like this. In PA, it's called Waiver. Hope this helps.


over 4 years ago, said...

I had to give up my job to care for my mother in my home for 3 months then I went to work part time and had someone stay with her when I was at work for another month before she went back to the hospital and passed. She had Medicare and supplemental insurance but no one told me about any home care benefit; can anyone give me more information on this?


over 4 years ago, said...

Can I get paid to take care of myself?


over 4 years ago, said...

i want to care for my mom but the state says no i cannot,,,,,how can i and who do i contact please


over 4 years ago, said...

Well my aunt has a care giver already but he doesn't do his job..can I still do it and get paid for it? It's a very tiring and stressful job to be doing without any payment


over 4 years ago, said...

My life has taken a turn. Now with age, I have found that I have needed someone around the clock to help me with my disabilities. I had gone with a company and out of no where they canceled my plan due to the fact that my wife has gone to a nursing home for the mean time to help with her recent back surgery. I don't know where to start or even look for someone to move in my home as a 24 hour care giver. Does anyone know where I could look to hire a individual to help in my time in need?


over 4 years ago, said...

I really need to know where to go for help in getting the paperwork so that my sister can get paid for being our Mother's care giver. All of these comments are okay, just not what I need.


over 4 years ago, said...

I have been caring for my partner, who is suffering from Hepatic Encephalopathy (due to liver failure). I recently had to leave my full time job to give him 24 hr care. With both of us trying to live on his SSI income, we are falling short. I have tried to apply for aid through many federal, state, and local organisation. Because my partner is under the age or 60, and his condition is not recognized as a form of dementia we are unable to get the CDC or ADA waiver, or qualifiy for aid.. We re close to loosing everything including a place to live. We are in desperate need of guidance.


over 4 years ago, said...

My sister has POA. I have MEDICAL power of attorney. Mom has Alzheimer and dementia. Mom as a couple of income. BUT I need her SS to pay for mom living with us. my sister thinks $600.00 a month. to pay for everything.... Is there a "fill in the blank" to show the cost of mom living with us?


over 4 years ago, said...

I have been caring for my mother for over a year who has endstage COPD she has AARP and Medicare. Inow have no income and need help. She doesnt meet the medicaid qualicafications.


over 4 years ago, said...

You are so right! Reverse mortgages are not a good thing most of the time. However, I have obtained one so that I can afford to 'take in' my disabled daughter if necessary. This was th only way I could be able , at my age, to help her. These mortgages are a last resort kind of thing, but they can be good in a real emergency if done very carefully with intelligent planning. I am glad I did it. Bobbie Sena


over 4 years ago, said...

my parents just moved to seattle and my mother take care of her son who is 22 yr old and has cerebral palsy .my question is how do my mother get paid in seattle for taking caring of my brother ...


over 4 years ago, said...

I take care of my son how do I get paid.


over 4 years ago, said...

I NEED TO KNOW HOW TO GO ABOUT CARING FOR A LOVE ONE CAN U PLS HELP


over 4 years ago, said...

I've took care of my sister Kim over 12yrs. Off n on her mine is like a10r12yr old kid.I get Ssi for her n medcade. My husband makes good money but I am a stay at home moma n we have a big family n our home n lots of bills.if I am able to get more income please let me no.so I mite can take more of a load off my husband.he's a great man for letting my sis live with us. I love her but she is atoll on my body n mine. When her mental illness acts up.my neese gets money for helping her long term boyfriend who's no longer n the army he got hurt real bad n the war.if I could get extra income wed use it wisely. We buy way more for Kim than agroupe home ever did out her ssi check.any advice be very nice to have.I also have a brother like Kim name don he's n agroupe.I'd take care of him to if I could get d extra help. But I do call n check on him. Etc


over 4 years ago, said...

I have been taking care of my mother since jan 29, 2013 she cannOt live alone as she doesn't eat or drink unless prompted & she cannot take her meds on time or shower by herself. Please connect me with the right info. To see if we qualify for this. I live in medina Ohio.


over 4 years ago, said...

Hello, I'm in desperate need for some advice and help, my mother just recently diagnosed with kidney failure, and my father just got diagnosed with Parkinson's. They live about 45 to 50 minutes away so now they will be moving closer due to their medical conditions. I'm married and I'm the one with the most income coming in, and we would prefer that my husband just stays home and take care of my parents with daily chores, driving them to apps, etc...... I was told that my husband can receive income for doing this as well.if this is correct I would like some info like A.S.A.P since they will be moving in next month.thanks and God bless.


over 4 years ago, said...

I need help my mother had 4 strokes and 2 brain anurisums between thanksgiving and the new year I can't look for work because her memory is not good she forgets to take her pills, eat, and what she is doing. My wife is looking for work but doesn't have much luck, and I reasontly found out were having a baby... I also take care of my younger brother he is 11. I don't really know what to do and need help please help.


over 4 years ago, said...

is there any way i can recieve payment 4 my services. I do this full time


over 4 years ago, said...

I am my disabled partners caretaker, which require much of my time. I have just recently lost my job due to availability issues. We where surviving on his SS and my income. We have now lost over half of our income and are looking for a way for me to care for him without me having to return to work. I am unable to find the proper agencies to inquire.


over 4 years ago, said...

I take care of my mother in law 90 years old with Dementia. I am on SS can I get paid to watch her ,if do please how do You do it.? THANKS


over 4 years ago, said...

im on medicaid and medicare i rely on someone to do all my shopping adn take me to my doctors and all appoinments .. and someone needs to be with me almost 24/7 but they all work and when i need someone to take me they have to take off work and this is 3 to 4 times a week .. so they are losing on there pay check at work plus almost ready to be fired .. is there any one that can help with this we are trying to find out how this person can be a caregiver for me .


over 4 years ago, said...

Mom & I take turns caring for my 55 year old sister who has Parkinsons. She primarily needs help with her medication 24 hours a day, every 2-3 hours. We don't get much sleep. She is now on Social Security Disability, Medicaid, Medicare and food stamps, which helps pay her expenses, except she cannot afford to pay her mortgage. Chase is going to foreclose on her house. We live in Idaho and are unable to find any financial assistance for family caregivers, because the state cut the program. Because we take care of my sister and cannot take on another job, Mom and I cannot pay the bills at our home. Last month we got energy assistance, which is only available once a year. Mom is 83 and most of her Social Security goes toward her various insurance premiums. A Medicaid assessment has been done which qualifies my sister for 25 hours a week of in-home care. This is the most help that we can receive at this time. Mom and I could receive the 25 hours of pay per week if we go through training at one of the local facilities, but we are better off to get the relief of having somone else come in for a few hours. At this point it looks like my sister will have to go into a nursing home, because the assisted living homes do not want give her meds on an as-needed basis (PRN). We do not want her to go into a nursing home at 55 years old, but it appears to be our only option at this point. This is wearing on us physically, mentally, and financially to the point that it could cost us our health as well as our home and farm. It's a shame that the government will pay nursing homes rather than pay family caregivers enough to survive and provide quality of life for a family member in their own home. We're not asking for a handout, just some dignity in return for paying into the system all these years.


over 4 years ago, said...

Aloha my name is ka'olu and I am disabled though im not a senior im 40 yrs. OF age and require help with walking, and bathing I also have a chronic seizuure disorder. How and what types of programs are there where I can get funding to pay my son for being my homecare aide??


over 4 years ago, said...

My son + I are taking car of his mother my wfe long story I help he bestI can BUT w/my own problems somtimes it can be well lets say trying on my self + myson she needs a nurse or some one that actually knows what to do you know P/T O/T my back hands w/ kneese are junk my son has a brain something he's never violent I'm lost she dosen't deserve this as you can tell every body loves my wife I'm a little rough around the edges well thats what she tells me soo we need heip not hospice w/ both worked at rehabs 4 years.....


over 4 years ago, said...

Oh, how my heart goes out to all the hurting people on this site!! I am so very thankful for my state pension and for my daughter's small S.S, disability check. I have been able to get a reverse mortgage so that , hopefully, i can manage the money to pay for her transportation to her far away medical appointments. I would advise all who are not yet disabled to buy disability insurance, long term care insurance, and to build up a retirement fund if you do not have a state pension plan. I do not know if i would have built up a good retirement plan if I had been given a choice. As it is, TRS deductions were taken out of my pay check arbitrarily. Also, I was able to get very good group rates on my disability insurance and my long term insurance. Please, those who are still 50 oe younger and in good health work very hard and prepare for your future. It is difficult, but not nearly as awful as being helpless and deprndent in old age or being a burden to others. God bless you all. Bobbie Sena


over 4 years ago, said...

my husband is a tbi patient and I am no longer able to work...I am in texas he is on ss disability and things are too tight...di I qualify?


over 4 years ago, said...

I have been aking care of my husband since he had a sroke followed by open heart surgery and finding ou I could get paid would be a big help for keeping up with all of our bills. that would be a blessing to both of us as i can not work because of his condition.


over 4 years ago, said...

My wife has been fighting cancer for 4 years I'm her only caregiver and its hard to work and take care of her is there money available to help


over 4 years ago, said...

My husband has recently been diagnosed with dementia . he doesn't do well around stranger or in strange places. it just makes him more confused. i need to be able to stay with him and work with him as much as possible. i Dont know what were gonna do. he has always been the bread winner and i have little work experience. i need some assistance Untill i can get things figured out.


over 4 years ago, said...

My mom is in a nursing home right now recovering from a fall she falls a lot her 100 days are almost up and she can't live alone anymore So I'm gonna have to quit my job and find a 2 bdrm apartment right now she lives in a seinor building I have no help I live alone so can I get payed for taking care of mom? she only gets 767.00 from ssi I will have nothing, apartments are more then that. I will be 61 the end of this month mom is 84


over 4 years ago, said...

can u help me to start drawing a check....i am my mother in laws in home caregiver......


almost 5 years ago, said...

I don't have a computer at home, I have to travel 15 miles to a library. So I'd like any information, application etc.. sent in the mail. I take care of my 77 yr old father, I'm his only child/daughter. We couldn't afford a nurseing home and I can't leave him home alone for more than an hour or two unless I get my daughter to sit with him. Our finances are below poor, I earn nothing, and he ony gets $1,128.00 a month, and thats house payment, utilites med's etc. I do get $200.00 a month in EBT/Food Stamps. We are beyond needing some financial HELP.


almost 5 years ago, said...

how to get paid as a family caregiver in cape town south africa is there something like that here in our country


almost 5 years ago, said...

I had to quit work in Oct. 2006 to take care of my ailing mother. She has been battling MS for 27 years now and we are financially strapped. Also we tried to apply for medicaid and they said she makes to much in her pension and wouldn't help. I don't work at all except to take care of her. Any suggestions would help.


almost 5 years ago, said...

I just moved into my mother's home, and she's been ill for sometime with C.O.P.D. and arthritis. She needs around the clock assistance, and both her and I were wondering what steps i need to do, and who i need to contact in order for me to be her in home care giver and get paid/compensated for it at the same time. . .i really appreciate your time. Anakin Witham-Puyallup.


almost 5 years ago, said...

I live with my geandfather as of recently he is now legally blind and has chronic back pain I quit my job to help him and my grandma who is diabetic and has slight demensia so she need help with her insulin and pills I will take care of them either way but im in Financial drought and was woundering about the inhome care program please help in kansas city thanks


almost 5 years ago, said...

trying to get paid through the V. A.


almost 5 years ago, said...

When it comes time for me to have to have someone live with me or me with them, I will not choose either one. I saw first hand what money does to people in my family and I will not be one of the ones that the only reason to help me is to make money. They will have to find money some other way and not off of me.


almost 5 years ago, said...

My 23 year old daughter has mental trouble due to a doctors mistakes when she had her baby 2 years ago. She's on Medicade and a Mental Health Nurse come's to our home twice a week for family and private sessions with us. The Mental Health Doctors has turned it in to SSI rthat I can't leave my daughter because of Anxiousness Attacks. Yet she has not been approved of SSI. I havent been able to work in 6 months, SSI says she will be approved soon. We are going to loose our home.We are in Arkansas is there any kind of help I can get?


almost 5 years ago, said...

Hello, my mother I'd currently staying with me and deemed legally blind. I have a brother who ably to care for her but I don't where to start her in California in Ventura County. Can you guide me in any way shape and form. Thank you.


almost 5 years ago, said...

i live with my father that is disable and gets ssi i was trying too find out how i can get paid for takeing care of him i am his caregiver . i was just see if i could get paied for takeing care u him .i aso have a 15 year old son that live with us too .so i just need so help from SSI for takeing careof my father with the dr.s and make sure he takes all of hes meds .my fathers age is 60 years old someone just help me get so help are someone to talk to about getting payed for takeing care of he .....i really need so help real real bad .if some one could help out .....thank to all that helps me out .Thanks RHONDA MILER TO ALL OFF YALL


almost 5 years ago, said...

I get help from a young college grauate whom at the time is unemployed. But I cannot afford to pay her anymore and I don't think I can live alone without the help she provides 7 days a week. Is there any help available to compenxsate here for the endless hours she spends helping. Me survive.


almost 5 years ago, said...

i thank you for the help to learn about how too get pay for being a caregiver for my mom


almost 5 years ago, said...

my father and law lives with us and I do everything and I'm out of work so I need to find a way I can stay at home and take care of him. He has to many assets for medicaid but, he do have Medicare complete by united health care, Medicare health insurance and AARP, would any of thoses cover it?


almost 5 years ago, said...

I DIDN'T KNOW THERE WAS SUCH A PROGRAM.


almost 5 years ago, said...

this site was extremely helpful to me


almost 5 years ago, said...

I've been taking care of my mother who has stage-4 breast cancer for going on four years now. With the recent spread of her cancer, she's been declining quickly and the level of care I do has gone from the simple task of driving her to and from chemo/doctors appointments to now assisting with all basic functions. I cook, clean, take her to doctors appointments, help her get to and from the bathroom if she hasn't had an "accident". In that case I clean her. I've got my CNA license in the states of Florida and Missouri. We moved to Florida for the M.D. Anderson Cancer Center so I'm the only person down here able to help with her care, and due to the level of care needed I'm unable to actually get a job. I've been hearing about Caregivers receiving financial assistance but I'm not sure if I'd qualify. She receives disability and is on medicaid. If someone could reply with anything helpful I'd greatly appreciate it. Thanks, Ryland Hoffman


almost 5 years ago, said...

Nothing!!! There is no help except for medicaid people. Well,I do not want to hold out my hand to other hardworking taxpayers anyway. Bobbie Sena


almost 5 years ago, said...

My sist-in-law had to quit her job to take care of her 100 yr old mother who needs round the clock care. Who or where would she start to see if she can get a salary for this. It is very hard work and she gets very little sleep. It would be awesome if I could help her find a way to get paid to help with things. Would she go to the Medicare office or the Dept of Health & Medicaid office?


almost 5 years ago, said...

I'm a caretaker for a dissable sister. She gets ssi. Is it possible for me together paid. My husband lost his job. Thank you


almost 5 years ago, said...

Is there a way to get paid for caring for husband (not a senior, mid-40's) with the following conditions: End-Stage Kidney failure (requires 3 times a week, 3.5 hours to be on dialysis - currently at a facility 45 minutes drive from home, in future will be done at home); type I diabetic, retina detachments (two repairs already), CHF, hearing loss in one ear, in cannot drive at this time, may be blind in one eye from all this... In otherwords, dependant on wife to care for him. We also have 6 children, he was force retired from Cal National Guard after 24 yrs of service. Recently filed for State Diability, boss is trying to fire him for medical leave & false claims... need to find a way to care for him, feed family, and keep afloat!


almost 5 years ago, said...

Tt would be great but the state wants my house in exchange and my caregiver already gets rent in exchange for care. Now they see this and I guess want me to give up my only asset so they can get paid too, they also work outside parttime. I am healing and will need a place to live and I want to move n the money from the house. Really causes stress and past care givers have used up my savings while not excersizing me or giving the care promised. They get a nice home, heeat a/c, wireless and want more, more, morre because you say they can have it. I took care of my mom for free.


almost 5 years ago, said...

I'm caring for my son who was diagnosed with schizophrenia and depression...for years. I want to get paid for this. Taking him to apts, making apts, running errands, etc. Diagnosis made @ 16 yrs, he is now 33. Please help. Thankyou, Edythe Nemec


almost 5 years ago, said...

I have heard that family members and domestic partners can qualifie for compensation of caring for some one on perminate dissability. is this true?


almost 5 years ago, said...

Hello, I moved in my grandparents home.i been a caregiver to them since November 2012 , and its they don't have Medicare (Medicaid) or long time care coverage. During these hard times I need some type of income, anything will help.if anyone can help please due so......


almost 5 years ago, said...

finding out u need a license to care for an aging parent if u want financial help.


almost 5 years ago, said...

Will I be able to get help if I allow my 58 year old disabled daughterto live with me? I have a $2500 a month pension. She has $600 amonth Social Security disability and has Medicare. I am 79 and very healthy. However, I cannot drive out of my neighborhood and my daughter has doctors who are very far away. Thanks, Bobbie Sena


almost 5 years ago, said...

I've been a live in caregiver for my brother and mothet since 2004 he is only 60.I was told by one of his six children that it was protocol for the sibling to care for other sibling ..not his children. Does anyone no the true protocol are a link I can send this person.I don't mind what I'm doing I just wish his children would relieve me JUST ONCE.Thank and I welcome your comments


almost 5 years ago, said...

i live in WA state. Along with my 24 yr old daughter (lexi) who has 2 small children. son, 3 and a daughter 1 1/2 yrs old. Ella my (granddaughter) was born with a very rare disease. NeoNatal Hyperekplexia. My daughter and I care for her. She has a feeding tube, cannot sit,crawl,roll,walk. Also, is in physical therapy 2ce a week. I am the only driver. I am not employed. Her special needs Doctor's are in Seattle, 50 minutes away. She sees them every 3 or so months. I was told I could most likely receive cash assistance monthly. Is this through Medicaid? I am not sure where to start. Also, I was told my daughter cannot receive this assistance, since she is the mother, but me being Grandmother, I can. She receives DSHS cash ($460) which is for herself and 2 children. Is it possible for her to receive any other cash assistance through this program or others? She is not able to work, her care is constant for Ella.


almost 5 years ago, said...

Is there a financial aid program available in New York?


almost 5 years ago, said...

I live in Utah and we have tried every thing and called all the numbers available and have gotten no where I take care of my sister who is disabled and we are looking for some way to get paid but like i said we have gotten no where. We have been told by medicaid that there is nothing available for family members to get paid but they don't cover any kind of caregiver but her doctors said that if she didn't have a caregiver at home then she would have to go in a home so if someone could help me in finding out how to get paid I would appreciate it.


almost 5 years ago, said...

My mother has been a caregiver for over 8 years to my grandfather and step grandmother. My grandfather passed 4 years ago and my grandmother begged her to stay so she too could pass away in her home. my mother followed through with her wishes. when she relocated to give 24 hour care, she locked up her home and found homes for her pets. Leaving all of her possessions behind. Recently her stepmother passed away (12-26-12). She was verbally promised 2 shares of the home for her dedication and giving up her life to take care of them. Now that she has passed, of course things have changed. There is a substantial trust- How can she appeal on their honor for this promise and/or other expenses due to her at this time?


almost 5 years ago, said...

I had No idea any type of funds are/were available!!!! This is a God-send! The toll mentally & physically have been big issues, but financially this has been a killer-strainer for all involved.. We take care of my 26yo disabled veteran. I really only knee him casually until his mother died whom he lived with, then his immediate family abused him-financially/mentality & physically so we stepped in and TOOK him out of that situation..


almost 5 years ago, said...

I found this site for the first time and I hope this information is of help. For many families, paying an agency for caregiver services is not an option. The business has overhead and must charge a considerable amount more than just the cost of the caregiver. However, many families have found that they can hire someone in their community to care for their relative. I happen to have 7 years experience as an independent caregiver. I have found families who needed care for a spouse or parent through Craig's List and through my church. I do not charge as much as an agency simply because I do not have the overhead that a business has. I am basically an independent self-employed caregiver. The key is to know whether or not you want the responsibility of interviewing candidates, selecting someone and providing an overview of the services your loved one needs. This is not a hard thing to do, but It's not for everyone. Some families and individuals would rather hire an agency to handle the interview process and to do a background check. In my experience, the families grew tired of some (not all) caregivers not showing up and getting new ones to fill in who were not familiar with the patient. So, it is possible to find folks through websites, churches, word of mouth, etc.


almost 5 years ago, said...

i need someone who is getting money for home health to pls tell me how to do this. my mom has stage 4 lungcancer and ive be taking care of her for the last several years lost my job and its me living there doing it all l shes terminal and is going to die one day .but i really need help we are financially becomin strapped


almost 5 years ago, said...

My husband. Is on Medicare can I gt paid to take care of him? Im a stna Thank u


almost 5 years ago, said...

To get a answer, if there is benefits for family caregivers, and how to go about finding out more info. This there is in some states, and not mentioning whichstates, and if your state doesn't hve that type of funding, then where do you get more info.


almost 5 years ago, said...

I took care of my Father when my Mother passed in 1995 One day during a routine follow up visit to his family doctor, he could see that I was exhaused from lifting wheel chairs and him as well.. In fact, I was ill at the time myself. I was in my middle 50's during this time.. A doctor mentioned to me, did I have any help outside the home? He told me to sue the sibling, and get the money to help. I was shocked, well I talked to an elder care attory, The doctor was right, The judge wil more than likely see it as you getting child support from a child, and award you a monty income, which ever way he see it's from each sibling, nearby or not!!! And they must pay. We declined that offer, I just could not do it. Looking back our life would of been much easier, but Dad did ok. He went to that attorney with the help of an old friend, and made out a Will, and left everything, which was the house and all of my mother's beloved things, and of course his. So..I miss every day, but we now own his home and their beautful antiques that every called garbage for years.. just saying follks, maybe you should weight you options in every turn with your loved ones.. Sometmes if they have nothing, Maybe that support will help, Or even if they do, it would.. I might be of a different mind today..Since now I can't find a job due to age for taking care of Dad for year. God Bless you all..


about 5 years ago, said...

it is a good thing to get paid for takeing care of a love one


about 5 years ago, said...

I am a caregiver and I need to live with my mother for long term care can I live in the apartment in a 55 or older not sure if I can be here I'am 50 could you wright me if you know. She need 24 hour help the laws are NV and I can't seem to find any. Thank You Jodi I do work for a company.


about 5 years ago, said...

Very helpful, thank you now I just to find out if my mother is eligible for Medicaid Cash and Counseling also on previous page someone mentioned VA called "Non service connected improvised pension that may help too! Huge help Caring.com..its my first time on here.


about 5 years ago, said...

how can get pay for taking care of my spouse


about 5 years ago, said...

i would like to apply to get paid for caretaking a friend who has a long term illness iv been caring for him sense he had his stoke in 01 17 2011 / iv gotting no were tring get information on how to go about this issue. wre do i go to apply to get paid .and want paper work do i need to get to show he has a long term illness because i have to get some kind ive incme coming in ive got my own bill to pay and there pilling up ,and i can just leavehim alone he incapable to be left a lone he suffer with short term momorrie he could hard him or burnhe house down . he very sad for him .because before he had this stoke he did everthing by the book .he keep all he fineice inorder . so every really does cause him to get frustated really easy spacailly being thathe was a sargent in the marine corp, so this very dilicite suitation atime one he happy then he can get depressed because he can under stand way he can be the way he you to be . he so hrd for him it vary sad how this illness could take a men who work hard all his life and slam hem down to chid level as farcummunicate again with people and he own finesse and abililty care for himself .


about 5 years ago, said...

thank you for your help my preants realy need this right away GOD BLESS


about 5 years ago, said...

Thank you very much for your helpful and informative website! I am sure that the information provided here will serve many caregivers well. I have been a caregiver at home to my dear mother for 4 years fulltime, so I fully understand the details involved in this kind of intensive caregiving for a disabled and aged parent & family member. I am going to pass this useful information on to my sister who will be picking up with our mother's caregiving. Due to lack of time to care properly for myself around caregiving, I too have burned out and developed my own medical situations that have not been attended to, so at age 67, I must finally get around to taking better care of myself. My sister is much younger than me, but she too will need to remember to take better care of herself in the process of being a caregiver, and since time is a major factor around doing all of these important tasks, your articles will certainly prove to be helpful to her as she takes on the huge task of caregiving at home. Thanks again for your timely and helpful articles.


about 5 years ago, said...

My husband is a 100% disabled and I have to take care of him can I get any financial help


about 5 years ago, said...

The article identified resources or agencies that will help me find out the details of programs in my state.


about 5 years ago, said...

hi i have a lymphoma since 2009 and im disable since that time my wife take care of me day and night so she can not work because take care of me does she be paid my care giver , , i have medicaid , health net , so can you helpe me to give me the steps how to be paid , note i recieved SSi thaks a lot diaa.


about 5 years ago, said...

my daughter-in-law quit her job in may of 2012 to care for my mother in porter texas is there anyway she can get paid for caring for my mom my mom is on medicare


about 5 years ago, said...

My husband is on SSD as an end-stage renal patient. I administer his dialysis treatments at home six days weekly. I was also working 40 hrs weekly but had to stop because of the extensive responsibility of caring for him. He has MediCARE not Medicaid. How can I receive financial assistance? His disability checks do not even begin to cover our expenses!


about 5 years ago, said...

do people really get paid to care for a spouce and how? I have been caring for my husband for over a year and it is getting very stressful plus I am 72 years old and have a hard time with some of the chores,bathing, dressing.He is 73 and on s.s. and medicare/ blue advantage. we have ava nurse that stays 4 hours a week , while I grocery shop, pick up necessary items for our care.


about 5 years ago, said...

Has anyone acutally got paid to take care of a grandparent fulltime.. I need to talk with someone who has actually done this.


about 5 years ago, said...

hello my name is Sharon,I have a 30yr old blind autistic daughter and im single,she has been with me all these yrs,I've tried every agency,social security,the caps program and other places to see about getting paid or some type of help and I cant get any!I have nowhere else 2 turn.Why pay someone else 2 do what im doing,I dont trust anyone to take care of her because of an incident in middle school.Im her legal guardian now I have no income for myself so we live off her ssi which isnt alot.So this year she was diagnosed with pulmanary hypertension it has been hospital stays and lots of Dr. appointments an there are co-pays for all appointments and gas to get her there,thank the LORD 4 Food Stamps or we just wouldnt make it period.I also tried to get her dissability but they said she has to work an pay it in,now how is someone like her going to pay in dissability,go figure.I am so tired of the system not caring.She wanders why we dont do what we used to do,even though she is the way she is she is very talented,she sings in a gospel group an memorizes every song and is one of the lead singers an loves to bowl and go places even though here in the last few months she has been limited cause she was put on oxgen 24-7 but we manage ok with it.Anyway what do I have to do to get help,or the get financial help,im feel stuck and trapped and whats sad is that I know im not the only one,but I have to say its getting to the point where im saying to myself I dont want to keep living this way,8yrs ive tried now and really really tried here in the last 6 mnths,I dont know anymore..Thank You 4 Listening


about 5 years ago, said...

I am a retired RN, but not by choice,I have had spinal surgery and need more,so I receive SSDI.I moved back to my mother's home to help her with her alzheimer's. I need to help pay someone to run errands such as Doctor visits, pharmacy etc. She will not qualify for medicaid.Does someone know about cash allowance to help us? I live in georgia. Please someone help Thank you


about 5 years ago, said...

I need a question answered: I was the caretaker for my Mom four 16 Mon. in the State of Oregon. My two younger siblings are her Trustees and they refuse to pay me for my caretaking (which I was told to charge $15 an hour for only 6 hours daily, although I left my paying job in NYC and provided around the clock -live in- care, nursing her through an accident & open heart surgery) because I was NOT "contracted" by them to do this! - This is outrageously unbelievable to put what I as a daughter have always done (even before her medical crisis) suddenly on a "contractual" basis! - Any opinion (maybe from attorneys?) about this and how to proceed to collect? Its been 6 years since then and they do not budge! They know I don't have enough money to take them to court. I'm back in NYC (where one sibling/trustee lives as well) and they have put my Mom into a nursing home in the meantime. _ Your responses would be greatlly appreciated!


about 5 years ago, said...

hi i' m on ssd.& i care for my 86 yr. mother i had her for 5 yr thank you .


about 5 years ago, said...

if dis care program eligibility allows my mom she travels back home to marshall island and back to hawaii for her care, will she be eligibility for medical and dis program wen she moves to her son and wife in springdale arkansas. could she get dis program in arkansas to live dere with her son and wife. thanx


about 5 years ago, said...

Noting which types or level of income do not qualify. For instance, Mom has an annuity, but it only gives her about $2000 extra every quarter, so "$8,000" more per year over her SSI. Most of this is used to pay her rent and medical needs; i.e., hospital stays, doctors, nursing facilities, med copays, incontinence supplies, clothing -- I get $400/mo to care for her. This comes from her own funds.


about 5 years ago, said...

That you can get help with caregiving and get paid.


about 5 years ago, said...

I am caring for my brother. He is a cancer survivor, has been in a coma, came back with deminished capacity to care for himself. I have been here, living with his for over a year. I have been told repeatedly that the state will compensate me, but have been unable to figure out where I go to check into this.


about 5 years ago, said...

The paid caregiver my dad got in California through IHSS....stole everything he ever owned.


about 5 years ago, said...

I'm a bit lost and don't know where to begin. I'm a 27 year old nurse in college. I live in Arkansas. My dad lives in Missouri and was recently diagnosed with cholangiocarcinoma. He is being treated in Kansas City. (3 hours from their home; 7-8 hours from mine.) My mom works full time and needs help with Dad while shes at work. I work part-time on the weekends and my family couldn't survive, financially, if I didn't work. I haven't the first clue how to find out if I could get paid and by who if I were to go care for him at his house at least on the weeks he is undergoing chemo. They have no one else to help them. Any suggestions as to where I would start??


about 5 years ago, said...

My son have cancer the last 6 years of and on. Now he has 3 tumor on his brain. He is in the hospital waiting to start chemo and his wife with him 24/7. She had to quit working, because it is too much and the hospital is 45 minutes away. I'm staying with my grandson. She is going to take care of him after his home again and drive him to get the chemo. She is going to need financial help and I got some ideas just reading all this letters. My son only 42 years old with 2 kids, under 14 years old. I'm 70 years old and my apartment also too far away. I'm retired and has little income. Thanks for taking the time to read my letter. I gave my son in the Lord hand, He is in control. Edina


about 5 years ago, said...

my mother is in need if ny care, and I'm on Medicare and ssdi. she is not quite eligible for medical, and is afraid to spend down to be legally eligible.is it illegal to spend down?


about 5 years ago, said...

When you get paid to give care to a family member where does that money come from? Does it come out of your family members social security, or what?


about 5 years ago, said...

I have recently just started searching for a way to get paid for caring for my disabled boyfriend. I recently had to quit my job which allowed me with the flexability I needed to care for him. We had to move to get within the allotted distance of the hospital in order for him to get accepted by the hospital board and get put on the heart transplant list. Since our move last month, he is now on the transplant list; however, I am not having any luck finding another job willing to accept my limitaions and restrictions on when I can work and when I can't. My boyfriend is on SSI, makes to much to get Medicaid and other state assisstance, but not near enough to cover monthly expenses! He has Medicare, but has to pay for a secondary insurance to have enough to get on the transplant list. With extra insurance costs, co-pays, and perscriptions, he comes up short each month without that extra income that I was bringing in. Can anyone supply me with any information on how I can get somekind of state / gov. assisstance to help this household? I am so overwhelmed and confused by all of this that I don't know where to start or where to go!. I would appreciate anykind of leads!!!!! Thank You!


about 5 years ago, said...

Please email me information on this program and uf its available in the state of nevada? I appreciat your time thank you


about 5 years ago, said...

Blessings to you for taking care of your mom.


about 5 years ago, said...

This article steered me into the right ditection to help me take care of my mother


about 5 years ago, said...

http://www.aoa.gov/AoARoot/AoA_Programs/HCLTC/LRCP/index.aspx


about 5 years ago, said...

If you are someone in one of these ten states, maybe you can get some help. God bless. HHS Grants Help Ten States Build Programs That Give Family Caregivers a Break Over $2.4 million supports critical infrastructure development and a new Resource Center Grants totaling more than $2.2 million to help ten states strengthen existing and create new respite services were announced today by Administration for Community Living Administrator and Assistant Secretary for Aging Kathy Greenlee. Greenlee also announced today funding (up to $250,000/year for 3 years) for the Access to Respite Care and Help (ARCH) National Respite Network and Resource Center. "Family members are responsible for 80 percent of the long-term care provided in the United States. They are important partners in our long term care system and they could use this help," said Assistant Secretary Greenlee. The Lifespan Respite Care Program helps provide temporary relief from the ongoing responsibility of caring for people with special needs. Unpaid caregivers"”often devoted family members"”make daily sacrifices to take of people of all ages with special needs. Respite allows caregivers to take care of themselves so they can continue successfully in their roles. "The Administration for Community Living is excited to advance the field of respite and family caregiver support while expanding what we know about efficient and effective respite service delivery," Assistant Secretary Greenlee said. "Providing targeted training and resources to help grantees effectively implement and sustain their programs is a key component of ensuring these programs succeed." The ARCH center located in Chapel Hill, N.C., will provide training and technical assistance to states to develop sustainable, integrated and high-quality respite programs across the lifespan; support the development of programs that measure performance and outcomes; and collect, synthesize, disseminate and stimulate research in the field of respite and family caregiver support. States will use funding to plan and improve respite service delivery capacity in a variety of ways, including: improving caregiver access to respite programs and services; expanding promising practices among services providers, volunteer programs and communities of faith; subsidizing or providing respite services to caregivers; promoting caregiver choice via respite voucher programs; and improving service quality. Grant awards were made to the following states: Alabama, Arizona, Iowa, Massachusetts, Nevada, North Carolina, Rhode Island, South Carolina, Texas and Virginia.


about 5 years ago, said...

The only thing Medicare will pay for in full is Hospice (and they actually kill elderly people who are not dying by medicating them into a state as to where they will slowly slip away. In my situation, the hospital geriatric doctors decided that my father was too old to live, so they started drugging him with the famous 3 drugs that Hospice uses. They put him in a messed up mental state. He started acting stupid, and then stopped eating. He had 2 infection, and they wouldn't treat him. My father was dehydrated. Their only concern was to keep giving him meds that were messing him up mentally. They told me to take him home with Hospice, not because he was dying, but because I could rehab him with their assistance. So here I am finding out that my dad has been taking meds that a man his age should not be taking. By that time my rehab for him was too late. The paramedics in my area even told me to fire Hospice and take my dad to a different hospital. I could just die knowing that I let these people con me into thinking that they were helping pay for my dad's rehab at home. I even told them that they were only for dying people and they said that's not true! My dad's doctors had to shut up once the hospital geriatric doctors showed up. If they would have tried to influence me, they would have lost their jobs. Now that it's all said and done, the one doctor told me that he never agreed with any of this, but he had to shut up!!!! In the meantime, if you think you are going to get paid to take care of family you have been misinformed. YOU WILL PAY LATER, I PROMISE. Medicaid will get involved and if their is anything left, a home, money, car, etc., they will take it from you after the person passes. Like another person said on here, who wins in this situation?????? In my mom's case, if I get paid to take care of her, they will take the house from me when she passes, and any remaining money that has been in her name for the last 7 years. If my name hasn't been on the house for 5 years, then I will be on the street after her death!!!!!!! What a system! So I got free medical help. I didn't get paid, but I got a fully paid trip to now visit my father in the cemetary!!!!!!!!!!!!!! DON'T FALL FOR THIS B.S. NOBODY IS GOING TO HELP YOU WITHOUT YOU LOSING SOMETHING!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I lost my dad, and now my mom's income is not enough to pay the bills. I can't leave her alone, but trust me.....nobody is going to pay me to take care of her.


about 5 years ago, said...

we applied for aid and attendance benefit for my 88 year old dad, and while it took a looonnng time to process, the benefits are retroactive to the date you file. also each county has a VSO (Veterans Service Officer) and ours was wonderful in cutting through all the forms, etc. However, now that he is receiving Aid and attendance, I am afraid the income will put him over the limits for the other medicaid in home assistance programs, and that is our issue now. we are tryint to keep him in his home, however he has Alzheimers' and it is getting worse. he has three adult children within 20 miles, and one of them has dinner with him each night to make sure he gets his meds, and that he is eating. we have hired caregiver for the am, and put webcams up in the apt so we can remotely check in on him if we get no answer to phone, etc.....


about 5 years ago, said...

(anonymous caregiver) The va has many programs that can help you contact your local va medical office or a va outbase clinic in your area tell them that you want to file for the aid and attendance benefit and ask them to put you in touch with a va representative all these services are free and their is never a charge, never pay any one to help you, these are free services thru the va.


about 5 years ago, said...

How can Medicaid take money away from a family member caregiver that has a disabled son that goes on vacation with the ex spouse, the child's father. The caregiver still has to maintain a home, the visit is for a short respite for the caregiver but. The state stops paying if the kid takes a vacation? How is that fair? Whom do I need to contact for Oregon laws that address this issue


about 5 years ago, said...

Since both my parents have passed away, Ive taken on the role of caregiver for my disabled older brother. In doing so, I've had to take a minimum wage job that offeres me the stability of being out of work to take care of him when he isn't at his special needs workshop. As a result, the household income is barely covering the necessities. Help in caregiving would be immensely helpful. Does anyone know if South Carolina has a program that would pay me as caregiver?


over 5 years ago, said...

Unfortunately the program only pays someone to be a care giver if the person needing care would otherwise be in a nursing home or other facility.


over 5 years ago, said...

can someone get paid for being a care giver if the person is not an elderly person? my girlfriend has medical problems she can not be by her self she is 41 and she takes seizures and panic attacks and can not be left alone he doctor done told her she could not be by her self we live in rhode island


over 5 years ago, said...

diane v my dad is 1005 diabilty from the service i have to quit my job to take care of him since my mother is now alsio very sick so im hoping i can get something fom the va to help


over 5 years ago, said...

i am in pennsylvania, my wife , who will be 50 in a few months has been battling end stage renal since 1998, she has had 2 failed kidney transplants, after the second one she developed a life threatening disease called calciphylaxis whichin turned caused seizures, she has been seizure free for a few years now, recently we started doing home hemo dialysis, after years of going to centers for the treatments, we do it 7 days a week which covers a 4 hour period, she cannot do this by herself and i have to be here with her for the entire time, plus care afterwards if she isnt feeling well, ive had to quit jobs to be here to care for her, is their any programs for financial aid for me being her caregiver, most ive checked into deem me ineligible because i am her spouse


over 5 years ago, said...

Sorry, I forgot to sign in: Go online to your states Social Service phone numbers. There should be a inhome care or elderly care. If you can not find one. Call anyone of the numbers of your local Social Service numbers and request for the inhome care services phone number. You have to research. I had a input comment 3 monthss ago about my husband getting approved and myself becoming his care provider. Update: When I finally got my first check. It wasn't 1 check it was 14 checks of backpay. Thats 7 months of back plus continuing 1 check for 1st to 15th and 16th to 30th/31st. There is ways to help each other. It's just research and sharing what you have learned. The Govt has som many programs but they dont tell you.


over 5 years ago, said...

Go online to your states Social Service phone numbers. There should be a inhome care or elderly care. If you can not find one. Call anyone of the numbers of your local Social Service numbers and request for the inhome care services phone number. You have to research. I had a input comment 3 monthss ago about my husband getting approved and myself becoming his care provider. Update: When I finally got my first check. It wasn't 1 check it was 14 checks of backpay. Thats 7 months of back plus continuing 1 check for 1st to 15th and 16th to 30th/31st. There is ways to help each other. It's just research and sharing what you have learned. The Govt has som many programs but they dont tell you.


over 5 years ago, said...

I believe the article is helpful to me because my wife is my care giver.


over 5 years ago, said...

My Mother recently lost my Father and is suffering from dementia. She is able to afford to afford a top of the line assisted living residence. Having said that, I still find myself spending 5 hour days up there nearly everyday, trying to encourge her to participate any activities offered and even take a bath which is provided in the plan. I've even hired private care, (which is not in her budget) only to find that they did nothing for her. Just "babysat" and played on Iphones and zoned out on TV. My husbdn has another "full time" job handling her insurance for her medical and home, doing her taxes, handling her stocks etc. Is it fair that that we take a small salary? We are planning to take a vacation next week and I am afraid to leave town.


over 5 years ago, said...

Bless you all for what you are doing for your loved ones. I wish you all were getting compensated fairly for your time but your reward will be in Heaven or in the wheel of karma or whatever version of timeless existence and divine justice you believe in. Hang in there.


over 5 years ago, said...

Helpful to know that this is available. My health is slowly getting worse and I am on SSI and will need help in the near future. I have heard horror stories about agency help and would prefer to have someone who knows me to do my care.


over 5 years ago, said...

Wisconsin also has a pilot program called IRIS... They pay me to take care of my loved one. It saves the state THOUSANDS in nursing home care costs and helps me earn a living while going to school and preparing for "life after Mom." It also pays someone else to come in and give me a much needed break every couple of weeks... Check out your State's programs and see if you might qualify for something like this...


over 5 years ago, said...

Good clarity !


over 5 years ago, said...

Help for me in Indiana! I know of no assistance - had to give up my nursing career to take care of my aunt -- was hoping for some suggestions for how to get assistance. Sounds like I'm just out of luck.


over 5 years ago, said...

information who to contact to apply to get paid . contact name and or telephone #'s to call.


over 5 years ago, said...

I wanted to know if there was a way my mother could get paid for taking care of my father. We recently found out that he only has 14 % of a heart left and that he might possibly die in September. However even though the doctors said his heart is failing they said he might be able to live a bit longer however he can not be on his own because at any given time he can have a heart attack. Because of this my mother has had to quit her job and she now struggles to pay the bills because my dad is unable to work as well. Someone told my mother she could get paid for taking care of my father but he does not have medicaid nor will they give it to him. I am just wondering is there any other way this is possible because it is getting harder for her to support the both of them with no income. Any information, comments, or answers would be greatly appreciated. Thanks


over 5 years ago, said...

It was very helpful in providing information about gaining assistance for my aging aunt who was very independent until her recent back injury at age 91. I am the only careprovider and she is due to be released from a rehab center and I can no longer provide nursing care as I am 65 and have health problems. Although I have over 20 years in Social work related experience this is the first with the aged population and it is especially difficult as she does not accept my experience when dealing with providers. Excellent resources.


over 5 years ago, said...

TEXAS: The last time I checked....in the State of Texas - if you were a relative you could not be employed (or paid) to be a caregiver to your immediate family member. This is why the referral for assistance passes first through the State of Texas, then (if the client is eligible) the referral is passed on to a Licensed Personal Home Service Provider company, for staffing. Yes, there are income requirements and yes, if the client accepts the program and allows a caregiver to provide services, for which they are paid - the State of Texas does have a right to "reclaim" some of the lost money when the indigent client passes away. This is typically done through acquisition of property or other assets. Often family members will try to "hide" these assets by transferring titles to homes, vehicles, or other properties into other family members names. This practice has not gone unnoticed and the State will do research, which may go back many years, in order to find these types of transactions. So if you live in Texas (or any other State for that matter) and you are contemplating anything along those lines, beware of the consequences of those actions. With our world being computerized and everything being conveniently "Online" these days....anything can be "traced". Please don't do anything illegal to obtain State Funds. The outcome is simply not worth it. One thing you CAN do, however....go to the website for the State (Just type in "DADS") and inquire about a list (by zip code) of the companies in YOUR area who provide this Licensed Personal Care & APPLY FOR A JOB with that organization. While you may not be able to be paid to care for your own family member, you may qualify through a hardship situation as the ONLY available EMPLOYEE of that company to care for the Client. As you can tell by the postings - you never know "who" is going to show up to the home (when you obtain a "Provider" through the Texas Medicaid Program) and often you never know "What" that person is, either. Many times our elderly are abused, exploited and neglected by people who work for this organizations. Much of that goes unreported because the elderly are very "At risk" for silent abuse at the hands of these unworthy people. This is NOT a high-paying JOB, folks....and there are FEW real "requirements"....hopefully there are BACKGROUND checks performed prior to sending someone to your elderly parents home, but this is entirely up to the organization if they chose to follow the regulatory laws regarding background screenings. There are too many of this type of organization in Texas, and too FEW "inspectors" to keep up with monitoring for compliance with the basics...so. i'm pretty sure I can now say "nuff said!"


over 5 years ago, said...

Wish there was a program for Medicare... I am sole care giver for my grandmother for the last 8 years and have not worked any during that time.. and for the last 5 years she has had to have someone with her 24/7.. extra income would help me pay for someone to sit with her while i go grocery shopping....


over 5 years ago, said...

if 2 people live in same house, can they both have their own providers from 2 different caregives


over 5 years ago, said...

Yes but Im in Ma.. and my daughter is on Medicare( I beleive). She lives in her own Condo and is struggling in every way. Physically. mentally, Emotionally and fianacially..She is 40yrs. old and been disabled most of her life. I've been driving her about 55miles to Boston for 36yrs. She has many diseases so its complicated. And after many surgeries I have been the primary caregiver for all of her life. I never considered getting paid. Its my daughter. i live below the poverty line but feel wealthy that she has lived thru 2 transplants,brain lymphoma, H1N1 coma for 57day in the I.C.U.,Rehabilitation to learn to breath, swallow,sit up in bed, and onto taking a step.,and then last fall breast cancer, a massectomy,reconstruction that took months for fills., lost her voice durirg that one. And just when she's was almost ready for her 3rd transplant, 3weeks ago skin cancer diagnoises. So blessed are we that these last 2 cancers were caught very early. Her surgury for that is in 2wks. All these were discovered to be cleared for her 3rd kidney trasplant. That touches of some of her conditions & surguries. Presently on hemo-dialysis, she does has a pca that helps with house work. And shes trys so hard to stay positive,but it is wearing us down. She has a pillow that says"I know they say God doesn't give you more than you can handle, I just wish he didn't trust me so much".Thanks so much for this site!


over 5 years ago, said...

You want a laugh. In the State of Ohio if you receive Medicaid and you die after expenses the balance goes to Medicaid as payment In full for your bill. My step mom had a bill for $210,000. House sold for $9,000 and after taxes, lawyers fees, realty fees, etc., the state got $10.00.


over 5 years ago, said...

My sister has been caring for her husband 24/7 who had a stroke 2 years ago.He is on a respirator and feeding tube. He is pretty much in a vegetative state. They live in Florida. He was finally able to get on Medicare. She is now unemployed and his SS check is just enough to pay for his expenses. Are there resources for her to get paid as care giver in Florida? http://www.theledger.com/article/20120414/NEWS/120419578?p=1&tc=ar


over 5 years ago, said...

There is no such thing as living "rent free" no matter how little (or great) a person does for another. If you had to hire an outside person to come in to care for someone, it would cost more than 1/2 the cost for rent/utilities/food. I know, I am caregiver to my 97 yr. old Mother; I am here 24/7, while my sisters are off living their lives with no consideration as to what is being done for THEIR Mother!!!! They call, and after the conversation, no further concern whatsoever. I am on social security and my health is failing (no medical insurance for 5 yrs), yet I am expected, because I live with Mom, to take care of her, NO respite, ever, for me. My sisters offer "lip service" but no real help. The only way I'll be able to have my own life is when our Mother passes away or I get up enough courage (and rid myself of guilt) and just move out. Then, the sisters can see what it is like, but will probably put Mom in a nursing home.


over 5 years ago, said...

My grandparents, my parents, and I all scrimped and saved all our lives denying ourselves eating out and things we didn't need so that when we were old, we would have money to pay should we need care. Money not spent was to be left to children so that they would not suffer. Now our taxes are spent on those who "blow" their money, don't work, and are basically slaves to Welfare which has become the new plantation.


over 5 years ago, said...

More wealth re-distribution in action? There was a time in America where it was customary to care for fellow family members... This is a scam created to move state tax dollars to a few.


over 5 years ago, said...

My sister lives with our elderly grandparents who are both invalid. She does not cook, bathe them, or empty out portable toilet (because it is not her thing). She only gives them medicine and she only "watches" them and report any mishaps. Since she does not work, isn't married, or has any children, we would have expected more from her because she is living rent free and doesn't pay any bills and her food is paid for by my parents. Recently, grandma yelled at my sister because she did refused to take her meds and my sister got offended and hurt by it so she refuses to give grandma any more meds and does not care what happens to her. My sister is very sensitive so you have to walk on eggshells around her. Now I have to drive to our grandparents house just to prepare meals for them, bathe grandma, give grandma her meds, and take her to her activities. I take her outdoors and take her for walks and push her around in her wheelchair because fresh air is good for your lungs and well being. No one else does it so I do it. Then I have to take care of my mom at home who has cancer. And I also have a young child to care for because he is still too young to fend for himself. Then I also have to cook for my dad. I am on food stamps and I share whatever I have with my family. I'm so tired of people saying "what do you do all day?" when what I'm doing is a JOB! It feels like 2 or 3 full time jobs. Sleep is a luxury for me. I'm so exhausted and I have health problems myself. I wish people can understand but they think that if you don't get paid to do your job that you are considered "unemployed".


over 5 years ago, said...

does any one know what to do to start the process of resending a grandparents right as guardanship since they are filling a 4 year olds head with crap saying your mother dont love you and she does not care or want you i moved to florida recently but was asked that by the daughter does anyone know what i can do she is in delaware. had to give her and my baby to my mother do to circumstances that i did not allow me to keep them ie. living on the street under bridges any suggestions


over 5 years ago, said...

My dtr is 10 yrs old and has severe add and bi polar . She needs a lot of attention during school and home, I receive survivors benefits because her dad died 3 years ago and my dtr also has a large life insurance for when she turns 18 yrs old. I lost my job 3 yrs ago due to being laid off. I yet have not found a job due to the stress of taking care of my dtr and with being a single parent. I we live with my parents due to me not having an income. Can I get paid to take care of my own dtr. Until I can get a job.


over 5 years ago, said...

my girlfreind of 21years has been fighting cancer for 4 yrs and has lost 85 pounds in 2 years she depends on me for everything i did work part-time but had to quit .so she could get treatments ask about getting paid to be her caregiver was told she was had to be 65 yrs old well she is 55 yrs old lost at what to do we can not live like this for ten more years need help fast somebody tell me what i can do


over 5 years ago, said...

I live in a foreign country. This only mentions that certain states have this benefit.


over 5 years ago, said...

will someone tell me how or what site do i go to to get information on getting financial assistance, for being a caregiver for my son. i live in greenville nc. no one from this town is 'nt familiar with this program.


over 5 years ago, said...

I am certified home attendant living in florida now taking care of my grandmother, how can i get paid to take care of her? she is living with me and i do everything for her because she is not able to. please someone guide me thank you


over 5 years ago, said...

knowing that i take care of my handicap son, with no income but his income,that possibly i can get some help in taking care of him. thank you so much for the information.


over 5 years ago, said...

I've been told that the money paid to you by Medicaid is later deducted from the estate. If that's true I figure what's the point. It does creat an enormous finacial and emotional burden though, especially in my case since we live in the country and there is little or no companionship or break oppurtunities. Gets very lonely and emotionally draining.


over 5 years ago, said...

i have two parents which one of them revives SSD and other SSI ... i take care of them everyday which is 24/7 care for them. I am their only daughter that will come in the home and take care of all their needs and im asking for help what to do. My mother has been diagnosed with mental disability for long time she cant cook on her own, wash her clothes or anything else and sames goes with my father they are two people who came from war and are in need for care please.


over 5 years ago, said...

We wouldnt have had to worry about that if the Government hadnt stole and handed the benefits that we paid into for years to people that wont work and to people that dont even belong in this country witch means there here illegally and never paid a dime into any of them.


over 5 years ago, said...

My mother--age 92 & w/ Alzheimers---lives w/ us. Previously she lived alone (her choice) in a seniors' mobile home park. We hired a senior health agency to help out but it was a bad experience. Every time they sent a different person: to a person already suffering memory loss & confusion that is a very bad scenario. We also hired a person (w/ recommendations) to clean up once a week, but she stole some things....Eventually we had to insist on my mom moving in with us. Before then, we'd already insisted on her not driving, and sold her car for her. She did NOT want either of these things--always a very independent, stubborn person. AND, like most people with dementia, she could not see that she forgetting things, confused, etc. She still thinks her memory is "better than most people's my age" (as she told a doctor recently).A patient's doctor CAN get involved and take away car keys, & the driver's license, but in this case, the doctor would not become involved. (Even though my mom had been diagnosed by a neurologist--I'd say that should be the first step always---many things that would be treated entirely differently, or even be curable, can have similar symptoms to dementia--- blanket word covering alzheimers). The Cash and Counseling program sounds very questionable to me. I can see families and/or agencies pressuring a confused elderly person, and no one outside of those few people would know it. The article assumes ALL families are warm & loving, & want to do the right thing. Personally, I think everyone should have an updated will, with a specific power of attorney for financial issues and a separate one for medical issues. Without that, you may not be able to make decisions for a loved one who is in no condition to do so. I pay all my mother's bills online, but that was only after learning she was bouncing checks everywhere! I spent a full day at the county courthouse straightening THAT out so she would not go to jail! Same with medical issues. My mom is a widow---I have input in decisions about her care, but without the medical power of attorney I am not sure I would have this oower. She also has a living will, as part of her will & the two powers of attorney, all drawn up by a lawyer, though I know there are lawyers who do "pro bono" work for people w/ little or no money. Her living will specifies she does NOT want "heroic measures" taken to keep her alive at all costs....& all of these documents were drawn up before she became "demented" in the diagnosable sense. She takes one medication for her condition: Exelon patches which we think did help slow down the disease, especially at first. Now, she is going downhill mentally & memory-wise so fast that I think she'll have to end up in a Nursing Home, which she never ever wanted, & which I had hoped she would not live long enough for it to be necessary. The government is beginning a long term study to find medication to prevent this horrible condition in people who are likely (due to their family history) to develop it. A major effort like this ("the March of Dimes") helped fund research which eventually found the vaccine to protect kids from polio. Certainly this is not the kind of thing where small groups could work on a cure or prevention. With the Boomers coming into these years the COST of caring for people w/ dementia, providing meds, services, & so on, will be unimaginable. It will take the retirement savings of many, many adult children. This is a huge problem, but hopefully can be overcome in our lifetime.


over 5 years ago, said...

I understand it, but i'm not sure if my mother in law likes what i have in mind, I'll try to speak to her about this matter,and we'll see what will happen.Helpful for me are the eligibility, assessment,detiemination,and plan. I hope we can make it coz its not easy to handle elderly care with no monthly income,coz when u need something that needs money u cant do it.And mostly i need to have an income for myself coz i have my own family who also really needs my financial help,I have my parents who also needs money for their daily living coz they are not capable of working now ,they are old too.And i cant depend with my husband he have a lot of bills to pay every month,that if we are not a little tight with our expences his salary would not be enough.So for the help of this caregiving income i can make a little help with my family,and i can also help my husband as well,well, in a little way. SILBER


over 5 years ago, said...

i need pay to taker my mother on my home thank.can you sende me on spanish.


over 5 years ago, said...

I am a home health aide, medicaid does not help with mileage, gas is expensive, we have to go shopping for the clients......WE NEED MILEAGE MONEY..........I have since recomends the grocery delivery services in the area..............Social workers are not trained properly............


over 5 years ago, said...

Great article. So many times family budgets are so strained due to the costs associated with caregiving as well as the time away from work to provide the care. One additional resource for families that are caregiving for Veterans and Veteran spouses is the Aid and Attendance benefit. Contact your local Veterans service office for additional information or find a Elder law lawyer that specializes in Veterans benefits for up to $1200 a month of additional tax free income if you are caring for a Vet or their spouse and they served at least one day during "wartime".


over 5 years ago, said...

can any body help me so my gradparr can be my caretacker he does evory thing for me and does not get paid for it


over 5 years ago, said...

Please help its. Just my self and two grandchildren i am trying to find us some goverment help to find us a home are apartment very very Cheap


over 5 years ago, said...

yes, very helpful....


over 5 years ago, said...

Why is it that people who work all their lives, make decent money, be responsible and save for their future, get no help in later years, when their funds are being depleted when they do need care giver assistance. As long as they keep making a SS check, retirement check, slightly over the medicaid poverty level, they have to stay in poverty just to live and make it. WHAT is wrong with this system??? Medicaid helps pay for care givers, gets all sort of assistance and help when they infact probably didn't contribute to as much as their receiving. You make money to get nothing. Just my two cents.


over 5 years ago, said...

hello im a disabled vet whos trying to care for a disabled adult child with sever disablities. piere roban syndrom, deaf, blind, brittle diabetic ,non ambulatory , incontinant, and fed thru a g tube . and brain damage, caused by a hospital that preferated her bowels , that caused peritinitis shes had 26 operations , my wife and i are both partially disabled from a police officer in ohio who t boned us while he was trying to catch some kids breaking into cars ,we were coming back from a drive in and in a second our lives were destroyed, lawyers and the drs got all the money and we were put into bankruptcy, my wife had casts on both leggs and i suffered from from chronic back injurys from service connected and then further damage from accident , i had 2 succesful buissnesses that i lost ,and we lost our home. and my health has gotten worse and my wife can barely walk ,we git no nursing help no respite and her ssi doesnt begin to cover her care ,va has helped some but they have there hands full with returning vets from the middle east , ive worked since i was 13 im 50 now and ssi keeps turning me down , we havent been able to go out to a dinner or even a movie in over 7 years . we are slaves to her care. we love her very much and have devoted our lives to caring for her , but lord knows we need help , is there a ohio based program for paying us to care for her?


over 5 years ago, said...

Correction for the comment below. Sunshyneedy wrote 1 month ago not 7


over 5 years ago, said...

To answer the remarks from: Sunshyneeday wrote 7 monthss ago. This person wrote that you can not get paid for being a spouse caregiver. Wrong answer!!!!! Yes you can and I'm an example of it! I am getting paid as a spouse for my husbands caregiving!!!


over 5 years ago, said...

Yes you can get paid for in home care services for a spouse. My husband has a back injury, liver disease, vertigo, diabetes, and erythropoiesis (Liver is over producing red blood cells). All the sickness has developed after he has injured hisback. Four months after he called the in home care county office(he only had to apply over the phone and they sent a form for his doctor to fill out). A social worker care to our home a interveiwed him. The Social worker called him next day and said he was approved all the way back to 2 months. I then had to go into the office and fill out my paperwork. Then I was given a form to go and get my finger prints done. Thsi way they can do my background check. Make sure you push the issue about going thru the system or they sill take their time on it(county office). To the date (5month since husband called for services) I am waiting for my first time card. Should get it in 4 to 5 days. I was also told by the county office that I am owed backpay all the way to where the social worker approved for my husband to get the services (already 4 months). Here in California the hourly wage is $11.50 and for a spouse you get less hours. My husband is approved for 46 hrs a month. That $500 that I'm getting now that I wasn't getting for the last 3 yrs. It's better than nothing at all. You also have the right to have the full amount without them taking taxes. I am having for my taxes to be taken out due to I'll get it back with more $$ for tax time. So if you hear someone say that you cant get paid for spouse in home care services its a lie!!! Hope to have some answers for a spouse that needed it.


over 5 years ago, said...

My husband was born with Myelomeningocele. That's the most severe form of Spina Bifida. He is on Disability and I'm working on getting mine. I have severe Fibromyalgia and arthritis. We're trying to find any way for me to get paid for taking care of him since I can't work a 'regular' job. Can anyone help us with ideas?


over 5 years ago, said...

I am 33 years of age. I live in my moms home with my husband, 13,11,7,2 & 9 month old. I do not work and my husband has no work either. I care for my mom age 58 with Dementia. She needs care from the hours of 7am-9pm. I can not afford anyything and need help. Any feedback would be much appreciated.


over 5 years ago, said...

Can I get paid after the Fact? I did the 24/7/365 for my dad who has now passed. My older brother stuck him in what I call the diease factory Bennington,Vermont Veterans Home. Less then 5 months later he was dead. I didn't know I could have received something for my services to him. I did it because I loved the guy and what he was to me in my life. I haven't spoken to my older brother sense his funeral, 6 years ago. As I found out dad had dimentia, So I feel he had taken advantage of his deminished condition and dumped him to just go and die. My older brother was his execator and Dad denys my gentic relationship to him. Talk about a knife to your heart, I did it, Because I Loved You as a Caring Human Being in my life Dad.


over 5 years ago, said...

I'm a wife and daughter who takes care of 3 disabled family members . My mom who is a diabetic and has neuropathy in her feet and has no toes on her right foot.. My dad has alzheimers.. and my husband who is disabled from a fall 54 ft. at work. PLUS i have kids still home with me. can i get paid for any of these family members. I had to quit a 40 hr great job of driving a forklift for a steel yard who fabricates big buildings for all over the USA great pay down to taking care of them full time to no income at all..... SOS point me in the right direction . . . My prayers go out to everyone who is going through this Also the loved ones they look after


over 5 years ago, said...

I am a nurse and tired of the institutional limits on care. I want to care for a friends parents in my home. How do I get started and will medicaid help pay for the services that I provide.


over 5 years ago, said...

I HAVE A DEAR FRIEND, AND PARTNER WHO HAS BEEN HOMECARING FOR ME FOR MORE THAN 38 YEARS...I AM A DISABLED VET...100% DISABILITY WITH BOTH THE VA, AND SOCIAL SECURITY ADMINISTRATION...WHAT STEPS MUST I TAKE TO ENABLE HIS WORTHYNESS TO BE COMPENSATED? DOES HE QUALIFY FOR ANY FINANCIAL ASSISTENCE?


over 5 years ago, said...

my mother in law stayed with us and she is the one pay the house rents, my husband cant afford to pay rent too high and instead she can use her money but it goes to rent.My husband's income is just good for our daily living the three of us, we dont hav enough for other things, that is why i need to have my carers allowance for extra. Is it possible for me?


over 5 years ago, said...

I found that in Los Angeles, CA the caregiver is obligated to join the union, and take out monthly dues from the check.


over 5 years ago, said...

It told me a place to get ahold of to get paid for my moms care .


over 5 years ago, said...

here ia a tough question. applied for v/a benefit to put mom in assisted living. renting her home out. now her dementia is so advanced assisted living wont take her. have to try adult foster care specialzed living. the cost is so much higher it will take the rental money, her social security, and the v.a money and still be 1000.00 short. the home says i can also get her a medicaid waiver. should i do all this/? or should i just go the medicaid nursing home route and let them take the house//? I AM 63, IN POOR HEALTH AND MOM IS 92. will medicaid file lien since her home is rented? will taking the waiver in any way eliminateeligibility of a nursing home on full medicaid/medicare


over 5 years ago, said...

To get paid for being a caregiver this is how it works: To start out, you cannot get paid for being a caregiver to a husband, wife or if you have power of attorney, (please check your state or situation might be different) that does not mean they do not qualify for the program, just means someone else will need to get signed up to be their caregiver.( your niece, neighbor or best friend etc.) get your parent or sibling signed up on Medicaid if they already are SWEET! you are one step ahead, call your case worker, if not once you are Medicaid approved they will set you up with a case worker, then the case worker will do an financial assessment either in-house or in office to see if you qualify (<2,000 income per month and less the 8,000 in assets. then a nurse will come to the house to do her assessment on the patient which includes: can take a bath/shower groom meds etc. for each task they need assistance with is added up in caregiver hours. That is submitted to an agency that is contracted with the state. You will then go to that agency and apply for that job with a reference number given to you by the nurse assessor. you will then be given a list of task and timed allowed work sheet mailed to your house (or caregivers address)twice a month, you fill that in each day and at the end of the pay period you and the person you are taking care of will sign it. mail that in and your check will be direct deposited or mail to you, you are paid minimum wage no raises vacation or pto (paid time off) two times a month. your nurse assessor will also let you know if you are eligible for home delivered meals, utility assistance, prescription assistance, medical bill assistance, food stamps, and many other programs they offer. now that is as clear as mudd, my heart and prayers go out to everyone that experiencing this emotional and physical hardship


over 5 years ago, said...

My family is getting older and their health is declining. This article helped me by informing me of things that we might need to do here in the near future. This just gave us some other options. Thank you,


over 5 years ago, said...

i have a son live in FORT COLLIN,CO .been taking care of his girfrend and her son the past 7 years .been a year now she get more sick ,he has to take more time of to take care of her .his has not made enough money to make the house payment,i will tell him about your article so they can find help. thamk you may the LORD BLESS YOUR WORK.


over 5 years ago, said...

my mother in law is going to need care and she wants me to do the care for her, but how do you get paid to take care of her?


over 5 years ago, said...

As allways, well done and helpful Dan


over 5 years ago, said...

Not sure if anyone will read this or be able to help but figured I would give this a shot. I am trying to find out what options we have for my Father who is 59 years old and perm. disabled with a form of Muscular Dystrophy. He is single and lives alone, that is the first problem. He has fallen MANY times and is unable to get up, just the other night he was in the hallway for 12 hours before someone found him. I live about a hour away and we have other family members that check in on him but he can fall at any time. Besides the MD he has the signs of Alzheimer's as well which is in our family also. He lives off of social security and has Medicare which will not cover a in home aide. He does NOT qualify for Medi-cal either so we are not sure what to do right now. I am willing to quit my job to have him live with us but ultimately I cant afford it. Its very hard watching my dad go through this since he used to be so active and now he can barely move on his own. Any advise would be greatly appreciated and can be emailed to me at CnMSteffani@gmail.com Thank you once again.


over 5 years ago, said...

Well I am on a fixed income and my brother lives with me. He fell and broke his hip and is now out of rehab and at home. My question is since I am doing all the care for him except his PT then why are we paying Home Health Care? The nurse comes once a week to check his surgery site and that is all I do the rest. Bath, feed, assist him in and out of walker and wheel chair and bed. I give him meds, do all his running. I have been trying to do small jobs to supplement my disability and now cannot do that since someone has to be here until he is well. How can I get paid for this?


over 5 years ago, said...

I am a very close friend of a woman recently diagnosed with dementia. She is currently being helped by a home care facility, 6 hrs. on week days and 4 hours on Sat. & Sun. This lady has no family except a niece who lives in another state. The niece has POA, etc. and is responsible for all the bills, caregivers, etc. I have been acting as coordinator for meds, help, household schedules, and other activities. I consider this woman to be my very good friend and want to help where I can. My question is, when the niece goes home, I will be asked to continue with coordinating lots of things. Shouln't I be compensated? I was considering asking the niece to pay me $100/week for my aid and work. What does everyone think about this. It has been taking anywhere from 1 hour/day to 4 hours/day. Thanks for your input.


over 5 years ago, said...

Those of you considering to put your loved one in a Nursing Home or Long Term Care Facility BEWARE: I was in a horrible car crash, I had over 18 nroken bones. I was in ICU for 2 weeks, I got a BEDSORE while there, even though they did take really good care of me!! The Hospital could not take care of me any more and said that I must go to a Nursing Home!! My Mom is a Nurse and was able to find a Physical Rehabilitation Hospital that could take me. I was completely tortured there!! I was bed ridden and they really took advantage of the situation. After so many bad things happened to me, I became very scared. I was in total fear of my life!! I actually thought that the Nurses were going to kill me!! This was not me being to paranoid. I had my wife calling up there every single day for many reasons. They would never give me my Pain Medicine when it was due and I was in very severe pain. I was truly abused in many ways there. I was only 35 years old and had a voice, but I was really afraid to use it. The only way I could let some steam off my chest or to let someone know what was going on was to talk to my wife. She would then call the Hospital immediately complaining. This only did some good. There was only one guy who treated me good there. I was never meen to anyone and never raised my voice to anyone. It actually became a race(or Ethnicity) issue ( I found out on the day I was leaving) Not an actual Sexist issue!! It took me allmost 3 years to finally get my Medicare. I have my wife take care of me full time and she cannot work due to my Full-Time-Care. We also have 2 Todllers (Which cost a lot of money) and I only receive 694.00 a month from Social Security. In the time waiting for my Disability and Medicare I lost everything I ever worked for. I am now around 40,000 in debt!! I live in Louisiana and there is not any way that I have found for her to get paid for helping me. I would rather DIE than to have anyone else ever "so called CARE for me" I still have nightmares from time to time of what they did to me in the Hospital. There's no way that I will let anyone try and take care of me. Unless I guess if I'm on my Death Bed. Oh yeah, I did talk to a Lawyer about what happened to me(not to try and get money out of them,but to help anyone else from this ever happening to them) The Lawyer(s) told me that since there were new laws passed recently that it has made it allmost impossible to do anything about what Hospitals can do to you!! I did file a complaint but nothing was really done!! If there is anyone that knows of anyway that she could get any type of money at all to help take care of me this help would be so greatly appreciated!!!!


over 5 years ago, said...

do not fear people , in 2014 if and when obamacare kicks in , you will have nothing to fear because , the feds will start taking care of your family ! if the people are of no use to society and cannot produce anything ! then they will be sent to fema camps to be put to sleep ! that's why so many conservative people were griping about obamacare because the law allows state people to come and take your family members and get rid of them ! now you liberals know why i despise your evil ways ! and i hope to God obamacare is repealed once the voting is done in november ! because if it isn't then it will be enforced in 2014 ! so don't be a fool and vote for reid or obama , because if you do ! you have nobody to blame but yourself ! may God help this nation !


over 5 years ago, said...

Thank you very much for all your stories and encouragement.


over 5 years ago, said...

I am disabled on kidney dialysis I have feveloped bone disease & cannot walk without help now I'm always in pain:( my boyfriend/fiance does a lot helps me to and from treatments goes to get food, does most of my house cleaning or helps me when I do it or cooking, he is also on disabilitu but mostly for bi polar ect, can he receive benifits(pay) for my care without losing his disability?


over 5 years ago, said...

Hello my name is Jenniefer. I reside in Indiana and my mother has cancer. She has a feeding tube and a port and a trach(new this week) plus she had to have a full tooth extraction. She needs fed every 4 hours and 3 of 4 meds are every six hours and the other one is due every eight. I can't work because I am her sole care giver and I was just wondering if by being a resident of Indiana and having to care for her 24/7 if there was a program here that would pay me to be giving her that care since as I said I can't work at all while doing this. I have rent to pay and other bills that I can no longer afford because of me not being able to work. If I lose my home then there is no where for her to go but a medical ficility and she is so afraid of going to one she has a panic attack when she thinks about it. I just want to be able to care for her the way she has cared for me all my life but I need some sort of income to do so. She fortunately was just approved for Medicaid yesterday so that will help with her medical bills and her meds but we are still stuck with the other bills we have. Any help or information would be a huge help. Please help us. Thank you.


over 5 years ago, said...

Our system is broke. It is designed that if you work hard all of your life, save your money but not enough money to buy a insurance policy, you will have to use up all your assets, even though they were saved for your retirement...to help you live when you can't work. Live it up, spend every last cent you earn having a awesome and fun time..travel and see the world and when you become sick or your loved one, let the state pay the way.


over 5 years ago, said...

I have been caring for my mother 24/7 since September 2008. She is completely dependent upon me. I do not want to place her in a state retirement home and she absolutely does not want to go to one. She is happy that I prepare her meals, make sure she takes her medicine on time, physically lift her into the bathtub to bathe her everyday due to incontenence and change her clothes at least twice per day, take her to the restroom many times per day and night, vacumm, mop, wash the dishes, take her to all her doctor's appointments, etc. She loves being able to stay at home. I was glad when I read on your website that there was a way for relatives who were caregivers to receive a small but regular payment for their work since the time and energy burden is enormous. I wanted to make sure that this program was used in our area so I called a local company that provides nurses and assistants to the elderly and asked them if they knew of the program. The representative told me "Yes, many people in Odessa get payment through the state for providing care to their relatives. It saves the state money and provides a means for the consumer to stay happy and in their own home." So, I called my mother's case worker at the Department of Health and Human Services in Odessa, Texas on February 24, 2012 and told her my request. I asked to schedule and assessment for my mother's in-home care needs. The case worker took my name, number and said she would "check on it" and call me back in "3 hours." When she called me back she curtly told me that I could "NOT be the paid in-home caregiver" because being a paid caregiver only covers "unmet need" and since I am already here and already doing everything for my mother there is "no unmet need." This answer sounds like some kind of a twist on a loophole and it sounds odd. Has anyone else had this response? What now? Just wondering.


over 5 years ago, said...

i take care of my dad and i need help


almost 6 years ago, said...

Hi...I have my mother-in-law that has a son with Cerebral Palsy. She needs to quit her job, so she can take care of him. Can she receive any kind of financial compensation for doing this? I would appreciate any help for anyone that could send me in the right direction! Thank You!


almost 6 years ago, said...

Hello Sheila, Thank you for sharing your caregiving challenges with us. I'm sorry to hear about the negative experience you and your loved one have had with the nursing home. We encourage anyone who's had a first hand experience with a skilled nursing facility to write a business review in our Senior Care Directory: http://www.caring.com/review_submissions/new?utm_source=community You can may learn more about our Ratings and Reviews program here: http://www.caring.com/about/review_guidelines.html If you plan to bring your mother back to your personal home and are seeking to hire professional caregivers to help with your mom at home, you may search in our Senior Care Directory at www.caring.com/local You may also find organizations that provide benefits and pay for caregivers taking care of their loved one in the article above. I hope this information is helpful to you and your family in your quest for information about taking care of your mother at home. Kind regards, -Sho from the Caring Community Team


almost 6 years ago, said...

My mother is in a nursing care facility, locally...Over the last year and a half we have seen some real unfortunate abuse in this nursing home. We have tried to work with the local Ombutsman and state and seemingly the system is truly screwed up.. We visited her on Valentines Day and found a pillow soaked with who know's what and brought it to the attention of the Administrator. My sister was appalled at the unclean pillow that for who knows how long she has had to lay on it...the food was horrible, my mother was dressed way to cold for her age, and the list goes on... and we as a family met last night and decided to let some family members that have opened their home to let her come and stay with them. She will be so delighted when she is released from this care facility...My question is, what programs are out there for the couple who will be sharing in the responsibility of their grandmother. Please correspond to my requests as soon as possible. Our projected time of bring her home is March 17th. Thank you for any assistance or information that you will be able to give light on this situation... Frustrated, Shelia


almost 6 years ago, said...

Wow, nice collection! Thanks for sharing! Keep up the good work.


almost 6 years ago, said...

If anyone resides in the Dallas/Fort Worth Area of Texas and is interested in being a caregiver for a loved one on Medicaid, please contact our company


almost 6 years ago, said...

We have a very experienced Professional Referral that has been helping Children for many years get paid for assisting their parents. They have a Medicaid Specialist on staff along with an Attorney and an Elder Planner. They are well versed in this area and know how to use a Personal Service contract to derive the most benefit for the family member.


almost 6 years ago, said...

Home health agencies take half of the aide's hourly pay, this is why there is such a high turnover rate. The aides themselves are poor making 8.00/hr with very low hours. Most home health care aides are on food stamps, medicaid and welfare because the work is inconsistant and low paying.


almost 6 years ago, said...

what if all your LO has is medicare. and can't get medicard..??


almost 6 years ago, said...

My husband is physically disabled which causes to where I cant work. Who do I contact inorder to get paid to take care of him?


almost 6 years ago, said...

my 28 year old daughter recieves ssi..she is a diagnosed schizophrenic ..she lives at home with me. i work, but have had to have my hours cut , i now work 25 hours weekly at minimum wage. the job i work is close to home so i can be there if there is an episode..its getting more difficult to for me to work with her condition, i live in pa. and my question ..is there any financial help for me as her care giver..


almost 6 years ago, said...

need more hints about heart disease , and the foods i can eat and should not eat


almost 6 years ago, said...

does any one know what the lfa or lha stands for an the licensing process


almost 6 years ago, said...

KLS, I do agree that medicare recipients need more help than they are getting for assistance with home care, but to state that anyone on medicaid didn't pay into the system and is not entitled to assistance is simply untrue. I worked hard all my life. An accident off the job, an employer who couldn't wait to get rid of me so I no longer had disability benefits or medical insurance, the realization, after two years of fighting the obvious, that I could no longer work, and then add to that trying to care for two elderly parents. I am in the process of losing my home and most everything else I have, and eventually I will qualify for medicaid.


almost 6 years ago, said...

You have to be careful when hiring an individual. IRS (and the State of CA), both want payroll taxes and w-2's at year's end.


almost 6 years ago, said...

This type of help and assistance for family members should not just be available for Medicaid patients. Fact is, those on Medicare are the ones that have worked and paid in taxes and not those receiving Medicaid. Help those that have worked to provide for all. This is ridiculous not to provide for Medicare patients.


almost 6 years ago, said...

Hello Everyone, I am taking care of My Mom & have been since 2009. I have been going through some Health Problems Myself so I am unable to work at this time. I was wondering whom I can get intouch with to find out if I can get paid for being a Caregiver for My Mom. I live in the state of Georgia U.S.A. I don 't trust Anyone to take Care of Her except for Me. She is also a Person with Low Income. If You can Help Me Thanks Very Much. God Bless Each & Everyone that is Helping their Family Members through this difficult time.


almost 6 years ago, said...

Just everything available on your Site , I find helpful. Thank you for it. I have Friends who are doing this Job and not sure they know re. getting pd. for it? EA


almost 6 years ago, said...

Find out if person you're caring for has any type of long term health care policy. Not everyone has long term included. In my father's instance, he purchased a separate long term policy that we knew as a nursing home policy. Dad can't live alone, so my brother has lived with and cared for him for the past few years. Due this, brother is unable to work. I'm just now finding out Dad's policy will pay $30/day to the caregiver. I haven't looked into yet the requirements or details for my brother. Now it's taking all my time and efforts as we recently had to put Mom in the local nursing home.


about 6 years ago, said...

Please direct me to Florida Resources for a Cash and Counseling or similar program that would allow me to care for my 43 year old wife who was recently diagnosed with Stage 4 adenocarcinoma rectum (Colon Cancer) She has been approved for Temporary Medicaid in the State of FL but I believe the recent diagnosis will change that to permanent. I am our only source of income and self employed but the change in the economy has left me barley able to pay bills and now this. After being together for 16+ years we unfortunately have no children and having lost my mother to a drug overdose she is all I have left. Please, someone help me...


about 6 years ago, said...

For the person who "could have" gotten help through Veteran's Assistance, don't sweat it. It takes MONTHS & MONTHS, which I personally feel is deliberate because I've known of three people who have tried to get on the program and all passed away before ever being approved, even though the amount quoted them was no more than $200 - $300 a month. You'd think the VA was handing out gold bars the way they're so tight with any help they MIGHT have given.


about 6 years ago, said...

I take care of my mom,I have no income.my mom has been paying for everything I need since I cannot work and live with my mom.If I see my Dr. it's 15.00$ every visit and since i don't have medicaid or income I have no way of paying for anything it's on my mom.I am in the process of Disability, I have a premature bladder and a 3 intch tear in my 4th 5th and 6th Lumbar,I have no way of paying for back sugery or bladder surgery to stretch my bladder from the inside,since I am in the bathroom 38 or more times a day.I struggle to sleep which is impossable since I am in the bathroom all day and night long,My mom doesn't go to bed until 1 am or 2 am in the morning I sit up with her worried she may fall,I am exsausted with barely no sleep.I keep on because my mom needs me and I love and care for my mom.


about 6 years ago, said...

Symptoms of sundowning and pay for in-home caregiver were most helpful.....exactly what I was looking for.


about 6 years ago, said...

Thank you never knew I could get help by being paid to take care of my mom.


about 6 years ago, said...

I'm 62,i quit my full time job back in 2000, to take care of my handicap son, things were fine til 2009, they cut my hours down, now oct, 1st this year i also had to take a 20% cut in pay. I'm to old to go out a get a job. why are they doing this to familys that take care of there own and know what they need and whats best & good for them !!!!!!!


about 6 years ago, said...

I sold my home and moved to Ohio to take care of my86 year old brother.his children live out of state. they were planning on putting him in a nursing home. but he did not want to go. thry are 2 of them makes over$100,000 a year.they never offered me a dime-to take care of their father.i was with hime 24 /7, took him for all his appointments, hospitals day or night.he had no money , i never got paid for anything.all they could say was thank you for taking care of Dad. i did it for 37 months,i had another brother there that went with us to the doctors but i had to clean his s--- when he had diariah.but he told us a week before he died with pneumonia that he had a million dollar policy paid up, and he said it will be divided 4 ways, do you think i got any of that for taking care of him. i think they got it and is not going to let me know about it..all my family is against them the way they done me, cause all his friends and my family knows how good i was to take care of him. he did not want to live with any of them, he was happy at my place.i had one week of vacation in 37 months.his daughter came and stayed that week and when i called her 50 miles away and told her i would be home in an hour, well Lord behold when i got home she left him there and was on her way back to PA.she sure loved her father did'nt she. i think when they found out he did'nt leave any money,I always called them when i took him to the hospital but when he died last year , some of his friends and my friends said they could not believe the way they were at the funeral home. they was not around his casket hardly at all.and they are suppose to be so religious. he was so good to all of them.i loved my brother and i dont regret taking care of him. is their any way i could get money for the care that i gave him? even if it is to take them to court?all he had left was a building he rented and i collected all the rent and put it in his acct, but it went to his son,i used my time gas and all and was so truthful of everything i did for him.cooked , wash clothes, and made sure he had 3 meals a day.he liked a few weeks being 90 years old when he passed.he owed me some money that i had loaned him and you know i had to get me an attorney, but i havent got nothing from them yet,and i wont get it until the building sells. i am thru with them,i was always so close to them in fact i was their only aunt. they can all go straight to hell as far as i am concern.i am from a large family and they are all peeved about it.they just didn't want to keep him as they all went on vacations and didn't have to do anything for him.he was a retired CHIEF IN THE NAVY. but he never did ask them for a dime, but they are money hungry. i would like to know how i can find out if they got that million dollar policy. it was to be devided 4 ways, he has 3 kids, and i told him that he only had 3 kids he said but i want it devided 4 ways cause you are the one that took care of me. but he was doing fine the evening before he died, his daughter had him moved to a private room so she could spend more time with him, he was in intensive care and the next morning he died at 6 in the morning,i was his power of atty at the va hosp.so how could she have done that? i think she had her mind on the million and wanted him to go.so she could collect it.well if you could please let me know what i can do. he was on oxygen in intensive csre so when he moved he did not have oxygen, i miss him very very much.cause i loved my brother very much.more then her.


about 6 years ago, said...

Medicare patients (people who obviously have worked all their life) cannot get in home care but Medicaid ones can. These people will be on the back of taxpayers all of their lives, most of them having practiced bad lifestyles, smoking, drinking etc while NOT WORKING and they get special treatment? I live next door to such people, they never miss a visit to the doctor if they sneeze twice, free drugs, dental care, surgeries for knee, hip replacement, etc, food stamps, section 8, there is not a handout they don't like. And now their relatives can get on the bandwagon with them. There is such abuse of this system that it needs to be overhauled ASAP. And doctors love it, especially now that insurance companies are paying less and less. They know that all of the often unnecessary care they are providing will be paid pronto, no questions asked. They can even pad the bill because who will know? certainly not the patient who never even sees the bill.


about 6 years ago, said...

I'm a caregiver of a senior in California and he's on Social Security and Medicare. He's not eligible for Medicaid. I've been taking care of him since 2004 full time and he has a bevy of health issues. He's low income as well. I wanted more information on how I would be able to get paid as a caregiver. Thank you!


about 6 years ago, said...

Hello to everyone.I am the caregiver of my 76 yr old mother who had a stroke and now paralyzed. I get paid for about 90 hours per month. To contact and inquire this State agency, please Google and type the word IHSS, (In Home Supportive Services) State of CA. You will see the different regions in CA that services this program. A Social Worker will be assigned to process your case. Once approved, you will received a bi-monthly check directly for IHSS deposited to your bank account. Good Luck.


about 6 years ago, said...

Excellent article. I serve as a Facilitator under the Elderly and Disabled with Consumer Directed Services Waiver here in VA. The waiver in Virginia is just the name for the funding source but covers the same services. To obtain information in VA you can contact your local DSS or Health Department. Any person can receive payment as long as they are not legally responsible to provide care such as a mother to a minor child.


about 6 years ago, said...

Very informative.to those who does self home caregivers to thier elderly.


about 6 years ago, said...

Hello, 19 years ago I had open heart surgery, 5 by-pass, 17 years ago I received a stent, I have diabetes, I am retired 6 years and continue to work, part time. Come on america, in Japan, China and Philappines they look after there own with out hand outs, take charge and figure out a way of providing. I know of a 475 lb person who is diabetic, smoke 3 packs a day, has COPD, and is on medicaid because she is to lazy to take care of her self, this is BS. Sorry, I could go on but it is the truth, every one wants a hand out.


about 6 years ago, said...

In home cair .I have a sister that is caired for by her children.They know that the home will be taken from them if there mother is placed in a home.


about 6 years ago, said...

So, if you get Medicare you don't qualify to have someone look after you. Only those in low income. I pity them because why didn't they work, when they were young, so now they get free care; while we have to pay out of our own pockets, if we need someone to look after us.


about 6 years ago, said...

My family went though much of parents' assets to pay my sister to care for my mother, who had MS and was bed bound, and my dad, who had dementia. He was a veteran.Worked as a surgeon in the South Pacific for five years during World War II. I now find out that we could have had some assistance from the Veterans' Admnistration. Would have been helpful since we have a brother with a lifelong illness. For all their yammering about poltiicial issues, the government is inept at communicating about what assistance people can receive, though very good at collecting taxes year after year. Tax reform is needed. You should be able to deduct every cent you spend on a family member's care and the equivalent of the salary you have given up to care for them. I have a friend who has two children with bipolar disorder and cannot work as an attorney. The family has severe costs for caring for them, but not a penny of help.


about 6 years ago, said...

i wish to seek help for my mom so that the state could make an exception for her, so i can serve my disable mother, without a language barrier. How can i contact the state in state of GA? A contact number please.


about 6 years ago, said...

Hi I am interested in giving home care but have no idea how to start , any ideas on how to start . I am very good with people most of all old. Please let me know of any ways to go about it and to get paid. THANKS


about 6 years ago, said...

Hello, Maybe I can help someone where to LOOK for the Family paid caregiver plan...I live in California and found my contact through IHSS, under government. They will have a social worker come to your home to access your family member and home to see how they can HELP you. My daughter will be signing up for this program shortly to help out her ole mom here. IHSS stands for IN HOME SOCIAL SERVICES. Atleast this is the name they gave it in California. Hope this can help anyone....


about 6 years ago, said...

Hey everyone, I just wanted to remind you that there is a lot of great information on this very article about how to get paid to be a caregiver. If you have further questions about eligibility on getting paid to be a caregiver for your situation, please contact your local Area Agency on Aging ( http://www.caring.com/local/area-agency-on-aging ) and see if they know of any programs that can be of assistance. If you are asking about getting paid to pay for someone under the age of 65, unfortunately we have no expertise or information on this topic. Take care -- Emily | Community Manager


about 6 years ago, said...

my brother is 55 his wife no longer wants to care for him,, he get social security because he has had open heart surgeries, stoke diabeties. he has a a leg halo becasue he has had surgery on his heel because of a dibeic sore, , he can;t walk or care for his self i care for him in my home,, can i get paid to care for him,., PLEAQSE ANU COMMENTS WOULD BE APPRECIATED,


about 6 years ago, said...

hello . i am caring for my pattener . that is disable. can i get paid to stay at home with him ? he is 64 and i work 36 hours a week .


about 6 years ago, said...

I was wondering is Medicade the only adgency that helps with giving help to care givers to get paid for their elderly senior or someone who is disabled in the family. I am a care giver not just to my Husband but also to my children who are on medicade. My husband has MS and Fibermialga and is almost blind, and my daughter has Fibermialga but is recieving ssi and ssa because of Bipolar and Sckitsafrinia and my Son recently broke his neck in july 2 of 2010. He did not sever his spine just Brused it but still has much physical ailments that prevent him from doing some things he use to do.


about 6 years ago, said...

This is a follow up from my previous post. When posting on this site for medicaid elder care. I would post your state, as the elder care programs thru medicaid varies from state to state. The state my mom lives in is OHIO. We met with a caseworker this past week. Who evaluated my moms situation. Even though my mom lives with my sister there was no assistance offered to my sister for taking care of my mom. However, she said they could offer to pay for someone to stay with my mom while she works. The program that she offered was called "CHOICES". She said we would have to wait 3 months to get on the program. She did ask if there was anything that we wanted for my mom. I told her that we needed to pay someone to watch my mom at night. Why do the caseworkers not say these are the programs that you are eligible for? There might have been a program that we wanted to sign up for but have never heard of. So if you are in the state of OHIO contact the passport program and ask to sign up for the "CHOICES" program. As with any medicaid program. Medicaid may attach a lien to your property when your loved one passes. So be sure to check on that possible situation.


about 6 years ago, said...

I already visited that site (http://www.caring.com/local/area-agency-on-aging). It didn't have the information I'm looking for. When my husband became disabled, I was looking for work. I stopped looking because he needs me to stay at home to care for him and ride him to his medical appointments (at least one per week). I am no longer available for work outside the home. We really need the money, and I'm trying to find out if there is any way I can be compensated for being a caregiver for my husband.


about 6 years ago, said...

good info, as caregiver of parent with Altzheimers, it would help with the day to day care as she lives with me. I will go through Dept of aging here in Oregon to see if she qualifies for Relative Foster Care.


about 6 years ago, said...

Explanation of Cash and Counseling. States currently using it.


about 6 years ago, said...

Hello - My wife is totally disabled. I have been unemployed for almost 2 years and have been able to care for her. I heard it was possible to receive some sort of compensation for doing so. How would I go about doing this? Thank you.


about 6 years ago, said...

hi i have clicked on all the links still no answers on how exactly get income for taking care of my 87 yr old mom she has medicare ssincome but doesn't directly help me she's very forgetful and we always payin for her meds and all the daily extra's ....every link brings me back to same page that isn't helpful at all.


about 6 years ago, said...

I would like more info on this subject. Thanks


over 6 years ago, said...

Information on options I didn't realize were even available.


over 6 years ago, said...

I already visited that site (http://www.caring.com/local/area-agency-on-aging). It didn't have the information I'm looking for. When my husband became disabled, I was looking for work. I stopped looking because he needs me to stay at home to care for him and ride him to his medical appointments (at least one per week). I am no longer available for work outside the home. We really need the money, and I'm trying to find out if there is any way I can be compensated for being a caregiver for my husband.


over 6 years ago, said...

How to go about payment for being a caregiver to my mom.


over 6 years ago, said...

I live in Ohio. My mom currently receives medicare and medicaid. My mom is 84, blind, diabetic, kidney failure, and dementia. I would like to know if there is a program that will pay family members to care for my mom. If so who should I contact? She already has a case worker at job and family services. Wouldn't they have already recommend a program for her. Since it is pretty evident that she can not be left alone? Or is it that her case worker is not doing their job?


over 6 years ago, said...

Hello Anonymous, Thank you very much for your comment. There is a lot of great information in this very article about how to get paid to be a caregiver. In addition, please contact you local Area Agency on Aging for more information ( http://www.caring.com/local/area-agency-on-aging ). I hope that helps get you started. Good luck!! -- Emily | Community Manager


over 6 years ago, said...

This article would have been more helpful if it told me how to apply for benefits.


over 6 years ago, said...

If it told me how to apply for benefits.


over 6 years ago, said...

I live in Baltimore County, Maryland. I heard that I can get paid by the government for taking care of my disabled husband. Is this true, and if so, through what agency. Can I apply online?


over 6 years ago, said...

Hi, My husband and I moved to a 55+ community in Florida..In our park there was an 88 year old woman living by herself with her dog (which she loved). My husband realized that she had no one. All her siblings died and all she has is nieces and nephews that she has not seen in 50 years. My husband and I would go and get her groceries, take her to the doctors and take her dog to the vets and to get groomed. We never charged her anything because we didnt want to feel like we were taking advantage of her. One day she came out of house and fell and broke her hip. My husband and I have stayed with her thru the whole illnesses and we are still taking care of her. She is in a nursing home and getting below standards of care. We went in one day and she looked flush. She kept grabbing her throat when she would swallow. I told my husband she was in alot of pain. He told the people to take her vitals. (he has medical and durable power of attorney). He pays her bills and makes decisions on her health care. He called 911 and had the ambulance pick her up and bring her to the hosp. When she got there they catherized her and her urine turned a light color of green and was real thick. The nurse said she had a severe UTI. They did an EKG and her heart was beating at 165 beats per minute. They put her on an IV drip to lower it and on an antibiotic for the UTI. She was in severe pain from thrush mouth. She had not eaten or drank for two weeks (just a small amount to keep her alive) She was severely dehydrated to a point they had a hard time getting a vein. We travel everyday; sometime twice a day to see her. It is 50miles round trip. We are remodeling our home so she will have a bedroom. We want to bring her home with us and get a full time caregiver to take care of her. Over the course of taking care of her we have learned that she has quite a bit of money which is going to the nieces and nephew she does not know. They found out that they are in the will and are making a trip to florida to get the details of her will. My question is; as care givers can we be reimbursed (legally) for our remodeling and her care in our home. I would not even ask for money, but why should her relatives get it all and they have done nothing but come to ck our her will. My husband can write cks to pay for her expenses as far as bills. She is now so confused, she would not be competent enough to change her will. So they will inherit anything that is left over. Please let me know if it is possible for us to get reimbursed our expenses and time. We love her and will take care of her for free if we have to do that. If it was her going to profit from her money I would not charge her a penny, but I dont want her ingreatful relatives to get it. One nephew had nerve enough to call us and ask if we had her will in order because he didnt want to waste time and money to come here if he was not going to get any money. Makes me sick. She is still alive. Hope u can help us with some answers


over 6 years ago, said...

All information was helpful. Can you give any information about what Tricare for Life can do for us? Thank you, Justme2


over 6 years ago, said...

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over 6 years ago, said...

My Grandmother's niece (60) has taken care of her for 7 years. She kinda of just went in and took control. Never really asked for any other family member's opinion. She has power of attorney and coerced my Grandmother to pay for very expensive things like: facelift, entire mouth full of dental implants for herself"¦ then she's gotten her to change her will among other questionable things. However, my Grandmother appears well cared for but is now having memory problems/possible early stage dementia.. so she will be put in a nursing home soon, which I hate. Is it wrong for me to be angry that since she is taking care of her she feels entitled? I would like an inheritance but to tell you the truth, I have done well. It is more the manipulation by a family member. My sister and I are her only grandchildren. My father was her only son and he died when I was 16. If you can't trust your family who can you trust? I hope my sister and I deal with my Mother fairly.


over 6 years ago, said...

I was taking care of my grandmother and was getting paid 125 per day shift. She is now being moved to a assisted living facility, and to find more work I am using ifindcare.com


over 6 years ago, said...

My 20 year old nephew is permanently disabled (as a result of a drunk driver)...are there means by which long term financial support can be supplied without jeopardizing state (PA) and or federal assistance?


over 6 years ago, said...

Have a severely Autistic son now 21 who needs constant care, wears diapers, needs food prepared for him, etc. He is non verbal and receives a small SS stipend each month. We live extremely remote here in California,.. 1/2 hour to a paved road and either my wife or I have to stay home to care for him. My wife has a part time job part of the year and I am unemployed and have been for three years,..Im 60,.. we are approaching insolvency within a few months. I am looking to see if there is any program anywhere that can help with costs. My wife and I will die if he has to be institutionalized because we cant afford housing or food for him. We own our own home and we have two vehicles so we do not qualify for any aid form the state. Any ideas? Thank you in advance. Tim


over 6 years ago, said...

Hello kayepeanyc, Thank you for your comment. I'm sorry to hear about your current care giving situation. If you have a question, you can post it in our Ask & Answer section, here: http://www.caring.com/ask . Take care -- Emily | Community Manager


over 6 years ago, said...

Since my dad passed away about 1 1/2 years ago I've been caring for my 85-year-old mom's day-to-day needs. My sister (who lives in California) and I consult regularly on how to keep Mom safe and healthy in her own home. Because of the time it has taken to wrap up my father's estate, and to work on an ongoing basis with lawyers, bankers, doctors, medical and and homeowners insurance, repairmen, etc., I've been unable to work full-time. I currently work a regular part-time job and do freelance work. I want to ask my mom to pay me for helping her part-time but feel awkward. But I can barely pay my bills and can't get ahead; I'm really concerned about not being able to save. She does have the money to pay me. Any suggestions on how to broach this topic would be most helpful.


over 6 years ago, said...

very helpful article


over 6 years ago, said...

Hi Anonymous, thanks for your comment. If you'd like, you can post your question in our Ask & Answer section, here: ( http://www.caring.com/ask ). Take care -- Emily | Community Manager


over 6 years ago, said...

Im taking care of my mother,she has Alzheimer's & Dementia,but Ive been told that when she goes in to full time care , I have to get out of the house .Is there any way I can stop where im at,even if I pay a minim rent or mortgage on the property. I would grateful if some one could have a answer to my problem .


over 6 years ago, said...

I have a 22 yr old son that has major TBI. He needs 24 hr supervision. I live in Louisiana, he receives medicade and foodstamps. Is there anything else that we can do for help with supervision?


over 6 years ago, said...

Reatta, Does your lawyer specialize in Eldercare? In Ohio, the Ohio Office of Job and Family Services handles the PASSPORT program and MEDICAID. Passport helps the elderly to stay in their home longer. HOWEVER, both PASSPORT and MEDICAID will attempt to recover money for any services given after the person passes away. http://aging.ohio.gov/services/passport/ So you need to talk to the lawyer to see what your options are. If your mother still owns her house or money, she can give you some of it, however, it is within the 5 years before you request assistance, Medicaid (& Passport) will consider that in appropriate transfer of money. They will start the service after your mom spends that amount of $ for her care. Find out from the lawyer what would be best in your situation. You can also pay for a social worker who specializes in geriatrics who would be able to tell you what resources are available. I was lucky when I was searching for a nursing home, a social worker gave me a list of services that was available. She had formerly worked for Ohio Job and Family Services. Each county handles their own services.


over 6 years ago, said...

There are over 400 ILCs or Centers for Independent Living serving persons with disabilities around the country. To find your LOCAL center, please check this website: http://www.ilru.org/html/publications/directory/index.html. Your local center should be able to provide info., advocacy and some housing related services for you. These are generally core services for ILCs, all provide them in some form - even if it's just info. on how things work in your area. Ed Roberts, one of the founders of the Independent Living Movement for people with disabilities, was once asked about the most important service an ILC provides, and said it was: "advocacy, advocacy, advocacy." I think this is a good reminder that none of these programs, the Rehabilitation Act of 1973 and 78, the ADA (1990), etc., were implemented without a lot of advocacy and activism from our community. It sounds like more advocacy is very much needed from what many of you are writing here. I am sorry I don't know the programs and rules in your state. Each state also has something called a State Independent Living Council, a SILC, to help people with disabilities & advocate for programs and services for us to remain safe and independent at home. If you can't reach someone at your local ILC, use the same website to contact your SILC & find out why there aren't more of these programs and services where YOU need them. Good Luck.


over 6 years ago, said...

What about OHIO? Seems like everything on here deals with CA, PA, FL, etc. I take care of my diabetic Mom 24/7 and don't get paid but a friend told me the state should be helping. She said to contact our attorney about it but the attorney's office is helping Mom apply for survivor's VA benefits but we don't have an answer yet on that. In the meantime, who can I contact to see if I can receive some kind of financial help in caring for Mom? I don't get any breaks, vacations, etc., so would appreciate help financially. Thanks!


over 6 years ago, said...

I believe there are some Community Development Block Grant (federal) funds that can support modifications to make people's homes more accessible, and I know of ILCs in California, plus other agencies that do this, or that may be able to refer you to other agencies that do. The need is almost always greater than the available funding. You might want to contact your local ILC and ask if there's a housing modifications or assistive technology specialist who would know how to access these funds in your area. See my earlier post for the link to find your closest ILC.


over 6 years ago, said...

My Mom ended up in ICU in January of 2011 with pnuemonia also has copd and emphasima. She needed around the clock care for the first 3 months home from hospital. She is doing much better,Off the cigarettes, still using oxygen and has a walker.My Father on the other hand has had 3 heart surgeries and 1 heart attack.,he has been trying to take care of my mother before January. My husband and I moved them both into our home and remodeled the basement just for them. It has the handicapped bathroom and all needed facilities.Is any of this a tax right off for us in the state of pennsylvania


over 6 years ago, said...

There is nothing in these articles that are helpful to any one,


over 6 years ago, said...

gave information I have been searching for a long time - and all in one place! Thank you, you rock!


over 6 years ago, said...

Those of you who are asking about applying for payment for caring for a low income senior or person with disabilities might also want to contact your local Independent Living Center & speak to a benefits counselor or personal care/attendant care specialist. You can find your local ILC/CIL here: http://www.ilru.org/html/publications/directory/index.html. In California, where I work at such a center, only folks with full Medi-Cal (no share of cost) are now eligible to be awarded a certain number of hours per month in subsidized care. The hours awarded are based on an evaluation of the person's functional limitations on various ADLs (Activities of Daily Living). Providers must pass a background check. Some providers may even qualify for other benefits in addition to wages. Counties differ as do states, so that's why it's best to talk to someone locally. Another good resource on this might be your local SHIP agency, which counsels folks with Medicare (they tend to know a bit about Medicaid too). The statewide SHIP number - it's called HICAP here in California - is 800-434-0222. I do know of cases in which care providers were paid retroactively while applications were pending (here the program is called In Home Support Services), but not of any cases where a person could be paid after the person had passed. Also, although I work at an ILC, I am not a specialist on the In Home Support Service program. Good luck.


over 6 years ago, said...

Hello jtmiller, thank you very much for your comment. Unfortunately our expertise is in eldercare and we do not have resources about how to be a caregiver for a disabled adult. I wish you the best of luck with your search. Take care -- Emily | Community Manager


over 6 years ago, said...

i live in volusia county Florida. i quit my job in 06 to take care of my handicapped brother who could not do much of anything. he passed awy in the end of 09. i was wondering if theres anyway i may be compensted for that time. i put my life on hold. i insisted but during that time i had no money coming in to myself. ive already worked 40 credits from 18-26. will the government or state or irs backpay me in any way.i now have nothing and am extremely close to being homeless. i practicly am. im 32 and cant find work. too longof gap since last job i beleieve. please somebody help answer my question. r.i.p. to my lil brother. i miss you as well as your son.you are an angel


over 6 years ago, said...

im 40 years old and i live in long island new york im unable to work because im a full time care giver for my 2 mentally incapasatated siblings and a mother who just had 1 lung removed. I need to know if I can get paid for this by the state of new york. If anyone has any informative information please let me know thank you so very much


over 6 years ago, said...

Hello lawton84, Thank you very much for your comment. There is a lot of great information in this very article about how to get paid to be a caregiver. In addition, please contact you local Area Agency on Aging for more information ( http://www.caring.com/local/area-agency-on-aging ). I hope that helps get you started. Good luck!! -- Emily | Community Manager


over 6 years ago, said...

i live in nassau county florida i live with and take care of my grandparents i love them to death but its hard for me to work with taking care of them. I not trying to take advantage of the system or anthing i just want to know if i can get some money for taking cae of them so i can pay my bills and help them get the things they need throught the month that they cant afford because they only get a certain amount of money each month and i was also wondering if they money comes out of there check so if any one knows where i can go for help please let me know thanks


over 6 years ago, said...

I know a couple of people that get these checks for taking care of a parent and the minute the check comes in they spend it on alcohol and drugs. And the parent they are supposed to be taking care of see them maybe once a week.


over 6 years ago, said...

Hello mooncharms, Thank you very much for your comment. If you'd like, you can post your question in our Ask & Answer section, here: ( http://www.caring.com/ask ). Take care -- Emily | Community Manager


over 6 years ago, said...

Does this apply for residents of GUAM as well?


over 6 years ago, said...

Hi SpikeTDog, Thank you for your question. Unfortunately, our expertise is elder care and we do not have knowledge or resources about other types of caregiving, but I wish you the best of luck in finding your answer. Take care -- Emily | Community Manager


over 6 years ago, said...

My step son has Huntington's Disease and has been declared disabled by Social Security. He receives SSI. I am his 24/7 caregiver at home. I am retired and on Social Security. Would I be qualified for caregiver payments if he is on Medicare and not Medicaid?


over 6 years ago, said...

Hi omaoma38, Thank you for your comment. Unfortunately, it's not always an easy task to locate members. However, if you'd like to learn more about being a caregiver, you can input your location and find your local Area Agency on Aging ( http://www.caring.com/local/area-agency-on-aging ) I hope that helps get you started. Good luck!! -- Emily | Community Manager


over 6 years ago, said...

This site needs to direct family members to the exact site/per location like the state they live in and what dept to contact to start the application. Caregivers are under alot of pressure daily and the financial burden is huge. YYouneed to make this easier.


over 6 years ago, said...

Hello JohnnyMac420, Thank you for your question. If you'd like to learn more about how to get paid to be a caregiver, please contact you local Area Agency on Aging ( http://www.caring.com/local/area-agency-on-aging ) I hope that helps get you started. Good luck!! -- Emily | Community Manager


over 6 years ago, said...

The answer is yes, if he/she is a veteran, spouse of a veteran, widow or widower of a veteran. The max benefit is just under $24,000 a year or about $1,950 a month for husband and wife.


over 6 years ago, said...

Hi...I've benn takin care of my quadrapledgic g/f since jan.6 , 2007......i would like to know if there are any ways in north carolina i can get compensated for this.....or if i would need to get a nursing degree or what......any info will help.....thank you.


over 6 years ago, said...

Hello starchild47, Thank you for your comment. To learn more about how to get paid to be a caregiver, contact you local Area Agency on Aging ( http://www.caring.com/local/area-agency-on-aging ) I hope that helps get you started. Good luck!! -- Emily | Community Manager


over 6 years ago, said...

I research these programs on line, but when I ask my local Welfare office about them, such as the one where family members can receive cash for caregiving, my local office says they never heard of it or don't know what I am talking about. Where else can I find out about these programs in my state of Georgia besides my hometown office?


over 6 years ago, said...

I wish I new about this before I had to put my dad in a home. And when I was careing for him at his home I had Dors come in to with nurses to assese him and asked if they was any way I could get paid to stay there and take care of him and there reply was " there is no agency in Rockford that will pay family members to stay home with there parents " I thought that does not make sense to me, but they will pay for out side people to come in and help and most people dont want strange people to come in there hosue they want family members.


over 6 years ago, said...

Hi anonymous, Thank you for your comment. I'm so sorry to hear about the difficult situation you are in. Have you even looked into in-home care? You can learn more about what in-home care is and even search for agencies in you area here: ( http://www.caring.com/local/in-home-care ). In addition, there is a lot of great information in this article about how to get paid to be a caregiver, that you may also find helpful. Take care -- Emily | Community Manager


over 6 years ago, said...

in jan 29 2009, my wife was in ahorrible car accident thank god for sparing he life, she has being suffering every since. from the accident they had to amputate her right leg. i took 3months out of work to take care of my wife. at that time there were no income coming . thank god for my stepdaughter with her help we got through. now my wife never recover to good after the accident shes going through mental illness and her healthis declining. my job clse up last year of 2110. what am to do drawing unemployment and she gets ssd which isnt much. i truely love my wife and its taking a toll on me it would be nice if could get some assitance to me to careof my wife. i dont want to put her a nhome. please give some advice.


over 6 years ago, said...

Hello ArtisticDye2­004, Thank you for your comment. There is a lot of great information in this very article about being paid to be a caregiver. In addition, this Ask & Answer page may be helpful: ( http://www.caring.com/questions/can-i-get-paid-to-be-a-family-caregiver ). For more information please contact your Area Agency on Aging ( http://www.caring.com/local/area-agency-on-aging ) and see if they know of any programs that can be of assistance. I hope that helps get you started. Good luck!! -- Emily | Community Manager


over 6 years ago, said...

At what point do we qualify for this??? Do my parents have to be bed ridden or just home bound. Dealing with a mother that has Osteoporisis, Sciatica Nerve issues and Emphseyma. My dad has very bad arthritis in his knees, prostate cancer, and beginning stages of memory loss. I took my dad off the road last September when I got laid off. They depend on me ALOT..from cooking their meals on the weekend, doing their laundry and food shopping and keeping up the yard, taking out the trash and etc. I can go out and work full time but I'm stuck betweeen a rock and a hard place. I feel at this point, that I should just take care of them and not rush going back, to work full time because God forbid if something happens, I'm running to them first.


over 6 years ago, said...

I get this service in alaska. It has been my only salvation as I don't drive yet need constant medical and other services. I got hurt in 2005 and for me it has been a death sentence. You never miss the water till the well runs dry! I'm so grateful that I have help plus dignity.


over 6 years ago, said...

My dad has congestive heart failure and mini strokes which effect his memory . I moved here from Texas. He gets medicare can I get paid for being his caregivier?


over 6 years ago, said...

We are taking care of a sister-in-law that is slowly going down the degenerative path of dimentia/alsheimers disease. Some folks call it "the long good bye"! That describes this horrible afflection very accurately! It destroys your good memories of your loved one, destroys their memories, destroys the patients health, and also eventually destroys the care givers good health! Your world closes down, almost as much as the patients! For those of you that have the time please investigate politicians like Kantor, Kyl, Gov. Warner, Gov Kasich, Gov, Christy, Gov. Daniels, and the Congressman from PA (I forget his name as I type) et al, All republicans, and all openly bragging about KILLING MEDICARE and MEDICAID! If MEDICAID is killed, there goes any help you may justifiably receive in your lonely battle with some of these cruel diseases! Find time to listen to them, pay attention, and if you do arrive at the same conclusion that we have, vote them out of office..forever! Its tough to take on another mental challenge, but, you have to protect yourself, and the one that you are protecting! They depend on you, and we depend on help from our government! If we can waste $10 BILLION a MONTH on 2 worthless wars, we can find the few millions that we spend here at home on unlucky loved ones, who, by the way, are American citizens! God bless the caregivers, every last one of them! In closing please become aware, many of our medical population, warn the dimentia/alsheimers disease will within a short 20 years will be the #1 killing disease in America!


over 6 years ago, said...

I am not totally disabled but it would be a great help to me to have someone I trust in my home to help me with paperwork and othe things. I already pay a house cleaner. Could this additional person be my sister who has no income? and is 7 yrs younger than me. I am 71. I've fallen several times over the last couple of years.


over 6 years ago, said...

i have a grandmother at home who is very old and needs alot of care...my mother takes care of her and she wants to know if there is anyway to get paid for taking care of her......please let me know if u have any info...i also live in florida i dont know if that helps.....


over 6 years ago, said...

Hi parentcaregi­ver, Thanks for your question. Each state runs its own version of Medicaid, with slightly different rules and coverage. To get one on one advice about Medicaid, contact a government health insurance counselor. You can find your local government health insurance counselor in our local directory: ( http://www.caring.com/local/government-health-insurance-counselors ). Take care -- Emily | Community Manager


over 6 years ago, said...

I was told that in New York State you cannot receive payment for taking care of a parent. Is this true?


over 6 years ago, said...

Hi shodbuster, I'm sorry to hear that you've been having trouble getting information about Medicaid. Have you tried contacting your local Area Agency on Aging for more information? You can search for one in your area here (http://www.caring.com/local/area-agency-on-aging). I hope that helps -- Emily | Community Manager


over 6 years ago, said...

This has helped me some but I keep getting the run around by the medicaide office. I am the sole caretaker for my 96 year old grandfather and my 83year old father-in-law with dementia. My husband helps some but he had a wreck and is not able to do a lot including working. Since I cannot work outside the home medicaide gives me an excuse for unemplyment but when I ask about compensation they say try this office or that office Etc. Etc. I am not sure who to talk to next.


over 6 years ago, said...

Hi merfreet, Thanks for your comment. There is a lot of great information about being paid to be a caregiver in this very article. I also suggest that you contact your local Area Agency on Aging for more information. You can search for one in your area here (http://www.caring.com/local/area-agency-on-aging). I hope that helps -- Emily


over 6 years ago, said...

My 80 year old mother has lived with me since Aug 2008. I do most of her personal care, all of the cleaning, laundry, grocery shopping, taking her to doctor appts and everything else. I have been checking into getting paid for this and contacted our local Area Agency on Aging and they tell me they will do an assessment of her needs and pay for someone to come in and do that stuff but if I want to get paid I would have to work for an agency that provides those services. So my question is how can I get around working for someone else when I already do all of it myself? And I work full time and am going to school? I was a certified CNA but let it lapse because I drive a paratransit bus and go to school. I'm wondering if my in-home care of my mother would have qualified me to have my CNA certification kept active...... Any help would be greatly appreciated.


over 6 years ago, said...

If you can afford it, speak with an elder law attorney because they know all about being paid for being a care taker and will draw up a contract for you....There are attorneys that come in to the senior centers and offer their counsel for free, so that's a good place to start....


over 6 years ago, said...

I'm not in this situation but know of friends who are.I am certain they would appreciate learning about this program. Thanks Gfelto


over 6 years ago, said...

This is what I don't understand: If you are blind, you get an extra tax deduction. If you are totally disabled, YOU DON'T get an extra deduction....WHY?


over 6 years ago, said...

I'm going to have a hip replacement here on June 7th. Is there anyway that my boyfriend can get paid for taking care of me. We live in Pennsylvania and I don't know of any programs that would pay him for taking care of me. He's currently unemployed and receives unemployment but that's fixin to run out. I get SSD and medicare. I also want to know if there is any type of temp driver's license he can get to take me back and forth to my appts. We're both young, I'm 30 and he's 35. If anyone knows anything about programs in PA please let me know. Thanks.


over 6 years ago, said...

My problem is a little different. My husband has Medicare.He has Alzheimers and possibly Parkinsons. He requires round the clock watching. Even at night,waking up not being able to distinguish between a dream and reality,he wanders. Some months i barely have the 35.00 copay for his eye Doctor. I love my husband and do not mind taking care of him but if money was available for doing it i sure could use it. Thx Doris


over 6 years ago, said...

Hi... I was wondering how much do you think medicaid pay for 24 hr family caregiving?.. Im 23 yrs old and I have no job right now nor am I in school I stay with my grandmother round the clock, I have no help except for my older cousin that drives us to my grandmothers primary doctor.. My grandmother had breast cancer..and thru her radiation still I was the only one there! she has other things like high blood pressure, shes a diabetic things in that nature... she has very bad arthritis which keeps her from walking... I tried to get her a stair glide insurance dont cover that cause were not an homeowner.. Im tryna get her a motor scooter or motor wheel chair... so she can at least enjoy the out doors again, sometimes I just see her staring outside as if she was thinking " If only I could walk" :) but little do she know.. I'm trying! Thanx for reading! From ... Philadelphia, PA


over 6 years ago, said...

Reading these posts made me so angry with our government, which is proving more and more inept all the time. If the Ryan Budget is passed in the U.S. House of Representatives, we can start kissing Medicare goodbye. Not that Americans have much help in the healthcare department, anyway. I pay my own insurance, and the premium keeps increasing; it's about to increase again on July 1st.. Lately, I try to stay away from news (not that there is much time to listen to news in a caregiver's life) because it is so overwhelming. My Dad, bless his heart, gives my sister and me a few hundred dollars on the months we stay with he and Mom (we alternate months), fills my tank up with gas and pays my sister's plane fare, but it's cut dramatically into our (my sister's and my) incomes. We don't, and wouldn't, charge him anything, but he appreciates the help/care we give them and tries to help us out, as much as he can. Our country is SICK WITH GREED for more money for corporations and the heck with average people. Capitalism to the extreme is killing people, right and left, not just in our country's war-mongering stance, but in the neglect of its decent citizens who've given their lives to our country and are not getting anything back. Dear God, if it be thy will and the will of the people involved, please bring the USA back into balance, and give understanding to those in power of the proper priorities, and also, compassion for its people. AMEN


over 6 years ago, said...

i really would like to know who to speak with about taking care of my grandfather.... i am 19 and the only one available in my family to do so.... and i cant seem to find anything to help me.


over 6 years ago, said...

Hi mgwinstanley­, Thanks for your comment. Unfortunately, our expertise is in eldercare so we don't have any additional information specifically about caring for disabled adults. Though I am not positive which information is helpful for your situation, you may find this Ask & Answer page useful: http://www.caring.com/questions/can-i-get-paid-to-be-a-family-caregiver. Hope that helps. Take care -- Emily | Community Manager


over 6 years ago, said...

There is no help through the area on aging. I have gone that route. You have to be living in the street before you can get help. I have been a care giver for 6 yrs for my 82 yr old mother. The system is designed to brake you. Its up to you all what to do. But "reassign" the owner-ship of all life insurance policies etc. This is to secure them from a state take over of care. It varies from state to state. But if you change the owner-ship of the policy with in three yrs or more. The state can't touch it. Secure your family assets before illness strips you of your own assets. I found this out almost to late. They were trying to push me in the state waver program. They would take every thing. So I am not doing it. I would be living in the street. Not going to happen. Go to your state, federal Senators and demand a Care Giver program by forced unemployment due to taking care of a love one. Yes, the government would rather pay a nursing home $7,000.00 a month for care. Family Care Giver $700.00 a month. Do the math for cost effectiveness. Answer that. Get freinds and fill there political offices and demand it. They don't like when I show up. This is the only Nation that you lose your own home taking care of a love one. And the state profits off of it. Sick.


over 6 years ago, said...

The time has come for me to find options available to provide my husband with the best possible care. Your website has provided me with a great deal of useful information. Thank you.


over 6 years ago, said...

This is a great article, but I am looking for information regarding the situation where you are the caregiver for an adult disabled child. I have been my son's primary caregiver for 30+ years and no longer work outside of the home in order to be here for him. Is there any information out there that would point me in the right direction with regard to reimbursement for caregiving for an adult disabled child? He is unable to live on his own (Fragile X and Cerebral Palsy) so as long as I am able to (I have health issues of my own) I hope to be able to care for him at home, but the loss of my paycheck has put a bite into our financial stability. I have been searching for any information regarding financial programs or assistance for individuals in similar situations to mine where it is an adult disabled child and not a parent that I am caring for but am coming up with nothing.


over 6 years ago, said...

OMGosh nelson8989 there are angles at work here.... I picked up my phone to make a call and oddly my internet window opened to your recent posting I have been caring for a friend who' has no one its a long sad sad situation Workmans comp has been a huge part of my head ach and a learning curve thats been well ....I'll say mo more what state are you in and can I be in touch privately never used site like this is that possible cuz I need to get back and assit him to bed he's calling for me ...look forward to Getting back to read other info here God bless all you caregivers and the ones we love and care for hope to be in touch


over 6 years ago, said...

I just wanted to educate others to a situation I faced but was unaware of for many months that this was available...my husband was hurt on his job and received workers comp. After caring for him for I don't know how long I found out that workers comp will pay a family member caregiver up to $400.00 per week for a job related injury. Heads up everyone! Comp will not contact you about this, you have to ask them.


over 6 years ago, said...

Hi anonymous, There is a lot of great information in this very article about how to get paid to be a caregiver. For more information please contact your Area Agency on Aging ( http://www.caring.com/local/area-agency-on-aging ) and see if they know of any programs that can be of assistance. I hope that helps get you started. Good luck!! -- Emily | Community Manager


over 6 years ago, said...

Thank you for this article. I am the primary, live-in caregiver and son of my 87 y/o father who has Alzheimer's which of course has progressed. He has now had it for about 3+ years. I, myself am on SSDI due to previous End Stage Renal Disease secondary to Type 1 Diabetes. I have also had 2 strokes, but am blessed to have recovered pretty well. Being disabled myself and Dad's main and often felt, "only caregiver" (sister lives across the street), I am most days worn to the bone physically and mentally. I have chosen to give up all my normal activities which are of course dear to me. No one (family) seems to understand my situation and am almost always wrong, lied, cheated or stolen per my siblings (& sibling-in-law). ALL unfounded nor close when they are addressed about the accusations. Even my father, who loves us all, has made comments about how that's all they want, the mighty dollar! Nevertheless, my care for Dad is my responsibility as he and my recently deceased mother have done so much for me in my time of need. Being on SSDI only, my funds are nearly exhausted each month and we as a family, have always been "too rich to be poor"... very middle income except for my siblings who do work and are very successful. Many if not all of my "friends" have suggested having my father in an Alzheimer's unit or home, but Dad will stay at our home where he (& mother) retired to. Yes, I am a stubborn son and caregiver. Just call it what you may. You are probably correct. In addition to my disability, one of my conditions is chronic fatigue and I believe that most judge my wellness by how I look on the outside and the same for us all. My insides are running on fumes. Financially, I am on life-support and live literally check-to-check. I'll check into the recommendations here and appreciate the support. God bless.


over 6 years ago, said...

hey my name is adrian perkins i live in kentucky i am taking care of my quadaplegic wife who is ninetenn she recieves dissability and we want to know if there is sum way of bein paid for caregiving


over 6 years ago, said...

fergy89406, You should try contacting your local Area Agency on Aging ( http://www.caring.com/local/area-agency-on-aging ) and see if they know of any programs that can be of assistance. I hope that helps get you started. Good luck!! -- Emily | Community Manager


over 6 years ago, said...

Hi fergy89406, Thank you for your comment. Sorry to hear about your situation. Have you looked into getting in-home care to help assist you with caregiving? Learn more about in-home care and find a service in you area, here: ( http://www.caring.com/local/in-home-care ). We also have a great section on paying for care that you may also find useful: ( http://www.caring.com/paying-for-care ). I hope that helps. Take care -- Emily | Community Manager


over 6 years ago, said...

My father had a stroke Christmas of 2009, and was in rehabilitation hospitals til May of 2010. I had to quit my job and give up my plans to start a small business and move back home, primarily to look after my father, but also my mother, who is 66, Korean, 90lbs dripping wet, and doesn't speak English that well. My dad got out of the rehab after his Medicare bucket ran out, so he's been home since. He takes close to 24-hour care, which inhibits me from seeking employment. He gets paid VA benefits, as well as Social Security, and my mom also receives SS. In my "wonderful" state of Nevada, there are no programs in place to give help to those who take care of their loved ones. My checking and savings have all been depleted, which was the money I was saving up to start my own small business. What options are there for me? I can't get any type of Medicaid assistance, nor can I get any other type of benefit (unemployment, government, etc.). What the hell am I supposed to do? I'm 32, still in the prime of my life, and I'm utterly stuck. I feel I'm being punished for being a good son by everybody.


over 6 years ago, said...

I have been looking after my father for over a year now. He had a major stroke Christmas of 2009, and was in rehabilitation hospitals until May of 2010, in which time his Medicare bucket ran out and came back home. I had to quit my job, as well as give up my plans to start my own business to move back home to take care of my Dad, as well as my Mom, who is 66, Korean, and doesn't speak English that well. All the money that I had in checking and savings that I was to use for my small business is depleted. Since my father takes close to 24 hour care, I can't seek employment. My state of Nevada does not have any programs that handle any kind of monetary assistance or payments for me to get paid to take care of my father. I'm not only caring for my dad, but also have to take care of my mother, since my father cannot. Are there any other resources for people like me? I feel like I'm stuck between a gigantic rock and an extremely hard place.


over 6 years ago, said...

Hi anonymous, To see if you can get paid to be a caregiver, contact you local Area Agency on Aging for more information http://www.caring.com/local/area-agency-on-aging I hope that helps get you started. Good luck!! -- Emily | Community Manager


over 6 years ago, said...

Hello everyone, My name is Linda and I live in Phila PA. My mother has suffered with a severe mental health illness for probally most of her life. Dispite her illness she was a good mother to me and my brother and we shared in caring for her after my father died because she roams and we can't leave her alone. Well My brother died last September which left me as her sole caregiver. I, a divorced independent woman brought my mother into my home where I lived alone. Needless to say this changed my whole life because that meant I couldn't even go gropcery shopping without finding and paying someone to stay with her. Well, three months after moving in she became physically sick requiring two surgeries and extensive hospital care. My mother is now home again but relys on me to do everything for her because she is unable to get out of bed on her own. Phila Corp of aging pays my Granddaughter for 4 hours to stay with my mother while I am at work even though she is actually there for 9, but the minute I come home until I go to sleep I am caring for her. I don't even have time to care for myself. As a result of all this plus more..., I became so stressed it was showing in my work and my superiors insited that I take a FML from my job and that is without pay. I appreciate whatever helpful suggestion you send. Also would I be eligable for financial assistance ?


over 6 years ago, said...

Hi, I currently am my husbnad's caregiver for his home Hemo-dialysis. I went through the training and have been doing his treatments at home since December of 2010. I had to cut hours at work for the training which really put us in a major financial bind. Up until a couple of months ago I was working very little. I now work 40 hours a week and do his treatments (24hours a week). Is there anyway that I can get paid for doing his treatments? This schedule of work and treatments is really wearing me down and not sure how much longer I can keep this up? Where do I start to see if we can get or even qualify for me to get paid to do his treatments?


over 6 years ago, said...

Hi Caring spous­e49 and anonymous, To learn more about how to get paid to be a caregiver, contact you local Area Agency on Aging ( http://www.caring.com/local/area-agency-on-aging ) I hope that helps get you started. Good luck!! -- Emily | Community Manager


over 6 years ago, said...

Hi caring.com, I have a question and I'm hoping I can get a little help as this whole state benefits thing confuses the ever lovin' out of me. I'm a 27 year old who is currently taking care of my handicapped grandmother and mother. My Grandmother is unable to walk completely and my mother just had surgery where she had 5 discs in her back fused so she has limited mobility. I've been taking care of my Grandmother since I was 13 years old, to the point where I was home schooled for all of high school. I was wondering, is there anyway I can get some sort of help from the government? She has Medicare and is uneligible for Medicaid? Is there any direction anyone could point me in. Oh, I live in California by the way. Thanks a million for any help anyone could provide!!


over 6 years ago, said...

I would like to take an early retirement to take care of my husband. He has congestive heart failure and is in the hospital quite often with complications of his condition. The last time in February of 2011 he was in for a month at which time upon his release they wanted to send him to a nursing home for his recovery. I insisted he come home and he has improved much better at home than a nursing facility. I would like to know what I can do to not only get paid for being his care giver but also need some medical benefits myself as I am not old enough for medicare. Can you help?


over 6 years ago, said...

I have been taking care of my brother-in-law at Mayo Hospital in Jax, Fl for about 2 months. I go there everyday so my sister can go to work. I stay from 8:00am til 4:00pm to feed him help change the bed. And anything else that needs to be done. He has a lung transplant and is having complications, what can I do to try to get compensation. I'm unemployed at the time and am not receiving unemployment. I was wondering if I qualify for any caregivers programs.


over 6 years ago, said...

I feel the article is helpful to those who are taking care of elderly family. In my case my daughter is legally blind and needs a lot of one on one assistance. We receive SSI but that only covers so much. I cannot work because a lot of the day cares in out town don't have the people to help her with what she needs so I stay home. I am looking to find a program that will help me but most tell me that since she is only 6 years old I would be doing her care taking even if she wasn't legally blind. That is true but she would also be able to go to daycare and I would be able to work. Is there any programs in Illinois that you know would help me with this?


over 6 years ago, said...

Hi anonymous, Thank you for your comment. If you'd like, you can submit your question to our Ask & Answer section, located here: ( http://www.caring.com/ask ). We also have a wonderful community section where you can get advice and support from others in similar caregiving situations. You can find it here:(http://www.caring.com/community). I hope that helps. Take care -- Emily | Community Manager


over 6 years ago, said...

Hi mkc-help, To see if you can get paid to be a caregiver, contact you local Area Agency on Aging for more information http://www.caring.com/local/area-agency-on-aging I hope that helps get you started. Good luck!! -- Emily | Community Manager


over 6 years ago, said...

My mother is still working but not making enough money to take care of my disabled father and also my mentally disabled aunt. Can she apply to get paid to take care of them?


over 6 years ago, said...

hi my mom is 71 years old and disabled,she retired from the school board,gets a ck from them and ss every month,after she retired her health started to decline,arthritis,carpal tunnel,cholesterol,diabetes,ostiporosis,and parkinson's disease,also acid reflux.She is on a great deal of medications beyond all of what she has here,and did experiience a nursing hm for over a yr and did not whant to be there-wanted to be hm with her family.my boyfriend of 8 yr's finally got disibility after 6 yr's and im still trying to get mine as of to date it's been 6 yr's as well,we both were bouncing for friends and the streets and motels untill he finally got his back pay and we got a 1 br apt,in that time we were going to visit my mom and take her out and it was very nice for her,she then asked if she could come live with us.I had told her we would have to find a bigger place and we did [ 2 br] but it did not satisfy the case manager who came out to see if it was big enough for her hopital bd,wheel chair,hover round,ect:and i personally thought it was just fine and my boy friend was exceeding a little more then we had planned just to get her hm.At this point we didn't no what to do and we told mom of this matter,she told us to use her money to help move to a bigger house and she would help in the bills to come,so i took it upon myself to be her p.o.a,her health care repersenitive,and now also her payee.Im beside myself at times along with ny boyfriend because he says doctor appointments,co-pays,medication's,ect-ect: we just cant afford everything,i do not believe in getting paid to take care of a sibling or parent and am very scared that if something would happen to her where would that leave us.So basicly at her request financially at this time am i doing the right thing? By making sure she has what she needs and her pitching in on rent and bills ect:


over 6 years ago, said...

Hi takergirl, Thanks for your comment. There is actually a lot of great information on getting paid to be a caregiver in this very article. If you'd like more information, you can visit our Paying for Home Care section, located here: (http://www.caring.com/home-care-payment). I hope that helps. Take care -- Emily | Community Manager


over 6 years ago, said...

I have been taken care of my mom for over 10 years. I lost my job five years ago and only received public assistance. It does not help my bills or food. I need some financial assistance so I can have a better life for me and mom. She had strokes, diabetes, copd, hypertension, cholesterol and arthritis. She is wheelchairbound and can't do anythin without my help. Please help me.


over 6 years ago, said...

My boyfriend is 27 years old and recently fell ill. He has been hospitalized for nearly two months and is going to need constant care when he gets home. He is bedridden and has little control of his limbs. We live in Nevada and I am going to be responsible for his daily care. What resources should I be looking into to assure that I will be able to keep a roof over our heads & food in our bellies while we are both unable to work? Any advice you could offer would be much appreciated.


over 6 years ago, said...

Hi anonymous. I'm so sorry to hear about your brother-in-law and mother-in-law's situation, that must be very difficult for your family. There is actually a lot of great information in this very article all about getting paid and compensated for being a family caregiver! I hope that helps. Take care -- Emily | Community Manager


over 6 years ago, said...

My bro-in-law lives in his mom's home (in Oklahoma) and takes care of her, since she had a stroke which disabled her right side. She is on social security. He is only 50, but disabled. They have home health care come for her therapy, but his whole life is consumed by caring for her. He has NO life of his own. Can you point me to some kind of financial aid to help them out in exchange for the lifetime he is losing to help his mother?


over 6 years ago, said...

Hi rose09, Thanks for your questions. If you'd like, you can post your question in our Ask & Answer section here: ( http://www.caring.com/ask ). Take care -- Emily | Community Manager


over 6 years ago, said...

as a caregiver in home care is there any chance that i will have breaks and lunch breaks?thank you


over 6 years ago, said...

Well good news...waiting on the hospice/respite to finish processing our case then Ill have a case manager to come here to assess things. Then I believe I will have someone to work here part time with me to give me some time to do things with the kids and I still get paid for the other half. I do not know how AZ works it but I am hoping for the best. Reading the latest posts i am sending prayers and those who are hurt; trumped by the system everyone gets their dues. I have been looking after my family for the last 4 yrs and have had a job here n there. I still plan to get reemployed but with my husband condition I need to be here with him. I have been dealing with caseworkers upon caseworkers. The latest stint is trying to get his doctor to prescribe medicinal marijuana for him to try because it recently got passed here in AZ. There is hope and their is help it is just a matter of circumventing and working with a system that has fallen apart and been corrupted by those that use the system for illegal reasons. I thought it was cheeky when the power chair ppl came by thought I was gonna sell his chair for money...lol I would never defraud a system that is broken. Just pray and have faith life can suck but it is also a challenge to enjoy the best and the worst. I will continue to review info and if anyone has advice pls email me. Again thank you for ur time.


over 6 years ago, said...

Hi Robbin, To see if you can get paid to be a caregiver, contact you local Area Agency on Aging for more information http://www.caring.com/local/area-agency-on-aging I hope that helps get you started. Good luck!! -- Emily | Community Manager


over 6 years ago, said...

Im in the same boat as all of you i am 57 this year and my mom cant cook or change her clothes by herself. As i am an only child there is only me, I thougt until a cousin decieds to come get and lie to me now she has talked her into getting new bank accounts in vegas that i have no access to and she will send me money, like $100.00 a week. My mother gets money from a trust and now realatives have there hand in that i have done this for 6 years alone, under so much stress my face has hives all over. Lost my car and now going to court to be evicted. My mom only wants to be arround people who tell her what she wants to hear. i wasn't envoled in the move they lied to me and had this planned on the phone with my mom who can not read anymore but can open new bank accounts with my distant family and their control. im lost really and heart broken thanks for listening


over 6 years ago, said...

My husband is 56 years old and has Parkinson's Disease. He also has spinal stenosis. We live on the Big Island of Hawaii. Could someone tell me if the State of Hawaii has a "Get Paid for Caregiving" program? Thank you. Robbin


over 6 years ago, said...

It was detailed and it gives you the place to go look for the information, it doesn't leave you guessing.


over 6 years ago, said...

I am young mother of two children and currently looking after my husband who is very disabled; he has won his SSD but even then that puts a pinch on everything. I need help with the kids and him. I live in AZ and I cannot get help to get into paid caregiving program by the state. I am constantly stressed overwhelmed and burnt out. He has bad days and good days. Childcare help here is bit expensive but so is managing my needs for the most important members of my family. I need to get into a paid caregiver program here because I have no hospice here helping me. I have only been in AZ for nearly yr and some months. We moved here for the change of climate and to make it easy for him to do small bits of tinkering. Honestly I am about done in...i have no familial support and I can't get a job because I am needed here for him. I am in such quandary over this and I have develop an anxiety disorder over everything. I didn't want this and neither did he. The doctors do not know if he is going make it or live longer than this. I can't even get his PC to get me the referral I ask for him to see ALS specialist. I am running dry and I can't figure this out anymore. I need some advice and someone to help advocate the need for me to be his paid caregiver because I am his only family that cares for him. The stress of it all is bad on the kids and myself. I am not the same woman I was nearly 7 yrs ago. Someone please give me a guiding hand or even reach me on my FB page under same user name. Once more thank you for your support and any comments you may send to me. I will take all under consideration...right now my faith and my children are about the best things going for me. I need support * sigh and bows head in prayer* thank you Lord.


over 6 years ago, said...

I am sorry I have nothing against the USA but this financial info means nothing in the UK. I had not realized your site was US based


over 6 years ago, said...

Hi lisarfellers­13, Thanks for your comment. It sounds like you can get paid to be a caregiver. There is a lot of great information on how to get paid to be a caregiver in this very article. As for receiving social security for disability, you may find this page useful : (http://www.caring.com/articles/social-security-retierment-and-disability-benefits). For more information about financial assistance, you can visit our financial assistance topic center (http://www.caring.com/senior-finances). I hope that helps to answer some of your questions! -- Best, Emily | Community Manager


over 6 years ago, said...

The Cash & Counseling NPO is now the National Resource Center for Participant-Directed Services


over 6 years ago, said...

hi, i'm a disabled vet getting 70%va disability. I also take care of my husband who has alzheimer's. he gets a very very small medicare monthly pmt. ($7) and his strs retirement. i am hoping someone can answer and help me with a few questions i have. 1--can I get paid b/c I am the sole caregiver for my husband? 2-how can i get ss. disability? do I have to use an attorny to help me, which want a ton to help me. this is for myself. 3-what other services/programs are there for me/my husband? thank you so very much--lisa


over 6 years ago, said...

Hi andy0100, Thanks for your comment. Since our expertise is eldercare it's hard for me to offer more resources, as I'm not positive what translates and what doesn't. However, there is great information about how to get paid to be a caregiver in this very article! You may also find this Ask & Answer page useful: http://www.caring.com/questions/can-i-get-paid-to-be-a-family-caregiver. Hope that helps get you started at least!! Best -- Emily | Community Manager


over 6 years ago, said...

I've been taking care of an adult Down Syndrome sister since 1982. I do get home health aide services for her but often the ladies are undesirables and they change often. I am interested in this program since a year ago I stopped working because she was getting worse. I'd like more info. this could be helpful if were allowed to participate.


over 6 years ago, said...

Hello, I'm from Ma, where we had starvous. This is a company that pay's you to take care of a family member and get paid $10.85 an hour, but you have to be approved by your Ins on how many hours a day or week the person needs care. I now live in Ga, and can't find any real help to take care of my two disable children and get paid for it. My oldest was my sons care giver in Ma. Only siblings and grandparents where allowed to be care givers, if you where a family member. I 'm so use to all the help and resources we had for the disable. I feel like i've went back in time here in Ga. My 19 year old needs help with bathing, combing hair, cooking, washing of clothes and cleaning of house. She can't walk long distance, she'll never drive. she will have to be taking every where she wants to go. She also has short term memory lost, and gets lost quickly. I need help with all of this due to me also being disable. My spine is fused and I can't lift her etc. If you know of any company that does that here please help with info


over 6 years ago, said...

Hi Joon, thanks for your question. There is a lot of great information about being paid to be a caregiver in this very article. I also suggest that you contact your local Area Agency on Aging for more information. To search for one in NYC here (http://www.caring.com/local/area-agency-on-aging). I hope that helps -- Emily


over 6 years ago, said...

My 98 years old grandma lives in NYC and my mother from California wants to go there and stay to take care of her. How could she apply to be caregiver in NY and get paid?


over 6 years ago, said...

Hi tori22, Thank you for your comment. Sorry to hear about your family's situation. To become a family caregiver, all that's required is that you care for them. If you'd like to get paid to be a caregiver, there is a lot of great information on that topic provided in this very article. Another resource that may be useful for you is this checklis: 5 Legal Documents You Need for Your Parents (http://www.caring.com/checklists/necessary-legal-documents-for-parent). I hope that helps! -- Emily


over 6 years ago, said...

My grandparents are both on medicare and are 65 my grandpa is disabled and is struggling, i take care of them as much as i can but my grandpa has just got news that he might be loosing his check that he gets once a month. I wanted to know what i can do become their caregiver and who i can contact. Please help.


over 6 years ago, said...

Hi mrwells, Thanks for your comment Caring.com is a focused on eldercare, but we do have information that may help those in other situations as well. Hopefully your situation is one of those! -- Emily


over 6 years ago, said...

this seems to be only for seniors. my wife is 58 i am turning 60, my wife is a leagly blind type 1 diabetic and has renal failure and on home dialysis.


over 6 years ago, said...

I already checked with medicare in california and mom's s.s. is too much to get help.!!!!


over 6 years ago, said...

Hi Zoe Mena, Thanks for your comment. Unfortunately, we don't have any resources listed for Puerto Rico. Since we are a US based company, most of our resources and knowledge are US based. I hope you are able to find the care you need for your mother. I also hope our informational site will be of help for you in the future. Wishing you all the best -- Emily


over 6 years ago, said...

Hi My name is Miriam, I was wandering if there are any services available with in home care for elderly people in Puerto Rico, we have our mother which is now totally disabled after having 3 back to back strokes at the age of 80 years old thanking our Lord that she is still with us. But we have ran out of volunteers to help with our beloved mother. I was wandering if you knew of any programs that could help us with providing in home care in Caguas, Puerto Rico. I did some caring for her but I live in Mount Vernon, NY and needed to come back home to continue life at home with my family unfortunately there is only one of us that lives in Puerto Rico and me in the United States. Can you please help?


over 6 years ago, said...

Hi Daddysgirl#1­, Thanks for your comments. Unfortunately, Caring.com doesn't have any expertise in caring for disabled young adults, so we don't have any resources I can point you to. I wish your friend luck in finding her answers. Thanks again -- Emily


over 6 years ago, said...

Oh yeah, I have a question if anyone can answer: A friend of mine has a mentally handicapped daughter (age 24, has the mentallity of a 5 year old.) Does New York State have a similar program for caregiving to help the parent of this diabled child. She is already receiving SSI benefits, but not much at all. My girlfriend is not looking to put her daughter in a home, she wants to care for her at home). My friend works about 3-5 hours a day , part time while her daughter is in day hab. If anyone can assist me , please email me.


over 6 years ago, said...

I found myself in the same situation as everyone else. I have been caring for my elderly parent for the last 26 years. Within the last two years my dads Alzheimers progressed so much that I had to move back home to care for him. They couldnt afford LTCI (Long Term Care Insurance) so they would have lost everything they worked for. My mom is not really as ill as my dad is, so mom would have been left with not much. I was raising my 3 children, one healthy and 2 with disabilities, and I worked part time. I just couldnt keep up with everything so I had to quit my part time job. Dads drs apt. had me taking off work more than I was working. At the time he was on BGC for Bladder Cancer. I have two other sibblings but they want no part of helping out. Needless to say, I really couldnt work full time. My husband was a one man band. UGH! I just hope New York State passes this very soon for everybody.


over 6 years ago, said...

I've been taking care of my mom for 3 years now. I can't work because my mom needs someone here with her 24/7. She has tried to get where i get paid to be her caregiver, but she's told i can't be her caregiver because i live with her & she doesn't need help. My mom can't walk,therefor, she can't cook, clean, bathe, drive, etc by herself. She has Medicaid & Medicare. She's been told that she qualifies, but when she tries, the answers always no. She has tried 4 times in the last 3 years.


over 6 years ago, said...

All I can say is God bless us all. I have my mom, father and brother to take care of. My mom is on home dialysis. My father, cancer. My brother massive stroke, paralyzed and epilepsy. I thank God for my family. Never would I put them in a nursing home. My sister in law came with my brother for a visit and left him here with us and never looked back. How cruel are people to say caretakers don't need to get paid. Yes. Mom,dad love me and helped make the person I am today. A person who puts their family first. When your family member says to you "Please don't leave me, don't put me in a nursing home, let me die at home around people I love and love me". What sacrifices will you make? Will you get fired from your job? Would you almost loose your home? Loose your home? Car repo? Our family love us too, do you think they like seeing us struggling to try to make THEIR life more comfortable? Do they hear you on the phone making arrangements to pay bills. Will you bathe them, feed them, comfort them when they are in pain? I know I would do it with pride because of the love I have for them. I don't need money to go party. I need help making sure that I can suppy all of their needs and wants. Get them to the doctors, sit and comfort them when they are in the hospital. I was a Certified Nursing Assistant in a nursing home and hospital. I know how uncaring some of the people are. How rushed they are. How doctors talk to them or not when no one is in the room speaking on their behalf. I know how some people lay in their own feces or whatever. How some go hungry because no one will feed them. How lonley some of them are because their daughter, son, husband, etc. are not there because they had to WORK....Some people are so selfish until the shoe is on the other foot. Some people can take off work or whatever but won't because of their home, kids, car right? How many of you will loose everything you got to take care of the ones that love you and depend on you? I know that I will never be rich. I will struggle from month to month because I did when I was working and I will continue to do it until I die. I am not asking for no handouts. I am not trying to beat the system. If the government can help us pay to put our families in these facilities, why not give the money to that family member that is saving tax paying dollars by not using the facility in the first place. I know that there are the scams in everything but if you are providing the proof that you are doing a good job and attending all the needs of the one you love then why can't people see that our family need us as much as we need to them. I need them in my life because they make me smile. I want to hug them and love them. I wish that I they weren't sick. No one is in my bedroom when I am up late at night crying because I don't know how I will make it from day to day. Only God knows. I am a true believer in the fact that the Lord won't put on us no more than we can bare because if I didn't I wouldn't be no good for my family at all. Whether I get paid or not I will continue to do what I do. I know that the real reward is in heaven for all of us.


over 6 years ago, said...

Have been out of work for months now taking care of my mom. Didn't realize there was a possibility of receiving compensation for this. Never thought of it actually. Just doing what had to be done. If I can receive some financial benefit it would help a little. Thanks for the info.


over 6 years ago, said...

Very informative info. Wish I would of had it when I was taking care of my mom and dad.


over 6 years ago, said...

I keep hearing people say WHY SHOULD ANYONE PAY YOU FOR TAKING CARE OF YOUR PARENTS? These parents cost alot to take care of if it is done right. They have lots of dr. appointments to go to. THAT TAKES GAS, PLUS, SOMEONE TO STAY WITH THE OTHER ONE WHILE YOU ARE AWAY. These parents if they don't have a good drug program need their meds. Who will pay for their meds (you will) now if you are with them all the time how are you going to hold down a full time job. Ok say you only work part time. How are you going to make enough money to do for them all that needs to be done? Duh! IS THAT TO HARD FOR SOME PEOPLE TO FIGURE OUT????? I am sorry but, until you are in that spot with aging parents, and kids to take care of a job to go to. PLEASE DON'T MAKE FUN OF THE CAREGIVERS! This is a BIG JOB. A loving job but, a big one. PLEASE TRY TO UNDERSTAND what they are going through. I hope when the time comes and you have to take care of your parents that you love you will do the very best job you can. I hope there will not be money problems for you. I hope it will not interfer with your home and family or your job. I hope everything will work out perfect for you and your parents. HOWEVER, that my dear is a dream. Things just don't happen like that unless you are in HOLLYWOOD. BY THAT I MEAN ON THE BIG SCREEN


over 6 years ago, said...

HI BJ22, Thanks for sharing with us. I'm sorry to hear about the financial situation you're in, that sounds very difficult and frustrating to boot! If you'd like, you can discuss your situation with other caregivers in our forums section: (http://www.caring.com/forums) or ask a question in our Ask & Answer section: (http://www.caring.com/ask). I hope that helps -- Emily


over 6 years ago, said...

I live in Old Hickory, TN. We don't have the beneits from Medicaid as other states do, except for Chattanooga, TN. which does not cover our area. I've tried calling Medicaid many times only to get a voive-mail. I leave a detailed message & phone number, but never a call back from any person. I gave up my career & have severe back pain to take care of my disabled father whom I adore, but can't seem to get any help from church family or my family & friends. They seem to have their on problems to deal with. Medicaid here is difficult to get help from. I also was told I needed back surgery from a orthpedic, neurologist, & of all peaple, a chiropractor. Medicaid please help my father, so I can help me help him.


over 6 years ago, said...

ashmeyers: you seem to be a devoted mother and I applaud you for all you are doing to care for your daughter; please know that Down's Syndrome is not a disease....it is considered a condition so medically some groups won't look at her as "sick"....also a G tube is not considered a disease either....so exactly what is she on life support for? I urge caregivers to never ever allow a home health care worker into your home unless you are personally there. They can be abusive, rude, and yes, they c an help themselves to whatever they want....especially if your loved one is not able to tell anyone what they did.....I lost my mother after two years of constant, exhausting care and also trying to keep my job...I sympathize with all of you...but please be an advocate for the care of your loved one and speak up when you are taken advantage of.


over 6 years ago, said...

Gave me some places to go for information and help. I didn't even think about this and you reminded me of this.


over 6 years ago, said...

I have a 3 year old daughter whom is on life support 24 7. She has Down Syndrome a heart condition, shes physically disabled and a few other small conditions like a g-tube. My husband and I work almost everyday and night to take care of our children but can not seem to get a head. Also Ive been trying to finish my degree and graduate from collage. But its getting to hard and I'm tired. I live in the state of Illinois which helps a little. We have certified nurses that come to out house to help, and now that DSCC says that we take too good of care of our daughter and because she hasn't been sick once that our nursing hours are being cut, which means I am either going to have to quit school or cut back on work to stay more at home and take care of my daughter, but i am afraid we wont be able to pay our bills because we are barely getting by now. Also we have applied for ssi and disability for our daughter and our state says she doesn't qualify, which is weird because right on the front of the pamphlet it says if you have down syndrome you automatically qualify!Any suggestions?


almost 7 years ago, said...

There is several agencies to help elderly living in their own home/assisted living facilities.


almost 7 years ago, said...

Hi LorEll, Thanks for your comment. I'm very sorry to hear about you and your husband's situation. My recommendation is posting your questions in our Ask & Answer section: http://www.caring.com/questions/new Best -- Emily | Community Manager


almost 7 years ago, said...

My husband and I both lost jobs at the same time. We lived off of savings until it ran out. I started a small business and my husband started working for a friend until he became sick. He was in the hospital for 3 weeks and then a nursing home for 2 month. He ended up on disability. Then we found out that he had prostate cancer. He had the operation instead of the chemo. He ended up back in the hospital with 6 bleeding ulcers and 2 tears in his esophagus. Also very little blood flow in his legs. He has fallen more then I can count. I got a part time job but was lucky enough to take him with. He would just sit in a chair for the 3 or 4 hours while I worked. Then I was laid off. I've tried to do any kind of work but can't leave him home for fear of a fall. A few months ago he wasn't feeling well so we went to the doctor. He has cancer again. this time it's in his limp nodes, bladder, liver. I have to take him to all of the appointment's and help him dress and undress. I drove to the store the other day and came home to him trying to make it to the bathroom. The door was shut and he couldn't turn the knob because of his arthritis in his hands. His fingers are all deformed so it's hard for him to do a lot of things. I can't go to work and I haven't been to see a doctor in years. I'm tired. I need dental work but can't afford to go see a dentist. I have other things going on as well but can't afford to take care of myself because I'm taking care of my husband. I have worked my butt off all my adult life and so did my husband there has to be some kind of help beside the s.s.i. he is getting. Does someone have any suggestions? Please.


almost 7 years ago, said...

i have been laid off twice now within the last four months mean while taking care of my wonderful girlfriend who has Cystic Fibrosis, so her and I were both wondering if there was anyway possible that I could get paid for taking care of her here in Washington State? I've never thought about it before because i don't think of loving her as a job, but if I can get paid while I am going to school for respiratory therapy that would be great. If anyone can give some advice upon if it is possible an if so where should I start the process that would be great. Thank you for your time.


almost 7 years ago, said...

Hi RosieDelong, Thanks for your comment. Sorry to hear about you and your husband's situation. As for your questions, there is great information about how to get paid to be a caregiver in this very article! You may also find this Ask & Answer page useful: http://www.caring.com/questions/can-i-get-paid-to-be-a-family-caregiver. Hope that helps -- Emily | Community Manager


almost 7 years ago, said...

I've been my husband's caregiver since he was unemployed when he as 27 years old and is now 45, he has caused me to lose my last 3 jobs because I had to come home to see if he was okay.I have to help him bathe due to his lack of coordination caused by his extreme amount of manditory presciption medication for his epilepsy (Depakote 500mg. x4 a day, Valium 10mg x3 a day, Soma 350mg. x2 a day) aslo for osteoarthritis (Percocet 350mg. x5 a day). I have to remind him to eat, take his medication, take him to his doctor's appoitments, his everyday routine, etc,... Never once I have i gotten paid for being his caretaker. Is there anyway I can get paid to be his caregiver?


almost 7 years ago, said...

i think people should get paid to be a care giver!!!!!!


almost 7 years ago, said...

i have looked at each of the letters and it is soSAD what we are do for our country nothing! i lam 76 i in april and have Pars. my husband just turned 67 and is stil working full time at a college in ohio. i have a women come in mon-wed for 5 hpurs a day. we have no other help and that leaves me by my self evenings. husband is renting a room for $600.00 a month because it is two hours to drive each way for work. this would be on hi i ways and small country roads in ohio winter weather.we also have for each of us LONG TERM CARE INSURANCE. it is so ridiculous to watch him come home for the weekend only to turn around and go back to his work again! he is my care giver when he is home.


almost 7 years ago, said...

My MIL is 91 years old and has recently come home from NH/rehab after falling and breaking her left leg. She broke the right leg 2 years earlier. Until her last fall (November 2010) she was living alone and even driving occasionally. She lives 50 miles away from us and my husband is her only child. She came home from the NH 2 weeks ago and we hired a live-in caregiver. MIL cannot walk well and needs a walker. She is also in chronic pain and is taking MSContin for this. This arrangement is working fairly well, although we are now concerned that the caregiver may be an illegal alien. However, that is not my concern right now. My husband and I adopted 2 sons who are both in high school now. Husband works full time as a sales representative and I work from home doing medical transcription. We are starting to have financial difficulties due to the economy and the fact that we are spending less time working at our jobs and more time trying to help mom. We have driven to her house (about an hour each way) 4 times in the last 5 days. The caregiver is paid $130 per day. MIL does not know this as she would FREAK OUT if she knew how much this was costing. Husband pays all his mom's bills now as she is very forgetful and we realized she hadn't paid some bills and had made some serious mistakes when we took over her finances while she was in the NH). We are starting to consider doing the caregiving ourselves which would involve having MIL move in with us. We could really use the money and also the convenience of having her here with us rather than an hour away, but I'm afraid to make this transition. I will not consider moving our family to MIL's house. Would really like to hear other's opinions about this...


almost 7 years ago, said...

Is the money I recieve from my husband for taking care of him taxable as income to me. He is on medicaid and they pay him money each month to hire someone to take care of him. I am his caretaker and he pays me.


almost 7 years ago, said...

I've been taking care of my 97 yr old mom in my home for 7 years. She gets SSI and some dividends from stocks. 4 years ago it became appearent that she needed a home health aide present while I worked. I got some internal infection that took 3 years to beat so stayed home nursing both of us. Fortunately her income met all immeadiate needs. I'm anxious to get back working (self-employed) but need some medical help first (eye and dental surgery) and funds for advertising. My best option is to sell off some of her stocks to pay myself for services already rendered and then more when needed to pay for home health aides. Once those assets are gone I should be financially able to pay any difference her SSI income fails to cover. Fortunately she's healthy and takes no meds. She does suffer with altzhiemers/dementia and has been getting me confused with others long departed. When she no long recognizes me then I'll place her in a home. I just need to liquidate her equities and spend the proceeds for care giving before doing that for tax purposes. (think Medicare/Medicaid try to recapture assets that were given away before 3 years passed to qualify as penniless) I'm in Texas and believe the state will provide some assistance to qualifying elderly living at home alone depending on their assets. They expect family to help their own as for sitting, housework, cooking, bathing, etc. If relations can't or won't then mom and pop can get state help to be placed in a home. Ya'll may consider that option instead of beating your head against the wall taking care of them. Nobody can force you to care of them if it's ruining your life.


almost 7 years ago, said...

Hi NeedAssisten­ce, Thanks for your comment. The answer to this questions may help you find the answer you are looking for: http://www.caring.com/questions/my-mother-moved-in-with-us-at-78-she-was-a-great-addition. You can also ask your own question about paying for care here: http://www.caring.com/questions/new. Good luck! -- Emily | Community Manager


almost 7 years ago, said...

We need to find out how to get assistence in paying for care giving in the home.


almost 7 years ago, said...

Hi Melissa, Thanks for your comment. We offer free expert guidance for caregiving questions in our Ask & Answer forum. While our focus is on caregiving for aging parents, spouses and other older adults, here are two expert answers you may find helpful: Are there financial benefits available to a primary caregiver? http://www.caring.com/questions/are-there-benefits-for-primary-caregivers Can I Get Paid to Be a Family Caregiver? (http://www.caring.com/questions/can-i-get-paid-to-be-a-family-caregiver). You might also visit the National Alliance for Caregiving website for information and support for caregivers of disabled children: (http://www.caregiving.org/). Thanks again, and best of luck to you. Emily | Community Manager


almost 7 years ago, said...

I heard that I could get paid for caring for my youngest daughter.She is disabled and I can not work.I have to stay at home with her at all times..if anyone can help me with this.please do I have shut off notices up the butt and I don't know what else to do..thank you.


almost 7 years ago, said...

It gave me the information I needed to file for care giver of my sister. She lives in my home and sometimes needs my help in doing things for her. She doesn't drive because of her hearing, and eye sight. I appreciate this information. Thank you


almost 7 years ago, said...

doesn't sound like anyone is getting any help. may try anyway.


almost 7 years ago, said...

My MIL(who has Alzheimer) has lived with us for 4 years. We discovered a couple of months ago about a program through the VA (Aide and Attendance) for spouses of veterans. My FIL was a WWII vet and retired military. The paperwork is the usual (medical needs {their form}, marriage and death certificates, assets, etc,) with the addition of proof of military service. The time period that Medicaid goes back does not apply here. We therefore transferred her property to the names of her children prior to completion and returning the paperwork to the VA. You can request the paperwork on line and summit it through the mail but we found that it was best to request the paperwork and take everything to the VA and work directly with a counselor, This way the paperwork is completed without any problems that would require it being returned to you plus you already know that you should qualify. It also means that when the counselor summits it, the received date (even though it takes a bit to process) is the effective date. The only problem we have run into was that we did a change of address for her when the house ownership was transferred. Her house is in one state but she lives with us in another state. We applied in the state her house was located since we had to go to her home to find all the appropriate paperwork, transfer the deeds, see her DR. and attorney. plus when the time for nursing home care is required she will be in that state. When the PO notified Medicare about the change of address (even though it is a direct deposit) we were concerned. We called the VA counselor and we were told not to be concerned but if there was any problem to call her and fax and paperwork if necessary. This is another reason to work directly with a counselor. When we met with the counselor we stated that we felt that my MIL would need nursing home care within a year so the paperwork is in place when her needs change. they will stop payments to us and pay the NH. This will also mean that we can stretch out her assets before Medicaide is necessary for the NH. We do not know what funds we will receive for her care at home because that is determined by her medical needs and each state VA is different. We were given a figure for MS (her home state) of up to $900. This would mean that I could hire a home health aide to come into our home for two mornings of three hours so that I could get out of the house. My husband returned to work full time a few months ago so that we would have health insurance. He is out of town for 3-4 days and home anywhere from 18 hours to 3 days. Ironically, I can't get to the Dr. since his schedule varies. Her needs are such that she can not be left alone. Any money would be a life saver for me because I am so burnt out that, "The phoenix will never rise from the ashes". I feel as if my life has turned into the movie "Groundhog Day" only I have not found a way to perfect the day. Hopefully this VA program for aide and attendance will help some of your family. Hang in there while you keep reinventing the wheel each day.


almost 7 years ago, said...

Im so glad i found this site and more so this article! I've been trying to find information about this subject for some time now. It was quick, easy to understand and am very happy that you also included links to more info. Thanks so much for the help!!!!


almost 7 years ago, said...

Great information. I didn't know this was even possible.


almost 7 years ago, said...

Does Eldercare provide any benefits for relative caregivers?


almost 7 years ago, said...

This article does not apply in our case. My husband has Brain Cancer, he's 58 years old and I'm his caregiver. We don't qualify for any help.


almost 7 years ago, said...

All of these situations are so tough, I feel for everyone. Unfortunately, the C&C program is a HUGE boon to foreigners in CA as they fraudulently apply for $$ as care givers when they are not really taking care of anyone and get money from the taxpayers for their deceit. Very popular scam with certain ethnic groups out here.


almost 7 years ago, said...

I WANT TO SAY TO TO TELL UWHY HE SAID WHY SHOULD YOU GET PAID FOR TAKING CARE OF YOUR RELATIVES?? I WILL TELL YOU WHY CAUSE I SACRIFICE MY WHOLE ENTIRE LIFE TO THEIR NEEDS! I HAD A BUSINESS AND LOST IT I HAD INSURANCE AND LOST IT I HAVENT WENT TO A DR FOR 7YRS CAUSE I TOOK ALL THEM TO THE DR IT WAS CONSTANT I HAD 4 PEOPLE TO TAKE CARE OF AT ONCE WITH 4 DIFFERENT NEEDS ! I HAVENT BEEN ON A DATE IN YEARS! MY BF AND I CONTINUALLY ARGUED EVEN THO I LIVED ONLY ONE MILE FROM MY PARENTS MY DAUGHTER WAS 10 YRS OLD WHEN THIS STARTED AND I HARDLY DIDNT GET TO SEE HER FOR MONTHS MY DADDY WAS DYING I COULKDNT GET NOBODY TO HELP AND WHEN I DID THEY WOULD GO THRU HIS STUFF .HOSPICE PROMISED THE WORLD AND GAVE NOTHING LIARS THEY ARE! I HAVENT BEEN ON VACATION IN OVER 7YRS! MY FRIENDS ARE NOT MY FRIENDS MY HOUSE IS A WRECK CAUSE I DIDNT HAVE TIME TO CLEAN IT ! I HAD TO TALK TO DRS NURSES JUDGES LAWYERS CNA SOCIAL WORKERS AND I COULD GO ON AND ON BUT I SURE HOPE LIKE HELL YOU GOT THE PICTURE! SO YES NOW I HAVE NOTHING THEY ARE DEAD AND I AM CRAZY AND DONT KNOW WHAT THE HELL IM GONNA DO FOR MONEY NOW! YES WE SHOULD GET PAID FOR IT! YOU APPARENTLY ARENT A CAREGIVER OR ELSE YOU WOUL,DE OF NEVER MADE THAT STATEMENT!


almost 7 years ago, said...

hello i have been a caregiver to my whole family for 7yrs and i am completely exhausted.my sister died of lung cancer at age 52 in 2002. then i took care of my dad for 27 months nite and day changed his diaper and hospice ABUSED US BOTH THERE WERE 3 SETS OF HOSPICE to come there. you would not believe the HELL they put me and my daddy in.at the same time i was taking care of the two people my mother was elderly and not in good health.mama loved my brother and he is mentally ill. then also i am a single parent of a 10yr old girl.now at the present moment my mama just passed away in my arms nov 19 and i was all alone! it was horrible! my daughter is now 18 and thinks she s grown and walked off and left me.also i did get to buy some thanksgiving groceries and while my mother was getting worse my dads refrigerator stopped working and all of my food spoiled cause my mother went into the crtical care unit.so i had no thanksgiving.SAD SO SAD! I HAVE NO FAMLY EXCEPT MY DAUGHTER she dont care and my brother and he is mentally ill.then to top that off the owner of the house i have been renting for 14yrs let the house foreclose on and now i have got to move by jan 5 and i have no where i can go i have no job i am exhausted beyond believe.i ask i begged for help.this community i live in sux they DO NOT CARE!LORD I CANT GET A JOB AND IF I COULD I COULD NT KEEP MY MIND ON IT. THIS CAREGIVING JOB HAS ALMOST KILLED ME LITERALLT! PLEASE SOMEBODY I NEED HELP! PLEASE DONT TELL ME SOMETHING I ALREADY KNOW!THANK YOU PLEASE REPLY SOMEBODY KATHY N ALABAMA


about 7 years ago, said...

I take care of my terminally ill ex-wife in my home. January 26 she will turn 48. She is also bi-polar. I always see that care giving is focused on the elderly and not younger. This is where I need help. She may have 1 1/2 years left. I'm going to try my best to make this Christmas speacial for her since she feels this will be the last one she can enjoy. She has no income and we live off my city pay check. Thank you for your time. I'll take any input you can give me, I'm exhausted I've been taking care of her for 1 1/2 years.


about 7 years ago, said...

I am the caregiver for my 39 year old son who has lost most of his sight from diabetes. He became disabled in October of 2007 and had to live with my husband and me until February of 2010 when he moved to another mobile home in the same park. He still requires daily help from me. I had to give up my job to help him and have not been able to go back to work since. He was awarded disability in Sept. of 2009 and has been on Medicare and Medicaid since that time. My husband and I are on social security. Would I be eligible to receive financial help as my son's caregiver?


about 7 years ago, said...

My sister have been taking care of our mom for year. Each time we try to get medicare for her she is turn down . She live with one of my sister and we take our turn see about her we all work so it is hard for us so her grand daughter come and sit with her when we can not the six of us pay her for her time .


about 7 years ago, said...

To Ramhemi: Your brother will qualify for Medicaid in a skilled care facility. I am certain you prefer to keep him home, and I understand that. You are facing the loss of your car, no income, no job, and I can only guess if due to this caregiving, you could even be ill and homeless soon. There is a limit. Do you sacrifice your life to save your brother from being in a nursing home? Do we have two victims then? I have seen many people have to leave their home for a facility. Sometimes it is for the better. Caregiving is dangerous work, and you could die before he does! At least if he is safe in the home, you could work and get your car back on the road. If you find a job, get back on your feet, maybe you could bring him back home later. In the meantime, the rule in the airplane is, PUT THE OXYGEN MASK ON YOURSELF FIRST--then help the helpless. If you go down, who can help him?


about 7 years ago, said...

Your reply to my question did not help. I stated that my brother is om Medicaid, Medicare and draws Social Security. He has a Home- Health Aide but only for 35 hours per week (7 hrs per day, 5 days per week). Home-Health care agencies, as far as I have seen, hire only Africans (NOT African-Americans) to work as Home-Health Aides. I do not have a problem with that, but none of the ones that have been sent to my house to work those above mentioned 35 hours per week caring for my brother speak or understand the english language very well. This makes my situation here very difficult as far as my being able to get out and get a job to pay MY bills. What I wanted to know is this: Since my brother is on Medicaid, Medicare, draws a Social Security Check every month AND has a Home-Health Aide that is paid for by the state.......is there a way for me to be paid for caring for my brother during the hours that his Aide is not here? I have to be here 24-7/365 because a lot of things that have to be done for my brother the Aide either cannot do, or will not do. And then there is the language barrier!! This means that I cannot work outside the home, which means I cannot pay MY bills. My vehicle is permanently parked at the moment because the tags went dead. The tags went dead because I owe personal property taxes, that I cannot pay because I cannot work, and the Virginia DMV has blocked renewing my tags until the taxes are paid. I also have to worry that my vehicle will be taken from me and sold at auction for the taxes owed. PLEASE HELP ME FIND A SOLUTION


about 7 years ago, said...

I live on the Big Island of Hawaii and care for my 56 year old husband who has Parkinson's Disease and Spinal Stenosis. Does Hawaii offer the "Get Paid For Caregiving" program?


about 7 years ago, said...

I am 58 years this year September. I have had 2 back surguryies which have left me with nerve and muscle damage. Three years ago we were snow birds, and I got sick and doctor said no more taveling till we find out whats going on. It almost to a year of tests and specialist 2 enfrocologists. 1 said nothing was wrong the secong one took a long time to get in to see. By thayt time I couldn't talk, pain in the neck and throat and I had now voice. This endroconolgist said I had turmors on my thyroid and there was surgury. But this time my voice box was damaged and will never be the same and neither will I. I thought I was dying, I coluldn't talk and the doctors thought I was over druged, but was so weak I couldn't even talk. Finially the surgury, I was allergic to the dye and so they went in blind. They took out a couple things that shouldn't have come out. They said they cut them up and put them back in.. After that I was never the same. a lot of nerve damage and the voice never returned. Before that I had L4 rupture and they decided there was nothing wrong with me. It took 10 years of intense pain and bed rest, them i day it exploded. Still couldn't get help, I went to emegency and I was told I was a drug seeker. Even when seen the head of Ortho surgury at henery ford, examined me and asked me why I was there he could find nothing wrong. I asked if he looked at my MRI. He did surgury within the week and I had drop foot, the nerve is severed by the bone and the pain was unbearabale. I year larter, it happened again. This time, I was called a drug seeker and there was nothing wong with me. MY husband threaten the Dr. and he put me in to have physical therapy, but when the therapist seem me he told me you can't have surgury you have a blown disc. I was transferred to the hospital that sent me away for being a drug seeker. It was a 2nd 8 hour surgury, left me with drop foot on the right side.l an in a wheelchair. The pain is unbearable. I have went to pain chlinics and therapy. the pain never stops. Now i went incontenent. lost totale control. the pain which I thought couldn't get any worst went off the charts. 1 endocornologist said my bladder had fallen and I needed surgury, but i was in such bad shape I had to wait till I got stronger. the pain got so bad I couldn't walk and I am unranating all over my self no control. this doctor Dr. Law in Trenton said my bladder had fallen and it need to be fixed.. the pain got so bad i wasn't making it to the bathroom and the pain was awful....this doctor did something bad to me and I stopped seeing him and went to beaumount hospital Unrology Center, they saved my life. My bladder had fallen but so did my whole vaginal wall. There was no control and if the other dr did the operation it would have make things worst. I am now doing a experimental treatment. I have wires running from my spine to my bladder and around the siatic nevers. I am power by a pace maker, its helping contol how often I go and helps a little with pain. Sometime I wonder if I should be alive because the pain sometimes is more than i and handle. This doesn't even tell how awful this is on my husband that has had 2 heart attacks and a nervious breakdown worrying about me.We need help and I don't know where or how to fing help. Most of the time I don't know anything because of the pain and the pain pills i take. I love my family but I hate what I am doing to them. and the on top of that our dog our angel just turned 4 Neopolatin Masstive. He is the sweet most wonderful dog in the world, everyone loves him, just went to the vet and we just found out he has cancer. I would rather die that had my dog die, he is a great dog and because of all the doctor bill, oh yes, my husband also has had 2 heart attacks and is seeing a pyhcologist, he is a veteran from Vet Nam and has many issue and I am afraid he will go over the edge trying to take care of me and out dog and him selp and our kids. I don't know if there is anything anyone can do but if there is please tell me so I can save his life, and I wish someone could save my dog, he is not a dog he is my baby, he is the sweets thing ever. He will hug you and kiss you and when I or my husband are having a bad day he seems to know and does things to lift our spirts. i just lost 2 ferrers to cacner and 3 dogs before max with hip dysplasa. my ferrets also dies of cancer. I think my husband also has cancer or heart problems but won't tell me because I am on the edge, I don't know if this is what you are looking for but help would be greately apciated. I died in my maxs place in a heart beat he means that much to us. I love my family but I am tearing them apart and now our baby, It it much , i am getting tired and have to stop if there is anything you can do to help, please let me know. Pills are kick ing in so I have to stop I hope someone can help, I pray someone would help my dog, he is loved


about 7 years ago, said...

How can I get compensated for taking care of a friends mother. Family friend just like a Aunt. I have been looking all over. Please help, We are in Georgia. She really needs my assistance. Her family is not able but I will. I will have to let some income go in order to do it! WE are trying to find a way that I can get paid and she is able to get everything she needs under Medicaid and medicare!Stroke/Dialysis Victim. I have certifications for a Caregiver. Cpr/First aid/ Current Tb Test. Current Job stats. Please help us! Thanks!


about 7 years ago, said...

CERTIFICATION: Required by government and many old LTC policies because in the good old days we were sick and then we died in our 50-60's. They are still stuck in the old medical model and are requiring medical certifications "for the patient's safety." Custodial care is getting more recognized w/ our extended care for chronic disabling conditions. Long Term Care Insurance Advice If parent has LTC insurance, check w/ company what it pays for. Some policies pay for equipment and home modification that can help make the caregiver job easier--think alerts, reminders, bath stools, etc. Get advice from Claims dept of the insurer. Most will pay a family caregiver IF they are working thru and being paid by a home health agency only. Some newer policies pay cash and you can use it for anything. Start the policy claim immediately when they can no longer bathe and dress w/o assistance or are cognitively impaired. Even if there is a 90 day elimination, find out if you need to be paying something out each day for "days of service" to count or is it just calendar days. IF THERE IS HOME EQUITY: Reverse mortgages from the big banks is now safe. You cannot lose the house. There are a lot of protections. For some, the big benefit may be no more mortgage payment, freeing up some cash. You can get a small monthly income or go for the large cash out, buy an annuity based on the person's projected life span, and get a higher monthly income stream. LIFE INSURANCE: Maybe it can be cashed in, or changed to a living benefit. Do not drop it until you check on the possible value w./ an experienced insurance agent. Accelerated benefits: Some life insurance policies allow access to benefits while the insured person is still alive. This option is usually restricted to cases where the insured has been diagnosed as terminally ill and death is believed to be imminent within a specified period of time. A portion of the life insurance benefit is paid to the policyholder for long term care rather than to the beneficiary at the policyholder's death. Check with your life insurance company to learn if this option is available to you. Long term Care is a huge problem about to get worse. I am turning 65 in January, along w/ millions of other Baby Boomers hitting their seniority. LTC insurance works! I know it cannot work for everyone, but for those with good savings, a home to lose and who want their dignity and independence w/o being a burden to those they love, it works. If you can, secure your future w/ some kind of a plan, be it LTC insurance, the kids, roommates, life insurance w/ an LTC benefit; save and plan your future--and start as young as possible. The government cannot just keep printing money and we cannot, and probably do not want to, rely on the fading Medicaid plan.


about 7 years ago, said...

The only thing that this article fails to mention, is that the state of Florida is on a wait list. They are out of money, and don't know when or if they are going to get funding again. Rick Scott said he was going to be cutting state jobs, so who knows if there are even going to be employees to come do assessments if funding opens up.


about 7 years ago, said...

what if you are caring for a sick child?


about 7 years ago, said...

I cannot look for work because I am taking care of my Mother 24/7. she had a stroke, Parkinsons, PaceMaker, Diabetic and hard of hearing. I am getting a little pay, but I heard I could actually get paid in the St. of Michigan, is this true.


about 7 years ago, said...

I'm going to become a certified STNA , so I can provide home care to my elderly grandparents in-laws. Will Medicaid (or other agency) pay me to provide home care for them? How can I go about finding out who will pay me to provide home care?


about 7 years ago, said...

I need to know if I can get a income from taking care of my parents, I really have to take care of both of them, my father had a stroke 4 years ago and is bedridden, my mother has a lot of health issues too, and I really need the help financially, it is hard for me to work a public job because of the situation I'm in, I had to quit school to help, plus I still have a son in high school, so any money I can get would help me a great deal. Please let me hear from u soon! Thank u.


about 7 years ago, said...

Why should ANYONE pay YOU for taking care of your OWN relatives?


about 7 years ago, said...

I forgot to mention in my earlier post, in the State of Hawaii, it costs ALMOST $10,000!!! a month to live in a nursing home, NOW tell me would'nt you want to be paid that much to take care of your loved ones at home??


about 7 years ago, said...

I also take care of my mother who is almost 80 years old, I quit my job not thinking about losing my benefits such as health insurance (being diabetic myself) and am wondering why aren't WE paid for taking care of our loved ones, cause I know for damn sure we take better care of them than any nursing home would!! Also I do have people who say they'll help me out if need be but, reality check if it ain't your mother would you want to clean her up after she makes a bm?? Thats what I thought.


about 7 years ago, said...

taking care of my mother who cannot bath or cook for herself, she also has numerous trips o the Dr and pharmacy. I have had to cut my hrs at work because without warnng my mother can fall, she has 2 disk in her neck that need surgery because they are pressing on her spine, which is why her legs fail her. She is on Plavix for 6 more months, so they wont even consider surgery until she is off of it for 3 days, I need financial assistance and dont know how to get it. She has medicare A and B doesnt qualify for medicade what can I do??


about 7 years ago, said...

Everything was. thank you so much


about 7 years ago, said...

My mother was in the nursing home and is now living with me. Her home and property is still in her name but she wants to leave it to my brother and me. If she would need to go back into a nursing home we would lose it. What are our options at this point.if any?


about 7 years ago, said...

does anyone in the state of nevada knows who i can go to, to get paid for taking care of my mother, thank you.


about 7 years ago, said...

i am a single mother of two and taking care of my father who is 73 yrs old i only get paid nine dollars and i dont get paid for leave when i have to take him to his appointments i just want to know or who to talk to to get paid for some money of loss of income from my work i dont make enough and cant get a second job cause my dad needs me to take care of him and to take him to his appointments


about 7 years ago, said...

the understanding....to the all new questions that have started progressing in the past two weeks..I must continue reading......


about 7 years ago, said...

My dad has esoughus canser stage 3 and needs care at home he has kaiser insurance..how do i go about getting paid to take care of him..He needs almost around the clock care an i fear that i wont be able to find a job that will let me tend to him..what should i do?


about 7 years ago, said...

Ok I've read alot on the Cash And Counseling program, but it seem's that Texas is not on this list. I take care of my brother who is Mentally Impaired ---He is 56 but remains 6 1/2 in age.Now I'm 45 and have health issue and am filed for disability still pending. Although I'm capable of careing for my brother and his needs in which he needs regular supervision 24/7. I'm not capable of working on a day to day basis and attending to my brother's needs,This is overwhelming me as it seem's I can't get paid for taking care of him.He does attend Adult Daycare, but he get's home about 2 pm.There's alot more to b done after he get's home.With my condition's I can't work regularly and even a part time job is out of question.Reality is no one wants to hire people who put limit's on when they can and cannot work.This causes a termendous stress and trama to the family.Why is it I hear people getting paid to take care of there loves ones and I can't seem to find the connection to this.Is there anyway someone can please guide me to the help I need to become a paid family provider---I'm really tired of researching .Thank You any help would be Appreciated.


about 7 years ago, said...

My husband and I were just thinking of down sizing and having more free time, then we find out my Mom will be needing long term care. So now we must buy a home big enough for her to move in with us,and we wont be retiring like we thought. If we should want to go anywhere we will have to hire some one to come and sit with her. To complicate things we are looking to move from Oklahoma to Tempe Arizona and no nothing of the state laws concerning those living on a fixed incomes like my Mom.Any advice would be helpfull.


about 7 years ago, said...

My parents are not low income but they have lots of bills and also need my help. They can't afford assistance, what can I do?


about 7 years ago, said...

I live in MN. my mother needs help at home. I am willing to help but have mortgage to pay. Am LPN and want to get compensated to help her. I wish I could continue without pay but my husband just died of cancer and money is tough situation.


about 7 years ago, said...

Is there health insurance available for caregivers with a 1 year old child with a major heart disease and parplegic from the waist down?


over 7 years ago, said...

does caregiver and health care assistant the same? and if i study caregiving in my country (philippines) can i work as a health care assistant in UK?


over 7 years ago, said...

I take care of my aunt she is 85 had her for 20 years i am on disable my self but i care for her take care of all her needs she can do much anymore.Plus i clean her up all day from accendets.Is is alot . please help


over 7 years ago, said...

My Dad had a stroke, I have to take care of him, and can't go to work, how do I get paid to take care of him?


over 7 years ago, said...

My boyfriend's dad is on dialysis and gets some assistance to pay for his medications and treatments, and some of his living expenses. However he is going to be moving in with us in the next month or so and my boyfriend wants to be able to stay home to take care of him full time. He is not old enough for medicare and the little money he does receive isn't enough to cover what my boyfriend will be giving up in order to take care of him. I want him to be able to stay home and help his dad if at all possible, but I'm already working two jobs and we have a hard time making ends meet as is. What kind of programs are there for him to receive assistance for staying home and helping his dad? Any help would be incredibly grateful :)


over 7 years ago, said...

I do everything for my 75 year old father who has Parkinson's, and my 71 year old mother who has some leg issues, high blood pressure and some other things. I do all the shopping, pay all the bills, take them to doctor appts and on and on. However, I don't know if we would be considered eligible for any help because people will probably decide they're not handicapped or needy enough. I have been unemployed for the better part of 18 months except for some temp jobs and a part time job. When I finally do get a job I had no idea what my parents are going to do. My nephew has no driver's license (and is a student, a father himself and working full time also), my sister lives a few miles away but doesn't help much, and there's really no one else other than my sixteen year old niece. I'm worried, but without some help I can't continue to do everything I do now. Nothing gets done in the house either, because I can't do it all, and my mother can do very little, and my father can barely walk


over 7 years ago, said...

My mother is a stroke patient. Her Medicare is about to run out and in about 12 days she will come home from the nursing home and she needs almost round the clock care. We are trying to get the in-home care we will both need to make this work. I just turned 55 and have health issues myself including some emotional handicaps that have kept me from having a job and from having a life, but no health care. I am long term unemployed. Due to stress, last summer I had symptoms indicative of a mild stroke but didn't go to the ER because I didn't feel I could afford to. I spent 13 years as primary caregiver to my parents and could not have worked during that time. We lost Dad in early 2001. Over the past ten and a half years Mom and I have had living h--l on earth, one thing after another each thing as devastating to us as Mom's stroke has been. Over that time we have lost and given up and had taken from us a great many things and you begin to wonder where it ends. For example we have 3 pet cats and I just cannot give them up in all this yet. My mother's retirement income is all either of us have to live on and that ends after she passes on someday. Mom needs to come home not only because her Medicare runs out but also for her own emotional well-being and she needs the in-home nursing care to make that work. She worries about me and needs peace of mind knowing I will be ok for the rest of my life. I need health care, and I need an income I can live on comfortably for the rest of my life that allows me to support and maintain myself and my situation without my having to lose or give up anything more to get it. Mom and I have both lost and given up so much over the past 10 years, after a while you say, "no more." I also need a sense of security, I really have none at all. Because of Mom's care needs I cannot go out and get a job. All I can often see when I look at the future is absolutely nothing. For two years we have cried and cried for help but our cries seem to have fallen on deaf ears. Mom and I both feel desparate, I also feel scared, we don't know what to do or where to turn. How do we take care of both Mom and me? Please help!


over 7 years ago, said...

It was all very helpful to me. I feel like I know nothing about getting some help for us.


over 7 years ago, said...

I care for my dad he is a disabled vet. I am here 24/7, I just found out that i could get paid for doing this. I need to know who to contact. Can some one help me.


over 7 years ago, said...

thank you ,this information was very helpfull for me. my mom has alzhaimer and dementia and i take care of her .


over 7 years ago, said...

I am 35 and have MS. I have a lot of problem's including PAIN, balance, memory,extreme fatigue, etc. I also have a four year old. My husband has been off for the last 9 month's because of depression... anyway, it was great to have him at home! I finally had back-up. If I fell he was actually there to literally pick me up. He help's administer my shot's, Copaxone, and B-12 (pernicious anemia) I actually have a small laundry list of medical problem's, including bi-polar disorder. Yeah, he is a lucky guy!!! lol So, he is back to work now, and it is swing shift. Every single week his schedule change's!! It is horrible! I need help!! We bring in a decent living, but can not afford daycare or maid service's, and really don't want a host of stranger's coming through my house. I live in VA and I am looking for any info. on how I can pay my husband to take care of me! We know it would probably be a pay cut but I think we could manage. I appreciate this site very much because I already have a few thing's to go back and click on! But if anyone has any specific help advise please e-mail me at doozle1@verizon.net Thank You!!


over 7 years ago, said...

Great article om medicad, what about medicare financial help for care givers?


over 7 years ago, said...

as far as myself my job cut my hours work as a daycare worker the when who does the schedule changes it at last minute schedules me to work today at 1230pm today then just called me and told me to come in now so i have to go because i am not even getting 40 hrs a week or even close to these hours


over 7 years ago, said...

when my stepfather died was worried about my mother because my stepfather did almost everything around house paying bills balancing check book etc asked her to move in with my husband and myself she declined wants to be independent can not take that away from her


over 7 years ago, said...

my stepfather just died my mother is having a hard time paying bills she is looking for a place to live that will work with how much money is coming in right now has friend living with her but she does not now for how long


over 7 years ago, said...

I have been caring for a 47 year old daughter that has MS in her own homw for 15 years she receives some help from the state but I give her Betaserone injectins every 2nd day. She has meals delivered 5 days a week but not on Sat or Sunday or Holidays. We are on limited income and driving back and forth the gas bills are high. She wants to say in her own home as long as she canThe state is paying Help at Home persons but they cannot give her injections. They say I am not eligible for pay because I am her mother ??? Just a little help could pay for gas. She falls a lot and I do have to go over at these times also.


over 7 years ago, said...

Hi taken, This article is about how to get paid for caregiving. Be sure you read all the pages. :) Best!


over 7 years ago, said...

i have 2 mentally retarded sisters that live with me. was told on several occassions that i can det paid for taking care of them. if so tell me how to do this. the right steps to get this started. please????


over 7 years ago, said...

I am seriously thinking of quiting my job to take care of my mother with dementia and incontinence but I would need help but I have the home and all the love for her in the world.


over 7 years ago, said...

I had to leave my job in febuary of 2007 to care for my dad that passed in Jan 2008, And now I am careing for my mother which has diabetes & diabetic neuropathy & can't walk, but coes have a power chair. She is not able to care for herself and would be in a nursing home if not for me and my commitment that neither one of my parents God willing would ever go to one of them places & with Gods help I have been able to carry on with her care. She is on medicare and has another health care insurance from the company that my dad retired from. It takes nearly all her income to pay the bills and for medicine co pay that the providers do not cover or should I say part of. Let me get to the point of this I am at the end of my ropes & really don't know what to do, is there any kind of help finnancialy for a person like me, I have depleted all my savings and have no other source of income at all. I actually spend many nights just breaking down and crying because it has become so over whelming for me. I have never in my life asked for any kind of help, all I have done is paid my taxes, and try to always do the right thing. If anyone has any ideas at all I would be so very Thankfull if you could share them with me. My e-mail is wahoo2578@aol.com Thank you and may God Bless you !!!!


over 7 years ago, said...

Are there any programs that will help with this problem if not there should be.


over 7 years ago, said...

There is financial help for those whom are taking care of a sick and terminally ill family member and elderly parents. I had to assume the responsibility of taking care of my mother over a year ago.I was totally unprepared financially however,other family members would not come forth or are disabled themself and were not mentally or emotionally capable of the responsibility. I had some idea as to what I was getting into but,what choice did I have? Other than having my mother put in the care of a medical facility for the aging I couldn't do that. There again is help. First of all if the family member is considered terminal which isn't only from cancers,etc. My mothers'illness is COPD,Parkinsons,Alzheimers.Since there are no cures for these and the end result is death at some point there is Hospice. Hospice is a wonderful help. With this program your family member has a socail worker who comes to the home for visits. These visits are not just for the patient but,for the care taker as well. A Hospice nurse is assigned to the patient with weekly visits to evaluate their health and a Hospice Doctor oversees the care and medications. Medications are at no cost to the patient or family members and are delivered right to your door by and through a pharmacy contracted with Hospice. If your financial responsibilities such as untilities fall behind the social worker can most likely present the past due bills and Hospice will pay the utility companies to catch up the outstanding balances. The next step is to contact your local state health care provider. Talk with them about the long-term health program. This is where the process begins to where you can begin getting paid for your services as a family health care provider. The process if it is your first time applying,can be over whelming however,try to keep a clear mind and get all the information needed or asked for by the department of Health and Human Services. This process has time limits as to getting all the necessary paper work and documents needed. Should the time limit expire befor all is completed the process will have to start over but,it won't take as long,as you have all the necessary paper work already completed. After all is accepted the Department of Health and Human Services will contact a nurse who will call you to set up an appointment for an evaluation of the patient. Make this appointment as soon as you possibly can as it is a very important step in the process. After this round and everything is approved the Department of Human Services will send you a notice which will list a number of long-term health care providers you must pick one. don't waste time worring about which one! as they all perform according to rules and regulations set forth by your state government. After this stage the long-term health care provider will call to set up another appointment for an evaluation again,to evaluate the patients condition. Once this is done you will be asked to chose a contractor which is contracted with the state where the payments of your services are made. You will be contacted again by this contractor whom will again set up an appointment for evaluation and you will have to complete a CPR training session in your home with the evaluator at the time of the appointment. You will have to get a TB test prior which you can get at any urgent care location,etc. The long-term care provider will discuss the alloted hours in which they will pay you for providing health care and the contracted company you choose to work for will discuss how much an hour you can expect. Don't expect to the long-term provider to give you a lot of hours however,you don't have to settle for the hours given. You can disagree with the hours alloted but,be prepared to write a letter as to why you disagree and you must be very detailed as to why you feel the hours just are not enough. It is worth it to disagree. By disagreeing you will still be paid however,only the hours first alloted if the hours do get increased it is not retro but you will be notified when the increase will begin. Don't expect to ever get more than 35 hrs. a week! you may depending on your states funding? I currently make $10.50 an hr. at 33 hrs. a week. Although it isn't much it gets us by! You can also apply for a food card through the Department of Human Services to help with food costs. Don't be ashamed to ask or use this service! You yourself if you have no health insurance can also apply for state health insurance through you local Department of Health and Human Services. Again,do not be ashamed to take advantage of this.I have to use these services and am happy they exist. Since caring for my mother 24 hrs. a day 7 days a week as well as the financial strain and stress I have needed counciling and have to stay healthy as well. I also need to mention contact your local utility companies and get on their medical programs for reduced rates. although it isn't much of a break,you will be thankful for the help. If this isn't very clear and you would like more detailed information or even need help with the process you can contact me at rhettbutler40@hotmail.com


over 7 years ago, said...

I have been caring for my husband for the past 6 years. It is now going on 7 years. I am totally confined to home and caring for him. I do not qualify for medicaid. This is totally ridiculous because of how much income one has. Eventually I will qualify because of the high cost of medical expenses and his personal care.It isn't fair that one has to delinquish all their assets just to qualify for assistance. I am thinking seriously about divorcing my husband just so that I can get my life back and he can have the care he needs. It's not right for the system to put citizens through such a turmoil during their critical time of the life that is left in them. Let's be honest here. I know many of you feel the same way but can't say it like it really is. it's devestating to have to go through such a drastic step especially when it deals with the one you love so much.


over 7 years ago, said...

I have a mom that I have been caring for. For some time now she has had two brain tumor sugeries and has left her with out the process of speach and left leg usage. Since having radiation which killed good cells as well as bad she lost some of her functioning process. I left a good paying job to help her out is there anyway I can get some kind of compensation for this.Or should I say pay.


over 7 years ago, said...

I Live in OHIO and took the STNA classes to try to get paid for caring for my father. It does not help as medicare only pays for home care if you have skilled nursing such as a physical therapist, and then its a very small amount. I feel for all of you in the same position. We only want to help but the loss of income is very difficult.


over 7 years ago, said...

My wife and I are apart would love to get back togather but if we do they will cut her & her little girle check.The dougther is 11 yr. not expected to live to much longer. I am disable too just whist we could be togather but they fixit so you can't.


almost 8 years ago, said...

I absolutely agree the govt needs to quickly step up to the plate & make funds available to pay family members to take care of their parents & family me bers. Why pay a nursing home $6000-$8000 conservatively for care, that willmeverbe as personal ,loving, or caring as a family member. The govt & medicate would save a lot of money. This is a definite for health care reform . When we give up our jobs , because we want to lovingly want to take care of our parent, & willing to give up our job & income..... We should at least get 1/3 of what it would cost on a home. We ate doing every aspect of their care. Instead of the $6000-$8000, I would be glad to get even the 1/3 of $2000-$2650/ month : including not only care, but lodging, food, pill trays, pharmacy, Dr visits, baths, store shopping, bills, outside activity, visiting, game night, laundry, linens& bed making , dust, vacuum, scrubbing , assist with walking, bathing, all meal prep, pay bills, banking, post office , etc etc how do they expect you to stay working & healthy doing this second very stressful job? This needs to be addressed. Plus the govt would save a trendous amount of money for the new health care reform bill . This is aust & a no brainer


almost 8 years ago, said...

These situations are all to sad and yet so common. My questions is this, what does one do when they're not old enough for Medicare? I have been caring for my husband for 2 years since his health has declined due to heart disease. We are only in our late 50's and I've yet to find any help for people our age. My husband was forced into retirement as well and we live on half what he made when he worked. We also have our grand daughter living with us and going to school. We support her with everything other than her Pell Grant to go to school. Seems there's no help for many in our shoes. Also, I was helping to care for my brother who now has passed away from a massive stroke. He had no health insurance having had to quit his job 4 years before he died due to a smaller stroke. I talked him into signing up for Medicaid here in Utah. After only 3 weeks from burying my brother, I received a letter from the State telling me I owed them $16,000 for all my brother's medical expenses. I was in shock....how was I to come up with that kind of money? I called and spoke to the woman who sent the letter and explained my situation but it fell on deaf ears. I was told my brother's house would have to be put on the market and sold so that the State could get their pound of flesh. I explained to this woman that the home was in no shape to be put up for sale but it made no difference. It took my husband and I 6 months to clean out the house, paint, replace appliances, redo counters and tile and finally were lucky enough to have someone give us a decent offer. It was only shear luck that this all happened as it was that next summer that my husband was diagnosed with his heart condition. Read the fine print before signing anything.


almost 8 years ago, said...

I resigned a job as a corrections officer in Texas and moved back home to help my Dad care for Mom...Dad died two years later. I have no income and have no idea where to find help? Social Security does not cover expenses for a month. Where can I find financial help/get paid for my caregiving work with Mom?


almost 8 years ago, said...

That's the state for you. They don't care a rats butt about people only themselves. They want their share of the money even though they aren't doing any of the work. and of course going to a nursing home would cost more money. dah! FOR THEM.... I think everyone should write a letter to our congress and push the issue to get paid for taking care of our parents that maybe they could set up a fund just for that, (and not touch it for their needs) so we could get paid without all the hassels.


over 8 years ago, said...

very helpful article, unfortunately my state doesn't participate with C & C.


about 9 years ago, said...

I just got off the phone with the Ohio District 5 counsel on ageing about trying to get paid for caring for my mother who has Alzheimer's. Their answer was to contact Passport. My niece's grandmother had that and when she passed they came in and took everything to cover her care while she was alive. Her father was her caregiver and was living there. They (Passport) had him evicted and they sold the house. They told me that I would have to get certified to take care of me mother in order to get paid. I have been caring for my mother for about 10 years now so how is me, spending more money that I don't have to get a piece of paper stating that I know how to care for my mother going to help? It would cost the government more money to have mom in a nursing home than if I would stay home and care for her. I DON'T GET IT!!!