8 Things to Do When You First Learn Your Loved One Has Alzheimer's

Hello, I believe my Dad is in the early stages of Alzheimer's (his Mom, Grandma and now Sister also had/have it). How do you bring it up to your loved one that you think they should have it checked out by a doctor without offending them? My Dad is a Marine and served in the Korean War - he is very set in his ways and doesn't think there's a problem. Any advice would be helpful! Thank you in advance!

Looking for support groups and memory classes (like dropping off for short sessions. We live in KY.

My mom is really declining cognitively, to the point where she is Mean! She thinks nothing is wrong. She says she's going to kill my brother - he's stolen everything from her (a delusion). We're both afraid of her and this little sweet lady is swearing at us! She want's no "help" - she believes nothing is wrong and we will never take her from her home. (we've never considered it). Help! We both live 800 miles away in different directions. I've contact home health - but she won't let anyone in.

Mom thinks son who has pass a way is going shot her I don't know what to do to carm her down please help

My dad is 80 and I belive he's about stage rour or five alzheimers hes divorced but moved a lady in eight years ago when I started believing he was depressed and starting to forget things I'm his only son and I am worried about his health and every thing because I'm lost and not sure if or what I should do

My Grandmothers Dr. simply told her to forget about it. She did.

I recently read what I would call the best written book regarding Alzheimer's and Dementia called "The 36 HOur Day". I read it from front to back because I wanted to know as much as I could about the disease. The table of contents takes you through various questions you will have and if you don't want to read the entire book, you can took to the table of contents for your specific needs.

I appreciated hearing about how to get my husband to accept his diagnosis. My family doctor has been a really big help, but my husband is still in denial, completely.

Hello presto, Your mom's tax return is a good place to start. Any insurance or accounts paying dividends will be reported there. Does your mom say she doesn't know because she doesn't want to tell you, or can she actually not remember? If she's resistant to tell you, then compliment her on the great job she's done with her money so far and you want to make sure she keeps doing well. Steve

A very real guide with practical suggestions for families going through this process. Thanks.

Also, do check on payment of bills, etc. My husband was the bill payer and let his long term health care lapse because he didn't think he needed it. Also, our dog had not been vaccinated or licensed for 8 years!! He was retired and I was working. These things just happen.

Good information, but I have to disagree about letting family members know. My husband's younger sister was treated for 3 years before letting us know. Meanwhile, I was going through horrible years with my husband. Had I known, I would have insisted on an evaluation. Please, don't keep it a secret! Help each other!

Give them a piece of paper to keep in their pocket with the words "you have Alzheimer's" written on it.

I don't know how to find out about my Mothers financial affairs. I know her check book,social security and medicaid but I don't know how to find out about any other insurances or accounts she may have. When I ask her about it she says she doesn't know. If it comes to her needing nursing care I don't want to have any surprises. Any suggestions?