How to Make the Last Chapter of Life More Bearable to Endure as a Caregiver

For many people, death is a long, slow, difficult process. Some people can live for many weeks on minimal nutrition, hovering in a state that seems more not-here than here, yet unmistakably alive. This can be painful to witness and stressful for a family to endure. Yet it's important to be prepared for this possibility, especially if you're a dementia caregiver, as this is a common end-of-life experience for people with dementia.

What helps:

  • Literally take each hour, each day, as it comes. You've probably been "living in the moment" for quite a while, and this philosophy will continue to be lifesaving.

  • Reach out to family. Celebrate the life that's fading away, and comfort one another with memories.

  • Turn your mind to practicalities, if that helps. Some people are comforted by keeping busy. If this is true for you, you may want to begin to consider future funeral arrangements -- for example, who will give the eulogy and what you might want to say yourself.


about 2 years ago, said...

My mom is getting to that stage she is have a hard time eating. She is talking very much. My brother wants to keep her alive at anyone's expense. I have been this 3 to 4 years and it is starting cause not cause problems with my own family. My doctor thinks it time to walk away and take care of myself. What kind of person does thats make me to walk away from a mother that does not even know me. Someone give me some advice.


over 2 years ago, said...

I very much fear that my husband is reaching this stage. He is not eating much. he is in a Nursing Home but is being discharged soon. I want him to spend whatever time is left at home and with family.


over 3 years ago, said...

just flat out good advise, thanks a bunch, Paula.


over 3 years ago, said...

Hint number 3, hate to make arrangements, but realize time is close.


about 4 years ago, said...

Monday July 30 2012 3:50 pm est "Gone Home',,,,, 83 years of age.so MUCH Mental and Physical Pain,was un-able to tel us what was wrong.It was So Hard for 3 years straight,,But i would NEVER NEVER have changed a thing short of trying to do more and i was with her 24/7... MOM I AND SIS MISS YOU SO SO SO MUCH JUST WISH WE HAD JUST ONE MORE DAY MOM, HOW MY HEART ACHES,MY 2 YEAR OLD LITTLE GIRL HAS GONE HOME,JUST WISH YOU WOULD HAVE BECOME MY 1 YEAR OLD. MOM ITS SO HARD............LOVE AND MISS YOU


almost 5 years ago, said...

So sorry for your loss Sanity. My dad passed with the same disease on Oct 28, 2011. I too cherish alt the time I had with him and being with him his final moment . God Bless all who are suffering from this devistating disease and Bless all who are caring for them..


almost 5 years ago, said...

SADLEY, M MOM PASSED AA ON OCT 13,2011. SHE HAD SEVERE ALZHEIMERS AND FELL WHICH LET TO A FALL AND STROKE. I CHERISH ALL THE TIME I HAD TAKING CARE OF THIS LOVING, SPECIAL WOMAN. THE MEMORIES OF SPENDING HER FINAL MOMENTS WITH MYSELF AND FAMILY IS ABSOLUTELY PRICESS. THANK OU ALL FOR THE INTERACTION ON THIS GREAT SITE. TAKE CARE AND LOVE THEM AS LONG AS OU CAN.