Caregiver Confessions: When You Feel Your Family Is Being Torn Apart

Firsthand advice from a caregiver who's been there
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The stresses of caring for a sick loved one affect every family member in different ways -- and sometimes, the entire unit can seem to fall apart. Family tensions are common in the face of a health crisis, especially when the sick person is a parent.

"My mother was the rock, and when she was sick, it was like we'd lost our center," says TV-radio personality Leeza Gibbons, founder of the Leeza's Place communities for caregivers.

Watch Leeza's firsthand advice on coping with the strain of family conflict and feeling torn apart.


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Here are more tips on coping with family conflict:

Remember that every family member has a unique relationship. Tensions can run high if each person interprets the situation slightly differently because of this.

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Be prepared for old family roles and arguments to resurface. Now that you're all adults, try to give the baby of the family an equal voice, for example.

Agree to focus on the goal: helping the person who needs care. If you find yourselves getting sidetracked by old grievances, ask yourselves if this is what Mom, Dad, or Grandma wants, or if it's in his or her best interest.

Keep communicating. Family meetings are a great way for all voices to be heard. If families are scattered, include long-distance members through high-tech options, like Skype or other videoconferencing or free conference call services.

Divide and conquer. Consider dividing responsibilities in ways that play to each person's strengths. For example, some family members might be better at handling insurance matters and finances than providing bedside care, and vice versa.

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See also:

When You're Feeling Guilt

When You Don't Feel Appreciated

When You're Sleeping Poorly

When You're in Over Your Head

When You Lose Your Temper

Family Is Being Torn Apart

When You're Just Not Eating Right

When You Rarely See Friends

When You Resent Being a Caregiver

When No One Will Help

Feeling Anticipatory Grief

After Caregiving Ends

Paula Spencer Scott

Paula Spencer Scott is the author of Surviving Alzheimer's: Practical Tips and Soul-Saving Wisdom for Caregivers and much of the Alzheimer's and caregiving content on Caring. See full bio