Has uncharacteristic emotional outbursts (acts angry, aggressive, or upset)

I need help---I'm loosing it with my mom and so is my sister.

my husband is 84 and we have been married for 36 years. He is in the mild stage-his outrages really upset me. He was always a calm and very loving person. I try to difuse and I myself don't sleep well even with meds.

My wife, age 84 is in an Assistant Living facility and also has Parkinson's. She cannot stand or walk and has to be liftled from chair or bed to a wheel chair. I visit her every day and she cries at least 50% of the ttme I am there. Is there some medicine that will help or what is your recomendation?

My husband is always asking to go home. He still lives at home. He does not know where home is. I can convenice him he is at home, he also does not remember me at times. This hurts as we have been married 58 years. We are both in our 70's, he is the older one. I lose my temper with him every night. I do not know how to cope with this, please help me.

IDEAS AS TO HOW TO HANDLE THE SITUATION AND CALM THE PATIENT. GEEZER 82

Very helpful. Thank you very much

We are in the process of moving. I wonder if this will affect my husband? He is happy with the new place but once we are there I wonder if he will get confused at night? Nadine Fla

to the annon. caregiver who is taking care of an increasingly abusive family memeber, My siblings and I are dealing with a mother that is turning negitive, emotionaly and verbaly abusive due to dementia. Its hard, it hurts us caregivers. Its very important to find a support group in your area, or go to a good christian church in your area and talk. Many have prayer groups, support groups you can get sound support while dealing with your frustrations. They can work around your time frame. Lord knows its hard to find time during everything happening in your life. Educate yourself no the subject. Whatever you do, dont suffer in silence. Surround yourself, reach out and get support for you. It will help you be a better caregiver, more tolerant and effective for your family member. I am retired licensed in nursing. My heart is out for you. Hang in there, you are stronger than you think. God bless you.

my situation is a little different, mine is a 24 yr old son who had a stroke in the middle of college life and the beginning of his adult life. i am using this website to try and get tips to help me while caring for him full time. it has been almost 3 yrs and he has made great strides but short term memory problems prevail. and when he asks me something and if i say "I dont know" he gets very very upset with me. what else can i say when i dont know the answer?

My mother always wants to argue, or be difficult in some manner. If I say something, she will contradict it. If I ask her to do something, she will do the opposite, especially if it involves me doing extra work. She has begun to "rewrite" her history, in a really hurtfull way to other family members. I am her only caregiver, she seems to want to stay home, but her abusive behavior toward me is getting difficult to handle. She is however, fine with strangers for the most part. Although whan she was in rehab facility, she did begin accusing workers of stealing things from her. When she was going home, I found these items hidden in her clothes closet. How do others handle this type of behavior without wanting to give up, and just place her in a facility. I work full-time, and am also trying to manage health problems of my own. Thanks,

VERY INFORMATIVE. HAVING THE DATA IN "PROGRESS FORM" WAS MOST HELPFUL. AS SUCH, I AM NOW QUITE SURE THAT OVER THE PAST COUPLE OF WEEKS MY WIFE HAS MOVED STRONGLY INTO THE MODERATE STAGE. HOPEFULLY THE HINTS WILL OFFER ME A NEW VIEWPOINT, AND MINIMIZE OR MAYBE EVEN ELIMINATE MY MOST RECENT FRUSTRATION. THANKS FOR THE HLEP. GEEZER81

distracting tactics

help full.i want to know more.

Sam is 87 and,now seems so frail ,and is not interested in anything-Sam never call me by my name any more and says i am not his wife. Sam does not know how or when we got in this house-we have been here a long time.Nights are really bad-he is not on any meds. any more only a low dose-trazodone 50 mg. at bedtime. How long can this go on ?? I am his only caregiver and i am 82.

Hi billy Hood, Thank you very much for your comment. If you'd like to learn more about sundown syndrome, please visit this page: ( http://www.caring.com/articles/sundown-syndrome ). I hope that helps -- Emily | Community Manager

Mostly this seems to happen late in the afternoon. I have diagnosed this my self as aundowner syndrome. Could it be something else?

Yes, I have also diagnosed "sundown syndome" as this usually happens late in the afternoon

we hate to see someone feel helpless, thank goodness my sister's and I are my mother's lil angels. It's our turn to take care of her.

Very helpful and informative :)

thank you for your concern. it is wonderful. beaux

MY HUSBAND HAS PROGRESSED TO THE EARLY STAGES OF MODERATE AND HAS BECOME MORE DEPENDENT SINCE THE LAST DATE.

Yes, its nice to know that I am not alone but I live in England- - very cold people and hard to get to know them. Please keep in touch and remember me please in your prayers. Thank you!

Please send me whatever is going - I feel I am in the early stages of Alheimers. I was 84 years old in January of this year but now I am so forgetful and my husband of 57 years has not been in good health for the past two and a half years. I am worried as to what will happen to him as I get worse.

Having people back off when your confused. I don't know what I have yet but people tend to rush me if I can't remember a word or get confused trying to explain something. I get embaresed & they don't try or want to understand. Giving me a little time would help

Distraction is the best thing to deal with emotional outbursts. My husband loves chocolate/sweet stuff so I always have a bar or box of chocolate hidden. I am lucky my husband is a good- nature person so I hope he is a happy camper as he loses more of his brain chips.

At the moment feel in control, yet also know this will now last...every day is still precious but so aware that he would not want to be like this. thank goodness he is unaware

o.k.,bye

Trying to be pro-active and be in readiness for any future eventualities/reality from my mother & father both,who are 82 and 86 years old respectively,staying independently and hovers in between Delhi & Kolkata ,whareas me & my family stay in MUMBAI and my children are in US,CANADA & AUSTRALIA.

Nothing serious so far.Regards & bye.

I will never lern enough Thanks

My wife has not had ANY emotional outbreaks at all.

That was helpful! I got caught off guard yesterday, and, being a sensitive person, I was very upset, but not in front of my sister..........Took me an evening alone to get it together and remember God is in control of both of our lives...........T

All of it I need all the help I can get and sometimes I forget this dos help thank you