Handling Difficult Behaviors

I am looking for support in dealing with a narcissist brother, who is telling lies and making false accusations about me. It is a long story, but he has now slandered me and caused some family members to not contact me. This has to do with my dad in a rest home, my POA, and him not having the powers, because my dad chose me to do it all for him. I just need some advice from others dealing with the same problem.

After 50 years of being happily married and traveling to many places, my husband is dealing with Dementia- hallucinations and has turned against me. He accuses me of infidelity, he hears voices of men talking to me at night,he doesn't trust me anymore. This is very hurting to me. He will not get medical help, because he says it's me and he is fine and healthy. This is almost driving me to divorce but I can't and won't leave him . We are in our late 70's. I hear symptons of Dementia, but I want to know what can I do to deal with it. This has been going on for a year. Help me please

I live with an 89 year old woman who is extremely stubborn. No one does anything right and everyone is stealing from her according to her. Apparently she has had this personality all her life. Everything has to be her way. Her kids (five of them) are all grown up with families of their own. They don't even like to visit her due to her irritating personality. Her husband died over 20 years ago and she still remains mad at him for ruining her retirement.

She had a stroke almost 2 years ago and was told by her kids that either someone had to stay with her or she had to go to Assisted Living. Thus the reason why I am here. Slowly over the past 1 1/2 years, she is getting worse. She only uses bathroom 2 times a day, won't shower, only eats microwavable food (I can't poison it), won't sleep in her room (sleeps on couch), the couch is getting ruined from accidents, etc.....Her family wants to keep her in the house but I've suggested otherwise.

Her attitude keeps her from having friends. She only leaves the house for doctor appointments and that's when I can clean. Her only contact with the outside world is the fact that I bring home numerous newspapers each morning (I work for a newspaper).

I'm going nuts and some days even I don't want to b e here....help...please

My 35-yr old daughter and I had an argument over her habits and how she needs to change them and reset her priorities as she now has 3 children; then she went as far as blaming me/resenting me for not spending quality time with her when she was young. I'm financially independent but have been staying with her family to help out: taking care of her children, do house chores: cooking, cleaning, tidying up, doing the laundry, etc... I'm very sad and shocked and don't know what to think of her as a person. I love her very much for offering her all that help. I'd like to think of her as a good kind-hearted person and can't explain her behavior toward me. She said she's grateful for all the help I give her and her family but why the resentment? I'm just so confused. Anyone in the same boat? Can you explain this behavior of hers?

We moved my mother in with us two years ago. She is very passive aggresive, overly needy and cannot get enough conversation to satisfy her needs. She spends hours a day on the phone with relatives or old friends and can't seem to get enough conversation ever. She is always making rude or passive aggressive comments which to date we have just ignored hoping to set up a new pattern for her but it has not worked. You can't discuss anything with her without it turning into an argument on her side. She won't get any exercise - she sits all day and maybe makes one or two trips up the stairs a day and grocery shops once a week. My husband works and I take care of our 5 year old grandson as well as my mom. All she wants to do is gripe a bout everything but make no move to change anything. We always invite her on walks, to join us on our errands etc,. but she would rather sit or just wants to wander around in Walmart for hours at a time. When we run errands we go the the places on our list, get our items and leave. She has no responsibilities, meals are cooked, laundry is done etc, so she has all the free time she wants for her crafts etc, but nothing ever gets completed. She has become unorganized, rude, cannot make decisions in a timely manner, everyday life seems too confusing and fast paced for her. She is in generally good health, slight high blood pressure, had a recent procedure to correct a short circuit in her heart but makes no effort towards walking or exercise of any kind. She will sit at dinner and scrape her fork on the plate as a child would to make noise to annoy others in the room. Are we correct in ignoring these behaviors or not. After two years she still tries to open the van door before she should setting off alarms etc. It is difficult most days to deal with her. She is not comfortable here despite our efforts to include her. Any ideas?

Are they advocates who can stand for us in keeping our mentally ill mom in the hospital longer than a week, she is a danger to herself , I tried to convince the doctors over her , but they said Unless she hurt herself or some one else, they cant do anything, I am scared for her and of her, i am the one signed her in there, She is dangerous , she threw out her stuff, family pictures, she for some reason used the back porch for a bathroom, to do both deeds, she threw lighters in the stove, when it was on, and she ripped out phone, threw it in back yard, she let her in surance On car, house, land go, how long idont know, are they anyone who could help, the doctors said wed or thursday she could come home , can iprevent it WE FEAR FOR OUR LIVES AS WELL FOR OUR NIEGHBORS, PLEASE HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Hi to everyone, I am a mental health worker in a small state-operated facility and I am burned out regarding one of my clients. He has schizophrenia and bipolar disorder with periods of mania and then severe slumps. I've worked with some who have the misconception that true mental illness involves only those individuals who experience episodes in which they are not in control of themselves at all. In other words, mental illness is limited to being out of control, not oneself, completely "taken over" by some psychotic episode etc. Not so. Anyone who really understands and has worked a great deal with the severely mentally ill can tell you that most of them know exactly what they are doing and why. The fact that they continue to make wrong choices and perceive situations and people in such an extreme and twisted fashion is what makes them mentally ill. And of course, this includes poor coping skills and really bad behaviors in some. I have worked with one client in particular for over six years now and I am losing patience with him. He is an endless abyss... a giant vacuum or black hole that can never be filled or satisfied. He is always on to the next thing...and the next thing. He is a compulsive shopper in that he always wants something else and thinks that it will make him better. (He will swear that it's the last time or the ultimate item that will put an end to his quest for more.) I know that the above is typical of schizophrenics and at times there is no reasoning with him. He becomes very angry and agitated if you confront him on this stuff. What kills me is that he is NEVER content or thankful or appreciative of anything in any way. No matter what people do for him, he is thankless. We spend so much time bargaining with him and trying to appease him. He makes threats and when he cannot have his way, he becomes verbally and physically aggressive. Last night he slapped me in the head, spit at me, tried to lock me out of his room, etc. The thing is, staff are supposed to keep him safe and he has very poor balance at this point. He is considered a fall risk. So I had to remain with him and watch him whether he liked it or not. His outburst and physical aggression were putting him at risk. I have spent years building a positive relationship with him and gaining his trust and respect but lately I feel as though it all comes to nothing. He never learns and the same cycles happen again and again. There is no end to his being miserable and restless and unsatisfied. He shows no loyalty to people, no true caring. He has learned how to play politics and he alters his behavior in the presence of certain staff or important managers. I have grown tired of playing his games, walking on eggshells, doing a verbal tap dance for him, trying to appease him. At this point I feel as though most of us have been very patronizing towards him..."dumbing down" or playing along with his denial....feeding his fantasies or attempting to placate him until the next thing comes along. I am burned out. Does anyone also work in the mental health field? Any thoughts? Ideas? Thank you in advance.

My husband is recently having very agressive fits of anger. He had a brain tumor removed back in 2005. He did the Chemo treatment plus radiation treatments. There is no signo f this aggressive cancer returning to his brain so far. But, he is now showing what I think is signs of dementia..etc. His doctors tell me it's residual effects of the treatments. I dont buy it. He has paroblems remembering things.. is falling... is angry alot.. I also think he is drepressed.So his doctors wont really listen to me because my husand denies all that I tell them. I have been exposed to ALZ before.My had it and I took care of my husbandsI'm elderly aunt with it until she died here at our house. The feelings I am having are farer wi different. I lose my temper with him more than I'd admit to. He is 66 I am 63 in fairly good health myself who has a fedw memory problemsm of her own. I find myself crying a l And I want to scream!!! He needs me. I feel at times when we talk and I think he understands me he doesnt. I feel he no longer trusts me to take care of him.. I KNOW this is the dementia if that is what he is starting to experience. I need help.. advice.. and tips on how to change my own thought process...

need to move 95 year old aunt to another facility...she refuses to leave her current apt. when we come to take her she won't get out of bed and refuses to get dressed. We must have her out tomorrow afternoon. any ideas how to get her into care and settled into new environment?

Mr Bill want to go home He is home He wants to see his grandparents They are dead He's 85 and will not sleep He just paces around and around His psy Dr gave him pills that specifically say not for elderly Alzheimer's pts What should I do Are vaulume safe for Alzheimer's pts