Family Matters

my mom justed died and i wanted to know if i didnt sign any of her death papers but my twin brother did is that illeagal?

While I was saving money to move her, my mother got beat up by her boyfriend/home health aid. He beat her and bit her and beat up her service animal. I got a phone call in the middle of the night from my little sister becuase the hospital called her. Within 72 hours, me and my two brothers (one i hadnt talked to in many years) and sister managed to get her and her animal to my place with none of her stuff. Her wheelchair and equipped van and everything but clothes and dogfood remain in MO.

My husband refuses to allow her to stay with us due to my mom's craziness (which I now know to be a result of her conditions) causing a lot of hurt, anger, problems, etc over ten years ago. So, she is in a battered womens shelter over an hour away from me.

I am trying to find her a home to live in with 700 dollars a month as her only income. Im starting to resent my husband. I feel awful for my mom. Im angry at no one in particular that I am in this situation. IM having panic attacks and serious bouts of depression despite my meds and stable mood for the past few years. So, im eating my anxiety meds like candy.
I wasn't ready for this. I wasnt ready for it to be like this. And worst of all, my husband says he is realizing that he isnt/wasnt as ready to accept her presence and my care of her as he thought he would be. My marriage has been a happy and successful one till now. I feel he is being unreasonable and uncompassionate. I dont know where to turn.

My siblings cant help. We have no other family. I am utilizing every resource of the state and local government and charities that I can find to help her. But, while I am doing all of this, and running back and froth to the shelter every day after work to make sure she has appropriate food and such, since the shelter really isn't set up to deal with a disabled person (and she doesnt want to be a burnden so she wont tell me what she needs), my husband keeps saying he is "here for me" and that i am ma "not alone". and I just don't see that.