My mom lived with us for the last 2 years of her life...90-92. The last week before she died, she did pretty much what you describe. On her last day, she couldn't even hold down water...vomited everything.

My advice: keep your mom comfortable and let nature take its course. Ensure is okay. Hydrate her as well. Hug her. Read to her. Sing for her. Play music on the radio/cd player for her. And, most of all, take care of yourself.

My mom lived with us for the last 2 years of her life...90-92. The last week before she died, she did pretty much what you describe. On her last day, she couldn't even hold down water...vomited everything.

My advice: keep your mom comfortable and let nature take its course. Ensure is okay. Hydrate her as well. Hug her. Read to her. Sing for her. Play music on the radio/cd player for her. And, most of all, take care of yourself.

My mom did the same during her last week of life. Reccomend you contact a hospice near you for support and to help you understand what is happening. All of the above are good suggestions.

My mom did the same during her last week of life. Reccomend you contact a hospice near you for support and to help you understand what is happening. All of the above are good suggestions.

oh my god... my mom is doing this also... thanks for this post

oh my god... my mom is doing this also... thanks for this post

My mom is in the same situation.My father-in-law lived with us also with Alzheimer and did not eat for over two years. He just had ensure. It must not be so bad. I know when I can not keep food in me i would much rather drink thngs that keep me from throwing up and let my digestion rest. Comfort is the best. My prayers are with you.

My mom is in the same situation.My father-in-law lived with us also with Alzheimer and did not eat for over two years. He just had ensure. It must not be so bad. I know when I can not keep food in me i would much rather drink thngs that keep me from throwing up and let my digestion rest. Comfort is the best. My prayers are with you.

My Uncle lived to be 101, the last 25 years he lost the ability to swallow because of a stroke, and he was fed through a tube into his stomach. He had 4 cans of ensure daily for 25 years, and thrived! If Ensure helps keep her stomach calm, and she's receiving nutrition, don't worry about it. Like the lady before me said, go for the comfort. I know it's engrained in us that we must eat, but actually, an elderly person, who is not spending calories with activity, needs far fewer calories to survive. God Bless and Good luck.

My Uncle lived to be 101, the last 25 years he lost the ability to swallow because of a stroke, and he was fed through a tube into his stomach. He had 4 cans of ensure daily for 25 years, and thrived! If Ensure helps keep her stomach calm, and she's receiving nutrition, don't worry about it. Like the lady before me said, go for the comfort. I know it's engrained in us that we must eat, but actually, an elderly person, who is not spending calories with activity, needs far fewer calories to survive. God Bless and Good luck.

my mom is 77 and lives with me. she has dementia-alzheimers. it seems like she is doing the gagging thing everyday now or throwing up a little.i find this happens most when she trys to eat any kind of bread??

my mom is 77 and lives with me. she has dementia-alzheimers. it seems like she is doing the gagging thing everyday now or throwing up a little.i find this happens most when she trys to eat any kind of bread??

My mother-in-law has similar problems. The nursing home ordered a barium swallow test and the problem for her is delayed swallow initiation. The speech language pathologist put her on a Dysphagia 2 Diet that eliminates bread. She can only have pureed veggies and ground meat. Also, only nectar thick liquids. The gagging and vomiting is her body's way of avoiding the food going down her windpipe.

My mother-in-law has similar problems. The nursing home ordered a barium swallow test and the problem for her is delayed swallow initiation. The speech language pathologist put her on a Dysphagia 2 Diet that eliminates bread. She can only have pureed veggies and ground meat. Also, only nectar thick liquids. The gagging and vomiting is her body's way of avoiding the food going down her windpipe.

My Mom takes an appetite stimulant called Megestrol. This was prescribed by her doctor because of loss of appetite due to chemo for pancreatic cancer. I understand it is used for all sorts of conditions that cause loss of appetite. She no longer has chemo but continues to take this because she still has little appetite and was losing weight. Good luck!

My Mom takes an appetite stimulant called Megestrol. This was prescribed by her doctor because of loss of appetite due to chemo for pancreatic cancer. I understand it is used for all sorts of conditions that cause loss of appetite. She no longer has chemo but continues to take this because she still has little appetite and was losing weight. Good luck!

My mama is 82 and has dementia, we have been caring for her at home. She got were she complaned about her stomach and got to were she would not eat or drink. We took her to all kind of doctors and hospital emerg. rooms and they could never find anything wrong with her. Finally she got so weak that we took back to emerg. room. They finally found that she had a kidney infection,she stayed in the Hosp. for 9 days. So make sure there is not an underlying condition that it could be causing her not to eat!

My mama is 82 and has dementia, we have been caring for her at home. She got were she complaned about her stomach and got to were she would not eat or drink. We took her to all kind of doctors and hospital emerg. rooms and they could never find anything wrong with her. Finally she got so weak that we took back to emerg. room. They finally found that she had a kidney infection,she stayed in the Hosp. for 9 days. So make sure there is not an underlying condition that it could be causing her not to eat!

I really appreciate all the informative suggestions given here. My mother will be 96 next month; she will not eat or drink--but then she is pretty much bedridden due to compression fractures/deteriorating disks in her back--so very little exercise.

A couple of weeks ago, I introduced Ensure Plus, and most of the time, she drinks one of those a day.

My biggest problem is her begging me to give her "something" so she won't have to wake up the next day; the doctor has put her on anti-depressants. I hope they help.

Even though she has hearing aids, she doesn't hear well. But, tonight, I will again try setting up a CD player so she can listen to some soothing music--I think it might help.

I really appreciate all the informative suggestions given here. My mother will be 96 next month; she will not eat or drink--but then she is pretty much bedridden due to compression fractures/deteriorating disks in her back--so very little exercise.

A couple of weeks ago, I introduced Ensure Plus, and most of the time, she drinks one of those a day.

My biggest problem is her begging me to give her "something" so she won't have to wake up the next day; the doctor has put her on anti-depressants. I hope they help.

Even though she has hearing aids, she doesn't hear well. But, tonight, I will again try setting up a CD player so she can listen to some soothing music--I think it might help.

Her doc needs to assess the reason WHY she is not eating! WHY the nausea, gagging, etc.! DO NOT WAIT! MY MOTHER DIED WHILE I TRIED TO FIGURE IT OUT MYSELF, (LIKE YOU ARE DOING) her stomach was bleeding from the aspirin regimen that had been previously prescribed!

Her doc needs to assess the reason WHY she is not eating! WHY the nausea, gagging, etc.! DO NOT WAIT! MY MOTHER DIED WHILE I TRIED TO FIGURE IT OUT MYSELF, (LIKE YOU ARE DOING) her stomach was bleeding from the aspirin regimen that had been previously prescribed!

Is your mom on aricept? The reason I am asking is that when my dad was put on aricept he too would throw up or he would refuse to eat. We took him off this medication and the doctor put him on the Exolon patch and B12 vitamin. My dad has had dementia/ alzeimers for 11 years and he still has a good appetite. I hope this helps.

Is your mom on aricept? The reason I am asking is that when my dad was put on aricept he too would throw up or he would refuse to eat. We took him off this medication and the doctor put him on the Exolon patch and B12 vitamin. My dad has had dementia/ alzeimers for 11 years and he still has a good appetite. I hope this helps.

I can't remember when I have so many very good replies to such a question. Yall are all wonderful and have given very good advice. For anyone taking care of an elderly person, it can be very stressful, and can really take a lot out of you.

The advice about finding out the underlying reasons for the reactions to eating should not be taken lightly. If there is something causing the problems, you need to know, and it can be treated. Sometimes, getting the elderly to agree to go to the doctor can in itself be a chore.

Our prayers are with each and every one of you!

I can't remember when I have so many very good replies to such a question. Yall are all wonderful and have given very good advice. For anyone taking care of an elderly person, it can be very stressful, and can really take a lot out of you.

The advice about finding out the underlying reasons for the reactions to eating should not be taken lightly. If there is something causing the problems, you need to know, and it can be treated. Sometimes, getting the elderly to agree to go to the doctor can in itself be a chore.

Our prayers are with each and every one of you!

I went through much the same thing with my Mom, who has mild to moderate dementia. She dropped for 106 lbs. to 101 lbs. I learned that her problem was teeth related. Over the years she had lost so much weight that her dentures did not fit correctly. So over many visits to the dentist, we finally got her teeth adjusted where they were no longer causing her pain. She is still a nibbler, but I will generally cut up any difficult food into very tiny pieces for her, so that she can swallow whole if need be. Having caps on my own teeth, I know how very difficult it is to bite through some foods with those caps. So if she has false teeth, take her to the dentist to make sure they fit correctly. I have also honed in on foods my Mom absolutely loves. Breakfast arround her is soft boiled eggs. Snacks ar things like ice cream and strawberries. Rather than trying to feed her a lot all at once, I will give her things throughout the day. A cookie here, some ice cream there. She doesn't have much of an appetite, but when I simply give her something to nibble on from time to time, I found that I have won this battle for the time being as she is back up to 106 lbs. Hope this helps! Sue

I went through much the same thing with my Mom, who has mild to moderate dementia. She dropped for 106 lbs. to 101 lbs. I learned that her problem was teeth related. Over the years she had lost so much weight that her dentures did not fit correctly. So over many visits to the dentist, we finally got her teeth adjusted where they were no longer causing her pain. She is still a nibbler, but I will generally cut up any difficult food into very tiny pieces for her, so that she can swallow whole if need be. Having caps on my own teeth, I know how very difficult it is to bite through some foods with those caps. So if she has false teeth, take her to the dentist to make sure they fit correctly. I have also honed in on foods my Mom absolutely loves. Breakfast arround her is soft boiled eggs. Snacks ar things like ice cream and strawberries. Rather than trying to feed her a lot all at once, I will give her things throughout the day. A cookie here, some ice cream there. She doesn't have much of an appetite, but when I simply give her something to nibble on from time to time, I found that I have won this battle for the time being as she is back up to 106 lbs. Hope this helps! Sue

I also want to add that I don't ask her when I had her snacks as she will inevitably say, "No." So when I get a snack to eat for myself, I just walk over and hand her a snack too. She'll take it, and won't give me a refusal. Of course, through all of this, I've managed to put on weight as well!

I also want to add that I don't ask her when I had her snacks as she will inevitably say, "No." So when I get a snack to eat for myself, I just walk over and hand her a snack too. She'll take it, and won't give me a refusal. Of course, through all of this, I've managed to put on weight as well!

How fond of the dentist is your mom? Her teeth may hurt too much to chew and she is afraid to say anything, for fear she will have to see one. She may also be concerned about the expense, and knows medicare won't pay. . . .and does not want to put you out. Thank the Lord, she will drink Ensure! I had a patient that used only ensure in a feeding tube to his stomach, for several years. Not the best solution (no pun intended) but she can subsist. Bless you for your concern!

How fond of the dentist is your mom? Her teeth may hurt too much to chew and she is afraid to say anything, for fear she will have to see one. She may also be concerned about the expense, and knows medicare won't pay. . . .and does not want to put you out. Thank the Lord, she will drink Ensure! I had a patient that used only ensure in a feeding tube to his stomach, for several years. Not the best solution (no pun intended) but she can subsist. Bless you for your concern!

My mom-in-law wanted to join pops - she did, by refusing to eat. The girls would fix all her favorites, but mom wanted "out". She did the only thing she knew she could do on her own. May she rest in peace. . . . .

My mom-in-law wanted to join pops - she did, by refusing to eat. The girls would fix all her favorites, but mom wanted "out". She did the only thing she knew she could do on her own. May she rest in peace. . . . .

There may be underlying causes for not eating. However, it may be the body's way of preparing to die. My now 86 year old mother gradually quit eating and drinking over about an 18 month period. Eventually, she went into kidney failure from dehydration and spent three weeks in the hospital. She has mild/moderate Alzheimers. My father passed away in March. Since my sister lives out of state, I have been her sole caregiver since January. I can see the process starting all over again. She is not vomiting, but usually only takes two to four bites per meal and will not drink Ensure or Boost. She now is on hospice and their book "Gone From My Sight, The Dying Experience" by Barbara Karnes has been so helpful in understanding this process. Having this information before would have saved the family an enormous amount of stress during the time leading up to her kidney failure and my father's death.

There may be underlying causes for not eating. However, it may be the body's way of preparing to die. My now 86 year old mother gradually quit eating and drinking over about an 18 month period. Eventually, she went into kidney failure from dehydration and spent three weeks in the hospital. She has mild/moderate Alzheimers. My father passed away in March. Since my sister lives out of state, I have been her sole caregiver since January. I can see the process starting all over again. She is not vomiting, but usually only takes two to four bites per meal and will not drink Ensure or Boost. She now is on hospice and their book "Gone From My Sight, The Dying Experience" by Barbara Karnes has been so helpful in understanding this process. Having this information before would have saved the family an enormous amount of stress during the time leading up to her kidney failure and my father's death.

I am a 28yr, caregiver for dementia, but specialize in end of life Alz. I cared for both my parents who both passed away at home 2yrs ago, 14days apart.............My mother had early onset ALZ and was bedridden for the last seven years of her life as a total care. I am now a Live in to a 88yrs young lady who has ALZ, she can dress herself and does walk some and is incont. She has been very spoiled by her family these past few years by her family and she really want to be babied and pampered over, (I believe in the use of showing love but not the total pampering stuff, they need to do things as long as they posibly can and I am strong in making her do that) She is a nibbler and has began to eat so little that she is losing weight too. She does drink Ensure Plus (350 cal), she has been to swallow specialist and she is fine and hate to say this but is just and actress and wants you to do things for her, I do feed her if she gets to be nibbling and deciding that she has had enough, but again will drink ensure!!! So this is what I am doing NOW............. I bought infant rice and oatmeal cereal, also fruit and veg with chicken and or beef sone veggies too. and lots of flavors of pudding the kind that does not need to be refrigerated. I mix cereal up[ small amounts and and a fruit and a pudding!! MIX Ensure with it now you have a nutritious fattening meal, I use a measuring cup so I know how much I have made and have got it now down to two ensure bottles the mixure is a bit thick which helps them swallow if you need to thin it more I am using WHOLE milk. She like sweet potatoes so I make mashed potatoes add sweet potatoe baby food and she eats that, but I have to feed her it. It will take time to figure out combinations that they will like and the sweeter the better.............. I hope that this helps you and the many others out there, I use the largest straws I can find (WENDY"S works for me)

I am a 28yr, caregiver for dementia, but specialize in end of life Alz. I cared for both my parents who both passed away at home 2yrs ago, 14days apart.............My mother had early onset ALZ and was bedridden for the last seven years of her life as a total care. I am now a Live in to a 88yrs young lady who has ALZ, she can dress herself and does walk some and is incont. She has been very spoiled by her family these past few years by her family and she really want to be babied and pampered over, (I believe in the use of showing love but not the total pampering stuff, they need to do things as long as they posibly can and I am strong in making her do that) She is a nibbler and has began to eat so little that she is losing weight too. She does drink Ensure Plus (350 cal), she has been to swallow specialist and she is fine and hate to say this but is just and actress and wants you to do things for her, I do feed her if she gets to be nibbling and deciding that she has had enough, but again will drink ensure!!! So this is what I am doing NOW............. I bought infant rice and oatmeal cereal, also fruit and veg with chicken and or beef sone veggies too. and lots of flavors of pudding the kind that does not need to be refrigerated. I mix cereal up[ small amounts and and a fruit and a pudding!! MIX Ensure with it now you have a nutritious fattening meal, I use a measuring cup so I know how much I have made and have got it now down to two ensure bottles the mixure is a bit thick which helps them swallow if you need to thin it more I am using WHOLE milk. She like sweet potatoes so I make mashed potatoes add sweet potatoe baby food and she eats that, but I have to feed her it. It will take time to figure out combinations that they will like and the sweeter the better.............. I hope that this helps you and the many others out there, I use the largest straws I can find (WENDY"S works for me)

Thank you for all of your responses! It really helps to have the support. I just this week was thinking of trying the baby food with my Mom and see how that works. It seems that anything we give her, besides Ensure or Boost, she starts gagging or throws up....apple sauce, pudding, yoguart. So I'm not sure the baby food will work, but I'm going to give it a try! She is so weak now, she has to be held on to when walking around the house,which, she doesn't want to do very often. She prefers sleeping all the time!! Oh this is so hard to see her like this, but I will be here for her for as long as I'm needed.

Thank you for all of your responses! It really helps to have the support. I just this week was thinking of trying the baby food with my Mom and see how that works. It seems that anything we give her, besides Ensure or Boost, she starts gagging or throws up....apple sauce, pudding, yoguart. So I'm not sure the baby food will work, but I'm going to give it a try! She is so weak now, she has to be held on to when walking around the house,which, she doesn't want to do very often. She prefers sleeping all the time!! Oh this is so hard to see her like this, but I will be here for her for as long as I'm needed.

I am caring for my 85 yr old mother-in-law with dementia. In the past 5 months she went from walking to a wheelchair, and now is completely bed ridden. She hasn't been out of bed for the past 2 months. I got her an alternating pressure mattress to keep her body from developing bed sores. It has worked like a miracle! Over the past two weeks, she has pretty much stopped eating. She shuts her mouth like a vice and I have to be creative to get her to open up for food. I am so thankful for all of these posts about nutrition, as I have been struggling with the fact that all she eats/drinks each day is a tiny bit of Ensure (through an eyedropper) and a little of bit of yogurt that I use to get her medication into her. She is dropping weight like crazy and is so frail that I am afraid to move her even to change her depends. Thankfully, I have a home health nurse who comes in every two weeks to check on her. She is coming today, thank God!! I look forward to her visits to give me direction of the proper care for Mom.

I am caring for my 85 yr old mother-in-law with dementia. In the past 5 months she went from walking to a wheelchair, and now is completely bed ridden. She hasn't been out of bed for the past 2 months. I got her an alternating pressure mattress to keep her body from developing bed sores. It has worked like a miracle! Over the past two weeks, she has pretty much stopped eating. She shuts her mouth like a vice and I have to be creative to get her to open up for food. I am so thankful for all of these posts about nutrition, as I have been struggling with the fact that all she eats/drinks each day is a tiny bit of Ensure (through an eyedropper) and a little of bit of yogurt that I use to get her medication into her. She is dropping weight like crazy and is so frail that I am afraid to move her even to change her depends. Thankfully, I have a home health nurse who comes in every two weeks to check on her. She is coming today, thank God!! I look forward to her visits to give me direction of the proper care for Mom.

I strongly reccommend hospice They are more concerned with your mother's comfort and will help you to know what is happening with your mom so you really understand. It is hard unless someone ois really honest with you. I went through this in May, My mom was actually trying to keep herself comfortable as she was approaching the last few days of her life. Hospice told me to offer but not force feed. They helped me to understand why. My family all got together to be with mom in her last days. She actually waited until everyone got her, opened her eyes and smiled when my last son son made it in. That was the last time she opened her eyes, 29 hrs. later she passed away peacefully with everyone here in my home. It was a blessing that we knew what to expect, why certian things were happening, and how to help mom. Gods bless you for careing for your mom, it's not easy, but you will reap a comforted heart knowing you did the very best for your mom.

I strongly reccommend hospice They are more concerned with your mother's comfort and will help you to know what is happening with your mom so you really understand. It is hard unless someone ois really honest with you. I went through this in May, My mom was actually trying to keep herself comfortable as she was approaching the last few days of her life. Hospice told me to offer but not force feed. They helped me to understand why. My family all got together to be with mom in her last days. She actually waited until everyone got her, opened her eyes and smiled when my last son son made it in. That was the last time she opened her eyes, 29 hrs. later she passed away peacefully with everyone here in my home. It was a blessing that we knew what to expect, why certian things were happening, and how to help mom. Gods bless you for careing for your mom, it's not easy, but you will reap a comforted heart knowing you did the very best for your mom.

Thanks for the comforting words Susan. I will contact hospice for an evaluation. I thought that I had to have a "doctor" diagnoise her as "terminal" before I could even think about contacting hospice. Thanks for the hug - I needed that!

Thanks for the comforting words Susan. I will contact hospice for an evaluation. I thought that I had to have a "doctor" diagnoise her as "terminal" before I could even think about contacting hospice. Thanks for the hug - I needed that!

hELLO AGAIN, hOSPICE HAS CERTIAN CRITERIA dEMENTIA AND aLZHEIMERS AUTOMATICALLY QUALIFY. YOU'RE IN MY PRAYERS. dO CONTACT THEM TODAY. tHERE IS ALWAYS SOMEONE THERE TO ANSWER PHONES AND GET YOU TO THE RIGHT PERSON. gOD bLESS

hELLO AGAIN, hOSPICE HAS CERTIAN CRITERIA dEMENTIA AND aLZHEIMERS AUTOMATICALLY QUALIFY. YOU'RE IN MY PRAYERS. dO CONTACT THEM TODAY. tHERE IS ALWAYS SOMEONE THERE TO ANSWER PHONES AND GET YOU TO THE RIGHT PERSON. gOD bLESS

My mom is 74 and I am having the same problem at least I know it must be common

My mom is 74 and I am having the same problem at least I know it must be common

hi my mother in law is not able to talk very well and her son thinks it is because we do not interact with her enough i try every day to get her to tell me what it is she wants i try to get her to read but she just can not see the words. how can i tell him this is one of the stages of dementia help i'm at a lose he wants me to get her to talk clear and i do not think she can any more

hi my mother in law is not able to talk very well and her son thinks it is because we do not interact with her enough i try every day to get her to tell me what it is she wants i try to get her to read but she just can not see the words. how can i tell him this is one of the stages of dementia help i'm at a lose he wants me to get her to talk clear and i do not think she can any more

Megistrol...that did zero, zip, zilch for my grandmothers appetite. I do not know if anything else could have.

Megistrol...that did zero, zip, zilch for my grandmothers appetite. I do not know if anything else could have.

She needs to get her trach stretched. My mother did the same thing.

She needs to get her trach stretched. My mother did the same thing.

Trach stretched....I assume my grandmother's stupid b&&&& of a doctor should have suggested this?

Her last months, she could not even speak clearly.

Trach stretched....I assume my grandmother's stupid b&&&& of a doctor should have suggested this?

Her last months, she could not even speak clearly.

My Mom couldn't keep any food or liquid down. She is 91. It turned out that she had a blocked esophagus, which they stretched. Happens to young people also. She's having a hard time coming back from the procedure to stretch it, the hospitalization, and the many days of not eating.

My Mom couldn't keep any food or liquid down. She is 91. It turned out that she had a blocked esophagus, which they stretched. Happens to young people also. She's having a hard time coming back from the procedure to stretch it, the hospitalization, and the many days of not eating.

My mom, age 101, with severe dementia is being released from the hospital today with Hospice care. She had a UTI, was very dehydrated and her sodium levels high. She cries out whenever they hook her up to IV etc. She spits any food or drink out, and yells, " leave me alone! Don't hurt me any more! " Her speech is also mumbled. At 101, we hate to put her through more tests. She just wants to be left alone. She has always been a good eater. Never a good drinker except for coffee! I keep thinking if she would just start eating she would feel better. The IV comes out today and she'll be going to a lovely adult care home, where Hospice will assess her. What's going to happen to her now without the IV? If she would just eat and drink I think she would go back to her sweet, yet confused self. Thank you for this site! Penny

My mom, age 101, with severe dementia is being released from the hospital today with Hospice care. She had a UTI, was very dehydrated and her sodium levels high. She cries out whenever they hook her up to IV etc. She spits any food or drink out, and yells, " leave me alone! Don't hurt me any more! " Her speech is also mumbled. At 101, we hate to put her through more tests. She just wants to be left alone. She has always been a good eater. Never a good drinker except for coffee! I keep thinking if she would just start eating she would feel better. The IV comes out today and she'll be going to a lovely adult care home, where Hospice will assess her. What's going to happen to her now without the IV? If she would just eat and drink I think she would go back to her sweet, yet confused self. Thank you for this site! Penny

Hi Penny1cent, The most frustrating things about Dementia/Alzheimer's is there is no two cases alike, all symptoms are different for each person, What works for one doesn't work for someone else. You have to take each moment as it come and treat is differently. My mother stopped eating too and did not want anyone around her, nor did she want any more tests to be done. We did stop all the testing, there was nothing more they could do for her anyway. She had more peaceful day without all the test. I started making her super healthy delicious green shakes with her vitamins and medications in it . Most days "she loved it" some days she would spit it at me. That is all she ate for over 6 months. All you can do is hope and pray for the patients to love her even when she doesn't want you around. The word is so confusing for those who don't know what things are for, what people are doing and sometimes who you are.Most people don't understand the helplessness you feel while caring for someone in this situation. This website helped me for years. Come often for strength and love. My prayer are with you.

Hi Penny1cent, The most frustrating things about Dementia/Alzheimer's is there is no two cases alike, all symptoms are different for each person, What works for one doesn't work for someone else. You have to take each moment as it come and treat is differently. My mother stopped eating too and did not want anyone around her, nor did she want any more tests to be done. We did stop all the testing, there was nothing more they could do for her anyway. She had more peaceful day without all the test. I started making her super healthy delicious green shakes with her vitamins and medications in it . Most days "she loved it" some days she would spit it at me. That is all she ate for over 6 months. All you can do is hope and pray for the patients to love her even when she doesn't want you around. The word is so confusing for those who don't know what things are for, what people are doing and sometimes who you are.Most people don't understand the helplessness you feel while caring for someone in this situation. This website helped me for years. Come often for strength and love. My prayer are with you.

It's penny again. Mom did really well her first two days after getting out of the hospital. Then she was given something to help her sleep at night. Now she's sleeping day and night and won't eat or drink. What is happening?

It's penny again. Mom did really well her first two days after getting out of the hospital. Then she was given something to help her sleep at night. Now she's sleeping day and night and won't eat or drink. What is happening?

Could they be over medicating her? My thoughts are with you and your mom.

Could they be over medicating her? My thoughts are with you and your mom.

i give her ensure on her oatmeal in the morning they seem to go for sweet things so i do ice cream and work fruit in to her food she is 94 years old with dementia some days she is very winie and crys alot because she does not under stand why she can not go home.the hard part is she will not do the leg exercises so her legs are getting weak

i give her ensure on her oatmeal in the morning they seem to go for sweet things so i do ice cream and work fruit in to her food she is 94 years old with dementia some days she is very winie and crys alot because she does not under stand why she can not go home.the hard part is she will not do the leg exercises so her legs are getting weak