Being a Caregiver

Hi, I'm Sandi and I care for my 29 year old Autistic daughter who requires 24 hour care ... We just moved to Kernersville,nc and dont really know anyone here except my youngest daughter who has 2 children of her own .... I would love to meet others who have similaur children who would like to get together and just have coffee or talk and give our children a place to go and hang out different than just being at home... If anyone is interested my e-mail address is

hi i am wanting to find out one thing and that is i am a caregiver for my mother in-law she has to have me around 24hr a day i am not able to work and i was wanted to know if there is a program out there that pays caregivers. she makes to much money to get on medicade . she gets a ssi check and milatry binafets so she makes to much money. can you please help me out. please forgive me since my spelling is not to good. thank you for you time. you can e-mail me @ reddevils1318@yahoo.com

Kind of having a hard time as my mother can no longer walk or use the restroom by herself and have a feeling my father might be getting a little frustrated and taking it out on me. Some people (especially strangers) and even family members sometimes think or act like we don't have feelings that they hurt by being thoughtlessness and ignorance. It's a little easier to understand my dad since he is helping you take care of her but there is no excuse for the rest of these people's lack of humanity, lack of compassion/regard for our feelings and rudeness. They are of no help at all and do more harm than anything else.

I work for a caregiver company and receive 130.00 for 24 hours, also spend the whole day with her housecleaning laundry twice a day, and now am expected to work outside in the yard while she takes a nap, frequently working 48 hours, and now the client has started to wake up during the night and staying up late. I have told this company that I only wanted to work 24 hours a week but they have repeatedly ignored my requests. What should I do?

Hi, I'm new to the site. I care for an 87 yr old lady that is a neighbor of mine. I have been caring for her for the last year. Her daughter says she has dementia but has never really been tested for it. I know very little about this disese. I spend approx. 4 hours a day with her. She wants to do nothing but sit at the kitchen table and smokes one cigarette ater another. I smoke but her continuous smoking is really starting to get to me. She also sleeps all the time and will barely get any excersice just walking to the mail box. How can I persuade her to do more?

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My aunt (86) seemed to be getting forgetful for a couple of years, but was still living on her own. about 2 months ago she developed pneumonia, and a couple of other infections and was hospitalized for a couple of weeks then was sent to rehab for 3 weeks. At the end of all this she seemed to be getting better and against the advise of the therapists at the rehab I asked that she be allowed to go home with carers (I am her poa), she was only home a few days when she fired all the carers, refused her medications and called EMS to get her a drink of water. I don't live with her, but went over there every day. After the ems incident I called them again and had her taken to the hospital because I suspected an infection, she was delirious, paranoid and was hallucinating. At the hospital they did all the test to rule out infections, and then did CT scans, neurology reports and dementia evaluation. The upshot was, she has dementia with paranoia, delusions and hallucinations. While in the hospital she became extremely angry with me and told me to get out, I was called the next day and told she had agreed to go to a full care facility long term. We went and met with her and the doctors, she seemed ok and even spoke to me. Next day she screamed at me to get out again, now (20 days later) she will neither see me nor speak to me, gets really agitated when my name is mentioned and screams if she sees me, said she is having me arrested and having a lawyer take away the POA, I have told the nurses to tell her I don't have it anymore, hoping that will calm her down. I don't know how long I should wait until I just go there and insist on seeing her, the social workers say she is convinced I have put her in there to rot and will never see me again, she even threw away the photos I sent and refused the cookies etc., that I sent. I have stayed away and phone every day and ask the nurses to tell her I love her and want to see her, but she says I put her into care, and I am stealing all her money and she never wants to see me again, tells everyone I have listening devises in her room and am spying on her through the window. This is tearing me apart, I feel terrible guilt because I did promise never to put her into care, I even offered to have her live with me or for me to stay with her, but she refused, and I also start to think the diagnoses is wrong, especially when other people visit her and say she appears to be fine. She has refused all her medications, (COPD, congestive heart failure and fluid in the lungs) and all oxygen, says she wants to die, they told me not taking these meds would kill her but she still appears ok. She has stopped therapy, complains about everything, and is generally miserable, when they asked her if she wanted them to have her moved she said no she is staying there.This is all wearing me down, my husband is getting upset with me because I can't sleep properly, feel guilty all the time, and talk about her constantly, even though I try not to.

Hi my name is Tracy and I was wondering if there is a website that is kinda like this except for I am having issues and have been for about at least 15-16 years my son is 19 yrs old but at a maybe 10 yr old level and the older he get the more issues I have to go through this is mentally stressful for me if anyone knows of and groups or places I can seek help for really cheap we are just going through paper work for DDD and long term help so no funding at this time , I would really appreciate the help or suggestion Thanks