Help I am so confused my Mom was diagnosed last week with terminal lung cancer that has spread to the lymph nodes and brain.
My Mom started having an extremely bad headache, nausea, vomiting, and confusion so I took her to the emergency room Wednesday and after seven hours of waiting she was so frustrated and sick she wanted to leave saying we could come back in a few days if she was not feeling better. I started the endless task of trying to research the symptoms to have an idea of what was going on with her since she has never been sick except for a cold a few times. Anyway, Friday she was worse so I took her back to the hospital and this time I was going to do whatever I had to in order to get her seen fast since everything I found on the internet seemed to indicate some kind of stroke. I ran in begging for help saying I think my Mom is having a stroke so they did take her right back to a room. They did a cat scan and informed me she had a brain bleed and I needed to call my family in and make the necessary arrangements because she was not a candidate for surgery and there was nothing they could do and would pass away at any moment. I CAN not begin to explain the horror I felt in that moment. It was as if my mind shut down and everything seemed to be in slow motion. About an hour later the doctor came back in and said the results from the lung x-ray indicated she actually had lung cancer that spread to the brain and it was not actively bleeding now and would probably not die at any moment like they originally thought. We’ll of course I was extremely relieved to hear that but at the same time horrified at the newly discovered cancer not to mention very pissed off they jumped to a conclusion without having all the facts since I had called all my family telling them she probably would not live through the night. She was admitted to the hospital for more tests and Sunday the oncologist said she had terminal lung cancer that has spread to the lymph nodes and brain. The doctor said she has around 23 tumors in her brain and was not a candidate for surgery and all that could be done was radiation to shrink them and chemotherapy. I am so confused because I keep getting such conflicting information from the doctors and can’t seem to find a good source of information or advice on her particular cancers. She has taken this like a trooper and continues to amaze me everyday with her strength and courage to face this while I feel like I am falling apart and don’t want her to know how scared I am. She is having memory problems, cannot write or type, and keeps saying that people don’t look right and the doctors say that may improve. However, I want to know the reality of what we are facing in order to make the best decisions for care, finances, and everything else. It is so hard to wrap my head around all of this since my Dad just passed away August 20th from a long series of heath problems and I was his caregiver for many years. I feel like I am loosing my mind. Any help will be greatly appreciated!! Thanks, Kim