My mom has been hit with a double whammy. Not only is she sinking deeper and deeper into dementia but she had hip replacement surgery last month after the neck of her femur collapsed. Mom had been living in an assisted living facility that specialized in memory care. But after the hip replacement surgery, she was released to a nursing home that provides rehab services. The staff at the smaller memory care facility, which is not equipped to provide nursing care, was skilled at dealing with persons who have dementia. The nursing home where she lives now is not.
Even though I authorized and paid for hair care services, Mom's hair is always wild. She has an unkempt look. I spoke with the hairdresser who assured me she would work with the home's staff to get her on a weekly hair care schedule. Her once gorgeous silver hair looks more like Albert Einstein's now. Today I spoke with the hair dresser personally and asked what's going on. It seems that the staff will ask Mom if she wants to get her hair fixed and when Mom answers no, they leave it at that. The hair dresser more or less told me that they cannot force a resident to go to the beauty parlor.
How nutty is that? Any suggestions on how to handle this issue? I had hoped that the staff would have some expertise in dealing with persons who have dementia but it seems that this approach is not the right one. I'm sure they don't use that "would you like to" approach when administering medications. Mom always liked the routine of having her hair done and I hate the way she looks. She wouldn't like it either. I've spoken with the social workers and the nurses. Seems like overkill to go running to the home's administrator with what should be a simple solution.
Thank you for any guidance you may provide.