No person is ever truly alone. Those who live no more, Whom we loved, Echo still within our thoughts, Our words, our hearts. And what they did And who they were Becomes a part of all that we are, Forever.

Sending you hugs

No person is ever truly alone. Those who live no more, Whom we loved, Echo still within our thoughts, Our words, our hearts. And what they did And who they were Becomes a part of all that we are, Forever.

Sending you hugs

thank you for the kind words. my mom still and always will echo within my heart, thoughts and words. i feel her around me. i know that she is watching over me. thank you and god bless you.

thank you for the kind words. my mom still and always will echo within my heart, thoughts and words. i feel her around me. i know that she is watching over me. thank you and god bless you.

how wonderful that you walked with your mother on that journey. how lucky she was and how beautiful that her presence is still with you. your tears honor the love you both had for each other and that kind of deep connection never fails. of course you miss her, and especially after such a profound and demanding time. let others comfort you too. and even consider a grief support group. congratulations on being such a great daughter.

how wonderful that you walked with your mother on that journey. how lucky she was and how beautiful that her presence is still with you. your tears honor the love you both had for each other and that kind of deep connection never fails. of course you miss her, and especially after such a profound and demanding time. let others comfort you too. and even consider a grief support group. congratulations on being such a great daughter.

My condolensces on the loss of your mother. I lost my husband. Your grief is still new, and like a gaping wound, takes time to heal-but a scar will always remain. Please give yourself the time to grieve. Sometimes, writing to her may help,stating how how you feel. Please lean on others for support-family, friends, God (if you belief), and even a counselor if needed. I know about not having your "best friend" there to talk to. Allow yourself your emotions---you will heal!

God bless you-

My condolensces on the loss of your mother. I lost my husband. Your grief is still new, and like a gaping wound, takes time to heal-but a scar will always remain. Please give yourself the time to grieve. Sometimes, writing to her may help,stating how how you feel. Please lean on others for support-family, friends, God (if you belief), and even a counselor if needed. I know about not having your "best friend" there to talk to. Allow yourself your emotions---you will heal!

God bless you-

Dearest "loving daughter": My oh my, how blessed your mom is, to have had the enormous love you showed her! All moms should be sooo lucky! I have learned in my old age (64) that the measure of one's grief is equal to one's love. I would not take that from you or from your mom! I do believe, your mom would want you to gather yourself together; treasure her memory and begin using your life for good. A start, would be to seek counseling to get you over this tough go for your new beginning. No one is saying it will be easy ~ Mom would be crushed if her death caused your ruin. She would only want joy for you. Speaking as a mom of five children I'd want my kids happy, it would be great to know I made an impact on their lives ~ I'd want them to make an impact on the lives of others. In your heart of hearts, I feel confident you know all this. Putting it to work is the hard part. You can do it, you will do it. Again, I say, my oh my, how blessed your mom is.

Dearest "loving daughter": My oh my, how blessed your mom is, to have had the enormous love you showed her! All moms should be sooo lucky! I have learned in my old age (64) that the measure of one's grief is equal to one's love. I would not take that from you or from your mom! I do believe, your mom would want you to gather yourself together; treasure her memory and begin using your life for good. A start, would be to seek counseling to get you over this tough go for your new beginning. No one is saying it will be easy ~ Mom would be crushed if her death caused your ruin. She would only want joy for you. Speaking as a mom of five children I'd want my kids happy, it would be great to know I made an impact on their lives ~ I'd want them to make an impact on the lives of others. In your heart of hearts, I feel confident you know all this. Putting it to work is the hard part. You can do it, you will do it. Again, I say, my oh my, how blessed your mom is.

I to just lost my mother in July. She was not just my mother, but also my best friend. I didn't stop crying the first week. I know she is not suffering anymore. We also took her home on hospice. They are wonderful people. The pain is like no other that I have gone through. I know that she would want me to start living again. I know she is with me every minute of every day. I feel her, I talk to her as if she was their. Only I know I can't pick up the phone and call her. I take one day at a time. I was blessed with great friends who just let me cry. Everyone is different. I truly understand what you are going through. We are just now going through her things. It is overwhelming, but she was a strong woman and I have to be strong, because that's what she would want. People tell you different things. Just take your time and know you are not alone.

I to just lost my mother in July. She was not just my mother, but also my best friend. I didn't stop crying the first week. I know she is not suffering anymore. We also took her home on hospice. They are wonderful people. The pain is like no other that I have gone through. I know that she would want me to start living again. I know she is with me every minute of every day. I feel her, I talk to her as if she was their. Only I know I can't pick up the phone and call her. I take one day at a time. I was blessed with great friends who just let me cry. Everyone is different. I truly understand what you are going through. We are just now going through her things. It is overwhelming, but she was a strong woman and I have to be strong, because that's what she would want. People tell you different things. Just take your time and know you are not alone.

While I have not lost my 90 year old mother yet, I did lose my dad several years ago. I still miss him and his advice, wisdom, compassion, and his prayers for his family. I don't think that we ever stop missing the person(s) we love so dearly in life when we lose their physical presence. You clearly believe that your mother is in a better place, just as I believe my father is, so when you are overwhelmed hold onto that great comfort. Also believe that your mom would want you to have joy in your life. You will grieve, but look for moments of joy and know that you are not alone.

As the previous writer mentions, you are not alone - there is an entire planet of people who have been, and are, where you are now. What you are experiencing is part of life. Hold on to your memories, family, friends, and this spiritual connection you feel with your mom. Bless you in this most difficult of times.

While I have not lost my 90 year old mother yet, I did lose my dad several years ago. I still miss him and his advice, wisdom, compassion, and his prayers for his family. I don't think that we ever stop missing the person(s) we love so dearly in life when we lose their physical presence. You clearly believe that your mother is in a better place, just as I believe my father is, so when you are overwhelmed hold onto that great comfort. Also believe that your mom would want you to have joy in your life. You will grieve, but look for moments of joy and know that you are not alone.

As the previous writer mentions, you are not alone - there is an entire planet of people who have been, and are, where you are now. What you are experiencing is part of life. Hold on to your memories, family, friends, and this spiritual connection you feel with your mom. Bless you in this most difficult of times.

Loving daughter. Grief is a process that we must all go through. Feel good about the fact that you were so close that you still feel her presence. You can still talk to her, I talk to my husband in my thoughts frequently. Also as someone else mentioned. Start journaling letters to her. She will definately feel the love.
In love and caring, to all who are grieving, Joy

Loving daughter. Grief is a process that we must all go through. Feel good about the fact that you were so close that you still feel her presence. You can still talk to her, I talk to my husband in my thoughts frequently. Also as someone else mentioned. Start journaling letters to her. She will definately feel the love.
In love and caring, to all who are grieving, Joy

Loving Daughter, I lost my daddy in March 2010 and to was with Hospice. I am not sure what your mom had or how long she was sick, but my heart goes out to you. I can only tell you from my own experience. Continue writing/talking or communicating with her any way you can. It is not the same but it does help. You will have so many diffrent moments and as each one comes deal with it the way you see fit. It is not easy, and as I am still in the "1st year" which they say is the hardest, but the moments do get easier as they pass. If a "pen pal" would help please feel free to contact me.

My heart is with you. Teneka

Loving Daughter, I lost my daddy in March 2010 and to was with Hospice. I am not sure what your mom had or how long she was sick, but my heart goes out to you. I can only tell you from my own experience. Continue writing/talking or communicating with her any way you can. It is not the same but it does help. You will have so many diffrent moments and as each one comes deal with it the way you see fit. It is not easy, and as I am still in the "1st year" which they say is the hardest, but the moments do get easier as they pass. If a "pen pal" would help please feel free to contact me.

My heart is with you. Teneka

TENEKAP, THANK YOU FOR THE KIND WORDS . MY MOM DIED OF STOMACH CANCER. SHE WAS BATTLING WITH IT FOR A LONG TIME. I AM SORRY FOR YOUR LOST TO. MY DAD DIED 9 YRS AGO, OF HEART PROBLEMS. I LIKE YOUR IDEA OF WRITING/ TALKING TO MOM. THAT I WILL KEEP IN MIND. MOM IS ALWAYS WITH ME. IT WILL GET EASIER AS TIME GOES ON. I HAVE MY FAMILY AND FRIENDS FOR SUPPORT. THEY ARE THERE FOR ME.THE FIRST YEAR IS THE HARDEST. I WOULD LIKE TO HAVE A PEN PAL , THAT WOULD GREATLY BE APPPECIATED. MY PRAYERS ARE WITH YOU. GOD BLESS.

LOVING DAUGHTER

TENEKAP, THANK YOU FOR THE KIND WORDS . MY MOM DIED OF STOMACH CANCER. SHE WAS BATTLING WITH IT FOR A LONG TIME. I AM SORRY FOR YOUR LOST TO. MY DAD DIED 9 YRS AGO, OF HEART PROBLEMS. I LIKE YOUR IDEA OF WRITING/ TALKING TO MOM. THAT I WILL KEEP IN MIND. MOM IS ALWAYS WITH ME. IT WILL GET EASIER AS TIME GOES ON. I HAVE MY FAMILY AND FRIENDS FOR SUPPORT. THEY ARE THERE FOR ME.THE FIRST YEAR IS THE HARDEST. I WOULD LIKE TO HAVE A PEN PAL , THAT WOULD GREATLY BE APPPECIATED. MY PRAYERS ARE WITH YOU. GOD BLESS.

LOVING DAUGHTER

THANK YOU FOR YOUR KIND WORDS THEY ARE VERY COMFORTING. GRIEF IS THE HARDEST THING TO GO THROUGH. I HAVE MY MOMENTS, LIKE NOW READING ALL THE KIND WORDS FROM PEOPLE WHO HAVE GONE THROUGH WHAT IAM GOING THROUGH NOW. I DO TALK TO MOM. I FEEL HER AROUND ME . I AM SITTING HERE READING THE WORDS FROM PEOPLE AND CRYING , KNOWING THAT I AM NOT LONE. THERE ARE PEOPLE OUT THERE THAT REALLY CARE.GOD IS THERE WITH ME. HE IS HELPING ME THROUGH THIS. GOD BLESS

LOVING DAUGHTER

THANK YOU FOR YOUR KIND WORDS THEY ARE VERY COMFORTING. GRIEF IS THE HARDEST THING TO GO THROUGH. I HAVE MY MOMENTS, LIKE NOW READING ALL THE KIND WORDS FROM PEOPLE WHO HAVE GONE THROUGH WHAT IAM GOING THROUGH NOW. I DO TALK TO MOM. I FEEL HER AROUND ME . I AM SITTING HERE READING THE WORDS FROM PEOPLE AND CRYING , KNOWING THAT I AM NOT LONE. THERE ARE PEOPLE OUT THERE THAT REALLY CARE.GOD IS THERE WITH ME. HE IS HELPING ME THROUGH THIS. GOD BLESS

LOVING DAUGHTER

LINDA SUE, THANK YOU FOR THE KIND WORDS. YOU ARE RIGHT. MY MOM WOULD WANT ME TO GO ON WITH MY LIFE. THE LAST THING SHE SAID TO ME WAS BE STRONG. I DO HAVE MY FAMILY AND FRIENDS .THEY ARE A GREAT SUPPORT.I WAS THE LUCKY ONE TO HAVE SUCH A CARING AND LOVING MOM. BOTH MOM AND I WERE BLESSED TO HAVE EACH OTHER.I WAS BLESSED TO HAVE THE TIME TO SPEND WITH HER . I MISS HER VERY MUCH. I WILL BE STRONG AND GET THROUGH MY GRIEF.

LINDA SUE, THANK YOU FOR THE KIND WORDS. YOU ARE RIGHT. MY MOM WOULD WANT ME TO GO ON WITH MY LIFE. THE LAST THING SHE SAID TO ME WAS BE STRONG. I DO HAVE MY FAMILY AND FRIENDS .THEY ARE A GREAT SUPPORT.I WAS THE LUCKY ONE TO HAVE SUCH A CARING AND LOVING MOM. BOTH MOM AND I WERE BLESSED TO HAVE EACH OTHER.I WAS BLESSED TO HAVE THE TIME TO SPEND WITH HER . I MISS HER VERY MUCH. I WILL BE STRONG AND GET THROUGH MY GRIEF.

Dear Loving Daughter, I am so very sorry. I also lost my Mom, in May of this year. I am very thankful to have had a wonderful relationship with my Mom as you and your Mom. Time heals. My Mom suffered from AZ so I try to think about the times before the disease. Take Care and know that you are not alone in this grieving process. Hug.

Dear Loving Daughter, I am so very sorry. I also lost my Mom, in May of this year. I am very thankful to have had a wonderful relationship with my Mom as you and your Mom. Time heals. My Mom suffered from AZ so I try to think about the times before the disease. Take Care and know that you are not alone in this grieving process. Hug.

Dear Loving Daughter: my precious mother, my best friend, died on February 20th of this year -- 7 months, 14 days and 3 hours ago as I write this...My grief is unbearable. I miss her so much. She was 87 years old and I am 53. We have never been apart for more than two weeks at a time. My huband and I bought a house a few blocks from her house so that we could see her every day and for the last 9 years she has lived with us in our house. I have taken care of her for the past 27 years in some fashion and last year she suffered a stroke which really affected her mind. She was on hospice the last 9 months of her life and she lived in my living room. The pain is excruciating and I am heartbroken. I TRULY know what you are going through and the only advice I can give you is to pray, pray again and keep on praying. Friends are supportive for only so long and they expect you to be "over" it. Only God knows your pain and only by turning to him will you get through this. I will say an extra prayer for you tonight!

Dear Loving Daughter: my precious mother, my best friend, died on February 20th of this year -- 7 months, 14 days and 3 hours ago as I write this...My grief is unbearable. I miss her so much. She was 87 years old and I am 53. We have never been apart for more than two weeks at a time. My huband and I bought a house a few blocks from her house so that we could see her every day and for the last 9 years she has lived with us in our house. I have taken care of her for the past 27 years in some fashion and last year she suffered a stroke which really affected her mind. She was on hospice the last 9 months of her life and she lived in my living room. The pain is excruciating and I am heartbroken. I TRULY know what you are going through and the only advice I can give you is to pray, pray again and keep on praying. Friends are supportive for only so long and they expect you to be "over" it. Only God knows your pain and only by turning to him will you get through this. I will say an extra prayer for you tonight!

I look forward to hearing from you. My email is tenekap@gmail.com I hope each moment is getting somewhat easier. I hope to talk to you soon.

I look forward to hearing from you. My email is tenekap@gmail.com I hope each moment is getting somewhat easier. I hope to talk to you soon.

To all : A new book out : Messages/Signs, Visits and Premonitions From Loved Ones Lost on 9/11 which may bring you solice. Author is Bonnie McEneaney Bonnie lost her husband in one of the towers that fell. Book has helped me, I am more "vigilent" to happenings around me. And wonder, Is that you dad?

To all : A new book out : Messages/Signs, Visits and Premonitions From Loved Ones Lost on 9/11 which may bring you solice. Author is Bonnie McEneaney Bonnie lost her husband in one of the towers that fell. Book has helped me, I am more "vigilent" to happenings around me. And wonder, Is that you dad?

I just found this forum while trying to post a joke on another forum....but I too am grieving. I lost my eldest son 3 years ago from a massive heart attack , partly due to his late stage kidney disease. It was a shock though, sudden death.
With my youngest son, Kenney, he had lung cancer , aggressive and late stage when it was found. He was give 3 to 6 months to live,but we were able to stretch it out. He recovered enough to drive his car where he wished, to keep his own house clean, and to have some fun times, as he lived in what he called his retirement from work. He was pretty happy, and very courageous .

I told him that I had prayed that a clot would break lose and hit his heart so that the awful last stage of the lung cancer could be avoided He agreed that would be best.

Well, we got our wish. One did break lose, but it went to his brain and he had a stroke. Could not speak so well and was frustrated that he could not say what he wanted, but it did start improving. He was able to say that he did not want to live that way, that he knew it was his time and that he was ready to go. I spoke to him on the phone from here, Germany, and he knew it. The next day he had a really massive stroke, and needed a breathing tube , which did allow me to speak to him again....then since his lungs were filled with a lot of clots, the Dr. said he had no chance to live if he were not on the ventilator. So, we removed the ventilator...as he would have wanted. He died peacefully a few minutes later. I will travel to Fl now for his funeral. Life is hard....I am hoping that the nurse who will come twice a day to give hubby his medicine, and the man who will come every day to deliver dinner, and a friend who can come for a few minutes each day, will be enough to keep him OK while I am gone. He is not quite to second stage....but please send good thoughts our way.

I just found this forum while trying to post a joke on another forum....but I too am grieving. I lost my eldest son 3 years ago from a massive heart attack , partly due to his late stage kidney disease. It was a shock though, sudden death.
With my youngest son, Kenney, he had lung cancer , aggressive and late stage when it was found. He was give 3 to 6 months to live,but we were able to stretch it out. He recovered enough to drive his car where he wished, to keep his own house clean, and to have some fun times, as he lived in what he called his retirement from work. He was pretty happy, and very courageous .

I told him that I had prayed that a clot would break lose and hit his heart so that the awful last stage of the lung cancer could be avoided He agreed that would be best.

Well, we got our wish. One did break lose, but it went to his brain and he had a stroke. Could not speak so well and was frustrated that he could not say what he wanted, but it did start improving. He was able to say that he did not want to live that way, that he knew it was his time and that he was ready to go. I spoke to him on the phone from here, Germany, and he knew it. The next day he had a really massive stroke, and needed a breathing tube , which did allow me to speak to him again....then since his lungs were filled with a lot of clots, the Dr. said he had no chance to live if he were not on the ventilator. So, we removed the ventilator...as he would have wanted. He died peacefully a few minutes later. I will travel to Fl now for his funeral. Life is hard....I am hoping that the nurse who will come twice a day to give hubby his medicine, and the man who will come every day to deliver dinner, and a friend who can come for a few minutes each day, will be enough to keep him OK while I am gone. He is not quite to second stage....but please send good thoughts our way.

I'm so sorry for your losses. Life really is hard. My daughter who is 8 months pregnant, buried the baby's father yesterday. He was 35. I cannot imagine losing one child let alone two. God Bless You.

I'm so sorry for your losses. Life really is hard. My daughter who is 8 months pregnant, buried the baby's father yesterday. He was 35. I cannot imagine losing one child let alone two. God Bless You.

Oh my heavens, I can imagine her grief.....she will be haunted by memories of what might have been . I hope that she is able to turn these "memories" that she will not have, into dreams of what would have been and use them to help raise her baby with a feeling that daddy's best ideas and habits are there for him or her. It might be hard for her to speak of him to the baby, but if she starts early enough, it will become a nice habit and a way to keep him alive awhile for the child. It is awful to lose a child, I lost two sons now in 3 1/2 years, but at least they lived a bit longer and saw their children...My heart is with you and your daughter...such pain.....I wish I could reduce it for all who suffer and or grieve..

Oh my heavens, I can imagine her grief.....she will be haunted by memories of what might have been . I hope that she is able to turn these "memories" that she will not have, into dreams of what would have been and use them to help raise her baby with a feeling that daddy's best ideas and habits are there for him or her. It might be hard for her to speak of him to the baby, but if she starts early enough, it will become a nice habit and a way to keep him alive awhile for the child. It is awful to lose a child, I lost two sons now in 3 1/2 years, but at least they lived a bit longer and saw their children...My heart is with you and your daughter...such pain.....I wish I could reduce it for all who suffer and or grieve..

WHere do you get your strength? My daughter is also wondering at this point if BF was taking something that killed him. As it turns out, he may have been dabbling in other people's prescription medications. Or worse. So she doesn't know whether to be sad or mad. If he did it to himself, well, the anger will get to her because he left her right when she needed him the most. And if the autopsy doesn't show anything, well then maybe she can continue to make him out to be better than he was. I do believe that he was doing something but we have to wait a month before we know for sure. (If it shows up in the tissues, etc.) Because he changed from when my daughter first met him. He always had a quick temper, but he had a kindness about him and a joy in life that he lost. I never saw him smile as he was always mad about something. She said he never smiled and also said that nothing good ever happened to him. She was going to counseling with him and trying to work hard on their relationship and he would put in the time but as soon as they got home, he ignored what the counselor said so basically she was getting the counseling, not him. He complained of chest pains but would not see a doctor (I think maybe he was hiding something) and he was gone a lot. So, although she tried to love him and find the person she loved, she may have been trying to find someone who was lost in a drug haze. My daughter is a caregiver by nature and would have done anything to keep the baby's father in the baby's life since my daughter's own father abandoned her at age 4. Even though my daughter was planning on leaving the bf after the birth of the baby, she didn't want him dead. To tell you the truth, he was scaring me as it seemed that things were escalating in their home and I was not sure that he would not hurt my daughter and the baby so maybe she will be in a better place. I don't know.

WHere do you get your strength? My daughter is also wondering at this point if BF was taking something that killed him. As it turns out, he may have been dabbling in other people's prescription medications. Or worse. So she doesn't know whether to be sad or mad. If he did it to himself, well, the anger will get to her because he left her right when she needed him the most. And if the autopsy doesn't show anything, well then maybe she can continue to make him out to be better than he was. I do believe that he was doing something but we have to wait a month before we know for sure. (If it shows up in the tissues, etc.) Because he changed from when my daughter first met him. He always had a quick temper, but he had a kindness about him and a joy in life that he lost. I never saw him smile as he was always mad about something. She said he never smiled and also said that nothing good ever happened to him. She was going to counseling with him and trying to work hard on their relationship and he would put in the time but as soon as they got home, he ignored what the counselor said so basically she was getting the counseling, not him. He complained of chest pains but would not see a doctor (I think maybe he was hiding something) and he was gone a lot. So, although she tried to love him and find the person she loved, she may have been trying to find someone who was lost in a drug haze. My daughter is a caregiver by nature and would have done anything to keep the baby's father in the baby's life since my daughter's own father abandoned her at age 4. Even though my daughter was planning on leaving the bf after the birth of the baby, she didn't want him dead. To tell you the truth, he was scaring me as it seemed that things were escalating in their home and I was not sure that he would not hurt my daughter and the baby so maybe she will be in a better place. I don't know.

Then she must be picky and choosy about the memories she holds....just keep the good ones.

I get a lot of my strength by using some anger. I get mad at something that is stupid.... like a place where they have no stop sign and should....I fuss and cuss...it uses up energy and gets some of the depression gone. Then , I just try to block it all out. Will not be able to do that with the AD problems that hubby will show later though....that will stare me in the face. I am wondering now, where will the strength come from?

Then she must be picky and choosy about the memories she holds....just keep the good ones.

I get a lot of my strength by using some anger. I get mad at something that is stupid.... like a place where they have no stop sign and should....I fuss and cuss...it uses up energy and gets some of the depression gone. Then , I just try to block it all out. Will not be able to do that with the AD problems that hubby will show later though....that will stare me in the face. I am wondering now, where will the strength come from?

Charlotte...I hope at some point you will really consider placing your husband because I worked for a little while in a nursing home and it becomes so difficult with dementia at some point and they really need someone to watch them all of the time and you won't be able to do that.

I told my daughter to try to remember the good memories and write them down for the baby and I think she will do that. Right now, she is thinking pretty highly of the baby daddy but I don't know if or when this will change. And the baby dearly needs some good information on her dad. I still can't believe it.

Charlotte...I hope at some point you will really consider placing your husband because I worked for a little while in a nursing home and it becomes so difficult with dementia at some point and they really need someone to watch them all of the time and you won't be able to do that.

I told my daughter to try to remember the good memories and write them down for the baby and I think she will do that. Right now, she is thinking pretty highly of the baby daddy but I don't know if or when this will change. And the baby dearly needs some good information on her dad. I still can't believe it.

I can't place Hubby yet, he is still in late 1st or early 2nd. I have forbidden him to drive, with Dr. help, and that has been a big enough blow...but in addition, he simply would not go now and short of hiring three big wresslers who could sit in the car or truck or whatever to take hi to a home and stick him in it, well, you get the idea. I will put him in a home when the time comes however. You can be sure. My worry is that I will be unable to care for him before he is really ready for a home....but here the health system is different and I will be able to hire someone to help us...in our home..

I can't place Hubby yet, he is still in late 1st or early 2nd. I have forbidden him to drive, with Dr. help, and that has been a big enough blow...but in addition, he simply would not go now and short of hiring three big wresslers who could sit in the car or truck or whatever to take hi to a home and stick him in it, well, you get the idea. I will put him in a home when the time comes however. You can be sure. My worry is that I will be unable to care for him before he is really ready for a home....but here the health system is different and I will be able to hire someone to help us...in our home..