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over 3 years ago
Sad&Alone said...

Have you spoken with an attorney or thought about getting power of attorney or guardianship? If her friends are telling you she's not being cared for properly, maybe you should make a surprise visit and check things out. If what they are telling you is true, it might be time to get adult protection services involved and take legal action to remove your mother from his care. I'm pretty sure that refusing medical care for an elderly person is illegal, and is considered abuse.

If it were my mother, the first thing I'd think is maybe he has a life insurance policy on her or a girlfriend, and he doesn't want her to get better. Why else would he refuse treatment for her? Please don't be angry at me for saying that, but that's just how my mind works! lol I always assume the worst.

You have legitimate reasons to be concerned for your mother's health and safety. Please speak with APS or a lawyer, or both, and find out what you can do.

Best of luck.

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over 3 years ago

Thank you for your insight. Unfortunately I think a lawyer would tell us there's nothing we can do legally. It's not that our stepfather is totally refusing medical care, he just isn't being proactive in providing everything she needs to ensure she progresses. He provides her the bare minimum.

Our mother is not being set up for success. The amount of therapy she receives from Medicare is minimal (only 2-3 days per week for speech therapy,etc.). She has severe aphasia and should to be worked with daily.

You're right,maybe it would be worth speaking with APS to get advice on how to deal with this situation.

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