Relationship falling apart
My mother in law has lived with us for the last 4 years. Her health has is not great but except for being obese, she still can live a very active lifestyle if she chose to. She came to live with us 4 years ago because her health and finanical situations were both in crisis. We had hoped that supporting her the way that my husband and I have done would have bettered her life, but she still is making poor decisions. She sends money that she really doesn't have, needs to take antidepression medicine, and eats too much of the wrong kinds of foods.
Today my husband came up to me and said that my mother in law doesn't "feel comfortable" coming upstairs to the part of the house that my husband and children live in. I don't know what she meant by that. I have to admit that I don't go out of my way to go downstairs to her living space because frankly, I see enough of her. I work all day and we all eat as a family almost every night. I think that is enough time to spend with someone. She works out of the home and has no social life. I think she wants us to be the Waltons but I don't think I could handle any more time with her. How do you tell someone that they need to get a life and try not to suck the life out of mine?