Sister' chemo 4 week's left
Hello everyone, well the time is flying and my sister is getting closer to having her breast removed, sometime's it seem's like it was just yesterday that we received the news and 5 month's later is here.She has 4 more week's of chemo left which she has handled with great courage and determination(i think i may have spelled that wrong lol), anyway all her lab work has come back good, weight is good as is her bp. She does well in the morning's but by noon she lay's down for a while, here lately when she get's the two unit's of chemo she is completly wiped out , oh and she eat's very well that part has'nt changed lol.A few week's ago we had some friend's just drop by to see her and she was laying down, i told them this and they said well wake her she can lay back down when we leave, needless to say i lost my temper and laid out AGAIN the rule's so to speak, 1. call frist to make sure she up for company,2. you do not tell me how to handle my sister in fact you do not tell me what to do in my home PERIOD,3. if you were any kind of friend as you claim to be you would be doing more than just dropping by to check on her, do you know what a phone is? Along with a few other word's i do not use in general, i blasted them up one side and down the other. They said i was being rude? well let's see, i ask them have you ever just once called to see if she needed anything, have you offered to come over and give me alittle time for myself? ahh NO you have not, so do not even try and put this back in my lap, i told them they were a sorry excuse of what they call a friend.I truly understand some people can't handle thing's like this, they don't know what to say or do but to not even try and make an efford is not right. When she found out about the cancer she ask me would i call our friend's and let them know and i did, including the one's that just popped in for a visit. When they were frist told they said we are here for you and yet it took 4 month's see how thing's were going.I work 7 day's and 10 hour day's, we have a very dear friend who come's over daily and stay's with my sister to keep her company and on a bad day help when needed.My sis still does what she can light work , but i told her do not over do it because it seem's to take longer for her to get some of her strengh back, but all in all she is doing very well and i tell her that everyday.Well i guess i will close for now time for work thank you all for letting me vent( it's been a while). God bless you all, you are alway's in my thought and prayer's. Sincerely, Angel.
Hello Angel...
Your sister's and your situation are a mirror-image of my sister's and mine, while she was undergoing chemo prior to her mastectomy. I, too, had to field a couple of thoughtless, clueless folks. Never occurred to them it was they who were rude!
Her surgery was 8 years ago...followed by additional chemo and radiation. Prescribed Arimidex.
I'm happy to say she's doing very well. Working, travelling and enjoying life with hubby, children and grandchildren.
I wish the same for your sister.
She's very fortunate to have an "Angel" such as you by her side.
Blessings, thoughts and prayers tucked in.
Thank you for your kindness and i am so happy your sister is doing so well, as will my sis once she gets through all this. She also has to have more chemo and radiation for at least 1 more year after the removal of her breast and just like now i will be there to help with whatever she may want or need, and in truth i am the lucky one to have such a sweet, kind, unselfish, strong, loving sister. I thank god everyday, she has shown me what true strength is. My prayers are always there for everyone going through this and anything else. Sincerely, Angel.
You're very welcome...and thanks for your kind words.
It is a difficult journey...as it's called, but one that can be more easily navigated, so to speak, with yours and your sister's determination. You are both a source of strength for each other!
Mutual prayers extended...
Hoping for a successful surgery and smooth road to recovery...
Hi again, Angel!
It really doesn't seem like 5 months have passed...I'm glad for you and your sister that they've flown by. And it's great to hear how well she's been managing. Your support has contributed probably more than you realize.
Wonderful news about her lab work, appetite and bp...all positive signs she's making good progress. As I mentioned, my sister faced an almost identical experience...the chemo before to reduce the tumor before surgery...followed by radiation, as well as additional chemo for almost a year...and the same determination throughout. I so hope your sister does as well as mine has done...now over 8 years later!
How disappointing about those friends' lack of consideration and understanding. You've every right to have reacted to them as you did and, quite frankly, the word "friends" really doesn't apply to them. As the saying goes, with friends like that, who needs enemies??
While it's great for her morale that your sister does some light work, it's very important that she conserves as much energy as possible. And rests up.
How fortunate to have such a caring and helpful friend to also help out. It makes up for the "uncaring" bunch...!
Thanks for the update. Wishing your sister the very best outcome and hoping for an update in her favor over the next 4 weeks and at surgery time.
Blessings to you both...and vent all you want, any time. :)
Try to give yourself some breaks along the way, too. I know it's not easy for you with your work schedule being what it is. And it's important you stay in good shape, mentally and physically.
All the best...and thanks for the progress report.
