Glad to find this group. I am hoping some of you folks can give me some insights. I have so many questions. I dropped everything and flew across the country and have been here since. I have many questions but am now trying to decide what I should do to help care for Mom. (I can't write all the other things I want at the moment)
Long story short: I now find that my siblings are not willing to share any responsibilities and since I am recently retired they have decided that I can be the one to take care of everything. It might be true that I have more time on my hands but I also had a life. they are all home now and don't seem interested enough to even call let alone ask me if I need any help. They are leaving it all to me but at the same time don't think I should even be using Mom's money to buy my groceries. I have bills to pay for my home in another state while they are all back sleeping in there own beds going about there own lives. When I brought up the fact that if I do move back to this state I am not going to give up my life to care for her, sell my home at a loss and not be compensated in some way. I've told them it is possible all her money will be used for her healthcare - it is a unknown but since she has some money (not much) they are all interested in how much things are costing. My priority is my Mom but others tell me I have to look out for myself since in the end, I will get screwed by my siblings and it is sure looking that way. One kid (local) has POA's but I am trustee and have been paying all her bills for the last 2 years. They don't have a clue what she is really worth but I don't think it is fair that I should be homeless if something happens to her.
I know this isn't much info to go on but any advise of how I can take care of Mom and not get screwed by her selfish "heirs"?