I stumbled onto this web site while looking for senior resources. I've been trying to help my parents for the past couple of years after my Dad broke his hip and Mom had her heart attack with stent install. Last week, Dad was in the hospital after a seizure where he struggled to breath. He was diagnosed with COPD and his left ventricle is dysfunctional. He's had a water pocket near the brain stem for several years now. This was viewed as a risk to do a catheterization to look at his heart further. Dad is home and fairing OK. He's staying on the first floor for right now. A home care nurse was coming in today to meet with my parents. Someone from Ohio's Passport system is meeting with them next week. My Mom feels guilty when I take off work and leave behind my family to help them. She tried to pay me for coming up last week when Dad was in the hospital but I refused the money. I have no siblings. I work full-time with a husband and a six year old son. I've been calling each day since I came home to check in with my parents and my Mom seems to appreciate it.
I'm at a loss on what the right thing is for me to do. I don't want to make my parents feel like invalids. My Mom is in far better health than my Dad. I know Dad struggles with not being able to do the things he used to do like mowing the yard which is something they've hired out. Besides general cooking & cleaning, I feel my parents have reached the point where they need to have outsiders (family or hired help) come in and do major jobs like lawn care, painting, fixing. Their house is paid off and they would like to remain there. Come 2012, my parents could lose their supplemental insurance from the company where Dad worked. I cannot get them on my benefits unless they live with me.
I'm doing a lot of praying and a lot of researching. This is one of my many stops.