My mother is 81 and has beginning dementia and incontinence. She is putting ads in the personals for love with younger men (55-60 years old) and going out with anyone who shows up at her apartment. She is also sexually active with them. I was in the process of getting guardianship of her on her dr.'s recommendation so I could get her into an assisted living facility.
When I came to tell her I received guardianship, she ran away to her old home town about 3 hours away from where I live. She is staying with a friend and says she isn't coming back to my city. I am willing to compromise and let her go in assisted living in her old town but she won't hear of it. She knows then she won't be able to have her male visitors.
Her old apartment is getting ready to throw her out because of several rule violations and the management there also recommends assisted living for her.
She was trying to move to her old city and get an apartment on her own but there are few friends and no family in that town anymore. As well as my sister and I not wanting her to be in apartment all by herself with no support system if something goes wrong.
What do I do. Have the police go with me and make her come back to the assisted living in my town, or let her have the apartment in her old town and wait until something really bad happens?