Should I offer to take mom in?
Ok...I really have been debating this one. My mom lives in NY and has her whole life. I, however moved to Seattle about 6 years back. Since then her health has deteriorated enough that she had to move from her apt to one in a independent senior community where she has been for over a year now. Problem is she is not taking great care of herself and is starting to forget things and imagine things. She is also falling frequently and will need to use a walker. Also she is letting people come over to her apt who are trying to sell her things like insurance. To make matters worse she is becoming extremely fed up with one of her sister's who is going through her own ordeal since her husband is suffering from Alzheimers. She was out here about a month ago and said something to me, my husband and my sister about her moving out here. It was very casual. Now...I am starting to wonder if she is really considering it. My sister lives in NY but works full time and lives in a a smal NYC sized apt. I however work PT and am going to graduate school and housing is alot cheaper out here. I am consdering offering for her to move out here with my husband and I and getting a bigger place for all of us. Is this crazy? She knows no one else here! I just feel that she would be safer here and I can work less hours while I am in school and take care of her if needed. Any thoughts? suggestions? Anyone out there done something like this with any amount of success?