Help - how to make him comfortable?
My father-in-law is slipping away with the last stages of Congestive Heart Failure. He also has severe dementia. He will not take any food now, can't swallow it. He is never fully awake. He is at our home on Hopspice.
The worst thing is that he is having repeated, vivid dreams about re-living a near-drowning accident he had as a boy. He screams to his cousin to save him, he cries, he says he is going under. I think because of this he now will not allow us to give him any fluids, either. Every time he is semi-awake I try to give him a few drops of water, but he becomes terrified about the drowning. The only way to calm him is to medicate him, but then of course there is no chance that he will wake up and drink.
We just want him to be comfortable and not afraid during these last days. I don't know what we can do.