Who else would give up the Caregiver "Job" if you could?
I would. My Dad is in assisted living with dementia and diabetes. I take care of all his bills, and everything he needs that the assisted living facility doesn't provide (clothes, doctor's visits etc). I visit him regularly and handle all problems that arise (his teeth hurt, he needs a dentist - his chair is soaked with urine, he needs a vinyl one).
I love my Dad VERY MUCH. But sometimes I wish someone ELSE would do this "job." I am a single mom, I work full time and I have a lovely little boy who is in preschool. I wish I had more time to spend on my OWN life and son and MY bills.
People always say to me, "Oh, you are such a good daughter." Well, yes, I am. But deep down, in my heart, I wish another family member would do this care-giving part.
But they won't. (I have asked. It will never, ever happen). I am finally at peace with that reality but I sure don't like it.
Sometimes, I just resent all this. I resent the choices that my Dad made after my parents' divorce and in how he lived his life (and managed his health) that got him to this point. And then I feel guilty for thinking that.
Does anyone else wish that the Caregiving Fairy would just come along and "POOF!" take care of everything?