Just Realized I Need to Go to the Doctor with My Mom
I'm just seeking a bit of support. Yesterday my 92 year old Mom and I went to the hospital after her doctor's office called and said told her to go there that afternoon and bring someone with her. She said she needed a blood test. What they actually told her was that she needed to go to the emergency room to be tested for a possible blood clot. We finally to the right area and thank goodness she didn't have a clot.
BUT, she was so difficult to deal with. Her description of why she was there was always blood test, not blood clot. She sometimes answered a different question than the nurse asked - at length. And they told her to make an appointment with her regular clinic before the Labor Day weekend. When I called her up at 3:00 this afternoon, suspecting she wouldn't remember to make the doctor appointment, I was right.
Anyway, after yesterday I've decided I need to go to all her doctor appointments with her and be sure I know what her condition is and what her instructions are. And that makes me feel burdened and in need of some support myself.
Also, my brother and cousin who both live out of state are working with me to call her on the phone every day, so I do have some help.
Just a bit more. When the nurse saw my Mother yesterday she said she couldn't believe she's that old. She is very healthy for her age and only takes 4 medications: 2 for blood pressure, 1 for water retention and I'm not sure what the 4th is for. She lives alone and drives. For example, she went to her hair appointment successfully today driving herself. While she is having short-term memory loss, I honestly believe that she is OK living alone, feeding herself, caring for her yard and driving to familiar places during the day (which she decided to limit herself to several years ago). But yesterday gives me pause.
Thanks to anyone who takes time to read this and offer a friendly hand.
GlennaJo, I just wanted to offer you a hug of support. I think it's wise that you realize that your mom needs you to be her advocate, medically. It is also wonderful that she is still so vital and active in other areas. I wish you both the very best.
