I know everything says don't tell them what they see isn't there, but I did. Every day has been a constant litany about the "people" living in the gazebo, trees, and pontoon, when no one is there. She has taken to wandering out in the cold to yell and cuss at people who aren't there. We are in Michigan where there is a foot of snow and 2 degree weather. I came home to hear how she had been out at sunrise yelling, and then she turned on me. I got upset and told her there were no people, which ended up with my mother calling me such foul names, saying she hated me, and telling me to leave. She hasn't been diagnosed, and I don't know what to do. She will not go to a dr , so we will have to make her go. She use to work at a mental hospital and doesn't look at this as an illness, but as a mental illness. I am lost , afraid and in need of help!
I agree, but the question is how?? My sister lives out of state and she said call 911 and have them come and take her to the hospital for evaluation. She will not go on her own. I can't even get her to go get her eyes checked. She hates doctors and probly hasn't seen one in 25-30 yrs. Do I wait until she's having an event and out running around? Do I just call and have her taken? I just don't know what to do. She has been showing signs for a while, but not like this past week. The other day she went out to chase these "people" and locked herself out of the house. My husband quit work to keep an eye on her , but she has totally turned on him making it almost impossible for him to be in the house with her. I appreciate any advice because I am at wits end.
Ninajean,
My heart goes out to you but you do need to have her somewhere, where she can have 24-7 supervision. My father did this 6yrs ago and had to be placed in a nursing home. He had suffered a stroke and thought we were other family members of his instead of his children. He was taken to the hospital and a physician from there did the proper thing. Two years ago he was able to come home with the help of the counseling staff at the nursing facility. Don't be afraid to do what's best for her and yourself!!
Ninajean,
Do the right thing for her - she needs help - I just lost my mom to this illness this week that's why I joined this group to talk and help others. My mom did these bursts of events - people where coming after her - she ran out of her condo saying they where inside going to kill her - she would get locked out of the condo - etc... didn't want to take her pills, called 911 to see what time it was - the police put her in the hosp. and they evalutaed her - Alzheimers - I then got round the clock care - which was all out of pocket - I decided that ASL was the way to go and it was cheaper then in house care - because your husband is not a proff. and able to deal with her mood events - at an ASL they are... they are use to it and it doesn't bother them - she would be safe and healthy - meds would be given to her on a timely manner... showers/food etc... locked down facility - My mom was in Fl. and it is cheaper there for an ASL facility - I paid 2000.00 for 24/7 room, board, food, meds etc... they were great people to deal with and I love them - and they loved her - My mother was a hand full up until the end - she had a mouth like a sewer which made them all laugh at the ASL. If you mother is doing this she needs help right away - my mom died this week and I am here if you need to talk - Alzheimers does kill and that I didn't knew... but there are about 7 stages of this illness and my mom was in stage 7 when she passed... but I do have one thing to be blessed with - she ALWAYS knew me.. my Barbara she would say when I called - I Love You she would tell me - I'll never forget that - I called her 15 mins before she passed - I don't know why..??? but I did... and I got to speak to her before she died... I have been blessed to have many years with this women showing me/teaching right form wrong... do the right thing for her - she needs help... she doesn't mean the things she says - it's the illness talking and don't get frustrated when she says yes to you and does something else - she is not well... that was the hardest thing for me - to deal with because you think you are dealing with a person that is normal but you're not... she is ill and please help her - Babs
Babs,
I am so sorry for your loss! My Mom is doing pretty well, for now. She is on meds for the paranoid behavior. She won't take them, but I crush and sneak them. She still sees the little birds, and talks about the tree people nextdoor, but not the people out to get her. As long as she is home she does well. Our traveling is about over. She can go to the store, but over nights are over.
It isn't always easy, but then she was neve an easy person to be around. She knows everyone, but has slowed down doing a lot. She can clean, feed, dress ect herself, and does small tasks. We manage taking itone day at a time. I have made it known that I refuse to go back to the way it was. If it gets to that point I will find a care facility, and hope she'll be happy. Thanks for the help!
babs i am so sorry for your loss; i hope you can be stronger now than ever cuz you are gonna go thru so many emotions over the next few weeks; i will not pretend to know you or give you advise but try and stay strong and love your mother's memory;and ninajean i can only pray for you and your family as well; hope things do not bog you down in your heart and hope that the days are not to trying on ur nerves;peace and prayers for everyone!!!micki
One way to get your loved one to a doctor is to enlist the help of Adult Protective Services. They will send out a social worker to evaluate your parent, and, if they find that the situation is dangerous for the individual, they will try to persuade them to see a doctor. If the individual refuses, they will have the police take them to the hospital.
