K.C.- My prayers are with you. I lost my husband to pancreatic cancer Feb 4, 2010. His journey with pancreatic cancer was quick. He was diagnosed in Dec. 2009. Thanks to a book called "Final Gifts", written by hospice nurses, I learned to listen to my husband with more than just my ears. I learned to see the signs of his upcoming death. He had also told me I needed to prepare myself as he knew he was dying. There is no easy way to completely prepare yourself for the death of a loved one, I know I did everything within my power to make his last days here on earth as peaceful and pain free as possible. Although I am still numb from losing him, I know I never let a day go by that I didn't tell him just how much I loved him and how important he was to me. I was blessed with the sight of seeing him meet all his loved ones that had gone before him and I know he was at peace when he left this world. Please feel free to talk with me again. A circle of support is important now.

K.C.- My prayers are with you. I lost my husband to pancreatic cancer Feb 4, 2010. His journey with pancreatic cancer was quick. He was diagnosed in Dec. 2009. Thanks to a book called "Final Gifts", written by hospice nurses, I learned to listen to my husband with more than just my ears. I learned to see the signs of his upcoming death. He had also told me I needed to prepare myself as he knew he was dying. There is no easy way to completely prepare yourself for the death of a loved one, I know I did everything within my power to make his last days here on earth as peaceful and pain free as possible. Although I am still numb from losing him, I know I never let a day go by that I didn't tell him just how much I loved him and how important he was to me. I was blessed with the sight of seeing him meet all his loved ones that had gone before him and I know he was at peace when he left this world. Please feel free to talk with me again. A circle of support is important now.

Tamberlee, This helps me so much. I've imagined what it will be like for my husband's deceased father and young nephew to usher him away to Heaven when the time comes. I hope this is made as apparent to me as it was for you.

Rich isn't bedfast or in pain yet, so I'm still working 3 1/2 days a week. It's a diastraction for me that helps right now. I just came off of two days off. We took our phone off the hook and locked our gate so we could have those two days uninterrupted. It's also a coping mechanism for me to shut the world out once in awhile.

My husband doesn't want anyone but me and sometimes our daughter & grandkids around. Even his family, who all live out-of-state, wouldn't know if I hadn't went behind his back and told my sister-in-law. Now his one brother knows but has to pretend he doesn't when he calls my husband on the phone. It's very complicated.

I have a great church family that would be by my side in a minute if my husband would allow it. He wants me home with him when I'm not working, so I haven't been to church since the first week in August. That has been so hard for me, but I do keep in touch with most of my friends at church by phone or mail.

Anyway, thank you and please keep Rich and I are your prayers. We're planning to celebrate his 70th birthday on March 14th, God willing.

Tamberlee, This helps me so much. I've imagined what it will be like for my husband's deceased father and young nephew to usher him away to Heaven when the time comes. I hope this is made as apparent to me as it was for you.

Rich isn't bedfast or in pain yet, so I'm still working 3 1/2 days a week. It's a diastraction for me that helps right now. I just came off of two days off. We took our phone off the hook and locked our gate so we could have those two days uninterrupted. It's also a coping mechanism for me to shut the world out once in awhile.

My husband doesn't want anyone but me and sometimes our daughter & grandkids around. Even his family, who all live out-of-state, wouldn't know if I hadn't went behind his back and told my sister-in-law. Now his one brother knows but has to pretend he doesn't when he calls my husband on the phone. It's very complicated.

I have a great church family that would be by my side in a minute if my husband would allow it. He wants me home with him when I'm not working, so I haven't been to church since the first week in August. That has been so hard for me, but I do keep in touch with most of my friends at church by phone or mail.

Anyway, thank you and please keep Rich and I are your prayers. We're planning to celebrate his 70th birthday on March 14th, God willing.

I am so sorry for your loss and admire you for the strength you have in being here to help some of the rest of us who are going through this pain. I'm in hthe midst of the struggle right now, so I'm afraid I'm not at the point of being much help to anyone else. God bless and keep you.

I am so sorry for your loss and admire you for the strength you have in being here to help some of the rest of us who are going through this pain. I'm in hthe midst of the struggle right now, so I'm afraid I'm not at the point of being much help to anyone else. God bless and keep you.

K.C.- Please know that you and Rich will be in my prayers. I believe you can never have enough prayers during this stuggle you are in now. I am glad to hear you have a big church family. A circle of support is very important now and in the future. I learned the hard way that the bigger the circle the better. I only had a small circle and there were times I felt so alone and isolated. My cirlce was small because I am basically a loner. I too went behind his back and told friends and family about his condition, as it is so important for him to know how many people care for him and love him. I learned for some it was hard as they felt ackward and weren't sure what to say, but the fact that they came to see him showed him just how much they really cared for him. I think the thing taht really surprised him the most was the friends that he hadn't seen in several years were the ones that were there to see him, he didn't realize until then just how much he had impacted their lives and that he meant so much to them. I was always told growing up when you are down and out you will learn just who your true friends are because they are there for you through the good times as well as the bad ones. I must also tell you that I disagree with you about not being much help to anyone else at the moment. You are helping those that are here reading posts that haven't posted yet. There are days I just come and read posts but don't reply and then there are days when I do. PLease know I am here for you and will pray for God to give you peace and strength during this journey.

K.C.- Please know that you and Rich will be in my prayers. I believe you can never have enough prayers during this stuggle you are in now. I am glad to hear you have a big church family. A circle of support is very important now and in the future. I learned the hard way that the bigger the circle the better. I only had a small circle and there were times I felt so alone and isolated. My cirlce was small because I am basically a loner. I too went behind his back and told friends and family about his condition, as it is so important for him to know how many people care for him and love him. I learned for some it was hard as they felt ackward and weren't sure what to say, but the fact that they came to see him showed him just how much they really cared for him. I think the thing taht really surprised him the most was the friends that he hadn't seen in several years were the ones that were there to see him, he didn't realize until then just how much he had impacted their lives and that he meant so much to them. I was always told growing up when you are down and out you will learn just who your true friends are because they are there for you through the good times as well as the bad ones. I must also tell you that I disagree with you about not being much help to anyone else at the moment. You are helping those that are here reading posts that haven't posted yet. There are days I just come and read posts but don't reply and then there are days when I do. PLease know I am here for you and will pray for God to give you peace and strength during this journey.

K. C. My heart goes out to you. What a frightening time this for both of you! Not that it is a help at this point but have the medical investigations looked hemochromatosis? This most common genetic disorder has frequently turned out to be the underlying cause of liver cirrhosis...patients often accused of being alcoholics! http://hemochromatosisusa.org/ May you find strength in your mutual love.

K. C. My heart goes out to you. What a frightening time this for both of you! Not that it is a help at this point but have the medical investigations looked hemochromatosis? This most common genetic disorder has frequently turned out to be the underlying cause of liver cirrhosis...patients often accused of being alcoholics! http://hemochromatosisusa.org/ May you find strength in your mutual love.

My heart goes out to you and empathise with you. My dad is suffering from CA Oesophagus and recently we were informed that water has accumulated in his right lung. The doctors said advised the same abdominal tap as paliative treatment. But also said that the process will continue and he would repeatedly have to come back for fluid aspiration and that this would only expedite the deterioration. He is 77 and we don't want him to suffer any further with treatments that won't really be of much help. Our goal is now to give him general life support so he could be in peace. I wish your husband a speedy recovery and that you will clebrate Golden anniversary together. God Bless!

My heart goes out to you and empathise with you. My dad is suffering from CA Oesophagus and recently we were informed that water has accumulated in his right lung. The doctors said advised the same abdominal tap as paliative treatment. But also said that the process will continue and he would repeatedly have to come back for fluid aspiration and that this would only expedite the deterioration. He is 77 and we don't want him to suffer any further with treatments that won't really be of much help. Our goal is now to give him general life support so he could be in peace. I wish your husband a speedy recovery and that you will clebrate Golden anniversary together. God Bless!

Thank you so much for your kind words. I'm so very sorry that your dad is having to go through this. I lost my dad in 1991. He was only 69 - my husband's age. Please check into the Denver Drain. It's given my husband back quality of life. He wouldn't have lasted much longer enduring the taps he was going through every 10 days or so. Inserting the Drain was a simple out-patient surgery, and our hospice nurse empties the Drain every 3-4 days at no discomfort for my husband. God be with you as you have to make these decisions. I know how hard it's been for me and my husband.

Thank you so much for your kind words. I'm so very sorry that your dad is having to go through this. I lost my dad in 1991. He was only 69 - my husband's age. Please check into the Denver Drain. It's given my husband back quality of life. He wouldn't have lasted much longer enduring the taps he was going through every 10 days or so. Inserting the Drain was a simple out-patient surgery, and our hospice nurse empties the Drain every 3-4 days at no discomfort for my husband. God be with you as you have to make these decisions. I know how hard it's been for me and my husband.

FATHER, PLEASE GUIDE ME.. With gratitude, I turn to you, God, to receive spiritual guidance, communication, and direction. In the quietness of my Right-Mind, the place within me where our minds are joined as One, I listen to your Voice of wisdom and truth and I know what to do. Dear God, your understanding and spiritual guidance fills my heart and mind completely. Your guiding Holy Spirit directs my every step. In all that I do, I acknowledge your holy presence and give thanks for the wisdom, strength, and serenity you give me. As I feel and experience your constant Presence in my life, God, I joyfully receive your communication, insight, and inspiration, gently guiding me on my path and making my way sure. Your loving Holy Spirit, dear Father, is the guiding light that illuminates my path. Your voice within me gives me the understanding, insight, and spiritual guidance I need to make wise and compassionate decisions. You, dear Father, are my Infinite Source of Peace , Love, and Wisdom. Your Holy Spirit guides and directs me. Your Love enfolds me, and Your Light illuminates me. I am eternally grateful for your spiritual guidance, dear Father. Thank you for always being with me. Amen My prayer are with you and your family. My husband has stage 4 lung cancer and we found out in Oct-2009 and every since then it has been a battle for him and myself. I also let him know each and every moment how much I Love and need him and that he has always been the best thing that has ever happen to me in my life. I'm scared sometmes when I see how much pain he is going though.And there is nothing I can do for him. I pray to my God to heal him and take the pain away. All I can do is to belive and have FAITH that my God will HEAL him.Me and my husband have talked about what if. And I cried at first but I seen how sad he got when he seen me that hurt. So now I promised myself not to let him see me this way. So when I feel this way I take walks and talk to my God. Well I guess I have taken up enough of your time. Anytime you would like to talk E-Mail(skylinn4160@yahoo.com I also send you a prayer that helps me though the day; May God Bless you: Cynthia

FATHER, PLEASE GUIDE ME.. With gratitude, I turn to you, God, to receive spiritual guidance, communication, and direction. In the quietness of my Right-Mind, the place within me where our minds are joined as One, I listen to your Voice of wisdom and truth and I know what to do. Dear God, your understanding and spiritual guidance fills my heart and mind completely. Your guiding Holy Spirit directs my every step. In all that I do, I acknowledge your holy presence and give thanks for the wisdom, strength, and serenity you give me. As I feel and experience your constant Presence in my life, God, I joyfully receive your communication, insight, and inspiration, gently guiding me on my path and making my way sure. Your loving Holy Spirit, dear Father, is the guiding light that illuminates my path. Your voice within me gives me the understanding, insight, and spiritual guidance I need to make wise and compassionate decisions. You, dear Father, are my Infinite Source of Peace , Love, and Wisdom. Your Holy Spirit guides and directs me. Your Love enfolds me, and Your Light illuminates me. I am eternally grateful for your spiritual guidance, dear Father. Thank you for always being with me. Amen My prayer are with you and your family. My husband has stage 4 lung cancer and we found out in Oct-2009 and every since then it has been a battle for him and myself. I also let him know each and every moment how much I Love and need him and that he has always been the best thing that has ever happen to me in my life. I'm scared sometmes when I see how much pain he is going though.And there is nothing I can do for him. I pray to my God to heal him and take the pain away. All I can do is to belive and have FAITH that my God will HEAL him.Me and my husband have talked about what if. And I cried at first but I seen how sad he got when he seen me that hurt. So now I promised myself not to let him see me this way. So when I feel this way I take walks and talk to my God. Well I guess I have taken up enough of your time. Anytime you would like to talk E-Mail(skylinn4160@yahoo.com I also send you a prayer that helps me though the day; May God Bless you: Cynthia

Wow,

Skylinn4160@yahoo.com (Cynthia), that was a powerful message that you shared. I too, am in the same position you are, with my husband being diagnosed with stage 4 lung cancer. It is heart-breaking to see him in sooo much pain and nothing you can do, but, continue to be the devoted and supportive wife. I agree that you have to continue to have FAITH that GOD will HEAL him. I too cried in front of him and just remember him saying that when he gets to HEAVEN, he will leave a light on for me. The love I have for him grows more and more everyday. God sent him to me for a purpose and maybe it was for this situation. I thank God everyday for sending me such a wonderful man. GOD has the final answer, whatever that may be, and I just continue to TRUST in his GRACE AND MERCY for he has all the power and glory. Pat

Wow,

Skylinn4160@yahoo.com (Cynthia), that was a powerful message that you shared. I too, am in the same position you are, with my husband being diagnosed with stage 4 lung cancer. It is heart-breaking to see him in sooo much pain and nothing you can do, but, continue to be the devoted and supportive wife. I agree that you have to continue to have FAITH that GOD will HEAL him. I too cried in front of him and just remember him saying that when he gets to HEAVEN, he will leave a light on for me. The love I have for him grows more and more everyday. God sent him to me for a purpose and maybe it was for this situation. I thank God everyday for sending me such a wonderful man. GOD has the final answer, whatever that may be, and I just continue to TRUST in his GRACE AND MERCY for he has all the power and glory. Pat

My dad passed away on 22nd. I miss him... Oh god i miss him...

My dad passed away on 22nd. I miss him... Oh god i miss him...

Cynthia, This was so uplifting for me. Thank you for praying and sharing this with me. My husband remained pain-free for 7 months - which I believe was due to the prayers being lifted to God for him - but day before yesterday everything changed. We had to phone our hospice nurse at 5 a.m. to start Rich on pain meds. This is the scary part for both of us. Please continue with prayers.

Cynthia, This was so uplifting for me. Thank you for praying and sharing this with me. My husband remained pain-free for 7 months - which I believe was due to the prayers being lifted to God for him - but day before yesterday everything changed. We had to phone our hospice nurse at 5 a.m. to start Rich on pain meds. This is the scary part for both of us. Please continue with prayers.

My heart goes out to you, what a lovely prayer. My mom was told the end of January that she has stage 4 bladder cancer. If it were not for God, I couldn't endure this. My mom is my best friend and she is such a tower of strength for me and my kids. She raised me up in church my whole life and there is not a person who has come in contact with her who she has not told them about her wonderful savior. I pray ever day that God will heal her. I also pray for peace. He is helping but it is still soooo hard. I hate to see anyone in so much pain. I go to chemo with her and just watch all the people who are struggling and I feel like I am looking through a window. I smile and talk to each of them, but man my heart cries for all of them. I will pray for you both. The biggest thing that I have learned from all of this is to love. I love both my parents more, my God more , my husband more, children more and my kids more. Sweat the small stuff and say I love you, and show I love you

My heart goes out to you, what a lovely prayer. My mom was told the end of January that she has stage 4 bladder cancer. If it were not for God, I couldn't endure this. My mom is my best friend and she is such a tower of strength for me and my kids. She raised me up in church my whole life and there is not a person who has come in contact with her who she has not told them about her wonderful savior. I pray ever day that God will heal her. I also pray for peace. He is helping but it is still soooo hard. I hate to see anyone in so much pain. I go to chemo with her and just watch all the people who are struggling and I feel like I am looking through a window. I smile and talk to each of them, but man my heart cries for all of them. I will pray for you both. The biggest thing that I have learned from all of this is to love. I love both my parents more, my God more , my husband more, children more and my kids more. Sweat the small stuff and say I love you, and show I love you

Thought for the Day:

If God had a refrigerator, your picture would be on it.
If He had a wallet, your photo would be in it.
He sends you flowers every spring.
He sends you a sunrise every morning. Face it, friend - He is crazy about you! Send this to every "beautiful person" you wish to bless.
God didn't promise days without pain, laughter without sorrow, sun without rain, but He did promise strength for the day, comfort for the tears, and light for the way.

Pat: It's me Cynthia (skylinn4160@yahoo.com) just wanted to share this with you. I had a real hard weekend with my husband he got real sick. But I held my head up high to my Lord and he's up again. I myself I'm going through some tough times right now. But I keep my head up high because God never gives us WOMEN more than WE ca handle. I will keep you and your family in my prayers. I send you my e-mail address so please feel free to write it would be nice to talk to someone that understands what we are going though. Have a bless day. Cynthia

Thought for the Day:

If God had a refrigerator, your picture would be on it.
If He had a wallet, your photo would be in it.
He sends you flowers every spring.
He sends you a sunrise every morning. Face it, friend - He is crazy about you! Send this to every "beautiful person" you wish to bless.
God didn't promise days without pain, laughter without sorrow, sun without rain, but He did promise strength for the day, comfort for the tears, and light for the way.

Pat: It's me Cynthia (skylinn4160@yahoo.com) just wanted to share this with you. I had a real hard weekend with my husband he got real sick. But I held my head up high to my Lord and he's up again. I myself I'm going through some tough times right now. But I keep my head up high because God never gives us WOMEN more than WE ca handle. I will keep you and your family in my prayers. I send you my e-mail address so please feel free to write it would be nice to talk to someone that understands what we are going though. Have a bless day. Cynthia

My husband, Richard, gave up his battle against the cancer on April 2nd. I was at his side, holding his hand and talking to him when he took his last breath. Thank you all for your prayers. His pain is over, but mine has only began.

My husband, Richard, gave up his battle against the cancer on April 2nd. I was at his side, holding his hand and talking to him when he took his last breath. Thank you all for your prayers. His pain is over, but mine has only began.

Hello, KC Just hold on. We will all be praying for you, and know that God is there for you and he knows how much you love Richard and he will be there to comfort you just know (Romans 8-37) "Yet in all these things we are more than conquerors through Him who loves us." Also read verses 39 of the same chaphter. Bless You God is there just call on him.

Hello, KC Just hold on. We will all be praying for you, and know that God is there for you and he knows how much you love Richard and he will be there to comfort you just know (Romans 8-37) "Yet in all these things we are more than conquerors through Him who loves us." Also read verses 39 of the same chaphter. Bless You God is there just call on him.

Hi kc just know your there for him im so sorry i watched my dad an mom die it was so hard to go thru that. I will be praying for you an God bless you always. fr a friend. wayne

Hi kc just know your there for him im so sorry i watched my dad an mom die it was so hard to go thru that. I will be praying for you an God bless you always. fr a friend. wayne

Thank you all so much. We had 8 meaningful months to prepare together for this, so I really think I'm doing better than I thought I would. I'm just keeping as busy as possible. God bless all of you. I've stood on the following scripture through it all: "God is our refuge and our strength, a very present help in trouble. Therefore we will not fear." Now I just need to find a new "normal" and carry on what Rich and I lived for 37 years until it's my time to join him. You are all in my prayers. Kathie

Thank you all so much. We had 8 meaningful months to prepare together for this, so I really think I'm doing better than I thought I would. I'm just keeping as busy as possible. God bless all of you. I've stood on the following scripture through it all: "God is our refuge and our strength, a very present help in trouble. Therefore we will not fear." Now I just need to find a new "normal" and carry on what Rich and I lived for 37 years until it's my time to join him. You are all in my prayers. Kathie

It's been over a year since I lost Rich. At first I seemed to be doing better than anyone expected me to, but I believe now that I was just in shock. I miss his presence more every day and see each new morning as just being one day closer to seeing my husband again. I stay busy with my job and projects at home, but his absence is draining the life from me. I'm checking on a grief support group because I have to try to do more to help myself. I want to be happy again.

It's been over a year since I lost Rich. At first I seemed to be doing better than anyone expected me to, but I believe now that I was just in shock. I miss his presence more every day and see each new morning as just being one day closer to seeing my husband again. I stay busy with my job and projects at home, but his absence is draining the life from me. I'm checking on a grief support group because I have to try to do more to help myself. I want to be happy again.