Dad is home from hip replacement, stubborn and depressed
My dad is 87, hasn't been sick in 50 years, fell and broke his hip at the end of October. He came home yesterday, and is depressed about his limitations. He thought that after the hospital released him he would be 100% well. Now he finds he needs a walker and wheelchair, in-home rehab, and it will be months at best for him to recover most of his abilities. I get mad at him because he seems so weak. He can't see that he is doing well, fights against doing rehab. One hour he grudgingly says he'll do the rehab, then an hour later he says he wants to take arsenic and die. It's especially hard for me and my sister to see, since mom died 3 years ago after an 11-month fight with lung cancer. She NEVER complained, saw the humor in tough times, etc. On top of all this, he is nearly deaf, and uncommunicative of his feelings. Anyone have any thoughts, encouragement?