How to I motivate someone else to quit smoking?
I've been smoke free for about a year now, and it wasn't so bad. I thought it was going to be alot harder than it really was. My fiance quit with me, but he relapsed and is now smoking about 1/2 a pack a day. My Grandpa had COPD and in May he got unexpectedly diagnosed with last stage lung cancer and passed away. I was close to him, in a way. I know that not everyone dies that way, or suffers from that type of thing but- I just want him to quit smoking.
I try to remind him of things that happen if you continue on that path and I keep telling him, even if you quit now, down the road, the damage that is done, is done. He comes back with, yeah, well there are people who have smoked for 60 years and have nothing wrong- but then again, back then, they had natural tabacco.
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How to I motivate someone else to quit smoking?
I've been smoke free for about a year now, and it wasn't so bad. I thought it was going to be alot harder than it really was. My fiance quit with me, but he relapsed and is now smoking about 1/2 a pack a day. My Grandpa had COPD and in May he got unexpectedly diagnosed with last stage lung cancer and passed away. I was close to him, in a way. I know that not everyone dies that way, or suffers from that type of thing but- I just want him to quit smoking.
I try to remind him of things that happen if you continue on that path and I keep telling him, even if you quit now, down the road, the damage that is done, is done. He comes back with, yeah, well there are people who have smoked for 60 years and have nothing wrong- but then again, back then, they had natural tabacco.
Ugh... Help
Wow how sad for you with your loss regarding your grandad. I lost my mom last year to COPD, so I know how ugly that disease can be. But back to the topic at hand. I know how bad you want him to quit again but there really isn't anything you can do to make him quit. Look how many times your loved ones wanted you to quit, and you didn't till you were ready. I am speaking from a position of being an addict with more than one substance. I heard this saying that I think fits. You can lead a horse to water, but you can't make him drink it. Not in any way implying your boyfriend is a horse, lol, but I think its sort of fitting. You can lead by example and take care of yourself so you don't return to it. Good luck. Peace & Blessings
Wow how sad for you with your loss regarding your grandad. I lost my mom last year to COPD, so I know how ugly that disease can be. But back to the topic at hand. I know how bad you want him to quit again but there really isn't anything you can do to make him quit. Look how many times your loved ones wanted you to quit, and you didn't till you were ready. I am speaking from a position of being an addict with more than one substance. I heard this saying that I think fits. You can lead a horse to water, but you can't make him drink it. Not in any way implying your boyfriend is a horse, lol, but I think its sort of fitting. You can lead by example and take care of yourself so you don't return to it. Good luck. Peace & Blessings
I'm so sorry to hear about your Mom :(( I wouldn't be able to imagine that, and she smokes too. I've just seen what it does, and can do to people- I just quit, I had to. I could feel it in my lungs, I was out of breath going up stairs, and I was only 22 at the time, and I knew, it would kill me.
Well I know I can't force him but I need to motivate him somehow. At first after my Grandpa died, I couldn't be around smokers who were smoking, or I'd just cry ( and I don't cry alot)... I would change the channel on the tv when the ads came up or a movie with someone smoking- but finally I realized... ppl will do what they want to. so I know I can 'lead a horse to water' but I can't make him drink it, but I wanna put some coolaid and sugar in the water so it's more appealing lol
I know you weren't saying he's a horse, thats awesome... LOL hahahaha :)
I'm so sorry to hear about your Mom :(( I wouldn't be able to imagine that, and she smokes too. I've just seen what it does, and can do to people- I just quit, I had to. I could feel it in my lungs, I was out of breath going up stairs, and I was only 22 at the time, and I knew, it would kill me.
Well I know I can't force him but I need to motivate him somehow. At first after my Grandpa died, I couldn't be around smokers who were smoking, or I'd just cry ( and I don't cry alot)... I would change the channel on the tv when the ads came up or a movie with someone smoking- but finally I realized... ppl will do what they want to. so I know I can 'lead a horse to water' but I can't make him drink it, but I wanna put some coolaid and sugar in the water so it's more appealing lol
I know you weren't saying he's a horse, thats awesome... LOL hahahaha :)
No my mom doesn't smoke as she died on 6/6/2009 but she smoked for 25+ years and she did quit when the Dr told her she had COPD, but it was already too late. Like you said, if you quit early enough then you can repair the damage, but if you wait to long the damage has already been done. I love what you said about making the water more sweet, that is a really great way of putting it. Okay so how about asking him to do a few things, like I have heard acupuncture works wonders? I also know a girl who went and got hypnotised. Those are two pretty inexpensive ways. By the way this talk just might be doing me some good cause I too am a smoker, and I have been thinking seriously about quiting. I am getting scared cause when I am sitting here, or lying watching tv, I can hear the nasty rasping in my chest. Right now I have a cold and it is so much worse cause I smoke. I saw my mom get sicker and sicker, and you would think that would be enough to make me quit, but it hasn't been. Maybe this was the extra nudge I needed, as I believe nothing happens in this world by mistake? I was thinking if you haven't already done it you could google ways people quit. I'll tell ya what I was thinking of doing. A friend told me that if you go see a lung of a smoker versus a non smoker it would devastate a person to quit, I guess its really gross? Although I'm not exactly sure how or where you go about doing that? Maybe someone knows on one of these quitting sites. Okay well gotta run let me know what happens? Peace
No my mom doesn't smoke as she died on 6/6/2009 but she smoked for 25+ years and she did quit when the Dr told her she had COPD, but it was already too late. Like you said, if you quit early enough then you can repair the damage, but if you wait to long the damage has already been done. I love what you said about making the water more sweet, that is a really great way of putting it. Okay so how about asking him to do a few things, like I have heard acupuncture works wonders? I also know a girl who went and got hypnotised. Those are two pretty inexpensive ways. By the way this talk just might be doing me some good cause I too am a smoker, and I have been thinking seriously about quiting. I am getting scared cause when I am sitting here, or lying watching tv, I can hear the nasty rasping in my chest. Right now I have a cold and it is so much worse cause I smoke. I saw my mom get sicker and sicker, and you would think that would be enough to make me quit, but it hasn't been. Maybe this was the extra nudge I needed, as I believe nothing happens in this world by mistake? I was thinking if you haven't already done it you could google ways people quit. I'll tell ya what I was thinking of doing. A friend told me that if you go see a lung of a smoker versus a non smoker it would devastate a person to quit, I guess its really gross? Although I'm not exactly sure how or where you go about doing that? Maybe someone knows on one of these quitting sites. Okay well gotta run let me know what happens? Peace
Yeah, my Grandpa had it I think from smoking and I mean he had a few hospital episodes, so when I heard he was in the hospital, its still scarey but didn't surprise me, and then they found out that they missed the lung cancer and said he had 6 months, and the next day it switched to the end of the week, honestly, I'd rather have my head blasted off than die like that. :(
I don't believe things happen by mistake either... maybe contact a local hospital and ask them about the smokers lung vs a non-smokers lung. I'll tell you, I smoked since I was 13, I'm 23... I quit a year ago, and WOW.. I use to get every cold anyone else had, I would be sick every 2 weeks for about a week.. my immune system was SHOT... I haven't been sick yet... I got a small sinus cold for about 4 days between last september/october and now. I quit with nicorette... it works. You would just have to use it properly, my fiance used patches and well.. that obviously didn't work but everyone is different. I know my mom got hypnotized awhile back and she went from 1/2 pack a day to a pack and a half a day... but like I said everyone is different.
Charles said that you could go onto google and look it up that way ( about the black lungs of a smoker) Its really a question you need to ask yourself, do you want to die now? I mean I know that if you ended up with lung/heart cancer you would regret smoking and you would think " I should have..." done this and that... why don't you save yourself that hurt.. you already have sooooo much damage done, if you quit now it could literally save your life and add years onto it- if you don't, you may end up like your mom, and my grandpa. It's really harsh, and it's really blunt-- but maybe you need to think like that- face it head on, don't be oblivious to it.
When I was quitting, I did it while Charles still smoked.. it was HARD.. but HONESTLY and I say this as God as my witness, it was not as hard as I thought it would be- but it WAS hard, and it takes alot of will power. Write down on a piece of paper, what you want from quitting smoking- i.e. healthier lungs, a rasp free breath, to be able to walk up and down the stairs and not be winded... and then write down what smoking does for you- it's scientifically proven that smoking actually stresses you out more. If your going through the daily stress of life, thats one thing- but your body freaks out when you don't have the nicotene, thats why I used the gum haha- and I did smoke here and there and the cigarette smelled SOOO good, but after about 3 weeks it made me so nauseous I couldn't be around it- to this day, I have really SMALL urges.. it'll cross my mind, I get cigarette dreams, but I remind myself- if I do that, I'm gonna end up in a position I"ll regret and the worse thing you could have happen, is a medical specialist tell you your dying and they can't help you. My grandpa had a panic attack and he was in the marines, he was 65 2 months away from his 66th birthday.. he was a hero, a truck driver, and a hardass, but loving... and he freaked out and then he just kind of accepted it and told the hospice nurse that she was hott LOL :))
Anyways, sorry to type your eyes off.. but if you end up with COPD it doesnt necessarily mean that you will die- ( just reassuring you) but it does mean that you would have to do things differently, and there are medicines ( just DON'T let your doc give you the runaround) Also, if you have crap in your lungs, you should get a humidifier.. the vicks one at walmart is 40 bucks- if thats alot of money to you right now, there are ones for like 15 and 20... but I would recommend the menthol vapor its 10 dollars for a vicks and I think it lasts for about 2 weeks and it should help clear you up :))
Hope to hear back If I can't help him right now, I could at least try to help you
Yeah, my Grandpa had it I think from smoking and I mean he had a few hospital episodes, so when I heard he was in the hospital, its still scarey but didn't surprise me, and then they found out that they missed the lung cancer and said he had 6 months, and the next day it switched to the end of the week, honestly, I'd rather have my head blasted off than die like that. :(
I don't believe things happen by mistake either... maybe contact a local hospital and ask them about the smokers lung vs a non-smokers lung. I'll tell you, I smoked since I was 13, I'm 23... I quit a year ago, and WOW.. I use to get every cold anyone else had, I would be sick every 2 weeks for about a week.. my immune system was SHOT... I haven't been sick yet... I got a small sinus cold for about 4 days between last september/october and now. I quit with nicorette... it works. You would just have to use it properly, my fiance used patches and well.. that obviously didn't work but everyone is different. I know my mom got hypnotized awhile back and she went from 1/2 pack a day to a pack and a half a day... but like I said everyone is different.
Charles said that you could go onto google and look it up that way ( about the black lungs of a smoker) Its really a question you need to ask yourself, do you want to die now? I mean I know that if you ended up with lung/heart cancer you would regret smoking and you would think " I should have..." done this and that... why don't you save yourself that hurt.. you already have sooooo much damage done, if you quit now it could literally save your life and add years onto it- if you don't, you may end up like your mom, and my grandpa. It's really harsh, and it's really blunt-- but maybe you need to think like that- face it head on, don't be oblivious to it.
When I was quitting, I did it while Charles still smoked.. it was HARD.. but HONESTLY and I say this as God as my witness, it was not as hard as I thought it would be- but it WAS hard, and it takes alot of will power. Write down on a piece of paper, what you want from quitting smoking- i.e. healthier lungs, a rasp free breath, to be able to walk up and down the stairs and not be winded... and then write down what smoking does for you- it's scientifically proven that smoking actually stresses you out more. If your going through the daily stress of life, thats one thing- but your body freaks out when you don't have the nicotene, thats why I used the gum haha- and I did smoke here and there and the cigarette smelled SOOO good, but after about 3 weeks it made me so nauseous I couldn't be around it- to this day, I have really SMALL urges.. it'll cross my mind, I get cigarette dreams, but I remind myself- if I do that, I'm gonna end up in a position I"ll regret and the worse thing you could have happen, is a medical specialist tell you your dying and they can't help you. My grandpa had a panic attack and he was in the marines, he was 65 2 months away from his 66th birthday.. he was a hero, a truck driver, and a hardass, but loving... and he freaked out and then he just kind of accepted it and told the hospice nurse that she was hott LOL :))
Anyways, sorry to type your eyes off.. but if you end up with COPD it doesnt necessarily mean that you will die- ( just reassuring you) but it does mean that you would have to do things differently, and there are medicines ( just DON'T let your doc give you the runaround) Also, if you have crap in your lungs, you should get a humidifier.. the vicks one at walmart is 40 bucks- if thats alot of money to you right now, there are ones for like 15 and 20... but I would recommend the menthol vapor its 10 dollars for a vicks and I think it lasts for about 2 weeks and it should help clear you up :))
Hope to hear back If I can't help him right now, I could at least try to help you
OMG I just wrote this long reply and bam some other page came on and its gone and so I hit the back arrow and the post was empty so here we are starting over. So what I wrote before was about how I was sitting in my living room minding my own business watching TV and the Kardashians came on. The girls were trying to get Chris their mom to quit smoking. They waited for her to sneek out for her cig then they filled two pitchers full of water, went up to an upstairs window and soaked her. She was not pleased to say the least. I thought okay God enough already, now I have to get messages through the TV? I like you and Charles's thought of me calling the hospital to see aboutthe lung thing or the internet even? I just think right now shock value might help. I have been using the excuse that I have already quit so many things and cigs are like one of my last vices left so its okay. I know that's bull but when you have come from where I come from it is a miracle I am even here. So anyway I am going to stop at that cause now I am afraid that eith I might hit a button or somehow all this will fly away into cyber space with the other. Have a good week. Oh yeah thanks for the advice on a humidifier if that's how you spell it it looks sort of off to me? Peace
OMG I just wrote this long reply and bam some other page came on and its gone and so I hit the back arrow and the post was empty so here we are starting over. So what I wrote before was about how I was sitting in my living room minding my own business watching TV and the Kardashians came on. The girls were trying to get Chris their mom to quit smoking. They waited for her to sneek out for her cig then they filled two pitchers full of water, went up to an upstairs window and soaked her. She was not pleased to say the least. I thought okay God enough already, now I have to get messages through the TV? I like you and Charles's thought of me calling the hospital to see aboutthe lung thing or the internet even? I just think right now shock value might help. I have been using the excuse that I have already quit so many things and cigs are like one of my last vices left so its okay. I know that's bull but when you have come from where I come from it is a miracle I am even here. So anyway I am going to stop at that cause now I am afraid that eith I might hit a button or somehow all this will fly away into cyber space with the other. Have a good week. Oh yeah thanks for the advice on a humidifier if that's how you spell it it looks sort of off to me? Peace
hahahaha its your calling to quit!!! :) Gotta love that, always those simple little messages... What I want to keep in mind too, is my Grandpa would give ANYTHING.. to be here, and I shouldn't throw my life away by smoking.
Maybe, talk to a drill sergeant about it, and they USUALLY don't smoke- find someone thats lost a loved one and have him scream in your face about how crappy smoking is might help..
Keep in touch, lemme know how it goes!
hahahaha its your calling to quit!!! :) Gotta love that, always those simple little messages... What I want to keep in mind too, is my Grandpa would give ANYTHING.. to be here, and I shouldn't throw my life away by smoking.
Maybe, talk to a drill sergeant about it, and they USUALLY don't smoke- find someone thats lost a loved one and have him scream in your face about how crappy smoking is might help..
Keep in touch, lemme know how it goes!
It is impossible to motivate a person who does not want to quit. For a person who wants to but is unable to, there are many tricks. One sucj trick is to prepare and give a presentation about smoking.
What a smoker needs to do is to just give a presentation to any audience (small or big as the number does not matter) about how does Nicotine damage the heart.
The more detailed the presentation is, the better are the chances of quitting. The important point is doing the research sincerely and honestly.
It is impossible to motivate a person who does not want to quit. For a person who wants to but is unable to, there are many tricks. One sucj trick is to prepare and give a presentation about smoking.
What a smoker needs to do is to just give a presentation to any audience (small or big as the number does not matter) about how does Nicotine damage the heart.
The more detailed the presentation is, the better are the chances of quitting. The important point is doing the research sincerely and honestly.
I smoked for 20+ years and prior to quitting 5 years ago, I imagined that it would be the hardest thing in the world. I also was waiting for some sort of magic bullet that would make the cravings go away so quitting wouldn't be so hard. Like all immature people (at age 30 something at the time) - I thought it should be "easy." The fact is, quitting is very hard - at first - and you just have to get through that first month. Literally, I went from extreme cravings every 2 minutes (where you think you are going to die unless you have a smoke) to now casually thinking about smokes like once a year. It does get easier - but the only way to the easy part is THROUGH the hard part and no pill or patch or anything really works like just getting through it.
What helped me was that I just decided that no matter what I would not smoke. I could lie down, lose my job, lose all friends, eat a whole bag of chips - whatever it took - but I could not smoke. After a month of that - I stopped wanting to smoke. But it was a rough month. I did not gain weight actually because I exercised more (it was one way to reduce the stress and distract myself from the cravings). I also kept my job and my friends. But, I said no more often, was more assertive, and took better care of myself too.
Anyway, my point is - don't act like it will be easy - acknowledge the crappy part of it and accept the tough parts and help the person realize that "quitting" will be the number one priority in life for about a month. Let them know that after that month, things do get a lot easier.
I smoked for 20+ years and prior to quitting 5 years ago, I imagined that it would be the hardest thing in the world. I also was waiting for some sort of magic bullet that would make the cravings go away so quitting wouldn't be so hard. Like all immature people (at age 30 something at the time) - I thought it should be "easy." The fact is, quitting is very hard - at first - and you just have to get through that first month. Literally, I went from extreme cravings every 2 minutes (where you think you are going to die unless you have a smoke) to now casually thinking about smokes like once a year. It does get easier - but the only way to the easy part is THROUGH the hard part and no pill or patch or anything really works like just getting through it.
What helped me was that I just decided that no matter what I would not smoke. I could lie down, lose my job, lose all friends, eat a whole bag of chips - whatever it took - but I could not smoke. After a month of that - I stopped wanting to smoke. But it was a rough month. I did not gain weight actually because I exercised more (it was one way to reduce the stress and distract myself from the cravings). I also kept my job and my friends. But, I said no more often, was more assertive, and took better care of myself too.
Anyway, my point is - don't act like it will be easy - acknowledge the crappy part of it and accept the tough parts and help the person realize that "quitting" will be the number one priority in life for about a month. Let them know that after that month, things do get a lot easier.
I think you are spot on with being honest with yourself about it being hard, but I know so many people are doing it that it makes me feel like well if they can do it I can too. I love the post about doing a report on it so that way you will do a lot of research on the negative affects of it on the lungs/body. Congrats to all you non-smokers. It is a great time to quit cause I know for our state which is WA we just had another tax increase so a pack is around $8.00's I can't believe I can still afford it but its like anything else you are addicted to you find a way. Thinking about being able to save all that money is a positive step. I did attempt to quit once and I called the quit hotline and they sent me a paper clip a straw a pebble and I don't remember what else, but I thought how the heck am I suppose to quit w/a paperclip? Come to find out its to keep your hands busy, go figure lol. Okay enough outta me. Peace & Blessings all
I think you are spot on with being honest with yourself about it being hard, but I know so many people are doing it that it makes me feel like well if they can do it I can too. I love the post about doing a report on it so that way you will do a lot of research on the negative affects of it on the lungs/body. Congrats to all you non-smokers. It is a great time to quit cause I know for our state which is WA we just had another tax increase so a pack is around $8.00's I can't believe I can still afford it but its like anything else you are addicted to you find a way. Thinking about being able to save all that money is a positive step. I did attempt to quit once and I called the quit hotline and they sent me a paper clip a straw a pebble and I don't remember what else, but I thought how the heck am I suppose to quit w/a paperclip? Come to find out its to keep your hands busy, go figure lol. Okay enough outta me. Peace & Blessings all
I thought about my grandfather and my dad not being able to watch ther great grand children and grand children grow up go fishing with them seeing them graduate from school etc. That's what made me quit 2 years ago. I'm 62 now and do have lung issues but I have a chance to live to go fishing with my 5grand children
I thought about my grandfather and my dad not being able to watch ther great grand children and grand children grow up go fishing with them seeing them graduate from school etc. That's what made me quit 2 years ago. I'm 62 now and do have lung issues but I have a chance to live to go fishing with my 5grand children
HLR1987 I am NOT a doctor it is the only name available with my name Christi I quit smoking in 2002 because it was making me sick. I hated the smell and the taste and I became allergic to it, including the second hand smoke. What I was exposed to, my body got rid of by expelling it through my skin in blisters. Similar to poison ivy blisters. Now next is where we are similar. I was married at the time and both my spouse and I joined the cessation clinic at our town's hospital. I had only smoked when my body craved the nicotine drug fix. I was able to get myself (on my own ) down to only 5 cigarettes a day. One when I woke up. one after each meal, and one at bed. My spouse was still smoking at least a half pack a day. For our health and our daughters, we decided to quit. Or at least that is what he told me. We used the step down patch, I think it is called Nicoderm. within a week I was smoke free.Actually once I put the small piece of one patch on, I never had another cigarette and did not have the withdrawal symptoms I had when trying to do it cold turkey. Again like I said, my spouse not only kept smoking, but he smoked with the patch on. It must have made him sick, but he had the oral fixation, and the having something in his hand addiction too. Not only did he continue to smoke cigarettes, but went back to smoking marijuana and doing cocaine. Needless to say he is gone, and not missed neither. You may want to ask your fiance straight out to his face if he really wants to quit smoking. I know you decided together, but sometimes they just say those things to appease the partner. HE has to want to quit NOT for you but for himself or it will NEVER work. Plus he needs to be trained to alter his way of doing things so the urge to quit does not resurface. Hope it works for both of you.
HLR1987 I am NOT a doctor it is the only name available with my name Christi I quit smoking in 2002 because it was making me sick. I hated the smell and the taste and I became allergic to it, including the second hand smoke. What I was exposed to, my body got rid of by expelling it through my skin in blisters. Similar to poison ivy blisters. Now next is where we are similar. I was married at the time and both my spouse and I joined the cessation clinic at our town's hospital. I had only smoked when my body craved the nicotine drug fix. I was able to get myself (on my own ) down to only 5 cigarettes a day. One when I woke up. one after each meal, and one at bed. My spouse was still smoking at least a half pack a day. For our health and our daughters, we decided to quit. Or at least that is what he told me. We used the step down patch, I think it is called Nicoderm. within a week I was smoke free.Actually once I put the small piece of one patch on, I never had another cigarette and did not have the withdrawal symptoms I had when trying to do it cold turkey. Again like I said, my spouse not only kept smoking, but he smoked with the patch on. It must have made him sick, but he had the oral fixation, and the having something in his hand addiction too. Not only did he continue to smoke cigarettes, but went back to smoking marijuana and doing cocaine. Needless to say he is gone, and not missed neither. You may want to ask your fiance straight out to his face if he really wants to quit smoking. I know you decided together, but sometimes they just say those things to appease the partner. HE has to want to quit NOT for you but for himself or it will NEVER work. Plus he needs to be trained to alter his way of doing things so the urge to quit does not resurface. Hope it works for both of you.
Hi all,
I've never smoked, so I can't add anything to help with quitting. But i work for our county health department, which has an Addictions and Prevention Unit. The prevention program has lots of photos, models, preserved organs, etc. to demonstrate the effects of smoking vs. non-smoking. You may want to contact your local health department and see if they can help you. I've seen the lungs and they are really disgusting! In fact, at our last community health fair a lady stopped by who had had a lung transplant and she was amazed in looking at the smoker's lung.
Good luck to all who wish to quit. May God give you conviction and strength. My husband smokes about 2 packs per day and nothing seems to make an impact on him.
uncadiane Diane W Lonaconing, MD
Hi all,
I've never smoked, so I can't add anything to help with quitting. But i work for our county health department, which has an Addictions and Prevention Unit. The prevention program has lots of photos, models, preserved organs, etc. to demonstrate the effects of smoking vs. non-smoking. You may want to contact your local health department and see if they can help you. I've seen the lungs and they are really disgusting! In fact, at our last community health fair a lady stopped by who had had a lung transplant and she was amazed in looking at the smoker's lung.
Good luck to all who wish to quit. May God give you conviction and strength. My husband smokes about 2 packs per day and nothing seems to make an impact on him.
uncadiane Diane W Lonaconing, MD
When you saw the lungs did you see them through the Health Department? Do you know if there is a link where I might be able to go onto the Internet. I guess I could just try to google it. Thanks for writing. Peace & Blessings
When you saw the lungs did you see them through the Health Department? Do you know if there is a link where I might be able to go onto the Internet. I guess I could just try to google it. Thanks for writing. Peace & Blessings
Hi Newby1961:
I went into our local health department website and copied the information about Substance Abuse Prevention & Cessation Programs--
"Substance Abuse Prevention promotes a stable, safe, and healthy environment for all residents of Allegany County. Program staff works in collaboration with individuals, families, businesses, faith-based organizations, and local and state agencies to prevent or delay the onset of alcohol, tobacco, and other drug use and abuse.
SERVICES Tobacco Cessation Program
Individual cessation counseling is available by appointment at the health department. Group counseling is also available on-site at businesses/ organizations. FREE patches, and lozenges, or available to those with a note from their physician.
Presentations
Presentations, programs and/or trainings on tobacco, alcohol, and other drugs are available upon request. Information is tailored to meet the needs of the audience. A variety of visuals are used to enhance message.
Parent Tips
Parents are the most influential anti-drug for their children. Parents provide the earliest formative influences on children's values, personal standards, and behavior, so what you say and do matters. Even when teenage peer groups become significant forces in the lives of young people, the potential for parental influence remains strong.
Our office has a variety of resources to help parents and caretakers talk with their kids about tobacco, alcohol, and other drugs.
Web Resources: http://www.theantidrug.com/ http://family.samhsa.gov/set/drugs.aspx
Resource & Referrals
Our department has brochures, pamphlets, fliers, and posters on a variety of substance-related topics.
Campaigns
Substance Affected Newborn Campaign Web resource: http://www.ucsfhealth.org/adult/edu/substance_use_during_pregnancy/index.html Red Ribbon Week Campaign Recovery Month Campaign Alcohol Awareness Campaign Contact Information
Phone: 301-759-5050"
Just an FYI, our health dept. website in Allegany County, Maryland is: http//:www.alleganyhealthdept.come. After you click on that, just click on Behavioral Health on the left hand side.
Where are you from, newby1961? I can probably find you more local health department infomation. I've worked the our health department for 35 years (which means I'm older than dirt!) We can usually find ways to cohtact our health departments. Let me know if you would like some help. I'll be happy to assist if I can.
Good luck on drop kicking the cigarettes out of your life! You deserve to not be tied to them.
Blessings to you, Diane (uncaciane) Lonaconig, MD
301-463-6737 (home) 301-759-5008 (w0rk) 240-522-6726 (cell) dwilliamson@dhmh.state.md.us
Please feel free to contact me at any time.
Hi Newby1961:
I went into our local health department website and copied the information about Substance Abuse Prevention & Cessation Programs--
"Substance Abuse Prevention promotes a stable, safe, and healthy environment for all residents of Allegany County. Program staff works in collaboration with individuals, families, businesses, faith-based organizations, and local and state agencies to prevent or delay the onset of alcohol, tobacco, and other drug use and abuse.
SERVICES Tobacco Cessation Program
Individual cessation counseling is available by appointment at the health department. Group counseling is also available on-site at businesses/ organizations. FREE patches, and lozenges, or available to those with a note from their physician.
Presentations
Presentations, programs and/or trainings on tobacco, alcohol, and other drugs are available upon request. Information is tailored to meet the needs of the audience. A variety of visuals are used to enhance message.
Parent Tips
Parents are the most influential anti-drug for their children. Parents provide the earliest formative influences on children's values, personal standards, and behavior, so what you say and do matters. Even when teenage peer groups become significant forces in the lives of young people, the potential for parental influence remains strong.
Our office has a variety of resources to help parents and caretakers talk with their kids about tobacco, alcohol, and other drugs.
Web Resources: http://www.theantidrug.com/ http://family.samhsa.gov/set/drugs.aspx
Resource & Referrals
Our department has brochures, pamphlets, fliers, and posters on a variety of substance-related topics.
Campaigns
Substance Affected Newborn Campaign Web resource: http://www.ucsfhealth.org/adult/edu/substance_use_during_pregnancy/index.html Red Ribbon Week Campaign Recovery Month Campaign Alcohol Awareness Campaign Contact Information
Phone: 301-759-5050"
Just an FYI, our health dept. website in Allegany County, Maryland is: http//:www.alleganyhealthdept.come. After you click on that, just click on Behavioral Health on the left hand side.
Where are you from, newby1961? I can probably find you more local health department infomation. I've worked the our health department for 35 years (which means I'm older than dirt!) We can usually find ways to cohtact our health departments. Let me know if you would like some help. I'll be happy to assist if I can.
Good luck on drop kicking the cigarettes out of your life! You deserve to not be tied to them.
Blessings to you, Diane (uncaciane) Lonaconig, MD
301-463-6737 (home) 301-759-5008 (w0rk) 240-522-6726 (cell) dwilliamson@dhmh.state.md.us
Please feel free to contact me at any time.
I can only add to what others have said -- THAT HE MUST WANT TO STOP FOR HIMSELF! No other reason works. I promised myself if I ever had any sign of heart problems that I would stop. I did - and I did! Actually my heart problems started with a high blood pressure drug that was yanked off the market for the very symptoms that I had, but no matter. I have since had quadruple bypass and now have congestive heart failure. I'm doing okay and I don't really blame tobacco. I think it's hereditary, but why risk it? There are so much better ways to spend your money and no can say that it isn't expensive! :) BTW, my "mantra" was (and is), "You're only a puff away from a pack a day". For me, that means that no matter what, I will not even take one puff of a cigarette! Good luck to you both. :)
I can only add to what others have said -- THAT HE MUST WANT TO STOP FOR HIMSELF! No other reason works. I promised myself if I ever had any sign of heart problems that I would stop. I did - and I did! Actually my heart problems started with a high blood pressure drug that was yanked off the market for the very symptoms that I had, but no matter. I have since had quadruple bypass and now have congestive heart failure. I'm doing okay and I don't really blame tobacco. I think it's hereditary, but why risk it? There are so much better ways to spend your money and no can say that it isn't expensive! :) BTW, my "mantra" was (and is), "You're only a puff away from a pack a day". For me, that means that no matter what, I will not even take one puff of a cigarette! Good luck to you both. :)
That is good advice about the puff. It is true - once you take one puff, you sort of have to quit all over again. So, it is really important to not smoke even one.
That is good advice about the puff. It is true - once you take one puff, you sort of have to quit all over again. So, it is really important to not smoke even one.
Nice references
Nice references
The one puff gives the person who does not want to stop a reason not to stop. They do not have to start all over from scratch. That was just a set back and that is what needs to be said to the person who relapsed. Start right from there. No discouragement to the other person. No telling them you will die from it or anything like that. Each MOMENT that they are smoke free, praise them as you would a child for doing things they should be dong. It is positive reinforcement. ALL training should be done that way, positively. "I know you can do this" said without "if you care about me or us or anyone else". The support person needs to go throught training as well to know what to say and what to do.
The one puff gives the person who does not want to stop a reason not to stop. They do not have to start all over from scratch. That was just a set back and that is what needs to be said to the person who relapsed. Start right from there. No discouragement to the other person. No telling them you will die from it or anything like that. Each MOMENT that they are smoke free, praise them as you would a child for doing things they should be dong. It is positive reinforcement. ALL training should be done that way, positively. "I know you can do this" said without "if you care about me or us or anyone else". The support person needs to go throught training as well to know what to say and what to do.
Thank you so much for all the work you did into writing all of that. I live in Snohomish county, state of WA, so that is a bit further than where you are, although I am originaly from Boston Ma. All my family lives back East so I get out there at least once a year sometimes more. So I know what to do, I am sure if your county has all that ours might so I will just go onto out Health Departmen's web page, if not I don't live too far from it so I can just take a trip on down there. At least now I know what to ask, and look for. I will keep you all posted and HLR1987 keep us posted on how George is doing? You can tell him he has to quit again now cause cyberspace is waiting to hear lol. Peace & Blessings all
Thank you so much for all the work you did into writing all of that. I live in Snohomish county, state of WA, so that is a bit further than where you are, although I am originaly from Boston Ma. All my family lives back East so I get out there at least once a year sometimes more. So I know what to do, I am sure if your county has all that ours might so I will just go onto out Health Departmen's web page, if not I don't live too far from it so I can just take a trip on down there. At least now I know what to ask, and look for. I will keep you all posted and HLR1987 keep us posted on how George is doing? You can tell him he has to quit again now cause cyberspace is waiting to hear lol. Peace & Blessings all