I have been there before in 1992 to sit with, and witness my fathers last breath. He was in a Hospice facility, and they were great in Amarillo, Tx. My mother chose to remain home. I placed her on Hospice close to a month ago. They are somewhat helpful, but it has been mostly on me this go around. She has kidney cancer, that has moved to her liver. She is now completely bedridden, and seems to have slipped into a state of semi consciousness.
I cannot say that it gets easier, but I guess knowing what I am up against helps. My heart goes out to everyone going through this season of their lives. I work two jobs, and I am my mothers primary caretaker. I have seen the kindest acts from God along the way through perfect strangers, and I have seen the opposite from those you think would be there.
My faith remains in God, because I know I have witnessed his presence through my fathers death, and also in preparing for my mothers. So all I can say is hold to tight to your faith, because the suffering only last but awhile, and when everything is prepared in the other realm, it will be perfect timing when your love one is called. Not a second to soon, not a second to late! For your comfort - we suffer because we are allowed free will by a truly wonderful God, but it's only a short while considering the things we our selfs do. Just find a place in your mind to be comforted by the fact that you are human and you too get tired, just as Jesus did, and it's okay. You are doing all you can to keep your loved one safe, comfortable, and pain free as possible - and that is all anyone can ask for.
God Bless all of you - And when we have done all we can do, and we can't do anymore on the account of death, I pray that God will give us all a home in his kingdom, where we can rest forever - Amen!