What do you do when you as a caregiver just lose it? I made my sweet mother cry this morning because I overreacted. I feel like such a horrible person. My mother has never been anything but the most loving and caring person to me and I know she can't help what she does. The Alzheimer's has taken over the person she once was.
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I just accept it as my expression of frustration over the situation, and go on from there. My mother is so demented that she does not know who I am anymore, and forgets she was yelled at within an hour. As it is now, she cannot remember how to stand up correctly anymore, among other things of daily life skills, so my days are filled with anger and frustration and disappointment.
I have ceased to berate myself over "losing it." I am doing the best I can, in so many aspects of her care..."losing it" comes far down on my list of things I worry over at night!
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I know exactly how you feel. I yelled at my grandfather one day. He never raised his voice to me in all my life. I felt so guilty I cried. My grandmother came in when she heard the commotion, but took it in stride. She simply reminded me of his condition and went on as if nothing happened.
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