My 87 yr old mother with dementia/alzheimers broker her hip last week. Thank God she made it through the surgery. Three days later she was taken to a SNF facility for rehab. It has only been 2 days of rehab and she is still tired and on an antibiotic as well as a pain med (tylenol/codeine). A neurologist at the hosp. said her swallowing became lazy she feels from all the meds and it will probaley return back to normal. She is now on a pured diet. The speech therapist spoke to me yesterday and was so abrupt! She said I should not visit with her at length and that my mother wasn't into the therapy the 2 times she has seen her. Then she started comparing my mother to her mother from when her mother survide cancer and how her sister babied her mother and her mother became whiny and depending on the sister. First off this happened to her mother 25 yrs ago at the age of around later 50's. My mother is 87 and has dementia! that is apples and oranges to compare. I am the only one my mother knows anymore. I care for her at home 24/7 and yes she has dementia but I had her out everyday shopoping, going to lunch etc. Yes, I assist her with bathing, dressing etc. This therapist acted like I should stop coming around for a length of time so my mother can get asssociated with the other patients. My mother is not in that position right now. I don't go when therapy is going on and when I'm there I get her out of her room in a W/C so she doesn't have to lay in bed all day. The people in her room (3) are not capable of associating so I go and keep her company for a few hrs. Before I go to bed I always call the nurses station to check on her which seemxs to irritate them. Am I so wrong trying to be involved in her care?? I don't think so and neither does a friend of mine. My friend said the therapist had nop right comparing your mother and her mother and her sister and you. She said she doesn't even know you and never even met you before. I plan to talk to the admissions women and if need be the administrator. Does anyone have a comment or have been in a situation like this before? I'd really appreciate hearing from someone. I drove home in tears and couldn't stop thinking about the conversation with this women. I'm the kind of person that will listen at first to what the person is saying and then I go back and think about it and then approach the person or someone in charge. I'm afraid if I blurt out right then I might say something not so nice and I don't want to hurt things for my mothers care.
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