Moving someone with dementia is difficult, but often necessary for their health and well-being. There are some excellent dementia specific assisted living facilities where the staff is trained to work
with persons with dementia. The activities and generally the layout for the facilities are focused on the needs and behaviors of persons with dementia.
Begin your planning by reviewing the options. Contact the Alzheimer’s Association for a listing of the facilities and also ask them how to access the quality data from the appropriate state agency that licenses the facilities. After doing your homework, contact the facilities and schedule a tour. It is good to compare a couple of facilities and weigh factors like stability of the staff, training, and your overall evaluation of the facility for your parent’s specific needs.
If you want assistance in expediting the process, you can use the services of a geriatric care manager who is knowledgeable about the facilities.. To search for a geriatric care manager by state, visit the National Association of Professional Geriatric Care Managers at: www.caremanager.org..
After you have determined one or two options, consider taking your parent for lunch at the facility. Just invite your parent to go to lunch with you and then go to the facility. Don’t give her time to find lots of reasons not to go. Taking another person with you so that your parent is more likely to enjoy the event is also a good idea. The dementia facilities are obviously used in dealing with the behaviors you described and can assist with a plan. You can also use the doctor’s recommendation as well as ammunition for the need to move.
This process may not be easy for you. Remember that your parent selected you as the power of attorney to make good decisions for her. Remember that she has dementia and much of her response to issues is really the dementia speaking for her. Remember that using logic in this situation may not be an option. Have the courage to make the right decision for your parent and the tenacity to see it through.