Do I tell my mother her memory trouble is Alzheimer's?

What you do depends on the degree to which your mother is troubled by or aware of her symptoms. Does she ever express frustration with herself, exasperation, or a sense See also:
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See all 660 questions about Alzheimer's and Other Dementias of loss that she can't do things she used to be able to do? If you asked her directly whether her memory was giving her any difficulty, would she say yes?

If so, it's only fair to give her a medical explanation for what she's experiencing. Otherwise, she could blame herself or feel frustrated, alone, or frightened. It may reassure her to know that her physician is aware of the situation.

Given your mother's hearing loss, it's important to give her the information the doctor disclosed to make sure she did hear his words. I would try to be direct: "The doctor says you probably have Alzheimer's disease." If appropriate, stress that it's mild, which is usually the case on first diagnosis, and what's being done about it: "The doctor says you may have some early symptoms of Alzheimer's, which happens to many people in their 80s, and it's being treated."

If your mother denies having Alzheimer's after you discuss this with her, she may at least acknowledge memory loss, and you can communicate using those terms. If she denies having any problems at all, let it go for now, but don't close the door completely. People with Alzheimer's can simply forget that they are forgetful, so they may have limited awareness of the problem. Sometimes patients deny problems one day and disclose some awareness of them on another day. One man with Alzheimer's put it this way: "A degree of denial is essential. Like someone drinking hot coffee, we sip the truth of our condition carefully and gently."

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