My mom is upset by another assisted living resident, how can I help my mom cope?
My mom thinks another assisted living resident (Mary) stares at her whenever they are eating. The owner, in the past, sat down with the two of them and said "we need to love another." "Mary" denies the staring.
I've tried to help my mother cope, suggesting that "Mary" doesn't realize what she is doing. My mother continues to be bothered by this situation. This facility has only 6 ladies, so avoiding "Mary" at mealtime is really not possible.
Any suggestions?
Expert Answer
I assume that there are only 6 people total in the assisted living because the obvious answer would be to move your mother to a different table. If there are only 6 residents and they all sit at the same table for meals, could your mother sit next to Mary? Mary would then have to turn her head to stare at your mother, and this would be obvious to the manager of the facility.