Should I go to my father's funeral if we didn't have a great relationship?
This is not an easy situation. Please accept my condolences. There is quite a history with your father. Hopefully another Caring.com expert such as a griefcounselor or other mental health expert will respond to your concerns and also a legal expert who can address your court concerns.
As a funeral director however, I have had many people ask about attending a funeral of a relative you dislike. If you feel that you need to attend the funeral or visiting hours, feel free to do so without the obligation of having to stay longer than you feel comfortable. If you feel the need to spend time with your father but don't want to attend the public services, call the funeral director. He/she can suggest a private time when you can go to the funeral home to have some time alone with him to pay your respects and find some resolution. This involves some very personal feelings; may you find peace in this matter.
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