Can I use my power of attorney to deal with my ex-husband's alcoholism?
It sounds as if you and your former sister-in-law are in a difficult and uncomfortable situation—especially you.
In a number of states—including Alabama, California, Colorado, Illinois, Indiana, Kansas, Minnesota, Missouri, Ohio, Pennsylvania, Texas, Washington, and Wisconsin—a divorce usually revokes a power of attorney. But if you do not live in one of these states, you are still empowered as your former husband’s agent.
The truth is, no matter where you live, you’re feeling forced to do something you don’t want to do—and having to care for someone who doesn’t want to care for himself when you’d rather keep communication to a minimum.
Your best bet may be to look into getting a guardian or conservatorship for your former husband—and relieve yourself of the tough caretaking responsibility. Contact the local probate court for the specifics of how to proceed. If you don’t know of anyone who might be suited to the task of caring for your former husband’s life and finances, the court may appoint a person to do the job. In cases of substance abusers, it is sometimes easier to have a guardian who is not a close friend or family member.
