What should I say to friends who ask about my caregiving situation?
I am sorry to hear about your mother's declining health. It can be tempting to talk too much about caregiving to thoughtful people who inquire. At the same time, you want to be as authentic as possible. There is certainly nothing wrong with saying that you are taking it one day at a time. It prevents sharing intimate details about your mother. You might consider revealing a little more about yourself. For instance,"Cargiving isn't easy, but I am glad to have the opportunity to care for my mother." "Sometimes I get tired, but she has such courage." Or "When I go to bed each night, I know that my day was worthwhile." "Sometimes I feel sad for my mother's decline, but I am grateful that she can share her difficulty with me." "Sometimes, I want to give up and then I think what she is going through." There is certainly nothing wrong with saying that you are taking it one day at a time. It prevents sharing intimate details about your mother. You might consider revealing a little more about yourself. For instance,"Cargiving isn't easy, but I am glad to have the opportunity to care for my mother." "Sometimes I get tired, but she has such courage." Or "When I go to bed each night, I know that my day was worthwhile." "Sometimes I feel sad for my mother's decline, but I am grateful that she can share her difficulty with me." "Sometimes, I want to give up and then I think what she is going through."
It is such an art to speak simply, from the heart. But if you can, you can help people to experience a little glimpse of a very real and human life experience.
Asking this question shows me that you are kind and concerned for others.
Thank you Ann. Your response came on a day when I needed to be reminded how blessed we are that Mom is here with us. Blessings, kml
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