Should I give up an opportunity to move out of the country because of my mom's needs?
You have much on your plate! The first question is, have you discussed your thoughts with your mother? As she is in good health, she most likely has something to say about the pending move and her role in it.
It is also difficult to try and make so many decisions based factors that are not known. Focus on the things that are clear today. A recommendation would be to take all this in steps. 1. If you choose to move out of the country, you will need to assess the visa options. Are you going as a student or a worker? Decisions to make this permanent will come later. So much can change in years ahead. 2. Family across the country is still family, so you are not leaving your mother alone. Talk to them about your concerns. 3. If your mother truly suffers from depression and that is your main concern, see if the two of you can work together to get help on that front. It will change her life. Moving elderly parents overseas can be complicated, especially if they require medical or financial assistance. Your mother would also need to obtain a visa. You should consult with a Family or Elder Law attorney.
