It is much better to let patients with dementia roam all over the house and get into anything that they want, as long as they are not restrained.
ARE YOU KIDDING ME!!! How is it abusive to keep someone from getting into something that may kill them or their family?
Yes, I want my mother, who is in the later stages of dementia, to roam my house at night, poop and pee everywhere, eat things she shouldn't, wake up everyone in the house, maybe grab a knife from the kitchen... But as long as we don't use restraints, we are being humane.
WHAT I SAY TO THAT IS THAT IT IS BULL! Whoever feels restraints aren't necessary has never lived with a dementia patient. They are not only for their safety, but the safety of the people they live with. I am not talking about a straight jacket or tying someone's hands and feet to their bed but baby safety gates and baby door knob protectors.
My mother, who I have cared for over the past several years, roams, so I have a contraption on my front door knob that she can't turn. Is this wrong or restraining? I guess, unless I want to find her out of my home wandering somewhere. I also have a baby gate that I put up AT NIGHT to keep her from roaming through the whole house while everyone is sleeping. I did this because she has left her bedroom and eaten things that were harmful, like scented pine cones, while we were sleeping, has peed and pooped everywhere, has broken the door knob on the front door trying to get out, and just gets into everything while we are sleeping. ALSO, I sleep on the couch, in the living room, to keep her wandering down to a minimum. This does not always work, because I am very tired from caring for her all day.
RESTRAINTS, which are mainly for the benefit of the patient, can also be useful for the families too. Medical "professionals" need to get off of their high horse that restraining someone is abusive. I worked in the medical field for 10 years, as an ultrasound technologist, before I had to quit my job to care for my mother with dementia. I HIGHLY RECOMMEND RESTRAINTS as long as it keeps the patient and caregivers safe.