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How Do I Handle an Incontinent Adult With Dementia Who Keeps Removing His Diaper?

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If an incontinent person with dementia removes or plays with the diaper, you have a few options.

Try using pull-up style incontinence products.These are a bit easier to get See also:
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used to (because they're styled like regular underwear and come in gender-specific versions. (The person may be removing side-fastening diapers because they're unfamiliar.) Pull-up styles are also harder to take off than side-fastening styles.

Mention this behavior to the person's doctor. It's possible that the person with incontinence is feeling anxious, constrained, or powerless. An antianxiety medication, given for a short period and then gradually tapering off, might relieve these feelings until the person gets used to the undergarments. The medication can be a support through this transition.

Don't give up too quickly. With lots of repetition over time, someone with moderate dementia can still learn to get used to this new reality. At that point he or she may accept the new undergarments and leave them alone.

If the situation doesn't change, you may have to reevaluate the home-care situation and decide whether a more protected living space would be safer. Usually when the person with dementia is removing a diaper continuously, there are other difficult behaviors going on as well.


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Jan52 answered...

Wearing a pull up diaper would be just as easy for my mom to remove as she was removing them herself when she used the toilet. She does have other difficult behaviors going on, just as mentioned in the above answer, and I am going to contact her physician asap. I am looking into adaptive clothing that the elderly cannot remove themselves...as they are jumpsuits that connect in the back and the patient could not remove them!


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CECIGLASS answered...

My mom takes the stuffing out of her "panties" when she gets wet. She still uses the toilet but doesn't get there in time. Therefore, I have to be there for every toilet time. I now have her wear pads in real panties during the day. That seems to work for her but night time is a another issue. Any suggestions? She gets up to use the porta potty 4 to 5 times a night.


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dear one of Mort answered...

Less extra stuffing in an undergarment makes it easier to use if the person intends to use a portable or fixed toilet. There also is a danger of the padding being put down the toilet and this can lead to a major and expensive plumming problem. There are adult undergarments that have a "pocket" for insertion of a pad and these undergarments have a more normal look and feel but they are not disposable. Vermont Country Store has them in their catalog. Frequent toilet breaks and limitinig fluid at night could be helpful. Since people differ in their ability to understand and cooperate, the following may not be helpful. For my husband, telling that a particular action helps me to be able to take care of him at home usually results in more cooperative behavior. I actually want to have him at home but I know that I could come up against problems that I cannot solve or endure. Incontinence hasn't been one of them.


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An anonymous caregiver answered...

Give him an alternative. It's possible he finds the diaper degrading, but may be more open to other solutions, such as portable male urinals[eganmedical.com], and reusable bed pads for when he's sleeping.


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