As POA, am I responsible for my father's behavior?
The person who posted in the community, Cheryl, gave some excellent advice about taking care of yourself—and about encouraging or even coercing your dad to see a doctor.
In many states, the DMV will also accept anonymous reports from family members or outsiders who are concerned about a person’s ability to drive safely. So do check with the local DMV about its procedures for keeping unsafe drivers off the road.
Also, it sounds as if your dad must be a near-constant concern for you, even when he’s not behind the wheel. While being your father’s agent in a power of attorney will not generally make you liable for his dangerous acts and actions, it may be time to consider having an outside guardian or conservator appointed to oversee his care.
In many cases, this arrangement is actually a godsend between parent and child, especially where there are issues of alcohol abuse. A guardianship allows them to maintain a relationship while another person steps in to control some of the tough decisions about daily living.
You can find some good background information about this on the Caring site at www.caring.com/adult-guardianship.
Hi Lori, Thanks 4 the Hug, Back at u. Question: Has ur Dad seen a Dr.? If so, u can call the Dr. & explain whats going on, & the Dr. should be able to write or fax a statement to the BMV, AND/OR The State. Also get in touch w/ Adult Protective services, they usually work hand in hand w/ local law enforcement. I.m sure they can help you & lead u in the right direction. My Dad passed on Oct. 4th. 2010 He has 2 be happier now, because he "SURE wasn't HAPPY" while living. Sad but True. I feel 4 u, & wish u nothing but good things 4 you to come. Take Care of YOURSELF...This is SOOoo IMPORTANT! Best of luck 2 u dear, Hope this is of some help. :) Ttyl, Cheryl ( CKover13)
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