Is it wrong to let an Alzheimer's patient sleep through the night in soiled diapers?
Reading through your question, I do agree that there are times when toileting someone in the night can be too much of a hassle. In your situation, I agree that toileting is causing you and her more trouble, especially since she is fighting you the entire time. So, I do believe it is OK for you to manage her incontinence at night with briefs. With that in mind, I do not think "diapering her up extremely well" and letting her sleep all night is a good plan. I am worried that eventually this will harm her skin, meaning that she will develop a rash or bedsore on her buttocks.
What I would recommend to you is to change her brief at least once or twice during the night to make sure her skin is OK. I would also recommend using a protective ointment (like A&D or desitin) on her backside after you cleanse her skin to help protect her from developing skin breakdown. Hope this helps!
