Where can someone receive help for caring for their ex-husband?

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Kay Paggi, GCM, LPC, CGC, MA, is in private practice as a geriatric care manager and is on the advisory board for the Emeritus...
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Kay Paggi said...

Your friend is going the extra mile by caring for care for her ex-husband. While she deserves extra credit, she probably will not get it, at least no financially. Any See also:
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property her ex has is his alone, and she has no share in it. So if she ha used her personal funds to pay for his care, that is money gone that she will not be re-compensated for. She needs to stop paying for his care, unless she is financially well off.

She should explain to the nursing home that she will not longer pay for his care. There is a social worker there (it is the law that there is one) who can arrange a payor source. They will not put him under a bridge; that is illegal. The facility must find a way to pay for his care at their place, or arrange for him to go to a facility that accepts Medicaid. Your friend need not help with paperwork. She can, if she wants to, but she does not have to do this.

They are no longer legally connected. Anything she does is voluntary. Encourage her to protect herself.

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