I have previously answered you abt. hubby not helping!! You were not born to be someones' slave. Where is your life? As well if he doesn't like women, why are you still there. I know many of people get into a rutt, however that light has to come on and say "I'm out of here. I am sure this thought has come to you many many times. You have a hard enough time looking after your self. I would give him an ultimatum, "Come to the Drs' with me" or "I'm gone". I bet his answer would be well if you want to leave, then leave, I would be out of there so quick he wouldnt' even blink. I know you do love him but really, are you afraid to leave. Call your local Womens' Shelter and there is one everywhere, you may bbe moved to another town, only if the Shelter is full, otherwise they would help you big time.
At present you are experiencing mental and physical abuse. Dont' do this to yourself, you have to find you and that is not going to happen while living with him. Even if you leave and turn around and come back, I would be staying away. I honestly dont' mean to sound mean, and I apologize because I know that me telling you this is no doubt true. You are young yet you still have so much good life ahead of you. Do yourself a favor even if it is short lived. Pls. do not tell him where you are, he will end up calling and saying hes' sorry for everything. No doubt he will feel sorry but not for you, for himself. Pls. dont' let him fool you, if you go back you are going to fall into his nest and again you will be right back to where you left off. My heart is truly with you, it hurts me just hearing what you have said. Believe me scary (yes) but you will get over that. You will find friends that you dont' have now and they will be true friends. I would love to hear from you to say, I did it, I dont' have to run here or there, nor listen to the Mental Abuse that I have been getting. For once do something for you and feel good about it. Take Care!!