I'm sorry to read about your Sister... And I suffered a mild Stroke due to inflammation artery stenosis in Sept 2012. Mine was 4 weeks after I had a dental surgery August 15th, 2012,which the Doctors neglected to mention they had caused me sudden cardiac arrest from overdosing me from drugs..
They were talking together at the end of my dental extraction,while i was still under heavy general and Local anesthesia. Guess their dinner plans that evening & talking about football were more important than their patient... They hadn't noticed my 4 minutes of no pulse. Then panicked & performed CPR for 3-4 minutes on me to finally get my heart beat back into normal sinus. But.. the damage after was the worst.. I have many problems from that day ,let alone afterwards ... 4 weeks after that day...my stroke.
Unfortunately my left side was impacted. I just had a Daughter 4 short motnhs prior at age 34 and three older children from my first marriage ages now 12,8 and 9. I'm Blessed,even though scary.
I was healthy and no issues prior too.
Sadly, I lost my left side, hearing became worse, had broca's aspasia, migraine's galore, sinus issues from the surgery is what I believe played a part with mine..inflammation and I struggle daily to re-learn,as I once in the medical field and can be no more. Hormones played a huge part too, I feel. It's rough, cause my vibrant happy easy going personality has changed to mundane, cranky,short fused and upset easily. I couldn't read,nor write correctly,or make sense of some words still many months after.. ( Ohhhh...thank goodness for spell-check to help! LOL.)
It's Nov 2013 and I still daily make head way. There is so much more I lost,including fragments of memory..precious memory, yet if I look at pictures,then I kinda recall ,but have troubles with names from seeing faces,or remembering conversations I had with my Husband. I'm messy..so sloppy,yet making things better daily..I'm organizing now my closet. yay! and can't organize so neatly as I once have, as it's overwhelming for me, yet I try and each day is a challenge...but I try and slowly tackling my old clothes/closet! I have vision issues.. worse now,but use glasses and headaches and hormones make things worse monthly and ovulation doesn't help with my sight,speech,or mood swings..oh yes.. My poor loving Hubby!
My left arm began working again ..ommm. around 5 months, as I would hold our baby while using my right arm to hold and cradled my left near the wrist ..kinda like physical therapy at home to make stronger.. I can drive again too! Safely,one thing I didn't trust myself with for some time, but happy now and more confident. :)
During this time, my Husband had to leave his job, cause I couldn't care for our baby,kids, or even tie shoes,cook,or do laundry correctly.
Was a rough choice for him and me too..Me,the burden.
Sadly...cause of this choice.. David lost his car to re-po with only 5 more payments to go on it... Thankfully, I had a van free and clear of liens before we met in 2010. And I owned my home..titl and all.. So basically was our monthly bills, which my parents had helped us financially. which hurt me..being the cause of this hardship.. They were happy to help. I was supposed to go back to work and on the side I/we had $560,ooo worth of sponsorship donations all set up for early October, was for my Non-Profit I created to help many of our public schools programs being removed,or diminished locally by having locally events ( art and music family events).
I was so happy and proud of that... I wanted to wait nearly a year after the pregnancy and delivery and when Airy was 6 months planned on doing everything full force..On top of getting all the IRS Tax exempt legal stuff taken care to create the non-profit,which I had while being pregnant... it took time.
I lost that all that September day...So when this happened,well.. all of my sponsors pulled out and was the best then for them I guess..I understand now,yet didn't really then.. I couldn't talk,think right..How would I use their donations for the best,right?! Emotionally was the hardest reality check and dealing with my insecurities of that. Every day I'm drained,although dealing with it better daily..I adjusted and take naps daily. I plan on having my first event in February 2014. yes.. Finally.. I was detoured and back again.. happily to help others and it's a challenge for me at times, now I cannot understand legal stuff..funny, cause I'm the one who did ALL the lengthy legal IRS/State Non-Profit legwork. it's ok..
We're Blessed.. I have an incredible patient loving Hubby and kids who helped me ,even though we made laughter out of it rather sadness. They would correct me,as I had asked them to do ,if I used a word wrong, and helped me speak again.. By saying words slowly..one word & action I'm now familiar with..Slow..:) it worked..I would speak over and over again those words I messed up on to make correct. I'm a jibber jabber box,so this was hard..
The many things I once took for granted...which was multi-tasking and being a "normal" Mom.
I didn't see a Counselor (therapist/psychologist) for my problems, as all my doctors visits and stress were enough and time consuming being 1 hour away each way cause of crappy insurance and no closer doctors..,(Yup!..Medicaid then. Husband resigned and lost our insurance, yet he's working again & we now have Cigna.. thankfully!)
I worked out my problems alone, leaning on my Husband David.. I should of seen a therapist to talk it out instead.. to help me work through my emotional issues
Advise this please for you with your Family and mailny your brave Sister, cause not only one person is impacted by this horrible joke in life.... You ALL will be,have been now and are...Oh my..It helps. xoxo
My friends I pushed away and barely went out,cause I was humiliated and embarrassed from other's who looked at me awkwardly or they treated me badly cause they were being foolish and cruel, even some Nurse on the phone I had to deal with for my Doctor appts.. ( Yes.. I can hear you making fun of my speech,even when you think you muffled the phone with your hand while chatting to your co-worker about my words and how you can't understand me correctly,then give the phone to your co-worker....Moron.)
Then I realized I couldn't continue to do that, so I tried harder to speak well...frustrated,but drove me to become better... And I went for walks more,helped with grocery shopping with my family,rather than sit at home and have a pity party for myself and expect others to do everything for me/us..Cause that doesn't help motivation to regain things lost and re-learn and be lazy.
And you have to move on even being "different". and helps a lot!I have migraine still from time to time, I have nerve damage from my dental surgery and other permanent issues and cervical dystonia and bad nerve damage with arthritis from my C2 all the way down to my upper T's in my spinal column/neck.shoulder ect.. Although I push through it and do yoga..yoga help's with O2 blood circulation,even with damage.
I wish I could drink some days, but have enough lost brain cells. :)
Yet I don't drink and eat healthier now..Love oreo's though.. a treat/reward.. So addicting!
Overall, think ya have to make a list of simple challenges daily to continue on your routine, which helps the brain re-learn also and then move forth on to the next challenge daily/weekly.. Then recap a week after for memory. like rotating info and being quizzed..
Now seriously.. That helped me immensely.. Immensely..one word I couldn't say for months, and learned again..like many. :)
Basically, the best things to do for your Sister is to be there,of course and treat her with kindness,yet please don't pity,as this will make her not want to be better,even if she wants to. Cause that begins a horrible downward spiral of low self confidence for her and dependency on others too. it sounds harsh, I know, but she has to use her brain again,even with damage. Like a weak muscle that craves to be used and you will see... by making a difference in helping her for her future and will makes her feel good too when she accomplishes a task..Like a child feels the first time they learn something new. I still slur from time to time, but my pronunciation is better..my throat was damaged, so had problems swallowing and saying certain phrases and just learned to sing again two months ago...I used to sing often and with my kids every night before bed. So, that was one thing for me I worked the hardest on,yet had to learn to speak correctly again. I am proud of that triumph. My IQ was in the 140's before and now in the high 90's-low 100's. Cognitive still stinks, but teach day I see a difference.
The hypoxia I suffered was the worst, then the stroke on top of it, cause I felt ignorant .. (smartest dumb person ) and sadly dementia runs in my family, so this is what i feel like at times..my Grandma. We joke around now.. I'm having a "Mimi Moment ( My Grandma)",or when my kids forget something.. I say.. "Are you having a Mommy moment?" lol. It helps..Laughter and happiness and smiles will go such a long way in recovery, so please joke around. :) Please also take time for yourself & don't get yourself burnout,which will make both of your healing processes more slow. We feel differently.. I know I can sense that when healing right after..it was sad..like a burden on everyone.. That is why I tried harder and joked around more with others. it helped a lot.
Just know all that you do, even by listening and if her memory has vanished, then bring up great old memories, cause that helps with reconnecting and stimulates.
So.. it's many months after and basically not giving up, relearning, self motivations & also loved ones encouragement is best, with patience understanding too!
I've dealt with so many Doctors who just wanna drug their patients, although it may help as a bandaid is so much worse for the brain and body recovering...(Try chamomile helped a great deal btw.. Natures pain relief) Also. look up natural vitamins to give to your Sister.. like organic stuff, fresh-non canned fruits, fresh veggies,less meats ( bad) and NON- Fluoride water/products, which will help with the pineal gland develop better , decalcify, and will help her emotional state, too. ;o) Happier person!
Also.. Sun.. walks are the best! Oh my! Vitamin D form the sun and DEF please.. nature.. that will help too. sounds crazy,but it's so much better than sitting in a room all the time.. It's motivates the body.
I'm 36 next month and know everyone is different... I hadn't written this novel above to look for pity from anyone, but to encourage, cause things happen.. I felt like mine was a short detour in my life.. Way of thinking more positively, which I do feel terrified every time my heart is irregular since that surgery.. scary, but I push through that now & think of all the wonderful things that I can do,rather not ,or cannot do anymore.. It helps! I wanted to share my road of recovery.. Maybe something can and will help your Sister.
I'm truly am so sorry this had to happen to everyone here helping.. It sucks...
My best well wishes for you, your Family which has been effected indirectly, but for your Sister directly. And I feel that she is in time will show improvement by having her beloved all aorund her during thsi crucial time now and for her future. I've seen so many peoepl in teh medical field to recover,but with the slightest issues from the darkest times and barely moving within 1-2 years. I miss Nursing..I miss that cause I enjoyed helping other's, so I am moving forward with helping in others way..My Non-Profit now..maybe it was fate? Please.. the best gift.. is your support.. love and friendship and of course.. making the person suffering smile. you will see.. that is the biggest most incredible gift of medicine to help us injured to work through and move forth! Try it.. Oh my.. it surely helps/helped. Be there for them..don't abandon out of fear and every day set challenges,even when they want to give in, or give up.. Support and push them nicely to not give up.. What a difference a day makes. Thank you. =)
Many Blessing to everyone and please Be Well. :)