How do I help deal with the frustration I feel with my siblings over our mother's care?
Hello, I understand your frustration regarding your mother. I am now going through a similar situation with our mother. There are six of us and one of my isters has always lived with her. My parents were divorced at the time of my fathers death. I am the one who helps her with her paperwork, or dr questions,meds etc. I noticed some time ago that her memory is getting worse. I finally told everyone ( by email) because I don't see anyone in person hardly. But I didnot get the response I thought i would. I too feel frustrated because no one has offered to help with the dr. consultation and talking with him or really anything. No, you are not wrong in your frustration. Siblings can be overwhelming, I know. Your mother might feel she did something wrong because they stopped coming. I basically told everyone they had to stop by to see her because she would ask for everyone and didn't know why they didn't come to see her. I know why. they are selfish. They don't forget they have a mother, but as long as someone else is doing the work, they don't have to. Whether its for personal care or social services appt. etc. Right now they are upset with me but what can I do? you too will be getting some feedback at some time but not the kind you want. But, please take time for yourself because if you move in it will be full time and once you're there the help you might want will never come from your siblngs. It might be smart to make a schedule to have your other siblings that aren't against it to come in and stay with your mother during the day for a few hrs at a time to give you a break. which is what I plan to do soon. Take care
