How can I handle washing my mom's clothes from her incontinence in a sanitary way?
Incontinence is common with the elderly, and can be tricky to deal with. The first thing that comes to mind is why isn't she using diapers or pads? There are an array of products available for adults. If you aren't comfortable bringing the subject up --- and it is sensitive, ask your mom's doctor to have the discussion. It may help to hire a home health aide to at least introduce your mom to incontinence products. Many people are more comfortable accepting help from nonfamily members with personal issues. Once your mom tries diapers, she'll learn how easy and discreet they can be. She'll be more comfortable. If she resists, it's time for tough love. This is one area where it's really OK for you to put your foot down -- as much as you can.
By the way, there are medical treatments for incontinence. The results depend on many factors, including the cause. Please discuss what's happening with your mom's doctor to help find the best approach. Good luck.
When my mom became incontinent, she REFUSED to "wear a diaper at my age!" Then we came up with the solution-we now refer to them as "pull-ups" and she's never complained since!
Actually all of this is for me. I have Multiple Sclerosis. I am on medication for this but it only helps off and on.
The diapers don't help as the fecal incontinence is so bad it creeps up the back of them onto the skin and bottom of his shirt. It also runs out the front between the legs when he stands. I've even tried plastic pants over the diapers. The mess is killing me. It even gets down the seam in the back of the chair. I've had to throw clothes away as they were too horrible to scrape off and try to wash. I don't want to put them into my washing machine either.
This incontinence is part of autonomic nervous system neuropathy from diabetes. It comes and goes. When he has had it, I cannot cope and really have said "I'm done!" "I can't take one more clean up!" I also struggle with keeping him clean. It's a terrible job and has made me angry and resentful toward my husband. HELP!!!!
To Kayla J - You need to try other products. I've been taking care of my husband for 5 years, since his stroke he is completely paralyzed on the right side. I've occasionally had the problem you mention but as I've tried other brands, sizes etc. it is now less frequent. Good luck.
You need to try other products. I've been taking care of my husband for 5 years, since his stroke he is completely paralyzed on the right side. I've occasionally had the problem you mention but as I've tried other brands, sizes etc. it is now less frequent. Good luck.
