I agree with anonymous--Council on Aging is one useless organization. Maybe the Meals on Wheels is worthwhile, but the rest of it? Totally a waste of energy and time.Why do I feel this way? I went to them in my town to get information about a sitter for my mother. While there, the woman said it would be a minimum of 4 hours,no nights or weekends,and $4 an hr. I thought, wow, I could swing $4 an hour and agreed for them to come to my house and be assessed. This took an hour or so. At the end of the assessment,she makes the statement that it's $8-$10 an hr. I asked what happened to the previously mentioned $4 and she claimed she never said that. Ok, I thought,sorry to have wasted each other's time,see you later,alligator.
A few months later, at an Alzheimer's support group meeting, who should the guest speaker be but the director of 5- county Coucils on Aging. Since I already thought this organization was a waste of time for anyone who wasn't exceptionally poor, I almost missed it when she said this: "All services provided by the Council on Aging are on a DONATION only basis."
You can bet I perked up instantly,on hearing this. Not only had that woman quoted me two different amounts to be paid, but she out and out lied by omission! I specifically asked the speaker if this 'donation' included sitters and she said it did. For anyone who knows the definition of 'donation' and really needed a sitter, this is a slap in the face right around the time when you start to realize that there really is no help. "Because you can't do it alone," is not a justification or good enough reason to actually get help from anywhere. Simply put, no one cares that you have to quit your job,that you will become homeless along with the person you are caring for,and have no money...at least for those 60 months until you become eligible for medicaid. No one. This is the reality of old sick people and their caregivers.
And don't get me started on the nursing home business in this country...much less 'nursing' being done, and more like sending someone there to die even earlier. There's no one even to point the blame,because it's all of us,myself included. WE are THE PEOPLE.
I am so bummed out now. Even more so knowing that all my ranting and raving do nothing for no one.