My mother was diagnosed with Alzheimer's disease. She remains at home and takes her own medications which amounts to about 12 pills per day. My father leaves and goes to his office while she stays at home alone. My father is 79 years old and is from the generation where the men worked and the women stayed at home. Although I know he is trying his best, I am concerned about my mother's welfare. She is not eating properly, has lost weight, is refusing to bathe or cut her hair on a regular basis. In other words, she needs help with some of her activities of daily living. My sister and I live out-of-state, and my brother is three hours away. We have asked them to move, yet they refuse. Consequently my sister and I make several trips out to see them, which can be costly and ineffective for such short periods of time. I have asked my dad about getting someone to come in and help bathe her, and he said she refuses. It sounds like her refusals are running the household. I am concerned about my father's health because the demands of taking care of someone with Alzheimer's can be great. Do you have any suggestions about how to handle this? My sister and I are very frustrated and know that the situation could be better for both my mom and dad.