I would like to send my condolences to Tina and her son. I lost the love of my life almost exactly the same way in which she lost her husband. My guy was well too, he looked liked the picture of health, he was told "the cancer was gone." But, after 3 months (12 weeks) of choosing not to be on chemo for a disease that was "gone," it "came back with a vengeance" according to the oncologist--to his body as well as to his brain in form of 9 brain tumors. But, the problem was not that he went off chemo. The problem was in thinking that chemo could kill the cancer. The cancer had never gone away. Cancer is a systemic disease--there is a problem with the cells, and it takes a life style change (and more) to change the response of the body to the disease. Chemotherapy and radiation do not cure cancer that has spread, even though we are made to think they can. They are only meant to "hold cancer off," but they only make the body sicker and less able to fight off the disease on its own. In a shorter amount of time (than the body could do on its own), the toxins from these treatments and prescription medications are what do the body in. There are many enlightening books on the subject of how to actually beat cancer, one is by a doctor who beat his brain cancer--it is called The Anti-Cancer. No one should feel like it was a choice they made that cost them their loved one. The system is not set up for the patient to win. It is lack of education and awareness about cancer treatment in this country that is the problem, and that is all about money. The advertisers are the drug companies, medical companies, and insurance companies who control the media and keep information away from the public. I am sorry for your loss, Tina, and for the loss to your son. But, it was not your naivete that was responsible for your loss. It was a lack of awareness that did not give him his best shot--and that was not your fault.